Popular Post Dave Hounddriver Posted June 9, 2017 Popular Post Posted June 9, 2017 6 minutes ago, Gratefuled said: Now, it is for a waitress, wife will usually pick up the tip and keep it. And you allow that? Where do you draw the line on the kind of behavior you will accept from your wife? I know some guys who complain when their wife will take money from their wallet without saying anything. The worst case I know was a friend who came over to borrow some money because he said "I had some money hidden but my damn wife found it and took it and gave it to her family. If it wasn't for our kid I'd be gone." How many of us do not draw any boundaries on what is acceptable behavior for a wife? What do you do when/if she crosses that line? The worst case scenario is one I have mentioned before where a friend said he would rather die than leave his wife, even though she is cheating on him and spending all his money. So she poisoned him. OK, this will have to be a new topic so moving it over now. . . . 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sonjack2847 Posted June 9, 2017 Posted June 9, 2017 1 hour ago, Dave Hounddriver said: And you allow that? Where do you draw the line on the kind of behavior you will accept from your wife? I know some guys who complain when their wife will take money from their wallet without saying anything. The worst case I know was a friend who came over to borrow some money because he said "I had some money hidden but my damn wife found it and took it and gave it to her family. If it wasn't for our kid I'd be gone." How many of us do not draw any boundaries on what is acceptable behavior for a wife? What do you do when/if she crosses that line? The worst case scenario is one I have mentioned before where a friend said he would rather die than leave his wife, even though she is cheating on him and spending all his money. So she poisoned him. OK, this will have to be a new topic so moving it over now. . . . As far as I am concerned I would not allow my wife to take somebodies tip as I would consider that theft.The tip belongs to the waitress end of story.As for limits I give to my wife is that you can use the change I put on top of the ref but you do not take any other money without first asking,this has worked well so far. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stevewool Posted June 9, 2017 Posted June 9, 2017 Aint it funny we all seem to know someone in that position, dying love no matter what, but would we stay i that relationship, i for one would not, knowing there are more fish out there. Now if there was children it could be different. Emma will always ask if its ok to send so and so money and i am pleased that does still happen, so far so good for us too, 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stevewool Posted June 9, 2017 Posted June 9, 2017 2 minutes ago, sonjack2847 said: As far as I am concerned I would not allow my wife to take somebodies tip as I would consider that theft.The tip belongs to the waitress end of story.As for limits I give to my wife is that you can use the change I put on top of the ref but you do not take any other money without first asking,this has worked well so far. On my first trips over there i placed the tip on the table and Emma use to say that is too much and then would remove it and place a smaller amount, in the end i just let her leave the tip as in my eyes it was not enough. She did try to explain that leaving what i was doing , then the waitress expected others to leave the same , i understand but it was hard leaving pennies rather then pounds like here in England . 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post sonjack2847 Posted June 9, 2017 Popular Post Posted June 9, 2017 8 minutes ago, stevewool said: On my first trips over there i placed the tip on the table and Emma use to say that is too much and then would remove it and place a smaller amount, in the end i just let her leave the tip as in my eyes it was not enough. She did try to explain that leaving what i was doing , then the waitress expected others to leave the same , i understand but it was hard leaving pennies rather then pounds like here in England . Yes Steve but Emma is adjusting not taking the whole amount,she is looking after you.I have seen first hand that they will expect a bigger tip if you have had a big spender in there. I have had somebody here tell me the tip was not enough so I said ok give me that back and left nothing.20 peso is quite a bit of money for these people. 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AlwaysRt Posted June 9, 2017 Posted June 9, 2017 My wife still sees the line as it is my money until I put it in her hand. I that the is a bit excessive and have told her, but I am not going to push the issue and have her end up trying to spend everything. She is happy with the line there so I'm gonna leave it alone. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Forum Support scott h Posted June 9, 2017 Forum Support Posted June 9, 2017 18 hours ago, Dave Hounddriver said: And you allow that? Did not see original string, so I hope it was in jest. But what occurs to me right off is: Am I giving my wife enough money for her needs so she doesn't feel the need to steal what is obviously meant for another person? If the answer is yes I do give her enough money, then there just might be something a bit deeper the matter. secondly, if I am not giving her enough money, why not? Is the problem with me? Or my trust level in her? 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post JJReyes Posted June 9, 2017 Popular Post Posted June 9, 2017 Olive Garden and similar restaurants now have a computer terminal on your table to calculate the bill and add the suggested tip. It is set at 20%. You can adjust the amount up or down, but they have trained the wait staff to look disappointed if it's lower than 20%. I found a great solution! Take my business elsewhere. 10 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Gratefuled Posted June 9, 2017 Popular Post Posted June 9, 2017 There are no lines to be drawn in our marriage I accept her actions. She has her reasons. I do not question her behaviour. She is a mature educated adult. We have "mutual respect" for each other. However if you and in your relationships feel that lines should be drawn then by all means draw them no one is stopping you. The trick is in marrying someone who you can trust. Then no lines need to be drawn. 11 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Forum Support scott h Posted June 9, 2017 Forum Support Posted June 9, 2017 9 minutes ago, JJReyes said: Olive Garden On our last trip to the states I notised this at Olive Garden. New to me. Thought is was a great idea! Saved me from doing the math 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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