Bitter Sweet Filipinas My Experience

[Hey Steve]

Hello, Gentlemen,

I thought I would share a bit of my life with you regarding my experience with Internet dating-bitter sweet to say the least.

 

  My story begins when I had been chatting with a very poor gal from Paranaque who was using an internet cafe. Well. long story short, we hit it off. She was the sweetest most honest, precious lady I met and asked nothing from me. She had deep beautiful eyes and spoke with a smoothness, I really can't accurately describe. Rromance and beauty dominated this quiet woman's every being when I went to see her. I brought her a certain type of perfume found only in Victoria Secret which she always dreamed of having. We had the best 2 weeks together I could imagine. The days were full of joy, the nights with passion-we both fell so deeply in love. When I had to go back a taxi drove us to the airport, where we said our sad good byes but she knew I was going to get to work on sponsoring her (K-1), so we could be together -married, happy, the whole bit-life was finally becoming what I only dreamed it would be. Little did I know, it was the last time I would ever see her in person. Fast forward, I got her a laptop so we could communicate on Skype while waiting for the paperwork to go through. She lived in a room spacer above a store, so she was as poor as a church mouse, but I supplied her needs and she hung in there very well. Her happiness and contentment was in our love more than the squaller she had to endure so she said to save my money for our life together. 2 months into the visa process, after complaining of stomach pains, I told her to go to the doctor. She had ovarian cancer (stage 1-so they said anyway). I borrowed from my 401K to get her the chemo, radiation, and medicine needed to fight the cancer. I told her-be strong-for us. She was indeed!! In the course of 5 months it spread to the bone. Once it traveled up her spine to her brain-that was it. All this painful time watching her fight this took about 6 months. I felt completely helpless. I could not travel to see her because every bit of money I could get went to her treatments so we talked on Skype through her ups and downs. I can't even describe what it felt like to see each day her regressing like she did-but she fought and fought. Toward the end-on Skype-while she was in the hospital room, I told her I will never forget our love and will carry it with me for the rest of my days. She smiled and could barely speak and said-"Please don't cry-I will be with God soon". That was our last communication. Her sister told me the next day-as her 83 yr old mother held her in her arms, "Tell Steve I love him.". Then she expired. I saw (on her Skype) her body in state at her family's house. The perfume was next to her with pictures of us together. This is how she was buried. Her dream, and my dream of being together---was over. I never felt such pain in my life. She was a true angel-the joy of my life. I had bought her a fancy coffee cup when I was there-and she gave me her plain yellow one in return which I use her every day.  It took me about year of healing before I reasoned out that I needed to move forward in my quest for love-and Adhel encouraged me to do so before she died. I searched again and this time found Annie. She's a cute, bubbly, little filipina gal that I met, love, and married. We are very happy to this day-and I know Adhel is looking down at me smiling that I am happy now. The two are special in their own way-kind of like the best steak compared to the best Ice Cream-nothing alike but both wonderful. In closing, I want to say, I know the tricks of the trade and what to look out for -how to avoid a fake-and all that. I was never a victim of a scam, but, for all those who feel victimized, I share this to inspire you not to give up on these women. There's good and bad everywhere-and in some ways a scam victim feels the pain in the wallet. Money can be replaced. Thank you for reading my story and I hope God grants each of you a long life of love with your Filipina-we never know when the end will come.

Edited August 8, 2014 by Hey Steve

[Medic Mike]

I kind of know how you feel Steve. It has been several years now, but I met a young ED doctor in the course of my job. She was the sweetest and greatest women I have met to this day. We were suppose to get married in June of 1999. Just before Thanksgiving on 1998, she started feeling generally unwell, not eating, etc. etc. She got herself checked out, and found out that she had breast cancer. We were both devasstated as you can imagine. On account of the cancer already been so far along, she had to have one of the breasts removed. Few weeks went by, and she was not getting better. Found that cancer had also spread to one of her ovaries, which was removed as well, by this time we found that the cancer had spread to her stomach, as a result she was finally pronounced as terminal. During this time I was working in Australia, and Heather was working at a hospital at UAB in Alabama. Because of Heather's condition I had applied for long service leave, so I could spend the rest of time she had left with her.

She had never been to Australia, and our plan was her to move over here and practice medicine, but this was not to happen. At this time, she was in John Hopkins with chemo etc etc. The plan was to hire a private nurse, bring her to Australia, and do a whole bucket list of things, ie..swim with dolphins, whale sharks, hold khola bears etc etc. During this time I had to go back to Perth for a court case I was giving evidence, it was a serious sexual assault case, so I needed to be there for a couple of days.

So I kissed Heather goodbye, and told her I would see her in a couple of days. As a result I went back to Perth for the trial. I had only been back for 2 days, when I got the worse phone call ever. It seems Heather wanted to surprise me, so she left the hospital against medical advice with the private nurse to surprise me in Perth.

They got as far as LA airport, where she went into respiratory arrest at the airport, and then soon after full arrest. They were not able to revive her.

She was the best and sweetest person I have ever met, so Steve I know exactly how you feel. I must admit I don't think I have ever fully recovered. I have tried to find love from time to time, and even with the lovely pinay women that I met on my many trips to the Philippines.

[intrepid]

WOW guys, you both had me in tears.  Your stories make me so thankful for my families health.  I am so blessed with my wife and soon will be 10 years togeather.  I just could not understand how a person could move on after loosing someone so close.  I only know that time and the love of God could keep me looking forward.

Thanks both of you for stories.  May God always bless you!

[Hey Steve]

Mike, do all you can to reflect on what Heather would want for you-sometimes that takes a hard focus and it somehow can ease the pain knowing your loving someone and being loved. I know that sounds cliche and overly simplistic, but it's how I got throught the toughest times with my new love. No, the pain never totally will leave you, I agree. My deepest condolences.

Respectfully, Steve

[Steve & Myrlita]

Verry sorry Steve & Mike.

[Jake]

Hello Hey Steve and Medic Mike,

 

Such painful memories and yet you guys were kind enough to allow us into your most deepest pain and sorrow. 

I am totally speechless.......

 

Respectfully -- Jake 

[Hey Steve]

Jake, I have been following many threads here for quite a while before deciding to having the pleasure to join. I feel that sharing her (and my) story is deserving for her memory on this quality forum. I know we each have some unmatched memories in our life.

Now, I'm not going to be a drag here on other posts, it's not like me, but this one's for Adhel. (RIP, sweetie)

 

..and thanks Mike & Myrlita.

 

Steve

[Steve & Myrlita]

..and thanks Mike & Myrlita.

Sorry Steve. I'm also Steve. Myrlita is my wife. hehehe

[Jake]

Jake, I have been following many threads here for quite a while before deciding to having the pleasure to join. I feel that sharing her (and my) story is deserving for her memory on this quality forum. I know we each have some unmatched memories in our life.

Now, I'm not going to be a drag here on other posts, it's not like me, but this one's for Adhel. (RIP, sweetie)

 

..and thanks Mike & Myrlita.

 

Steve

To my fellow members Hey Steve and Medic Mike,

 

Perhaps this is a fitting tribute to your angels smiling upon you:

 

 

This is not meant to cause you guys anymore pain, hopefully just tears of joy......I know, I'm really corny

for my old age.....he, he.  

 

Respectfully -- Jake

[BrettGC]

Steve and Mike, you just bought a tear to this old sailor's eye.  My condolences to you both.  And I wish you both happiness in your futures.

Edited August 9, 2014 by BrettGC