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  1. 17 points
    I was at a eatery in Valencia this morning and. a man I know told me this story. He said that yesterday afternoon he lost his wallet.In it was just over 8000p and some of his IDs.He went back to the cafe where he had been sitting and asked if they had seen it. He was told a small boy had it and he thought oh well that is the last I will see of that.After about an hour the small boy knocked on his door and handed over his wallet.He checked the contents and everything was still there even the money.He gave the small boy a sizeable reward. So maybe we are seeing a change in the locals and maybe it is for the better. A nice story for a change.
  2. 15 points
    Good morning all, Apologies for not posting sooner, but we have little or no internet at this place, Villa Marand Resort, Bauang. It is 2 weeks now since we arrived and plenty of ups and downs (No not that sort!). But interesting just the same. The townhouse was very sparsely equipped when we got here, not cooking, eating utensils, a stove that must be as old as me and slow as a wet week (which we have also had). So we are moving in another 6 weeks. Have a back up place, which is old but spacious, which we tried to book but they do not answer their emails. Apparently the lady who runs it is just too busy! Judging by her size, its from sitting on her rear end all day doing zip. But we can get a 1br there when our 2 months is up here (reduced from 6) and it is a backup but trying to find something better. Furnished places are somewhat hard to find. Whilst we could buy furniture, we want to make sure this place is suitable for both of us before committing to that level. Our trip thru Thail Immigration was appalling, 1 hr check in, 2 hours security check and Immigration. We had to run to the plane after Immigration (something that does not go well with me) and made it by 10 minutes. Plane full, had us sitting apart, but thankfully a lady swapped her seat and we were ok. Bus trip to Bauang was fine, arrived at 3am in the morning a bit worn out. No cooking utensils, pots pans etc. eating utensils the same, apparently owner does not consider these her problem. Given it is basically a holiday location, I find her reasoning somewhat adrift. We will move in 6 weeks by which time our balakbayan boxes will have arrived we hope. Nearby market is great, much cheaper than Thailand. Bought a whole reef cod for 240 pesos and it was superb. SO has found previously untapped cooking abilities, some great pansit a couple of times this week. I did not know it but been cooking Pansit for years. Last Monday it decided to rain and forgotten to stop ever since. As many would know deep Tropical depression on our doorstep. I have never seen so much rain before. We have sorted banking using Maybank (recommended) as it turned out the Bank Manager lives 2 doors down and a nice young guy. I may buy his car, which will wipe out any ownership problems. Just got to get him a bit more realistic in price. Anybody know anything about Kia Soul, sort of a semi SUV or sedan/cross wagon. haven't driven it yet. Inquiries reveal that once we get further towards San Fernando we can get PLDT line internet. Optic fiber has been laid around but very little connected at this stage here. /The line is giving 8-10mg most of the time from guys I have spoken to that have it. I think at the moment I have about 1kb! Went to the dentist yesterday and the bad news is %60k pesos to bring my teeth up to speed. I had gum and bone issues so transplants are not an option, I have to have a denture upper, then bridging on lower, 8 fillings and extraction and a few other things. Great looking surgery, latest Xray machine which they did in a few minutes sent straight to his laptop. Not a pretty sight looking into your own mouth, especially when my teeth are like me - showing their age. I have found it basically cheaper here but until I start my budged from 1st August, cannot support that, but just general costings seem in favour of Philippines. Hope I have not bored you all to death.
  3. 14 points
    There are mama's boys in the West too JJ we all know, and with many different foreign cultures now living lives in the West, it is acceptable sometimes to live at home as a working adult too, and in turn care or be company for aging parents. Reduced board and the food and familiar comforts of family and home are sometimes part of the package. As Scott said, foreigners have worked hard through the years oftentimes, and it's aggravating that some family members here are just looking for a "free lunch" without any responsibility on their part to help better themselves or sometimes make any effort in any direction. If one is looked upon as a rich person that can well afford it, whether that's true or not, it's not the point. That money was earned in western cultures that can be stressful and fast-paced. Also, I think that younger wives have younger family members who might feel that helping their sister, brother, cousin is just part of the package of your role in the marriage. Family members have to realize that partners came to live here to make new lives better for themselves, not to give over their attention and savings for other peoples' benefit. Being a foreigner woman there is a different dynamic. I live first hand my husband's willingness and acceptance as a Filipino in the culture to help immediate and extended family members at times because he can, and he often feels happy to be able to do it. It can be aggravating at times for him too though, as he worked very hard for his earnings while living in the US for many years. He tries to be fair in who he helps, and for the most part he won't let anyone take advantage of him. Often he calls upon family members to help him with jobs or errands in return for help. I don't have to get involved, because from what I observe, the money he helps with is not that demanding or unreasonable. It's his call. Even myself if I see a different need, I'll use my own money to fill it. He doesn't judge that either. Being a Filipino male, there is no intermediary wife to relay requests too, and he can decide to be generous or tough depending on the situation. I guess it's best to start off with a partnerdiscussing how you feel and try to come up with a shared understanding. There are some expectations in the culture to help less fortunate family members in time of need, but also nobody wants to be taken advantage of or be a pushover. Learning to say no at times is part of living here I guess, and living with that is something to work on. Creative ways to say no can be devised to make the no less bitter.
  4. 14 points
    When my wife gets back here I will ask her what my purpose is.
  5. 13 points
    We now been in Philippines for a month and starting to settle into what I see as a very different culture. Without doubt, Filipinos are more polite and helpful in the main. It is much easier to do business here than Thailand. However, there is a common denominator that if they do not understand you, they will not ask for you to repeat - perhaps the 'loss of face' syndrome? Not a great deal of logic is applied in some dealings eg. Took my car for service this morning after booking it in Friday. Filled out the form which included all sorts of irrelevant material ie. how many children do you have etc. Put the same form in front of me this morning - 'already completed this form on Friday' says I. 'have to complete each time sir' says she. 'why don't you get my folder over there on the wall?' says I. Gets said form. 'Oh, you have already completed the form, just your phone no.' says she. 'Same as it was on Friday' says I. "oh ok'. Please take a seat and service person will see you soon. ' I am just going to leave it and return when you call me'. Service guy who met me on Friday, sees me, very switched on, takes over and off I walk down the road. Driving in Philippines is definitely an extra challenge but getting used to it. Overall I am very happy with our decision to move and am sure it will pan out ok. Living costs definitely seem cheaper than Thailand and as we learn 'the ropes' things are falling into place. We move to new premises next week, 2 br furnished apartment closer to San Fernando, fiber optic cable that we hope will give us best possible internet? 15k pesos per month, older style but more spacious, decent size bedrooms, full balcony and much cooler than where we are now. Already picked up a head and chest cold courtesy of my SO but getting over it slowly. Met a few expats at local 'resort' (a word used very loosely here) and enjoy a couple of beers with them a few times a week.
  6. 12 points
    I retired in 2011 and 2 weeks later I was in the Phils for good. “For good” turned out to be a bit more than 5 years. It was a shock not to have anything urgent to do. Much more so because I went directly from one cultural extreme to another in a couple weeks. I came to realize I had created a lot of the urgency myself, they were self-imposed deadlines. It took a few years to get over that and finally get to the point where I could do literally nothing and be ok with that. Returning to the US I noticed how much more judgmental people are about clothes and appearance. That’s one big thing I miss from the Phils where anything goes and nobody cares (a generalization). But looks and image become less important as we age and health much more so. Staying alive is kind of critical.
  7. 12 points
    Many people thinking of visiting and even some here already have asked questions and had concerns about safety. I thought I would write a short something about my recent trip from Valencia to Siquijor - Trigger warning, you may not like my humor. Scheduled a trip to Siquijor with a few couples to celebrate one of the wives birthday. Getting ferry tickets in Dumaguete was no problem, 'security check' of IDs, and check of tickets to collect 'terminal fee' and we were on the boat. Only had to fight off pirates twice between islands. Once there I was killed 6 times in two days and kidnapped 3 times. To get back today we stole a pirate ship and looted a ferry to pay for our trip.... OK, very enjoyable trip. I have pretty sharp 'street sense' along with being trained as a Marine to have constant situational awareness. Other than being eyed up by a couple scammers for trike rides/motorcycle rentals, we were never around and I never saw any type of danger anywhere. I think the standard rule is all that is needed, don't be stupid and put yourself in the path of trouble (stumbling down the street yelling about stupid locals at 3am too drunk to walk straight....) and the Philippines can be very enjoyable and safe.
  8. 11 points
    I was asked to give my take on this subject as it's a route I've gone down. I ended up in this situation as I'm currently retired on an average but not great pension. The thinking being that accommodation costs are one of the biggest things any retiree will have to stump up for, and being on a moderate income with minimal increases each year I'm open to fluctuations in my pension currency and Philippines inflation which if you live in a desirable area can be surprisingly high. Think the difference between paying 250 peso for a meal out compared to 600 peso or little things like 60 peso for a beer compared to 100 peso. We all know that buying property in the Philippines can be a bit of a mine field and once bought you could have a problem selling on or if you think you've bought in a nice area 5 years later it's a war zone so it's a matter of thinking a bit ahead. For me my ideal retirement location is near a beach with plenty of activities, semi civilised and a decent sized ex pat community that I can blend in a bit. I'd been briefed to the hilt about buying in the likes of Manila etc as there's great facilities and plenty of condos to choose from but lets face it, it's Manila. Having done my homework I found out that most big cities are awash with condos and once bought you'll struggle to off load it, and with thousands of new ones built every year renting them out becomes harder if you want to up sticks and leave. I narrowed my choice down to an area where tourism was the biggest earner in the area and land was at a premium. Common sense telling me that if they build more accommodation then the vacant land becomes a premium and prices will shoot up. I also picked an area where there wasn't really a quiet season but there was times of the year where rental prices went through the roof. I looked for an International airport or great links to nearby countries via satellite airports, ferries etc. Somewhere with a World wide reputation but also a reputation inside the Philippines.. I then looked at how many I could get to sleep in the apartment, 2,4, 6 etc and checked the relevant rental costs for hotels, hostels and pension houses. Finally I thought if the pound sterling went up the creak how much would it cost me to live there full time if I had to. In my case 2,800 php management fees then just over 1,000 php insurance per month and then property tax which I think is about 2,000 php per year. Electricity would be dependent on my usage. There's pretty decent wet markets near by and groceries are OK. I managed to find a bargain for just over 4m peso that sleeps six and can be rented out for between 2,800 and 4,000 peso per night. The selling point being it sleeps six. If it slept 2 or 3 I'd be looking at about 1,500 peso rental per night and the apartments that size were going for more than I paid for mine. The guy was desperate basically and I struck lucky. So far as returns go in the last month I've made over 40,000 php after all expenses are paid and I've over 300,000 php on the books up until about March next year. The coming months I've only the odd day vacant and I fully expect the months to fill up as we approach the New Year. I'm now in the predicament of not being able to live there as the money coming in is so good. but on the bright side I'm renting in a decent area and now the apartment is covering that plus most of my monthly outlays so I'm hardly touching my pension. Realistically the apartment has the possibility of paying for itself in about 6 years by which time my forces pension will be worth almost double what it is now which should give me a safety blanket from inflation and the pound crashing. I'm renting my property out on Airbnb which is surprisingly poor and Booking.com which has been great. I'm looking into seeing about advertising my apartment in Korea and Japan as the resort it's in is almost filled 99% from those countries and I know they pay over 5,000 php per night and rarely cancel. Filipino bookings cancel all the time but fortunately when one cancels another books. I'll admit it's all about timing and doing your homework. It's easy to lose money on property here but if you use common sense there's plenty of bargains out there where it would be hard to lose out on. I can afford to lose 4m but I'd hate to. Next year it'll be 3.5m then 3m etc until it's paid for. Realistically if I was to try and sell it in a year I'd have gained but there's more chance of me buying another one to double my returns. At the same time I've seen 8m peso condos drop to 5m peso condos in the likes of Manila.
  9. 11 points
    I'm here on a Balikbayan visa so I "vacation" once a year. The first year we went to Singapore while the Indonesian fires raged, covering the city-state with haze. The second year, we went back to see what we missed. Next month, we're going to Hong Kong. We want to go to Australia next. I've been to Boracay a couple of times. A couple of months back, while the authorities chased the last Abus around the island, we went to Bohol. When we travel locally, we like to do so with another couple who are our good friends. As others have said, there isn't as much contrast, as much "pull", to visit places here as there was to visit here from back "home". Traveling with others adds a layer of enjoyment that makes it worth it, for us.
  10. 11 points
    So JJ what you are saying is "when in Rome" ? seems that this is just what is happening here. People loved the Culture here but it is wearing very thin now and you have put your Finger right on the problem. Over many years I have seen the Family Culture circle go full Circle and it has ended up with Debt and Poverty. Someone in the Family has to get of their backside and Do something for their own House family and stop riding the Cash train (Gravytrain) Mama is not going to live for ever & I have seen this Recently since my MIL passed away the Family has all but disintegrated JMHO but
  11. 11 points
    I don't think any of us find it hard to believe JJ, in fact most of us have been exposed to it first hand. Its just that most of us don't agree with it. Consider the type of person that is your average expat. Most (if not all) are self made men, willing to go out on a limb, willing to up root from the security and comfort of our home countries and start anew in an alien environment. Most if not all have worked hard, very hard for what they have and it rubs the wrong way when they are asked to part with it for no apparent "good" reason. Besides, I don't think we have any Italian members
  12. 11 points
    I have helped out gf's sisters in the past, for a few days, then I start suggesting they get a job and move closer to where their work is. In one case my gf was reluctant to tell her bossy sister that I was insisting she move out so I said: "Your sister can stay under the same conditions you stay". She asked what I meant and I said "I look after you because you sleep with me. I will look after your sister same as I look after you if she wants to sleep with me too. Sister was gone in 48 hours. I have no suggestions on how to handle brothers.
  13. 11 points
    There does not seem to be much interest in trip reports how ever maybe this light report will be of interest to some living in Negros. Due to recent injury I had earlier decided to quit riding, after recovery and with the blessing of my fine ortho I am off again be it at a much more sedate pace distance per day. My SO planned the trip as she is far better than myself and knows my weaknesses, of which are many. Day 1… Departing from close to San Carlos (Negros Occidental) rode the short distance of 75KM to the beautiful resort on Lalimar. The road is appalling to say the least, especially the first 40KM, for a main highway its crazy, muddy, construction and full of pot holes due to many heavy cane trucks. Enjoying beautiful Lalimar makes it worth while, a private room with fan costing just P220, Shared clean bathrooms, as always I was the only one there. Food is good and reasonably priced. Can be lonely so a lap top with movies if good, just 2 G internet available. Day 2… Departing La Libertad around midday rode gently down to Bias city just 1.1/2 hours. Stayed in a pension house Casa Sandova which could only be described ar reasonable. Again experienced the usual nonsense when trying very gently to explain the need of a mirror in bath room, even offered to buy one. The small town of Bias known for dolphin watching is quite pretty and has nice plazas, one or two good resto bars. Internet is fine. Day3… Departing Bias around 11am rode south to Tanjay where one is able to turn west on a road I had not travelled before. This has been recently upgraded and a beautiful ride all the way to Santa Catalina. Out standing views and lovely sweeping curves made it a high light. Arriving Bayawan around 4pm with heaps of stops to admire the scenery. Around 120KM which was very easy given splendid road conditions. Checked into the brand new Maefinn hotel which is outstanding, Paid just P880 for a lovely single room with high speed internet and top of the line furnishings. Food also outstanding as was service. Was around 5 years since my last visit to Bayawan, new blood in the politics and does it show. This small city is outstanding thanks to forward thinking. Best and cleanest plaza in the country, free wi fi, spotlessly clean. All government departments either have been or are being transferred to a lovely green area some 5km from the city. Had a long chat to the head councilor and he explained they do no want the Dumaguete problems of traffic so are fast tracking ideas, great work. Only downers I thought of were medical care and a lack of restos, apart a very livable city in my opinion. Lovely long beach where one can avail of a cold beer and chicken, as I did while watching the sun set. Two days here. Day 4.. Rode the short distance to Basay and stayed at the lovely Funtasy resort, large nice and clean. Felt lonely as only guest there, guess recent problems in Mindanao are effecting busines. Paid P1200 for a cottage with limited cable TV no cell coverage. Beach was nice and able to swim at low tide which was nice. Staff friendly an helpful. Day 5… Left around 10am as slightly longer trip, nice ride as far as Sipalay, stopped there for a drink, Sipalay is one of those towns that does not appeal to me, never has. Carried on the Kabankalan, roads were reasonable how ever of course heaps of on going construction. Was around 160KM but enjoyed the run. Stayed at the over priced Southgate Inn as did not feel like searching for an alternative, Kabankalan is a busy city with heaps of tricycles, the city I do not find attractive at all. Day 6… On to Bacolod which is not far around 100kms, roads here are nice with the remaining 20km or so being highways, of course traffic increases. Styed a couple of nights here in 11 St bed an breakfast, think was P1090. Well located and has good off road parking. As many know Bacolod offers many treats, great swimming at Santa fe resort, excellent restos and many other activities. I am often there and always enjoy. Day 8…. Gentle ride back through Don Salvador visiting a few friends en route and enjoying the splendid scenery Transport Yamaha Super Tenere Weather every day fine… Total KMs 750. Trip could easily be done in 4 days or less.
  14. 11 points
    Give her a couple of days or do what a filipino man does, move in with his mistress until it blows over.
  15. 10 points
    I think most people only really find a purpose once they've been here long enough without working to realise the Government has been fooling us into working until we drop. After a month or two of not working you'll realise you don't miss it. Your money more than covers your daily needs and there's so many new and enjoyable things to do that you'd find it hard to justify going back to the rat race. I only had this conversation with a friend back in Scotland this morning. He asked me if I missed the UK. All I could picture was myself looking out the window at cold rain thinking I hope my next customer isn't a coc@ or my boss had better wind his neck in today. Now I look out the window and if it's raining I know it's warm but I don't have to go out in it. If it's sunny I'm off to a cafe on the beach or a nice waterfall. If I don't want to speak to anyone then I wont. The World as they say is now my oyster. I'll find different purposes every day and if I don't like them then "I'll change them! " not someone else.
  16. 10 points
    Whether you knew of him or liked him or not, a long time Philippines Vlogger, Michial Fazio (Hoodwinked by an Angel) has died recently of a heart attack. Michael was a character and he had a sweet girlfriend named Daisy that he really seemed to have clicked with. Whether you cared for him or not, I think that his passing reminds us that we never know how long we have to live in life, and it might be a good idea to follow our dreams or not be complacent or too negative about life. Michael and Daisy had for some time dreamed about living and building a small hotel on Palawan Island, and they both spent every day chasing down that dream. I had hoped that their dream could have gone on, but was glad that they seemed to have fun doing it, and I'd rather go out doing what makes me happy instead of wondering what might have been. Whatever your dream--figure it out and live it! RIP Michael Fazio
  17. 10 points
    Severn years ago today a angel dropped from the sky into my life. Since that day my life has been wonderful, knowing true love and kindness when i thought there was nothing left for me.
  18. 10 points
    When we first got here, we lived in a nearby development while we built. It was a tiny place with a cold water shower and a typical short wall with decorative bars on top. I enjoyed sitting outside and watching the neighbors come and go to the sarisari across the street, the kids playing in the street and the cats and dogs run around. After we moved here behind our wall, it felt like being cut off from the world. We could not have there what we have here, it was just too small of a place. I can't help but sometimes feel that what we've gained in relative security, we've lost in humanity.
  19. 10 points
    Just a note. I remove the image of the deceased. Other sites may show these images of someone's loved ones dead in the street but we wont do it it here. Also links to Philippines blogs require permission. I have allowed this one until the story appears in the news.
  20. 9 points
    Many Filipinos stew their vegetables, boil or pan fry. The reason is possible high bacterial content from raw animal feces since the fields are often unprotected by fencing. For celery, try a lemon water solution, pat dry before placing them in the refrigerator. It keeps the celery crispy. Carrots and peas go into soup so they don't need to be sweet. Meat? Enjoy it with soup or stewed as in adobo. Filipinos make excellent sinigang soup using meat, chicken and fish (bangus). You can't duplicate your home base diet unless you are willing to spent a lot of money. Try the local cuisine. Find out which dishes you like or don't like.
  21. 9 points
    For anyone in the Don Salvador San Carlos area with a few hours to spare would like to suggest the following trip. It's quite a unique look at some very rural areas as until recently the road was pretty much impassable unless one had an off road bike or was a local habal habal driver. If you like pineapples they almost give them away here. From the main north road coming from San Carlos one travels past the huge solar farm to Calatrava, about central one turns inland and follows a newly concreted road. The views are really outstanding, and varied, absolutely no traffic at all apart from the odd motor. It's around 27km to the spur which runs from Don Salvador to Sagay, lovely trip. From there if returning to the East coast one continues on to spur 16 before hanging left to the Bacolod road. Unfortunately yesterday the weather was not compatible to picture taking so unable to capture the mountain range which is very dramatic with clouds drooping over the tops. Around 5 km before spur 16 lives an American 86 years old and quite an extoridian guy. He loves a chat and has a sign at front waterfalls to view. Built his own hydro station and is fully selfsuffient. Has written many novels mostly about the evil of the Jews....kinda conspiracy theoriest, OK for light entertainment. Anyway try upload a few pics, it's really worth it for those in the area. Around 90km and allow 3 hours with stops.
  22. 9 points
    Every waking moment is vacation because that darn alarm no longer goes off at 4:15AM.
  23. 9 points
    My ex wife used to punch me in the face when she orgasmed. It was only after we divorced that I found out she was faking the orgasm.
  24. 9 points
    As much as Dumaguete is popular some research suggests many shady characters. Best to avoid these foreigners.
  25. 9 points
    Yes you have to learn how to relax.Take a deep breath and do want what makes you happy.Me I am happy with going to the gym and meeting other members on here who have the same mind thought as me or maybe they don`t but it is always a good time.I think you will not get time to get bored.Unless you are an whatever.
  26. 9 points
    The fences are not what keeps you safe in the US, it's the thief's understanding that you can call 911 and get the police there pretty quickly. That, and knowing the homeowner may well be armed to the teeth. You can also have a 24/7 monitored security system, as we do. When I lived in the Phils I had the 6 or 7 ft concrete wall all around with barbed wire and the ubiquitous broken glass glued into the top of the wall and steel bars on all windows. Our shih-tsu would hardly qualify as a guard dog though. I did put contact alarms on both doors so that would go off if the door was opened during the night. They're cheap, I definitely recommend doing that. All these things are a necessity but I didn't kid myself that it would keep someone out that was determined to get in. In the 1st class municipality where we lived for 5 years the police may or may not even answer the phone at night. Someone who should know told me there were 20 f/t officers for a 70k+ population, including mountain barangays where they pretty much have their own laws and enforcement. Fire dept, well, that's a whole other topic. One of the few foreigners I knew was renting a house from the town mayor at the time. The mayor, of course, was extremely connected and the foreigner thought that would keep him and his property safe. He was robbed the first week when he was out, lost everything. The best thing you can do is the oft-repeated "keep a low profile and try not to make enemies". Be courteous and friendly but not too friendly. Don't be flashy and never discuss money. Don't gamble. Common sense things if you choose to live in a "developing country".
  27. 9 points
    While sitting in one of the Jolly Bees on one of my trips over, I noticed a family sitting next to us eating a meal of Jolly Bee. The father had ordered two pieces of chicken an extra rice. My wife kept going crook on me for staring at them, it was obvious they were from a province, but I could not help admire the behaviour of the little boy. Not once did he whinge about the little food he received nor did he complain about having to share his sars. My first reaction was to order more food for them, my ears are still healing from the ear bashing my wife gave me, the father would have lost face, she was rite. In a cabinet opposit us was a mascot of the Jolly Bee in the form of a little cusion. I bought it for him and after asking permission from his father to give it to him, I invited them to join us. My wife translated and we spent a good hour together, my pretend birthday celebration was the excuse to save face for the father. The little boy was hesitant to eat at first but when the ice cream arrived, there was no stopping him. It was one of the most memorable meals I've had while over there and I learnt a valuable lesson, the PI might be broke, but they are a proud race. I think the whole meal and cusion cost a little over 1500 peso, and as the little boy departed, he gave me a hug. Bloody smog is what I blamed my eyes for watering up and my wife was concerned that id got something in my eye. Yeah Jolly Bee to a little kid and us oldies can be an experience.
  28. 9 points
    Next thing you know, the South American countries will want all the gold back that Spain took during colonization and the US will want payment for the cost of liberating Philippines from Japanese occupation. Doesn't anyone know the meaning of "the past is the past"?
  29. 9 points
    Reminds me of a joke. An Englishman was out for a row in a boat on the Thames river. He somehow lost both oars and was adrift, slowly moving with the current. He saw another Englishman with two young English ladies in another rowboat about 50 meters off. The first one shouted "Can I borrow one of your oars for a short time?" The other replied "Them ain't 'hores, them's me daughters."
  30. 9 points
    For those of you wondering, yes, it is against the law to give money to beggars... Adult, child or dog... But it is not against the law to give them food... And a nice way to find out who the scammers are if you go to an area often... How? Scammers push for money and refuse the food...
  31. 9 points
    In Philippines, a muscle car is one that does not have power steering so you still need muscles to make a 3 point turn (17 point turn for the females)
  32. 8 points
    Interesting question Old, naturally you'll get as many opinions as we have members. Me? I would do a cost benefit analysis. Years till you move permanently (if ever?). Call it 4 million to buy a condo. (just for conversation) average amount of time spent here each trip. (take the middle of 3 months) Lets take a discounted room at a luxury resort of P5500 that gives you about 730 nights or 60 months or 20 years of 3 months visits to decide on the final location of your retirement. Who knows, you buy a condo on your next visit and lets say 5 years from now when you retire, the area changes, the Property management company changes, you, in your travels find a better location and now your saddled with a property to unload before you can free your money up for future use. Me? I would just enjoy my visits and not having to worry about a house 10k miles away....but then again that's just an opinion (sniff, sniff, do I smell something???)
  33. 8 points
    Wealthier Filipinos are expected to care for less fortunate family members even if it is a case of someone who is too lazy to find employment. I consider it a cultural issue which some forum members find this hard to believe. What about in the West? Do you know any practices that would seem strange? Let me start off with one. Mammoni or momma's boy is a term applied to Italian men who are still living at home with their mothers. Many of these men are professionals with jobs. The data is almost 60% for the age group 18 to 34 years. Even in their 40's and 50's, they prefer to live at home with their mother. When they marry, the wife is expected to live at the boy's home. If they happen to live outside, one in three Italian men sees his mother every day. Assuming the place of employment is far or overseas, the expectation is a telephone call everyday. The Italian government is offering cash and tax incentives for men to move out. Why? Declining birthrate because modern girls don't want to marry a Mammoni. Another reason is lower income (and therefore less taxes) if grown men only seek employment near home.. Good cooking means they eat out less often, lowering revenues and taxes collected from restaurants.
  34. 8 points
    We all know the proverbial "the carabao is sick" line used as an example of the sort of thing that some young ladies may come up with to part the poreigner from his Dollars. Well I just got this from one of my nieces... "Mmm.. can i ask a load. . i really need to call my brother and mama. Because they texted me that it's flooding in Molave, but i don't have load. I'm here at Lola's house and theres no store near in here - they said that the water is in high level. the pig is drowning . I really need to talk to them." "The pig is drowning...!" (Yes, I sent her some load...)
  35. 8 points
    If I was him I'd be starting to build a escape fund up. I think he's realising now how far down the food chain he is in a relationship. I'd be thinking of an excuse to send my money to a family member for safe keeping, long lost cousins school fees etc. Rather than confront her I'd tell her that you've been thinking how well she looks after her brother and as he's family you understand it fully. It's now got him thinking he should send money home for his relatives where he came from, and as such they might have to give up a few luxuries but not to worry as he's seen a few jobs listed for maids etc and if his wife could take one of those jobs then they'd all be happy. I'd lay it on thick how much her brother will appreciate the extra money coming in and I'm sure his wife won't mind giving up her wages. It's her brother after all.
  36. 8 points
    And this does not sound odd to you? Obviously its an illegal subdivision of land and when the owner of the land eventually passes away or sells the lot then all agreements with him are void. BTW, remember the fellow in Biliran, Gene Abrams, who was killed? He entered into just such an arrangement with the owner of just such a piece of land. "i'm gonna get it subdivided when all the lots are sold" The owner said. "Then you can have title" he said. It was all written down and notarized and marked on the title as you suggest, but after Gene's murder the owner still owns the land. But that would never happen to you or I. It only ever happens to other people
  37. 8 points
    Purpose in Life in Retirement, Relax and enjoy the fruits of your labour over many years
  38. 8 points
    That's the bonus but 'peso'nality has always been the number one purpose. The first truism I learned about filipinas is: I love you/him/them but love is useless without money.
  39. 8 points
    Finding a Sense of Purpose in the Philippines: Easy! A foreigner's purpose in the Philippines is to be a source of pesos to the local economy. Other than that we would not be welcome here.
  40. 8 points
    Simple, unless you are a certain religion you can not have more than one wife. Anyway I hope all your wives enjoyed the birthday
  41. 8 points
    JD, we have a high wall and gate, but still go out during the day to let our dogs run around a bit outside, and to hang out and chat with neighbors and passerbys. Fish vendors often stop at our gate to sell the catch of the morning, or a neighbor stopping to drop off a gift of bananas. Granted, our road is not very busy, but our neighbors are just simple local folk that we know many by name and history. I enjoy the peacefulness of a higher wall, but make sure I don't isolate myself too much with the outside neighborhood. I find wires and glass shards rather barbaric, and one might get into the "us" vs "them" mindset if one becomes too isolated. Total security is a little unrealistic, because nobody is truly safe anyway are they? In Robert Frost's poem- "Mending Wall," "good fences make good neighbors" might make sense with walls here too. Here's our red gate with a mysterious iron dragon handle on the gate door!
  42. 8 points
    It gives me a great deal of amusement to think of foreign men on dating sites searching for a 35 kg filipina because they want a cute, skinny girl to marry and show to their friends; so they marry a girl like that and take her back to their own country and the girl gains a kg a month until she gets fatter than the local girls
  43. 8 points
    Hi Reedster, You have a lot to consider relating to making a permanent move here. It sounds like you have a good family situation and life right now which is great for you, Catmon btw at this time is a safe and lovely town in the north of Cebu City, and close enough to the city to make visits there pretty easy. The thing is, a lot can happen and a five or ten year plan might be a little difficult to judge. If you go through many of the informative posts and topics here on the forum, you might learn the answers or gain more insights as you go along, to many of your concerns and questions. I've been here three years now, and a lot of time prior I spent online at sites getting as much homework in to make my transition easier. It helped me a lot to read about how others had already dealt with situations I was concerned about. Maybe in the meantime, you and your wife and youngest could possibly just fit in some more visits to the Philippines to try to help gauge your future situation too, and give your youngest daughter a chance to get to know her grandmother a little. You are not alone in your dreams and desires to make a move here, and having plans are a great start. No matter what you choose, I wish you well with your future decisions.
  44. 8 points
    For some reason, there are many men who think that "us guys" are the only ones who have the option to find other distractions. Having seen how the filipinas "work" the foreigners they meet, (on line or in person), I find them to be better at it than we mere, mortal, men. They will work it until they find their best option. She will not tell you she is keeping other options open any more than you would tell her, but keep it in mind these gals are smarter than the average guy when it comes to deciding on a mate. No matter how much in love with you she is, a filipina will keep her options open until you have walked her down the aisle. (Some even watch for better options after marriage but those are the exceptions rather than the rule.) So while she was ignoring you for a couple days it would not surprise me in the least to find out she was exploring "other distractions". The fact that she is talking to you again means she still thinks you are her best option. This is a good thing, if that is what you want. When you say "Crisis averted" I get the picture that you are quite fond of this girl and she is also fond of you. Remember they throw the "love" word around much too easily. (I cannot count the girls who have told me they love me "on Skype" from another man's bedroom while he is out doing something else). So I have my fingers crossed for you that she is a good one, but Tampo? Nah. That can possibly be an excuse after you are married but I sincerely doubt it at this point in the relationship. If she was not talking to you she was talking to someone else. Best case scenario is she was talking it over with her family or bff and then calmed down. Best of luck, buddy. Lots of the guys on this forum have some great success stories. But there are a lot of others who do not post any more (or who never did post) who don't want to tell their story because its not something they want to think about/talk about anymore. I'm saying: Be careful with your heart, but if she is the right one for you then make sure she is getting what she needs from the relationship and I don't mean cash. EDIT: I read this to Lynne, my fiance, and she said its good advice. Lynne says if she loves someone she cannot go more than 24 hours without communicating, even if she is really mad, and Lynne is one of those who shuts up and will not talk when she is upset so if she says it, I'm doubly sure my advice is on target. Just trying to be helpful, my friend.
  45. 8 points
    Well Tampo over we just finished Skpe-ing and all is well in the land of Mark. Yes she did admit that it is her way when she is upset she shuts down communications and we discussed that in the future we need to talk to resolve these types of things,Crisis averted. So i guess I will not need those distractions anymore....hahaha.
  46. 8 points
    Here I'm giving Steve retirement advice because we are going to retire shortly too. So last week I buy a muscle car. Makes perfect sense right?
  47. 8 points
    Much harder to accomplish as a new arrival in need of transportation. Many things become easier and cheaper once you have been here a while, not in a hurry to purchase, willing to look around, and ready to buy when the opportunity appears.
  48. 8 points
    If you buy a new car here you get (I think all the time but not sure) 3 years worth of registration and insurance in the deal so no need to make the annual trip to smoke test, insurance and LTO for the first 3 years. That's worth 20K pesos or more in headaches saved. Add that to the reliability of a new car and the lower depreciation and if I could afford new its what I would get.
  49. 7 points
    Besides the security issues with vehicles and tool sheds and outbuildings and gardens and keeping people honest, walled houses lend some privacy, style and some sound protection to your place, and keep your dogs/pets out of the road. We live right along the old national road, not in a subdivision, so we have a high, well lit wall and solid red gate in front, and once you come in to the yard there's a sense of peace and privacy. There are decorative palms and landscaping outside the wall as well. We have a small cctv camera hooked up by the gate that shows to a computer screen downstairs, but that's only to see who might be at the gate and who needs to come in. Our back sea wall is pretty high, but not secured, and anyone who really wanted to, could climb it I suppose. We have three outside mongrel dogs that freely roam around, and are quite vocal and protective of their turf though.
  50. 7 points
    Reed. Living permanently and visiting for two weeks is night and day. I suggest that you started planning an extended vacation 1 - 3 months, this way you can have a feel on how to live in the Philippines, start looking for areas you want to settle. I've been away from the Philippines (Pasig) for more than 30 years. The longest I've been back is 1 week. Since you ask about education for your kids and looking for jobs after graduation from college, rather than advise I would like to share my experience as a Filipino looking for jobs in the US that was 30 years ago, now fast forward at the present time, it is very competitive. I have BS degree in Chemical Engineering from Adamson University in Manila. The first thing they asked was, have you had local experience, of course the response is "no", that is pretty much the end of my job application. After so many failed attempts in 1 year, I finally decided to enlist in the US Navy. I stayed for 20 years and 8 days and retired as CPO (E7). After the Navy, I work (still working) for the City/Town as director of purchasing. It is very hard to land a good job if you are a graduate from 3rd world like Philippines. It is what it is, people have their own prejudice. Let me ask you this, if you have 2 candidates, one is a graduate from a US university and the other is from the Philippines who would you hire? It is all about the local experience specially in the technical world - engineering and the like. I am close to my retirement myself and I'm looking forward to going back to the Philippines and enjoy my golden years, me and my wife, 2 kids are both out of the household and settled on their own.