Having no money

[stevewool]

We all have read the stories and maybe have been involved in the saying too " we have no money".

But how true is it.

Yesterday talking to Emma about her past and mine too, I started talking about birthdays and blowing out the candles and making a wish, Emma did none of these things she told me.

She said she can recall not having a birthday cake or candle's for many many years and she even mentioned maybe not being one of the favourite  child even.

Can anyone recall there partners being like this , I know if you are short of money birthdays and Christmas can go out of the window and I know that her sister's don't seem to make a fuse about birthdays too, well that's unless it's a gift or cash coming from us .

It did surprise me when she told me these things and what you here about children and families over there how much they love and share things, maybe like Ihave said there store important things then birthdays.

[Dave Hounddriver]

1 hour ago, stevewool said:

We all have read the stories and maybe have been involved in the saying too " we have no money".

But how true is it.

Are you asking the same question as Jack asked here:

 

On 9/4/2017 at 11:28 AM, Jack Peterson said:

 We read and hear about No work, No money (Budget) YET the Roads are thronging with all types of vehicles

 

[OnMyWay]

1 hour ago, stevewool said:

We all have read the stories and maybe have been involved in the saying too " we have no money".

But how true is it.

Yesterday talking to Emma about her past and mine too, I started talking about birthdays and blowing out the candles and making a wish, Emma did none of these things she told me.

She said she can recall not having a birthday cake or candle's for many many years and she even mentioned maybe not being one of the favourite  child even.

Can anyone recall there partners being like this , I know if you are short of money birthdays and Christmas can go out of the window and I know that her sister's don't seem to make a fuse about birthdays too, well that's unless it's a gift or cash coming from us .

It did surprise me when she told me these things and what you here about children and families over there how much they love and share things, maybe like Ihave said there store important things then birthdays.

As I understand it, when it is your birthday here, YOU are the one who provides a celebration.  So I can see how some might avoid their own birthday celebration.

[stevewool]

5 hours ago, Dave Hounddriver said:

Are you asking the same question as Jack asked here:

 

 

Well sort off,

What about not giving to there own family  with gifts on birthdays,

[stevewool]

5 hours ago, OnMyWay said:

As I understand it, when it is your birthday here, YOU are the one who provides a celebration.  So I can see how some might avoid their own birthday celebration.

But if you are a child , then how do you provide .

[Mike J]

My wife's family were subsistence farmers when she was growing up.  Her younger brother brother told me it was not uncommon for both father and mother to forego meals so that their five children could eat.  Birthdays for children, especially those born 30, 40, 50 years ago were very rare indeed.  It was common, and still happens, that children would be raised by grand parents or other relatives when parents simply could not afford feed, clothe, and educate the children they had.  Even today for many pinoys "security" is not measured by a savings account or retirement plan, it is measured in how many kilo of rice or corn they have stored away for when there is no work and their little bit money is gone.

[Jack Peterson]

9 hours ago, OnMyWay said:

I know if you are short of money birthdays and Christmas can go out of the window and I know that her sister's don't seem to make a fuse about birthdays too,

 Well Steve, either "EM's has forgotten or you have never really been involved but "Filipino Pastime is party time" This was one of the many things that prompted a recent Topic on the Subject on How poor is poor I started. I can't answer for other islands but believe me, on Negros this is a very common Event;

 Lola on her 94 th Birthday

 

Many here will Struggle, Borrow and get local Credit to have a party but a Party they will have

 

Jack

Morning All

 

 

 

[Jack Peterson]

Sometimes it annoys me and I know others may think the Same but one thing I have noticed is Money's not Everything when you have none and yet it can be everything when you do. But sat at my Local Sori Sori I see much happening around me and the ones that I know are Poor send this message out to me at least.

 Food for thought maybe;  

[Queenie O.]

I recently asked my husband if he ever went without a birthday celebration-- even a small one? He said yes--sometimes a few weeks would go by and it would dawn on him that he himself had forgotten.  Being in a family of 8 children, even though his parents were both elementary school teachers, birthdays were not really a big priority in the family.

When I was in the Peace Corps it seemed that here in town, some lucky children would yearly get a chicken fried and uncut pancit  meal (for a long life)for a family birthday supper no cake or gifts ever though as I remember.  Nowadays you see in many malls the party stores--some parents who can and that want to make a splash will now make a child's birthday a social event with a big cake party hats etc. Only those that can afford it though, which is rare in the province.

My favorite godson,  turned 8 last month. He  was the youngest son of my husband's first cousin who had been a good friend of ours. Sadly, he passed away last year.We waited at my godson's house that lunchtime because we wanted to surprise him when he came home from school for lunch break. His mother told me that he had forgotten his birthday and she reminded him that morning. He mentioned if she thought I'd remember, but she said she wasn't sure. We hadn't seen them for a while as they had moved. The look on his face when he walked through the yard and saw a brand new red bike was priceless!

Children here in general don't get too much attention, and especially in large families.  As long as I can, in a low key way, I'll remember a godchild, niece or nephew neighborhood friend's child with a gift, some token, some a little more. No child should not be recognized on their birthday, and I'll do my best to be a fairy godmother to as many as I possibly can. Just looking at me they know I can and will do it!

[Queenie O.]

18 minutes ago, Jack Peterson said:

 Well Steve, either "EM's has forgotten or you have never really been involved but "Filipino Pastime is party time" This was one of the many things that prompted a recent Topic on the Subject on How poor is poor I started. I can't answer for other islands but believe me, on Negros this is a very common Event;

 Lola on her 94 th Birthday

 

Many here will Struggle, Borrow and get local Credit to have a party but a Party they will have

 

Jack

Morning All

 

 

 

I agree about that Jack. Age is honored here, so many adults especially a parent or grandparents will get a special birthday. Children though, are not always recognized as often as adults I think.