Popular Post bows00 Posted March 29, 2017 Popular Post Posted March 29, 2017 I have a friend that I brought over to the Philippines for the first time after he underwent an ugly divorce with a wife of 30 years. We are both in our 50's and are professionals in the states. My intensions were to show him a good time to recuperate and have a new start on life. The mistake I made was choosing to go to a KTV bar in Manila. It started off great. Three employed girls joined us, we drank and sang for about three hours and at the end of the night, he ended up hooking up with one of the filipinas. Now one week later, he is deep in love. My concern is that he is an American guy that has lived the happy family life for the past 30 years and was never exposed to other women. And I understand that he is a grown man who should make his own decisions, but as a close friend, I can't help but think if all this is a huge mistake. I can't convince him otherwise. My current plan is to just back off... any suggestions? 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gratefuled Posted March 29, 2017 Posted March 29, 2017 12 minutes ago, bows00 said: My current plan is to just back off... any suggestions? Nope Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jack Peterson Posted March 29, 2017 Posted March 29, 2017 14 minutes ago, bows00 said: My current plan is to just back off... any suggestions? For me, if he is not going to listen do just that, always difficult but 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jollygoodfellow Posted March 29, 2017 Posted March 29, 2017 25 minutes ago, bows00 said: I can't help but think if all this is a huge mistake. I can't convince him otherwise. It might be but maybe it wont. Stranger things have worked out. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dave Hounddriver Posted March 29, 2017 Posted March 29, 2017 (edited) 42 minutes ago, bows00 said: any suggestions? These things almost never end well, unless he is the richest, most handsome, best catch on the block, OR if she has 6 kids by 6 different dads and he is willing to accept that where most would not. In that case he stands a chance. Otherwise she will take what she can get and move on to a better catch, possibly even forgetting his name and surely not giving a crap that she used him. Edit: My gf is nodding when I read this to her but she countered that by smiling and saying "not all are that bad". So there is hope, cross fingers. Edited March 29, 2017 by Dave Hounddriver 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post sonjack2847 Posted March 29, 2017 Popular Post Posted March 29, 2017 Off the top of my head I can think of 6 of my friends who married Thai bargirls. They have all been married quite a few years and could not be happier.I think he is a grown man and you have to let him find his own way.You have given him your advice and he refuses to take it so you must back off. 8 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kuya John Posted March 29, 2017 Posted March 29, 2017 (edited) "Here comes April again, and as far as I can see the world hath more fools in it than ever" Charles Lamb When kindness is reciprocated it's one sure way of finding out if people are genuine....JB Edited March 29, 2017 by Kuya John 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kuya John Posted March 29, 2017 Posted March 29, 2017 2 hours ago, bows00 said: I have a friend that I brought over to the Philippines for the first time after he underwent an ugly divorce with a wife of 30 years. he is an American guy that has lived the happy family life for the past 30 years Why live a lie, when you can have the real thing? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Jollygoodfellow Posted March 29, 2017 Popular Post Posted March 29, 2017 6 hours ago, Kuya John said: Why live a lie, when you can have the real thing? The thing that many do not consider is that the bar girl is a human, most do what they do to feed their kids and if you had no choice and your kids screamed in hunger what would you do ? So easy for us westerners to say that what they do is wrong but lets try this for arguments sake. you are out of work no matter where you live in the world you are desperate as kids need food, you are born and living in a country that does not provide help so what are you going to do ? If you love your kids like most mothers you will do what you have to do. In Australia for example you are a woman with a child you will get goverment help, this is the Philippines so what do you get? I can tell you I have a bargirl friend and her story is sad, her partner and father to her 2 children died, he never said he was sick, he hid the fact and was a shock of what come next but he passed away so the mother had to do something as kids will also die if they dont get food. So judgment on this lifestyle or work is in my opinion, put the shoe on the other foot ! By the way, she is just a friend but a very nice person caught in a trap of doing what she has to to survive. Very shy and does not bar fine but survives on the 200 peso a day plus ladies drinks. 13 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kuya John Posted March 29, 2017 Posted March 29, 2017 (edited) Absolutely right JGF My similar point of view in another topic. 9 hours ago, Kuya John said: Why live a lie, when you can have the real thing? The above reference was in regard to being in a marriage and "30 years of happy family life" doesn't lead to a ugly divorce." unless of course someone suddenly has a change of heart (for reasons best known to themselves) Although, rushing from one situation in to another, can sometimes be foolish to say the least after one week! Edited March 29, 2017 by Kuya John clarity 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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