Whose been in a relationship before?

[Ynot]

I posted a topic the other day to do with "are you with the one you really love" and I noticed a few comments where people inferred that if you had been in one or two relationships before then perhaps your current partner should be wary of you!  

Now I think they mentioned marriages, but in my mind whether you were or are married or in a relationship (living together for more than 2 years) then that's akin to be being married.  In Australia, if you live together for more than 2 years and present yourself to the world as a couple you are treated as being married and your gf or bf would be able to claim a part of your estate in a break up.  

Furthermore, there are even various Acts administered by the various jurisdictions both state and Federal where you are entitled to certain benefits and or tax relief.  For example, transferring a vehicle between spouses which includes de facto relationships (more than 2 years) are able to claim an exemption from duty on the transfer of the vehicle.

Now I would bet that the majority of you have either been married before, are married, or in a relationship of more than 2 years, or in a long distance relationship. 

So keeping in my the criteria (married or married before, lived together for 2 years or more, or in a long distance relationship of more than 2 years) how many relationships have you been in?  Now there will be those that are still in their first marriage which is great, I'm happy for you, but I'm willing to bet that the majority of people here have been in more than one relationship as per my criteria! 

I will start the ball rolling?

Married in 1984 last one year, together for 4 years before the marriage ended.

2nd marriage in 2001, lasted 8 years fell apart not my fault, but still good friends.

1 long distance relationship Thailand 3 years

Now in a long distance relationship, have been together for 3 years, moving to Philippines next year to be with her.  

So since 1980, I have been in 4 relationships over 36 years. 

Edited March 17, 2016 by Ynot
to expand the criteria

[robert k]

4 minutes ago, Ynot said:

I posted a topic the other day to do with "are you with the one you really love" and I noticed a few comments where people inferred that if you had been in one or two relationships before then perhaps your current partner should be wary of you!  

Now I think they mentioned marriages, but in my mind whether you were married or in a relationship (living together for more than 2 years) then that's akin to be being married.  In Australia, if you live together for more than 2 years and present yourself to the world as a couple you are treated as being married and your gf or bf would be able to claim a part of your estate in a break up.  

furthermore, there are even various Acts administered by the various jurisdictions both state and Federal where you are entitled to certain benefits and or tax relief.  For example, transferring a vehicle between spouses which includes defacto relationships (more than 2 years) are able to claim an exemption from duty on the transfer of the vehicle.

Now I would bet that the majority of you have either been married before, or in a relationship of more than 2 years, or in a long distance relationship. 

So keeping in my the criteria (married before, lived together for 2 years or more, or in a long distance relationship of more than 2 years) how many relationships have you been in?

I will start the ball rolling?

Married in 1984 last one year, together for 4 years before the marriage.

2nd marriage in 2001, lasted 8 years fell apart not my fault, but still good friends.

1 long distance relationship Thailand 3 years

Now in a long distance relationship, have been together for 3 years, moving to Philippines next year to be with her.  

So since 1980, I have been in 4 relationships over 36 years. 

By your definitions. 0

[Ynot]

9 minutes ago, robert k said:

By your definitions. 0

Hi amended criteria to include those that are lucky enough to only have been married once and are still married.  

[PaulB]

Ynot

 

I was married to an English Woman for 13 years. 4 wonderful children who are also my best friends. Got divorced as love not really in the mix anymore. Went overseas to work, met a lovely Pilipino woman on a work trip to Philippines, got her a job in UAE and we got married 3 years ago.

I have never been happier and now am living for the future and have a plan. I messed around so many times before meeting my asawa and life was just drifting and empty.

If you are looking for any advice I would say "life is for living and you should never have to sit there and say what if? Go for it and go for it with eyes wide open and watch out for warning signs listed so many times on here. No need for marriage unless you want to own anything in the Philippines. For me it cemented my feelings and made me more committed then ever.

I now have 4 years to survive in the UAE and then I am off to a new adventure. It won't be perfect, it will have good and bad days but I am going to always look forward and never look back.

 

Not sure this will help but made me feel better!!

 

Good luck.

 

Paul

 

 

 

 

[chris49]

That would be one hell of a countback.

I got married at age 20 in the USA in 1970.

My second marriage was in Sri Lanka, 1985 and it lasted 20 years although we were actually separated I suppose about 5 years.

I got married in Sta Rita,  Pampanga  2010. We did live together 3-4 years 2008-11 but the marriage was null and void from day one. Certificate of Nullility was issued under dubious circumstances but it was affixed by the NSO to the Marriage Certificate.

No.4 was in Magsingal Ilocos Sur 2014.

As far as living in, probably not the 2 year course...maybe once. And a few others with more sketchy details because in the Middle East co-habitation was illegal.

[stevewool]

What can i say, i just love wedding cake, married 3 times thats it no more

[Gratefuled]

Yeah. I've been in a lot of relationships. I dated a lot before I remarried after the loss of my first and only wife previously. That's all they were, just romantic relationships. Some lasted more than others. They were all good. Some better than others. I never shacked up with any of them. 

From my experience, most American women do not make good wives. Many are excellent wives and mothers. I lost a really good one. 

Back to the subject. My one and only relationship with a Filipina has been great. If only American women were as caring and committed to a relationship as my present wife. Filipinas are beautiful. They are affectionate, compassionate, caring, with a great sense of humor. I could go on and on about my wife but that would be bragging.

 

[Hey Steve]

I have come to understand a lot of differences between Asian and Western culture (particularly US)-both pros and cons. For me, actually the women in the Philippines (a big plus to me in Asian culture)  have a much different and better demeanor, a somewhat simplistic sense of what makes them truly happy with their partner, and an over all joyous nature about them that makes them easy to love-and love a lot....hence, my Filipina wife of 2 1/2years-I could not be happier (previous marriage of 14 years fell apart 16 years ago after years of trying in vain to hold it together).

[Queenie O.]

Only been married once to my present Filipino husband.

[jpbago]

   I have never been married but I lived common law for 38 years with a lovely lady in Canada until she passed away due to Alzheimer's Disease. Now, I am living common law with a Filipina for the past 5 years. We do 6 months in PI and 6 months in Canada.