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    Have you lived in the same place all your life, Stevewool? Most of us have moved a time or twenty. When you get tired of the new place you move again. We don't have to put down deep roots, although its starting to sound like you have roots where you are and you don't want to pull them up. By the way, in the twenty or so times I have moved I never went back to the same place twice. Been there, done that, there was a reason I felt like moving away and its probably still valid. PLUS there is a whole world to see. If you get to a place and hate it then try another. Life is simple. Just enjoy it. Burn those bridges. Its much more fun building new bridges than commuting on the old ones every day.
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    I usually tag along with Judy but keep my mouth shut. One time however, I made a side trip to the bakery section (my favorite hangout) without her and with confidence, I spoke in Tagalog to negotiate a tawad. The vendor looked at me strangely and nearly laughed at me. I guess my Tagalog had an "American accent" and charged me a balikbayan price for a bag full of pandesal. Hanging out in one of those open air breakfast cafe is a great place for people watching. With any kind of tapsilog, heavily sugared coffee and morning edition of PDI (Philippine Daily Inquirer), I'm in heaven staring at all the long hair beauties through my dark sunglasses. Then I feel the pull of the leash tied to my neck and it's time to go......
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    Now Stevewool will never come. We almost had him.
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    When we were out last Thursday, as usual something Came up that made(Certainly me) Smile His witty and sometimes controversial Posts are missed I am Sure, Anyway, As Gina (His wife) has not posted much of late (FB) I sent her Good wishes and ask she told the Children that we were (Well me I guess) Thinking of them Especially Today So I sent them a Card to just say Hope all is well and to say that he is Remembered here as a Special man as well Guess I got the Sentimentals on To-day
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    What a wonderful post! It sums up exactly what your life should be! You had a great career, obviously loved what you were doing. You want to keep doing it because you are top man on the totem pole now and it feels good. But you are practical enough to realize life does not last forever and you want to move on to the next phase. Perfectly logical. Perfectly normal. I felt so similar. I loved my job and I knew that once I let go of my seniority there was no going back. (Another friend tried to go back but had to start at the bottom of the pay scale and seniority list so he lasted 2 weeks and wondered what the heck he did that for and quit.) I dreamt of my old job for 2 years after retirement. I woke up with nightmare wondering if them young guys were OK driving through a night blizzard in the 30 below and feeling guilty that I had not stayed "at my post". But that went away because I realized this is how life is supposed to work. I was not sure of my decision. I visited Philippines and pretended to live here for a couple of months before making up my mind. Then I went back to work. After a couple of months more working I was sure of my decision. Since making that decision I have had some really bad days in Philippines, but never regretted not making the move. There are times I think about moving back. Not because I ever regretted the move here but because I sometimes wonder if this place is great for the newly retired folk but not so great for the over 65 crowd (lots of factors to consider there). I was not sure of my decision because I was 53 the day I officially retired and the boss said that was too young to retire. And yet I had started the job 10 years younger than most of the other workers so I had as much time in as the average 63 year old. So I am getting long winded but YES you are making the right decision. NO you will never be absolutely sure of it. YES others feel the same way but did it anyway and are happy. Depression, Drink And Divorce are huge. Many of us came here when we were already somewhat depressed from a divorce or death of spouse. This place is a great change of scene to get that out of your system. Coming here WITH a wife is something I could not speak about. Drink is the killer. Many retirees coming her find themselves drinking too much. Some cope with it and live a couple more decades consuming lots of beer. Others find things to do with their time that keeps them off the booze. Still others try to do everything in moderation. Find your level of tolerance and be very careful. Drink is the first thing I would be concerned about when retiring and having lots of free time. Health is the other. If you can drink moderately, or not at all. If your health is good, or you can handle any small concerns, If you age is spry, as in you don't yet have one foot in the grave. If you are willing to take the risk that you will enjoy this adventure, then it is time to start your transition. Have no doubts! Do it!
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    After living and working in Beijing for sixteen years I'm finally moving on. At 07:50 tomorrow I fly down to Hong Kong and then, after a couple of days, on to the UK. A month in the UK catching up with family, looking after admin chores such as renewing my passport and driving license, and enjoying some real ale. Then I'm footloose and fancy free....
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    So glad to hear this. That is the same for me. I've heard there are a lot of ex-pats there who are less than faithful to their spouses, and I just would not want to hang out with them. I know I don't know all the facts for these guys, and there are many types of relationships. But I have found hanging out with people of like minds is better for me. So when I move there, it's good to know there are some men there with a good relationship with their wife like I have with mine.
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    I have accepted that by living in Asia generally, I can expect to die earlier than if I stayed in Oz. But having watched my mother in nursing homes for 25 plus years, then I am not too worried about it. The time I have had here, especially the last 5 with my SO, have been the best of my life. If I check out at 75 or less, I won't be complaining. I am hoping the next years in Phils will be even better.
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    Sadly, we presently live in a world full of turmoil and uncertainty for so many people. I'm specifically thinking today though, about what uncertainties and often daily question marks and requirements that expats face daily/monthly/yearly/down the line, while living here in the Philippines. Sometimes I find myself angsting over what is required of me from Immigration and other Philippine laws. One might talk about being sometimes complacent about their life and somewhat predictable surroundings at times, but here that is not a luxury that we share. I feel that there are often many rules and requirements, not always making sense to me, that keep me on my toes. Also the sometimes confusion/frustration over politics, corruption, poor local infrastructure, power grid and water issues etc. get to me. (Not all at the same time of course!) I remember reading once that one should take up doing crossword puzzles, learning a musical instrument, playing cards to keep your mind sharp. I think the many life puzzles that a person deals with here are plenty enough to keep your mind sharp and active! (If you don't kook out or get too discouraged!) We all have our own good reasons for moving and settling here, but as with things in life, there do seem to be more things to be vigilant over. Not for the faint of heart living here sometimes I feel. Anyone not yet living here, might only see the "paradise" that we get to witness here at times, but not always realize that it really is a gamble living here, in spite of the rewards that living a lifestyle outside of the normal western one involves. There are often extra potential pitfalls and frustrations along with the bright and life affirming times that we experience. Yes, sometimes these issues can make life interesting and a puzzle to be solved, but they require your wits to solve more often than not. For readers here living permanently or not, what causes you the most angst if any, and what issues can you just go with the flow with? Was it worth the gamble of moving/living here now that you have made that leap? For those considering that leap, do you foresee any of these issues mentioned as bothering you? For the more veteran expats--does it get easier over time? I'm thinking most along with myself will say yes, that gamble was worth it, but not always for the same reasons. In spite of things that I had not expected to contend with before moving here that have surfaced, many of the rewards that I had hoped for did come true. Please share your thoughts if you agree or disagree with me. Is it worth it all in the end? What makes it easier to take at times? Queenie
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    I find I have a bit more difficulty finding them here as compared to the past, probably for the combination of a few things all coming together. Have lost patience with feeling like I have a duty to fill as perpetual 'designated driver' to irresponsible drunks not able to find their way home, wanting to start fights (with locals or SO and getting locked out of the house), and generally being a pain in the ass instead of fun to be around. On the other side, most of the non-drinkers I know are 'friends of Bill' and as such have a schedule to keep and issues they need to discuss with each other about subjects I do not have common experience with. Smoking is the next problem having had a father that chain smoked Camel non-filtered cigarettes and therefore spending my youth with my head in the clouds - of cigarette smoke and volunteered to clean all the ashtrays etc. The smell is instant nausea and headache. HOWEVER, last meetup was with a great bunch of guys who saved me the seat in front of the fan which allowed me to enjoy the conversation without smoke being an issue. VERY much appreciated!!!! And last but not least, a screwed up spine making my former perfect and reliable scheduling to be completly unpredictable, very unlike me and annoying probably to myself even more than others. FB in my group of friends at least, is pretty much a cesspool of political us vs them crap. Neither side listens to the other, just never ending yelling insults at and about each other. Happy to have a few expat forums to interact with generally respectful and funny group of people (not all but mostly). I enjoy coming here to discuss, learn, help, and joke with others.
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    And thats the secret here too, have a large network of friends rather than having one The reason is we all have so many varied interests that I could not think of a single person who likes everything I like, so why look for something that will limit you. I enjoy the company of each of my friends. Sometimes individually and sometimes in groups. I also enjoy my time alone. For example, I just got back from a 3 hour walk. I did it at my own pace, went in the direction I wanted to go. Stopped when I wanted and chatted with some new aquaintances along the way, and that seldom happens if I am walking with someone else.
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    One of my friends is moving back to the US this June 16th. He moved here 3 1/2 years ago and burned all his bridges and decided to retire here. He was about 55. He has had a great life here. He enjoys it thoroughly. Friends? He has a ton of them. Money? More than he needs. But 3 1/2 years ago he met the most beautiful girl you could imagine. Then came love, then came marriage, then came Bill pushing a baby carriage So now he and his beautiful wife and child are going to start building a new life back in the US of A so their son can be brought up in that country. This story is to show you CAN burn all your bridges and under certain circumstances you just go out and rebuild them. Sometimes you rebuild a better bridge.
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    Maintaining those old bridges can be more trouble than they are worth also... If your move forward didn't work out the way you wanted, instead of retreating over that old bridge, just move forward again. Simple, and certainly more fun.
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    A lot of this (at least for me) is about advancing age. Despite being a pretty open person, I no longer have that burning desire to share my life with anyone, other than my wife. I'm close to my sister, despite our 3000 mile distance, and she knows everything about me. But to anyone else I pick and choose what tidbits to share. I'll seek advise occasionally but it's more of the practical nature. I have hobbies/interests and have friends/acquaintances based on that, but nothing else. When I married a Filipina people asked why I would marry someone from such a different background; won't I miss conversations about shared experiences and upbringing. "You mean like talking about the Beatles when we were kids?" I ask. "Yes exactly!" they say. "God no," I reply. "Can't imagine anything more boring." So I guess what I am saying is I find differences interesting and commonality boring. Thus my marriage and interest in a place like the Philippines.
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    When asked by friends and family back home about this I tell them that an expat living in the Philippines must be comfortable in his own skin. Days or weeks might go by with out passing the time with a native English speaker. As other have said I get along with my in laws just fine, and seeing that my wife and I are the same age her friends and their husbands are my age also. But we just don't have all that in common. After the ritual, "How do you find it here in the Philippines" or "what do you think of Dueterte?" or things like that we run out of topics quickly. I see "white guys" in the Mall every so often but (by mutual consent it think) rarely more than a nod is exchanged. Unlike you guys who live closer together, even though I am in the big sity, most expats live up in Makati and such so no real get together. Some of the best conversations I have had have been at the BI offices. Guess misery breeds conversation
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    There is a website that is owned by an expat whose skin is SO THIN it would make an onion cry with envy. I will not mention the site or the owner. Suffice to say that it makes me all the more appreciative of this site, it's owner, the moderators, and all those who contribute. Even when we agree to disagree, it is very rare that someone will "go off the rails". My hat is off to all of you.
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    Most of our Philippine resident members have been here a long time. Obviously we are still alive. Let me speak, for a moment, for those who are not. It is eye opening to look back over my last 10 years here and realize how many expats came here and died within a year. We don't hear their side. Many/most of those people would still be alive with modern medical care in their home countries. We just lost another one last night. A fellow named Ken. I feel vaguely uneasy about this as he has only been in Philippines for months, not years, and one of the reasons he came was due to some of the blogs I have online. I used to make and sell some vlogs/blogs as a hobby and of course the buyers of those items want you to make the place look fantastic, and I did. Ken told me flat out that I was instrumental in his decision to move here. So Ken came to spend his retirement years in Philippines because of people like me who convinced him it was paradise here, and he loved it. But moving half way around the world when you are past your prime does not work for everyone. I can't count how many loved it here but got sick, sometimes it turned to pneumonia, and they died. These are average guys. Who's to say whether they would have lived longer had they stayed home? But they might have. Its a lot of stress on our old bodies when we introduce them to new "bugs" at an advanced age. (When I say I can't count how many lets say its more than 10 and less than 20 that I personally knew.) So if you are the kind of person who has never lived anywhere else and you are contemplating coming here for your retirement years, think long and hard on it. Lots of people come here for 6 months of the year and then go home for 6 months and they seem to be the healthiest of the lot. I suppose their bodies get used to the travel and the 6 months back home gives them time to readjust. Just remember there are a lot of dead expats here, as well as live ones. Be mentally prepared for the possibility. I came here when I was only 52 so young enough to adapt to the local bugs but I have had a couple of close calls that I may not have survived if I was 10 years older. As I approach mid 60's I am tempted more and more to follow my own advice and spend more time in Canada. We will see where that goes as its not part of this topic.
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    There are no lines to be drawn in our marriage I accept her actions. She has her reasons. I do not question her behaviour. She is a mature educated adult. We have "mutual respect" for each other. However if you and in your relationships feel that lines should be drawn then by all means draw them no one is stopping you. The trick is in marrying someone who you can trust. Then no lines need to be drawn.
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    It is wise to be prepared for emergencies. The question is when does being wise turn into an excuse to delay due to fear? Many have missed that distinction and saved until they were no longer able to travel or enjoy retirement.
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    I was just thinking of this and there are some. One in particular started off being my landlord but he helped in so many ways. Co-signing for a friend when he wanted to buy a motorcycle on payments. Arranging things with the hospital when that same friend died and no one was standing in line to pay the bills. Helping to find some low cost funeral arrangements for a couple of friends who passed on with zero cash. Joining us for foreigners parties on special occasions. Never asking for anything except the rent payment if you were one of his tenants. He even offered to co-sign a car loan for me but I did not want the responsibility of monthly payments. Yes he is a filipino, but he was worked in Saudi for 20 years so he has been around. I am not extremely close to him lately, as in I don't drop by for coffee more than once a year these days but if what I just said does not describe a friend, then I guess I have fewer of them than I thought.
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    As my Wife works full time I spend a lot of my Time on my own, Friends are important but I keep it to a fair Minimum on outings, over the last 7/8 years I have made many Acquaintances and some I would rather not have met, They say Real friends you can count on one Hand and here are two or 3 even 4 of my 5 better friends here. I have many more I am sure to meet yet but some join us and we get a new face once in awhile and hope they will get on the hand or start the other Hand in time, You know them all because you write to them all. Who are my friends? First it was Then it became and now it is We have had more but Photos never seem to have come of it but to those we know and have raised a Glass or two with you are on the List BTW the Shorts in the background belong to Eddie 1 who I know, will become a member of the growing Ring Soon (I hope.) He came down and had Lunch a few days after this Photo. To all our Friends in Dumaguete I for 1 am proud to know you all. It does us good to get things Off our Chests and I recommend it Jack Morning All
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    I'm in the same situation as you Intrepid. I get along pretty well with my husband's family and extended family, and know neighborhood friends but they don't really relate to me on too deep a level. Living out in the province there are not too many foreigners living in my area, and sometimes the ones that you do meet are often couples and not really anyone that I can really connect with. Being that I'm a woman it's harder for me to meet up with other foreigners and be just "one of the boys" for a bit. I find Facebook a way to stay in touch with family and friends, but often we're not on the same wave length anymore. I go there less and less. I read replies here from people that I find quite sensible and approachable, and wish that many of you were close local friends. I know that you're all spread out and not just down the street though. Where are you? Also admittedly I'm rather an introvert, and tend to like my own time, with socializing in smaller doses. My husband has always been my best friend, but living in the Philippines, he is after all a local Filipino, and can't always understand where I'm coming from. I'm hoping that over time living here, fate will connect me with at least one friend that will fill that empty spot that I feel sometimes, and make my experience living here all the richer. I'm just not sure how it will happen..
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    Borrowed joke. Back on January 9th, a group of HELLS ANGELS, South Carolina bikers were riding east on 378 when they saw a girl about to jump off the Pee Dee River Bridge. So they stopped. George, their leader, a big burly man of 53, gets off his Harley, walks through a group of gawkers, past the State Trooper who was trying to talk her down off the railing, and says, "Hey Baby . . . whatcha doin' up there on that railin'?" She says tearfully, "I'm going to commit suicide!!" While he didn't want to appear "sensitive," George also didn't want to miss this "be-a-legend" opportunity either so he asked . . . "Well, before you jump, Honey-Babe . . . why don't you give ol' George here your best last kiss?" So, with no hesitation at all, she leaned back over the railing and did just that . . . and it was a long, deep, lingering kiss followed immediately by another even better one. After they breathlessly finished, George gets a big thumbs-up approval from his biker-buddies, the onlookers, and even the State Trooper, and then says, "Wow! That was the best kiss I have ever had! That's a real talent you're wasting there, Sugar Shorts. You could be famous if you rode with me. Why are you committing suicide?" "My parents don't like me dressing up like a girl." It's still unclear whether she jumped or was pushed.
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    Aah the Philippines and the heat, even when its pouring down its still hot! But whats better than sitting back in my rocking chair overlooking the bay Drinking a nice ice cold beer ! Never again having to go to work at 6.30am On a cold frosty morning , or having to walk through snow up to my knees. I feel sorry for those back in the UK­čŹ║
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    I have been here over 4 years. I tried a couple different "charity" groups, they were not what I was expecting. I tried the Rotary and the American Association of Western Visayas. Instead of doing actual hands-on charity work, we had funds from the US (mostly) to pay for projects and we just showed up for photo ops. I quickly got bored and quit. They told me most foreigners get bored and quit. Too bad, it seems that there are a lot of us that want to help out. I ended up just doing things on my own. I do an occasional feeding program at our barangay daycare, as funds allow. I also do some fund raising to buy school supplies for the kids. I want to do a regular feeding program, but that would take regular sponsorship. So, I do what I can, when I can. Earlier this month I raised almost $400 to buy and deliver school supplies for over 150 kids up in the mountains.
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    Retirement has been a mixed bag for me. Often get very bored with little to do, but did not fall into the bar fly syndrome, rarely go to these establishments. I am now at a stage where Thailand is no longer a place I want to live in and in a month, we will be off to Philippines. Been many times there, but full time occupancy is always different. I am prepared for that in Phils, as I experienced here in Pattaya. Apart from that, I am sure all will go well and it will be better for both of us.
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    Dave, You have taken the time to compliment 'Bows00' on his wonderful post however I feel I have to compliment you on your post, its one of the best I have ever read on here, a very honest and enlightening post as to how it was for you and how it is for you. I think that as I am only a few weeks away now from my new life in the Phils that perhaps your words had more of an impact on me, I can certainly identify with some of the feelings that 'bows00' wrote about as I am also flipping between emotions of trepidation at what I am leaving behind and also the excitement of what lies in front. However, all said and done I found your post reassuring. Many thanks my friend for sharing that with us.
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    Olive Garden and similar restaurants now have a computer terminal on your table to calculate the bill and add the suggested tip. It is set at 20%. You can adjust the amount up or down, but they have trained the wait staff to look disappointed if it's lower than 20%. I found a great solution! Take my business elsewhere.
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    WHY THE PHILIPPINES? Reason 1 Deleted Reason 2 Reason 3 Actual reason, been married to Judy for 31 years now
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    I was thinking of Stevewool when i wrote this. After my feelings of guilt over losing Ken, who came here due to the glowing reviews I gave this place, how would any of us feel if one of our members was persuaded to come here and the same thing happened? I say: Come on over Stevewool. But recognize that there is risk as well as reward.
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    Shortly after Lunch, the Younger of my two helpers asked if she could go to her friend working a little way down the Road OK said I, OH! I will be back soon. OK, so a little while ago I thought oh,oh, I can only hear one of them, so being me I got a little Angry (ish) Bad, as it is her 1/2 day but she rarely goes out. I thought OH! Maybe she has decided to stay a while longer than normal and not told anyone. Anyway, my puppy was making a fuss at the side of the Terrace and I went to see what he was fussing about. To my amaz astonishment, She was at the far side of the House Cleaning the car, ( Normally she does this with me) Now this is the sort of thing that really makes me smile, you see she came back as she only had a small light/thin Plastic bag to tie her hair as she had washed her cloth one and did not have another & her friend laughed at her, So having seen what a decent job she has made of the Car she is now 150 peso better off on her 1/2 day. Not wanting to muddy Queenies topic I thought that it may suit here, that this little Gesture makes me believe that here is not such a bad place to be. As I said in that Topic being as one with them sometimes brings little Dividends. (Treat them Right and they see you in a better light) All in all, It made my day but I did feel a little Guilty afterwards for thinking she was up to no Good (If you get my drift here)
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    I used to stock Zithromax because every so often we'd get a sinus or ear infection, and it seemed to really get rid of it fast. Those antibiotic meds are now prescription only. I've never had much luck with OTC meds, so I don't stock them. It has helped me to take a tablespoon of organic apple cider vinegar in a glass of water at least once a day to keep my system more alkaline and less acidic that might feed an infection. It seems to work for me--I had a cold lately and always in the past it would turn into an infection, but this time it just ran it's course and was gone. That's if I tend to limit my sweets intake too. As far as diarrhea meds go--that's a great one to stock, as well as making sure you have an ACE bandage around or ice pack it you need it. On a similar vein, as far as a first aid kit goes, ever since we had our house built, we always had a well stocked kit around in case one of our workers got hurt. A pet peeve of my Filipino husband, is how if a road accident here occurs, often Filipinos will not assist their fellow citizens, and will just stand by and wait for a policeman/ ambulance to show up. Twice since we've lived here, two young teenagers had spills on their scooters outside our house. We helped them with minor first aid, and my husband drove them home, and returned their damaged bikes home for them. My husband says that while living in the US, he observed that most people will help out without thinking twice, and he wants to set an example like that here. A first aid kit for your place is a good thing to have around if you or anyone that you know needs it.
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    with this, I go to my Local Sor Sori each day for my hour away from the House and all the silly little problems of the day, I will talk to anyone. Every now and then, I can get a great guy and we have some good Conversations BUT Sad to say, it always ends up the Same, they will say I will come tomorrow because you are my Friend And you can buy more Beer, even their kids will ask for money. NOPE! As much as I like these people and at times need them, They are never going to be Friends of mine Even my Wife's friends will try it on, lend me this lend me that I know who my Friends are.
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    Maybe I just got lucky. But we hired an architect to design and build our house and have been so satisfied words could barely explain. He has gone far and above anything I could have expected after reading and hearing all the horror stories and problems others have experienced when building here. Of course we are not complete yet, but I have no worries and no stress. Once our project is done, sometime late August, I will do a complete write up on my experiences with the architect. Now to your question on payment. Like I said we hired the architect for the complete project. The cost to build our place complete is under 23,000 peso per meter. His foreman is an engineer with great skills and the work force has ranged from 12 to 20 men depending what stage of the process. Since we broke ground last November they have worked six days a week never missing and only taking off on the major holidays. For payment he asked for 1/3 down, then 1/4, another 1/4 and the final payment when complete. Although he does not yet know, he will receive a bonus. Everything has gone by the plan like clockwork and so many details completed without a single issue. He may call us once or twice a week asking for opinions or choices and then sometimes two weeks may pass without a word. He is managing several projects in different areas at the same time and only stops at our project two times a week or as needed. I usually stop and check in every other day. If I see an issue, which I have maybe three or four times, I usually take a photo is needed and send him a text or email. He responds no later than an hour or so and the issue is resolved! Like I said in the beginning, maybe I just got lucky. I have built other homes in the US myself and many smaller remodeling jobs but this has got to be the least stressful bar none!
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    Those who jump off a bridge in Paris are in Seine . A man's home is his castle, in a manor of speaking. Dijon vu - the same mustard as before. Practice safe eating - always use condiments. Shotgun wedding - A case of wife or death. A man needs a mistress just to break the monogamy. A hangover is the wrath of grapes. Dancing cheek-to-cheek is really a form of floor play. Does the name Pavlov ring a bell? Condoms should be used on every conceivable occasion. Reading while sunbathing makes you well red. When two egotists meet, it's an I for an I. A bicycle can't stand on its own because it is two tired. What's the definition of a will? (It's a dead give away.) Time flies like an arrow. Fruit flies like a banana. In democracy your vote counts. In feudalism your count votes. She was engaged to a boyfriend with a wooden leg but broke it off. A chicken crossing the road is poultry in motion. If you don't pay your exorcist, you get repossessed With her marriage, she got a new name and a dress. The man who fell into an upholstery machine is fully recovered. You feel stuck with your debt if you can't budge it. Local Area Network in Australia - the LAN down under. Every calendar's days are numbered. A lot of money is tainted - Taint yours and taint mine. A boiled egg in the morning is hard to beat. He had a photographic memory that was never developed. A midget fortune-teller who escapes from prison is a small medium at large. Once you've seen one shopping centre, you've seen a mall. Bakers trade bread recipes on a knead-to-know basis. Santa's helpers are subordinate clauses. Acupuncture is a jab well done.
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    A story that I like to tell is about a co worker. He and his wife born and raised in Philippines. They both emigrated to the US and have children. the eldest is a son who joined the US Marines. The co worker asked his son that if the US and Philippines were to go to war would he fight for the Philippines? The son said "no, I'm a US Marine, this is my country". The co worker is proud to tell this story and we were proud of him.
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    Well Done Jack, I keep in touch with her and check on how things are going. She seems to be managing ok, but obviously misses Chris a great deal.
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    I guess for me, I have traveled enough I knew what to expect regarding your points. I avoid judgmental expats and look at not offending Filipinos as respecting their culture. None of those are stressful to me. Certainly not to the level of being told and judged on what you buy and what you have and what you say and what you believe.... 'everyone' in the US thinks they have a right to tell you how to live and give you crap if you don't live the way they expect you to. From where you live to what you drive to what you wear to how much you tip...
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    I think it is only natural to feel apprehension at your impending retirement. I also had similar feelings as my retirement approached. Despite being very sure it was the right time, I still felt a little regret at leaving behind the security of a long career. Especially as I opted to take retirement five years early. That was five years ago and those feelings very soon disappeared and I can honestly say I have had no regrets. I suppose that the move to the Philippines was made easier as over the years I had travelled widely with my work, and lived in several countries including India and Cuba so I had a pretty good idea as to what to expect. The fear of the unknown is always a little unsettling but provided you have a plan 'B' just in case things don't pan out as expected I am sure things will work out for you as well. If you haven't spent much time in the Philippines then it would be worth living here for, say, six months before you finally decide. Good luck with whatever you decide. Ken
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    Exactly. I go the first time to show what kind of fish I like. The price is 400 a kg. Future visits I sit outside the market and have a donut in the bakery while gf goes and buys the fish. She comes back surprised and says it is only 280 a kg now. I say "toldja". And she says: But I don't understand because they know I have a foreigner. And I say "Yes, but they now understand you are smart enough to make you foreigner wait outside so they will have to treat you like a normal customer." Ahhhhhh she says.
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    I fear that one day, the internet will be offline for a length of time.......keep cash on hand.
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    I stopped this asking for gifts very early.It was a Christmas time and somebody said where is my present I said next to the one you bought me.I got a funny look but it seems to have sunk in as I have not been asked again.I actually find it very rude.
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    It should be used to rebuild the damage that was done to the city and the people. Help the people rebuild their lives.
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    Here is my bottom line regarding Refugees/Immigrants. If we look at the latest huge influx from Syria, Afghanistan and Iraq who are flooding into Europe? Notice the huge quantity of young men? They say they are fleeing war. Whelp, if there was fighting in my land of birth, I sure would pick a side and fight for what I believe in, not run to a nearby country looking for safe haven. If a man does not have the willingness to fight, protect and rebuild his homeland is he really the type of person you want to allow into the land of your birth? If he doesn't have the dedication to protect his homeland will he have it to protect his new one?
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    This forum is mostly geared toward expats but in my case I did bring my future wife to the US and married her under the K-1 Visa. We have lived in the US for the past 4 years, though we will soon be moving to the Philippines. There are no absolutes and I don't know definitive national figures but I personally know 100+ Fil-Am couples in my city. There's only been 1 divorce over the past 5 years, and in that case the guy divorced his wife (it was his 2nd marriage to a Filipina that ended in divorce, so you do the math). Almost everyone else seems very happy. Some guys make money, some guys struggle and the wife has to work, some couples I don't know how they manage financially. However, as has been said by others, you do have to find out whether you have the income to qualify for a K-1. I think it's 125% of the national poverty level. There are ways around this (a sponsor, for instance) but I would say if you don't have a decent and stable income, then any marriage is a risk. I have heard my share of horror stories about the Filipina splitting, but frankly I hear even more horror stories about deadbeat, broke and abusive American husbands. Of those 100 couples there are no stories about the girl leaving after getting the Visa, but it does happen. So I can attest that a great marriage can happen even with the dreaded age-gap. I'm older than you and my wife is still under 30 (though she is humorously panicked about her next birthday). Take your time, get to know her as well as possible, and get to know her family. In my case by the time I was ready I also knew many Filipinos and Filipinas. I asked my Filipina friends to get to know my fiancee and tell me what they thought. It was an extra way to vet her I suppose. All the feedback was very positive and while the future is never certain my marriage is one of the best things I have ever done.
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    There's a red flag. Many of us have found that renting from halfway across the world has more than its fair share of problems and if you MUST pay the mortgage from the rent then you have no time buffer to take care of problems with tenants that will come up. It all sounds good until your property management company contacts you in Cebu and says: Your tenants moved out and left more than the normal amount of damage. You will have to send some money to deal with it and it will be 6 months or so before it is ready to be rented again. (Or something similar)
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    No doubt. For a 60 year old to be with a 20 year old in Vancouver, it would cost about $300 per hour.
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    As Billy Connolly once said " Money doesn't buy you happiness but I'd rather cry in a Mercedes than on a bus."
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    I am in the process of buying school supplies for 152 kids, K-6 grades. The stuff gets heavy so I can only buy so much in a day! We will deliver to a province school up in the mountains this weekend.