Death at 61

[RBM]

Couple days ago received a text from a friend advising a good companion of mine had passed away. From my understanding he died in his sleep from a suspected heart attack. He was an American unfortunately dead broke, next to no friends. He had a  wife and two kids, one resides in Cebu, they have refused contact with him many years ago.

Phill was somewhat of a hermit, although had a semi G F staying with him it was more a flat mate arrangement,  in all honesty I was probably best friend he has. I understand he has a brother in the states although not close.

Now why......well he was obese extreme, ate stacks of cheese and drank soft drinks all day. Had aulcerated legs which we were treating, my guess is just to much to weight on the legs. Phill survived by teaching English on line nights. Just survived only. We tried to get him to walk, do some exercises to no avail, weather this would of helped we will never know, suspect it would of.

Unfortunately I was, am, out of town when it happened, whom will pay funeral expenses is unknown, perhaps American Embassy, doubtful family will contribute.

Guys as we age must pay attention to diet and exercise more so than before, at least my view.

I will miss chatting with the big guy and hope he finds more happiness on the other side.

[Castaway]

9 minutes ago, RBM said:

Guys as we age must pay attention to diet and exercise more so than before, at least my view.

Agreed!

[mogo51]

Sorry you have lost a friend RBM,  never easy when that happens.  Of course you are right about diet and exercise being important.

I try to swim for 1/2 an hour most days, do some aerobic exercises in the pool  have back problems.

Lately, we bought a 'Nutra bullet' knock off and it is fantstic, fraction of the price via Lazada.  We have fruit and vege smoothies most days, makes great soups.  Have lost 6kgs in 2 months, feeling pretty good.  Gone from size 40 to  36. which is what I was 10 years ago, lightest I have been for that time also.

Just a tip for members who may be looking to lose a little weight.  

Hope your friend gets a decent burial.

[Dave Hounddriver]

1 hour ago, RBM said:

whom will pay funeral expenses is unknown, perhaps American Embassy, doubtful family will contribute.

Condolences for the loss of a friend.

I have seen this situation a time or five.  Sometimes all "friends" just disappear and I have no idea what happens to the body.  Other times the local expats throw a 1,000 each into the hat.  You can have a minimalist funeral here for 20K if he has any friends at all. I have contributed to a few but only to the people I know at least a little bit.

I have never seen the US embassy contribute a dime to a funeral so good luck with that.  Often there are relatives from "back home" who will help a little.