Popular Post Dave Hounddriver Posted March 31, 2017 Popular Post Posted March 31, 2017 So many filipinas do this when in a relationship, some worse than others. They will stick their face right in front of my phone or laptop to read everything I am typing or what is being said in reply. Tonight I told my gf that it is considered rude to read over my shoulder and that I have the right to a little privacy when sending a text and whoever is replying may want ONLY me to read his message. If it is something to share then I will gladly let her read it for a chuckle or to learn something. I told her how it feels like I am being "monitored" to be sure I am not saying anything she would not approve of. I told her I would not and could not do that to her as she writes in a language I do not understand and writes in slang that would not even translate if I plugged it into Google Translator. So I tried to very calmly explain that I do not like it or want it and she stormed off upstairs with her phone to do her own little 'secret texting". I think this is not going to last. Its not about age gap, its about maturity and culture gap. Time will tell. Does anyone else have this problem and does it bother you? For interests sake, I was merely texting a fellow expat about my blood sugar levels and there was no big secret that she could not read, but what if a buddy was texting me about having a problem with his wife? Would he want to know my gf was reading over my shoulder? I find it rude. What say you all? 8 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post AlwaysRt Posted March 31, 2017 Popular Post Posted March 31, 2017 18 minutes ago, Dave Hounddriver said: So many filipinas do this when in a relationship, some worse than others. They will stick their face right in front of my phone or laptop to read everything I am typing or what is being said in reply. Tonight I told my gf that it is considered rude to read over my shoulder and that I have the right to a little privacy when sending a text and whoever is replying may want ONLY me to read his message. If it is something to share then I will gladly let her read it for a chuckle or to learn something. I told her how it feels like I am being "monitored" to be sure I am not saying anything she would not approve of. I told her I would not and could not do that to her as she writes in a language I do not understand and writes in slang that would not even translate if I plugged it into Google Translator. So I tried to very calmly explain that I do not like it or want it and she stormed off upstairs with her phone to do her own little 'secret texting". I think this is not going to last. Its not about age gap, its about maturity and culture gap. Time will tell. Does anyone else have this problem and does it bother you? For interests sake, I was merely texting a fellow expat about my blood sugar levels and there was no big secret that she could not read, but what if a buddy was texting me about having a problem with his wife? Would he want to know my gf was reading over my shoulder? I find it rude. What say you all? I find it rude also, told her if she wants to read it ask me and I probably will let her with the only exception being the same type you mentioned. Was sorta an issue in the beginning, no issue at all now. Might also have a lot to do with being a newer relationship and all Filipinas 'know' foreigners only want to screw around and have a girl in every port. All you can do is talk to her about it (like you did) and see how she handles it. 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Snowy79 Posted March 31, 2017 Popular Post Posted March 31, 2017 I admire your patience. Mine also questions everything I'm doing and who I'm talking to. Everything I do she doesn't ask why I'm doing it she asks who did I meet? I go to the mall or the gym and it's the first thing she asks. Not what did I buy or was it a good work out? If I get a text she asks if it's a girl? I just tell her I met loads of women and girls text me on my secret phone so don't worry. She's slowly getting the message Especially when I told her I hadn't thought about meeting other girls but thanks for the idea. 10 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reboot Posted March 31, 2017 Posted March 31, 2017 Women do that...not just Filipinas. In my experience. Mine doesn't act jealous though, just curious. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jake Posted March 31, 2017 Posted March 31, 2017 (edited) 7 hours ago, Dave Hounddriver said: I think this is not going to last. I find it rude. What say you all? Hmm.....well, you and I can start texting some fake juicy stories. We can even pretend that we are secret lovers or some other ridiculous situation. You might as well go out with a bang or better yet, multiple bangs with video of extremely compromising positions between us. I'll start off with this: Respectfully Jake, your favorite wanker -- sal-sal in Tagalog. Edited March 31, 2017 by Jake 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
not so old china hand Posted March 31, 2017 Posted March 31, 2017 In China this habit of reading over your shoulder is not limited to people's partners. When I travel by bus or metro I often find strangers looking over my shoulder to see what I'm reading. Since currently I'm reading A T Mahan's "The Influence of Sea Power upon the French Revolution and Empire 1793-1812 (Vol. II)" I'm sure they find it riveting. 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gerald Glatt Posted March 31, 2017 Posted March 31, 2017 6 hours ago, Jake said: Hmm.....well, you and I can start texting some fake juicy stories. We can even pretend that we are secret lovers or some other ridiculous situation. You might as well go out with a bang or better yet, multiple bangs with video of extremely compromising positions between us. I'll start off with this: Respectfully Jake, your favorite wanker -- sal-sal in Tagalog. you're on the left? 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sonjack2847 Posted March 31, 2017 Posted March 31, 2017 9 hours ago, Dave Hounddriver said: So many filipinas do this when in a relationship, some worse than others. They will stick their face right in front of my phone or laptop to read everything I am typing or what is being said in reply. Tonight I told my gf that it is considered rude to read over my shoulder and that I have the right to a little privacy when sending a text and whoever is replying may want ONLY me to read his message. If it is something to share then I will gladly let her read it for a chuckle or to learn something. I told her how it feels like I am being "monitored" to be sure I am not saying anything she would not approve of. I told her I would not and could not do that to her as she writes in a language I do not understand and writes in slang that would not even translate if I plugged it into Google Translator. So I tried to very calmly explain that I do not like it or want it and she stormed off upstairs with her phone to do her own little 'secret texting". I think this is not going to last. Its not about age gap, its about maturity and culture gap. Time will tell. Does anyone else have this problem and does it bother you? For interests sake, I was merely texting a fellow expat about my blood sugar levels and there was no big secret that she could not read, but what if a buddy was texting me about having a problem with his wife? Would he want to know my gf was reading over my shoulder? I find it rude. What say you all? I would say that she feels a little bit insecure.Maybe it is because it is a new relationship and maybe she is just the jealous type.I have never had this "jealous"behavior except 1 time very early in the relationship and I nipped it in the bud. 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gratefuled Posted March 31, 2017 Posted March 31, 2017 Not a problem here. She has her own computer but seldom uses it. My wife is not curious about me and my computer. I tell her of any email that I get from back home and show her when they send pix. She is anxious to meet my family and asks why don't they come here. The only one she has met was my cousin who is a few years older than me and has a home in Thailand that he stays when visiting. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Forum Support scott h Posted March 31, 2017 Forum Support Posted March 31, 2017 22 minutes ago, not so old china hand said: reading over your shoulder is not limited to people's partners. I will attest to the above. During my daily walks I like to carry a book and I stop to read a bit under a tree. I can not count the times that I feel a loom over my shoulder. I look up and see 2 or 3 people looking over my shoulder. I have even had folks stop in front of me, and gaze at the pages trying to read upside down. Go figure 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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