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  1. 18 points
    A Little self indulgence I am afraid to make a point. For those that know me sorry to say it again but for those that don't and can get unsure of Hospitals and Doctors here's my story to show a little faith. In 2012 I had a stroke (Whilst i was living in Spain) I was married to my SO who is the love of my Life but I was going to see out my working life in Spain But events took over and as the Consultant ( In the UK) said no need for Surgery at this time as you are only 60% Blocked ( the Arteries) to my Brain ( yes I have one) I could hardly walk, talk write or even type at times and forget driving However I made the decision to Come here Full time and got myself booked in with my wifes Doctor and now some 6+ years on I now walk some 5/6 kms a day, Passed to Drive and what I consider as fit as i am ever going to be. Now all this together with a reduction of blockage to now 45% is due to the Constant monitoring of the said doctor together with the Therapy and Diet she and others suggested, just goes to show that with our help and understanding (In my case anyway) The Medical care is not as bad as many would make out. To illustrate I put up a few photos to show the progression that a stable marriage and good Doctor can make, I often say that we are in a lot of cases our own worst enemies and just do not follow medical suggestions, Instructions and planned Diets and medication ( not to mention exercise) Yet we Blame the Hospitals and Doctors here as useless, well not me I will hasten to add. Yes it is expensive but not as expensive as it could be elsewhere ( even the UK as I hear it reported of late) So with a vote of thanks to My Doctor and her colleagues at SUMC (Dumaguete) the Love and caring of my Wife and daughter I will be around I hope to bug you all for some time to come Not well at all Getting there Trying to enjoy never forgetting the Friends that helped me along the Way plus all the others And last but not least The best Friend I ever Had and the Sprog of course Thank you for Reading Jack
  2. 14 points
    Just to set the scene. I'd been going out with a girl here for a few years. I met her over 3yrs ago but finished with her last year. Lets just say she never took it too well and gave my next partner grief even though she wasn't on the scene at the time. I've got friends over from Scotland and although I'm living in Puerto Galera I decided to take them to Boracay for a few days. I surfed the web for digs and from a few hundred narrowed it down to one. I booked in yesterday to a place that has individual apartments with balconies at ground level opening out to the gardens. I'd just booked into my room and stood on my balcony, looked to the left and there's my ex and her new partner looking at me from the next balcony. Just a bit awkward. Lol.
  3. 14 points
    Steve, Its difficult to answer your post in all honesty. I have been a member of PEF for about 3.5 years, you have been a member for about 6.5 years. Since I have been a member you have wrote many many posts, many with a negative slant, for example... Money issues i.e cost of living/budgets etc, family issues i.e. Emma's family, housing issues, building a family home on Luzon , being taken advantage of by her family etc. You are just about ready to retire and you still don't seem to be any closer to knowing what it is you want to do and I for one feel sorry that you still find yourself gripped by indecision. Its easy for people to just say do it, get on with it but its just not in everybody's make up to be able to easily decide such a monumental life changing decision. Both you and I have worked for decades for our respective companies, I had 30 years on BT, you similar for your company, change isn't always easy for us that are set in our ways. I haven't been here very long myself yet, about 16 months so I am not the most experienced person here to comment but I cant help but feel that you will struggle here. Why? You have to commit, you have to go for it and that doesn't seem to be in your make up. I truly feel that in your situation if you can afford it, try and live 6 months in each country, half a year in the UK and half a year in the Phils, that would satisfy both of your needs and also give you time to see what you really like. People often say that living here is different to being on holiday here, its true, it is different, it's a hundred times better living here than being on a holiday, you get to wake up in this wonderful country everyday, have time to enjoy and embrace what it has to offer and also time to work out what you dont like and have the time to put it right, to make it work. From what I have gathered from your posts over the years I think that your problem will be living to close to your wife's family, I think that you will be actually living with them if I remember correctly. The impression of them from what i have read is that most of them are a good for nothing bunch that are going to give you nothing but grief which can only make your situation even more difficult. Get away from them, as far as possible, choose another island and make a fresh start. Try and get down to Dumaguete and meet up with the guys, I feel that you would get a lot out of it, we aren't in each others pockets but its great to have people here that you can turn to when you need help or advice, let off steam or just chill with a beer or two. I dont think you are going to find that support living with your wife's extended family. Having said all that though Steve, I truly wish you a happy retirement, you have earned it, now it's up to you to make the tough decisions to help you deliver it. If you can work out what will make you happy here and equally what will make you unhappy here then you have cracked it, just take the bull by the horns and deliver it. It's the best decision I ever made, yes its still relatively early days for me but I love it here and so far it's just slowly building and getting better and better. Good luck mate.
  4. 13 points
    You get cute girls in their 20s flirting with you in the Philippines though. Say hello to them in the US and they'll probably call the police
  5. 13 points
    I have stopped reading Blogs now after 10+ years here as I feel that many are written by disgruntled Expats that just never gave their Retirement here the full commitment it deserves. We have over the (Certainly last few years) had members with a Totally negative Attitude and it showed in their Topics and Postings that they Just Did not want to here ( if they ever wanted to be in the First place) I for one will never go Back to the UK for many reasons, maybe a Visit if I could get my Wife and Sprig there ( But that's another story) 5 years only sounds a bit like the marriage 7 year itch to me ASs many have said and no doubt many more will say and agree? there are an awful lot of people that will not really be happy anywhere. Me? happy as a pig My friends
  6. 12 points
    @Mark Berkowitz I am not sure Mark will like this but I must say it as it came from the mouth of a true Blue Filipina ( My HTMBO) we sat on the Terrace on Sunday Afternoon and this topic came up. So my wife said to me Yeah well, can you remember Alan ( a friend that did as mark wishes) Yep I said , so I hope, that your Friend ( Mark) realises that this could cost him in Money and Stress as it did Alan. Remind me I said, Well not too long after they moved to the UK, the wife Lilybeth ( Elizabeth) started to get request for help and subsistence from them now they had left, then came the illness thing, Hospital Bills and the rest of it. Not going to make this long as i think we all know how these things are looked on by the family. Not going to say it will but I all fairness I can't say it won't, we have members here that have had this and it causes rifts, Rifts? yes rifts because the Emotional culture of the Wifes family can bring about disaster, Arguments start, One particular member I recall had enough and said NO but the wife decided to send behind the husbands back. Bad but it happens ( we have a Sister in law that does it) I just hope that Mark has added this sort of thing into the mix because it happens, "Blood being thicker than water" Springs to mind. Negative ? Oh no, thoughts conveyed here are brought from a very level headed Wife who has sooo many friends in this situation. There was a Story only last week about a couple that came on Holiday from Canada with their 2 children, on the Flight over she announced she had had enough of Canada and the Fact that the family were overbearing on Demands so she was not going back but staying with the family that she missed so Much. Sorry Mark But.......................... did you consider this sort of thing just might happen? Cos it does No one likes posts like this but
  7. 12 points
    I'm 4 years in and take a pragmatic approach. It's certainly not the best place to live, nor is it the idyllic tropical paradise some may think. But, it's realistically the best place for me to be with my family from a financial perspective and it's really not all that bad once you put aside the niggles and let's be kind and say ideosyncracies that can drive us mad. Some come here to escape their life somewhere else, but that same life tends to follow behind p.d.q! Home is where the heart is and good luck to all of us wherever we decide home is.
  8. 12 points
    I've only been here for getting on 4 years but I feel comfortable and have no desire whatsoever to return to the UK. To settle and enjoy it here you have to really want it. Many, I believe, find that the reality does not live up to the fantasy, which for those the fantasy was all it ever was. Each to their own though, no use staying somewhere if you're not happy.
  9. 11 points
    Hi everyone. I am the PI in question here. Many of you know me personally, and many more have known me online for many years. Bigmac was scammed pretty hard. He estimates P6 million, but I have seen some of the numbers, and I would estimate it at considerably more than that. It's just too overwhelming to add up. All of it could have been easily prevented with a little common sense. Who in their right mind would send $100,000+ USD to someone in a third world country that they had only spent a few weeks with, without some kind of verification? He never asked for receipts or verification of any kind, just blindly sent $500+ per week, and often $1000 per week, for 6 years. The girl is sharp, but not unusually so among the scammer community. Obviously though, she is much sharper than him. Many are much better than her, offering fake receipts, etc., but she was never asked for any proof of any kind, until you guys made it more than plain to him that something may be amiss. Even then he did not believe it. He is still having trouble coming to terms with the fact that this was a scam from the very beginning, and that the money is gone, and never coming back. Now, she is furious with him for cutting her off while he still has money left! She blames him, of course, for the failure of their marriage, and fully believes a US judge is going to award her half of his income (SS) as alimony. In her mind, it was not a scam at all, because when they were married it was then her money. We have dealt with many hundreds of scammers, and she is definitely a piece of work. No remorse, not even a thank you, just contempt at him for cutting her off, and self righteousness and entitlement. He is licking his wounds now. Can you imagine the embarrassment he must have locally? Where I am sure his friends and family have been telling him for years that it is a scam? It is hard to feel sorry for him. A fool and his money...
  10. 11 points
    I too am interested in this topic. But from the reverse. I lived over 2 years in the Philippines and moved back to the US with my wife. Now we have a one year old daughter. I will not allow my daughter to attend public schools in the US. They are not like the schools when we were children. Do you support the 2nd amendment to keep and bear arms (guns)... well, your children will be taught to fear guns rather than gun safety. The schools have become politicized and often teach political agenda's. If your son is a bit unruly they will claim he has ADHD or some other disorder and push you to drug him. In a school not far from where we live a mother kept seeing her 2 middle school age children come home with signs of physical abuse. They were being bullied. She spoke to the school about it a number of times, but they did nothing. Finally, to protect her children, she pulled them out of school to home school them. The school reported her to child services and claimed she was neglecting her children by taking them out of public school. Yet it was the school that failed to protect them. Most public schools now have 'resource' officers who really are just police assigned to the school. There are a growing number of cases where these police treat misbehaving children like they are criminals, even hand cuffing grade school children. Regardless of whether we live in the US or Philippines I plan to have our daughter either attend a good private school or be home schooled. The other issue aside from schooling is health care. You better have a good employer with a great health plan... or else you will pay a great deal for a poor health care plan for your wife and children. We are doing ok in the US but our budget will go much further in the Philippines, especially if we want to pay for a quality private school in a few years for our daughter.
  11. 11 points
    I have always said that this place ain't for everyone. I have heard expats bandy about 5 years being a milepost. If you can make it 5 years, you will be ok. I have no idea if that is true (and have no stats or any studies ha ha)... but I am hitting 6 years next week. So far, so good.
  12. 11 points
    Bet it wont be long before you are saying negative things about your home country and will be wanting to return to the Philippines. Grass is always greener for awhile.
  13. 11 points
    I have lived here almost 6 years and just made a 2 month visit back to Dallas, TX. (my 2nd visit in 6 years). The first month was fine... but the 2nd month drug on forever and I was just ready to come back home. It was nice seeing my kids (I was a single dad for freaking ever). I also got to meet 2 grand kids. I liked the little things, you know drinkable tap water, decent internet, good grocery stores - 24 hour stores even. But it really felt like a visit, not home. A few years ago I offered to move back to the US if my wife wanted to work, and send money to her family. It would also be good to get her into Social Security, and get her a blue passport. She did not want to move to the US. Not sure if she did not want it or she knew I really did not want it ha ha... I have an ignored blog but vlog pretty regularly on YouTube (that is why I ignore the blog). I try to stay mostly positive, without wearing rose tinted glasses. I will point out some negatives, but more as a 'fact of life' than a complaint. The conceit of my channel is basically: "I am having fun being retired, and you are not ha ha ha". It was nice to visit family, but 2 months was at least a month too long. Glad to be back home in Iloilo.
  14. 11 points
    Hello Mark, I am glad that you have survived your ordeal about living in PI. Just like being in the military, it's not for everyone. Now that you're back in Texas, I hope you realize that your Filipina wife will eventually get homesick. Additionally, your wife and family may be exposed to the "stink eyes" coming from your neighbors and sometimes from your own Texas family. It's better to talk about it beforehand and how to deal with it, as you walk hand in hand out in public. Respectfully Jake
  15. 11 points
    For what it's worth..... For me.... the normally recognized budget items aren't the major problem with trying to live here on a fixed income. And for most of us it IS a fixed income since the laws prohibit foreigners from many types of employment and ownership situations that would be available to you in your home country if you wanted or needed to increase your income, either short or long term. There are income earning niches that some of our site members have found, but for most of us, we are limited while here to spending and living off of our offshore income. If your Filipina/o wife, husband, significant other is a lawyer, doctor, govt. worker, etc..... it surely helps with the budget, but in most cases what the partner can earn doesn't add all that much to your outside source money.... and when the wife or GF has a long hour or low paying local wage job, then the few local expats I know of here in this situation, complain how she is neglecting their relationship for the pittance she earns (neglecting the fact that it is both a social outlet and meaningful self-identity thing for her). Most budget items you can control and vary to some degree by finding substitutes, alternatives, eliminations at a cost to comfort and convenience, etc. That is why I originally posted this thread topic, with the <gapminder.org> 'money street' illustrations re this country - The Philippines . Its usually the 'off budget' things that crop up that pose problems. The emergencies that occur, come your way and land in your lap... that take money to solve. They occur with seemingly great regularity due to the nature of this local culture, society and economic system. In advanced economic countries we have third party social safety webs for many of the budget basics.... medicare, medicaid, unemployment benefits, nutritional aide, disability insurance, educational assistance, credit availability, generous charity orgs., etc. But here there isn't much in the way of third party or public assistance when things go wrong.... as they usually do sooner or later. So the solution source pyramid is family, friends, acquaintances, pawn shops, 5/6 lenders for those with collateral. The wealthier or more politically connected, the better the likelihood of success. Your survival often depends upon your ability to activate your social network or web on your behalf. Rugged individualism, pride in going it alone, being economically self-sufficient and independent, "Neither borrower nor lender be." are ideas that don't fly well here. So..... what blows holes in my budget is usually not due to my personal economic life-style choices, but rather the amount of social responsibility I'm willing to take on to alleviate the financial 'emergencies' of others. I guess I'd do much better with my budgeting if I lived alone, was anti-social, hated women or took a vow of celibacy, and was a bitterly misanthropic miser. I'd venture to say that most Westerners that come to live here are ill-prepared, emotionally or intellectually, to deal with this very different economic culture. I'm often peeved when I review where my monthly income went.... but then I realize that these unforeseen expenses made a huge difference in the lives of those close to me and I don't really regret it. Living here presents a whole new level of moral and ethical challenges that you don't have to deal with in a First World Economy because medical and crucial survival emergencies can only be solved by personal interventions. You might have to build a 'personal emergency charity' category into your budget if you have any human relationships here with people who aren't totally self-sufficient financially. Of course I could have my wife disown all of her family and friends that don't meet minimal income levels........hmmmmm....... Naaaahhh.
  16. 10 points
  17. 10 points
    Cebu: 60 feel 60. Visit U.S a couple weeks, gigantic angry lesbian looking woman everywhere, come back to Cebu: 60 feel 20.
  18. 10 points
    Congratulations to Eddie 1 and Noime who last night had a baby son,Harry 5lb 7 ounces.Wishing you all the best.
  19. 10 points
    Well I gave up the work in Australia lifestyle. In my case never a set time to wake up or when I will finish. Too much bullshit to handle in new rules and regulations so I packed up and moved to where some complain about every day. I would rather be here in Cebu than where I was.
  20. 10 points
    If I went back to the UK I would have to retrain in my job and buy lots of equipment and transport before I could start work.That alone would cost around 10k UK.I can live on that for 2 years here and still have a decent life.The building work here will be finished soon and then my wife and daughter will be set up for life without any worries.What can I offer them in the UK ,well maybe a pittance from the Government when I pass,if I could work as a gas engineer again then maybe half of what they can potentially have here. Then you have to think of all the crap going on in the UK killings robberies stabbings how much it actually costs to live there.Lets be fair I could not afford to go out for a meal and a couple of beers 1-2 times a week like I do here.We certainly would not own the amount of property over there that we do here,we would probably would have to rent a house at maybe 1k uk per month.I cannot see any reason to take them back to somewhere I would be unhappy in and therefore they would also be unhappy. Why be a little fish in a big pond when you can be a big fish in a little pond.
  21. 10 points
    This thread is full of useful information and opinions and I really like this forum in as much that we share our lifes experience and very rarely end up with a heated argument Most if the positive and negative lies ahead of me in the Philippines, I'm returning in may for a couple if weeks and then again in November for a hopefully much longer stay I will miss my kids and grandchildren in the UK , I will probably miss the comfort of regular employment and income but I can always return to the UK and do some contract work should money become an issue I don't have a youngster and I have no plans to make one , if I did go down that route ,I would ensure that he and his mother have financial security all be it in the Philippines, I have a low opinion of anyone who knocks a young girl up and does a runner , I'm hoping to slow the pace of life down a bit , I'm tired of carrying poor tradesmen and having to drive around a large area to fix stuff that they cant , yesterday I did a 12.5 hour shift , Friday was 11.5 ,my normal day is 10 hours , I still need a purpose in life and a target to aim at but at 61 I'm finding 55 hour weeks a bit tiring Good luck with your plans mark
  22. 10 points
    I have made this decision based on many factors one of them being the way society as a whole seems to be heading in the UK.My information come from friends in the UK whom I trust.I can ,here,leave my wife and daughter a nice income when I pop my clogs,in the UK they would struggle on the pension I would receive there and I suspect would live in near poverty.I am trying to enroll my daughter in a better school here as the one she attends spend too much time singing and dancing science fare`s etc which my daughter is not involved in.My daughter also has Asthma which I reckon would be worse in the cold climate in the UK. You also need a different type of streetsmart over in the UK and my wife and daughter are too trusting for that. I will stay here and make a nice life for them.
  23. 10 points
    If I had to do it all again and go the way many have i know i would get this Sorry G & G's but I just could not resist and it is all relevant
  24. 10 points
    You bring up a very good point. There is a big difference in being here on a short term basis and living here permanently as an expat. My american neighbor is having a terrible time and has spoken with me on a number of occasions about how unhappy he is. I ask him to tell me what it was that made him decide to move here. He explained how much he enjoyed his visits and way the people treated him during his vacation visits. The Philippine people make every effort to be good hosts to visitors and they will manage to keep smiling and look past behaviours that they ordinarily would find objectionable. When you live here full time that "free pass" goes away. When I say "objectionable behaviour" I am not saying that does mean that the expat is acting like an @ss. It usually comes down to one of two things. Number 1 - the person is just not happy with life and it followed him or her here. Number 2 - The Philippines has a unique culture that is different from the USA, England, Australia, etc. If you cannot accept that, think it is "wrong" or that you can change them to your way of thinking, it is not going to work for you. Going on six years with no visit back to the USA. I am happy here and those back home know I plan on living here till I die. Sure I get frustrated at times but life is like that no matter where you are. When I hear expats here continually complaining about the Philippines I think of Pogo who said . . . .
  25. 10 points
    Everyone to their own, maybe your temperament or your cultural upbringing might have a bit to do with it. The PI's is not an easy place to live in if you don't go with the punches. A lot of members have adapted to the lifestyle, a lot haven't, no-one judges if you head back home. Just don't judge the PI's by your personal experience.
  26. 10 points
    Hey Jack, you know what they do to pigs here!?HaHa Honestly, I'll be into 5 years here soon myself. People always compare to back home. The food's not the same, the law is not the same, etc.etc.etc.... You are not back home, you are here! You have to learn to adjust to a different culture. Sure its different, part of the fun is learning the differences! Its always how you look at it, its easy to compare and be negative. If you retire here, I advise to get your hobby going, learn to unwind and chill, for both stress and health and learn to live a different life. Thats the name of the game!
  27. 10 points
    Not so fast... After the thirty days are up get back to us on that.
  28. 9 points
    Well, she landed very late on Valentine's Day Night... and of course, she was was extremely tired/knackered. However, after a day of sleep, she's begining to get used to the Western World with me. She is still constantly surprised about how most things in the West are much nicer than how they were back in the Phils. As far as myself, the Phils just seems like a dream to me now ... but I'll leave it up to our more imaginative members if they think that my dream of the Phils is a good or bad one. haha
  29. 9 points
    Twice today my wife has given me a dig in the ribs. My daughter was asking me questions no. 1 Dad why don`t I have a brother, I replied because your mum had a headache, dig number 1 2, Dad are fairies real, my reply they are like when mum borrows money and promises to pay it back both things are not really true, dig number 2. Why do they get so angry so quick I am at a loss for words at her behaviour.
  30. 9 points
    I tried the same thing with my boss......and she said you can have Sunday's off but you still have to wash the dishes!
  31. 9 points
  32. 9 points
    They say only the good die young, When my late wife died at the age of 42, her pension rights left too, she had worked and paid taxes since the age of 15 years! As for benefits or Government handout's, as her Widower with a child of 9 years old, all I was offered was Free Milk! Am I worried about the Government paying my now wife anything, you can bet your life I'm not. They are happy to pay benefit's to people who have no intention of ever working and sit on their fat butts complaining! Sorry for the outburst but the biggest tax avoiders are the ones who do very little, I'm still paying taxes at 70+. rant over JB
  33. 9 points
    Whilst our situations are no doubt different, you certainly share the same philosophy as I when it comes to comparing the UK with the Philippines. I genuinely doubt that the UK offers so many opportunities that are not available here in the Philippines - simply put, my income level here puts me at an advantage over many whilst in the UK (given my probable unemployability in my profession which I left 15 years ago) puts me at a disadvantage over many. So, I choose to roll with the punches here as it simply doesn't make economic sense to move back to the UK. And that;s not even taking into account how my wife, son and I would adapt to a country which bears no resemblance to the one I left 25 years ago. I was slightly disappointed to read a comment in one of the posts saying that the place offers no opportunity for kids other than becoming an OFW - that is simply not true. Yes, many choose the OFW route because they see it as an opportunity to move to lands of milk and honey and undoubtedly they can earn much higher salaries (but at what price?) than here - but I'm a fervent believer in the philosophy that salaries follow living costs - I earned 6x more in Hong Kong for the same work I do here BUT, I paid more than 6x more for a beer, more than 7x more for my TINY apartment and so on and so on. Let's be fair guys, compare apples with apples rather than oranges.
  34. 9 points
    I moved here at age 50 to get out of the rat race. As a service manager with 26 employees, an 8 hour work day would have been a blessing. Rattled out of sleep by the alarm clock at 5 am. and getting back home by maybe 6 pm. or later was just getting to be too much. Not to mention once in a while having to help with the night crew. No way could I retire in the US. on my military pension. Moved to the Philippines in 2002, and sure, everything wasn't great at first but after I started going with the flow and not expecting everything to be perfect, it grew on me. Lived like a Prince on my military retirement pay and then started living like a King when I started getting Social Security! An average King though. Not a rich one.
  35. 9 points
    Very interesting topic here. I have just returned from a 2 month stint in NZ. Although summer I was suffering from the weather especially the south island wind. For this reason plus the ridiculously high prices was reason enough to banish any thoughts of returning on a more permanent basis. As the OP mentioned I like all suffer from some of the nuances here, especially the dogs whom are excessively noisy in our street. How ever weighing this up against shorts and slippers all year round is more than enough to keep me here. This apart from the many other attributes mentioned. A common complaint here is about food and noise. The first can be an issue if ones partner is not fond of cooking, my case is she loves cooking and experimenting with different dishes, many exotic so guess I am fortunate. Plus we eat outside on terrace, something I was unable to do in NZ. Noise, we'll it's part of the culture, we must tolerate, one must also exercise great due diligence here before putting down roots. Most subdivisions will not tolerate excessive noise after 10pm, apart from dogs as I can attest to. If one lives below the radar, to speak one should not run into problems, again our partners should attend to any burocracy. Apart from one occasion with an impossible jealous wealthy woman I have not had issues after 7 plus years. I am happy the OP has so far found what he requires and trust this continues, each to his own.
  36. 9 points
    Some don't repatriate, they just move on to other countries. It's life. There is no paradise, but the search for it is great. There is no trophy for the longest stay in the Philippines. As JD said: So best of luck to all who move "back", to all who stay in the Philippines, and to all who chose to try a different country. Its all good.
  37. 9 points
    I retired here in 2002. Had a very good paying job as a branch manager for a national pest control company. Company car..bonuses,etc. Went back to the US last year for a 3 week visit and didn't like it. Took my airline ticket to the counter at the airport and luckily I got a flight back to my favorite place after 2 weeks. Had to sit in a middle seat for the 16 hour flight but it was worth it to get back home. This is my home now. And my GF, son, and dogs were happy to see me too.
  38. 9 points
    Alcoholism is a much more complex set of problems than being able to cope with life . I had one guy who I was trying to help ,shoot his brains out , I felt so guilty about what I saw as my failure ,at his service , his wife gave me a suicide note , he wrote ,"thank you fir everything that you and the fellowship.have done for me , please forgive me for my pain is too much " I've seen peers of the realm , I was in first name terms with.rock and roll gods , ivevsat next to tradesmen ,soldiers and smoking hit women Alcoholism is an illness that at present has no cure , only remission one day at a time , recovering alcoholics like myself had to get to a place in life where enough was enough , unfortunately not all alcoholics find that place Sober and saner I think lol ( today ) 24 years and 3 months since I took my last drink
  39. 9 points
    I’m with you Dave, I don’t have nearly the energy of a youngster, but I sure enjoy my son’s energy. While I’m sure it doesn’t work for a everyone, when it does it’s great. When my wife and I married, I already had adult children and had told my wife I was to old to have children. She accepted this but longed for a child of her own. After some 7 or 8 years of marriage and seeing first hand what a wonderful and special lady I married and me growing up as an orphan I decided that some lucky kid should have her for a mom. A decision that has brought so much happiness to our lives. I remember with much fondness her first words after the birth of our oldest son. “ Dear, now I am complete”. My wife is some 34 years my junior. The age difference has never, I repeat NEVER been an issue. In case you can’t tell my life with my Filipino wife and my Fil-Am sons has been like a fairy tale. I am truly blessed, Mike
  40. 8 points
    I'm a half a century plus 19 this coming June. That photo of me was taken a couple years ago. Still look the same but more fuglier. Additionally, Judy asked me recently......what happen to your ass? Speaking of which, I need to be very careful whenever I let go of a "good one". It throws out my back from time to time.....he, he.
  41. 8 points
    This is the sad part, even really young children are taught to put their hands out and say "penge" And those who create a good life for themself are told they were lucky, or God likes you. Very few understand that most of the time it is wise decissions, hard work and dedication behind their prosperity.
  42. 8 points
    Ibo will turn six next week and is very excited, his Lolo (grandpa) is 86 and is feeling poorly and a little depressed these days. Translated: Ibo - Lolo, my birthday is coming and we will have cake. Lolo - I am not sure I will live long enough to see your birthday Ibo. Ibo - My birthday is March 1, can you die on March 2?
  43. 8 points
    Welcome to the forum :) A piece of advice from one rider to another if I may... Take it slowly at first, the traffic here will crush you (and I mean literally) if you ride like you're in a western country. Trucks coming towards you will pull out to overtake directly in your path, jeepneys will diverge into you, cars and tricycles will overtake and then merge back into a spot you're already occupying and it is all normal. The traffic here works... differently :)
  44. 8 points
    My wife did not want to move from Dalaguete,small town,to here she said she would have no friends.Well we moved here to Dumaguete and she soon realised that because of the visits we had made here over the years she did in fact know quite a few people.My daughter then started school and then my wife came into contact with the other mothers and she had more friends.So Steve you can rest assured Emma will make quite a few friends here in a short while.Eddie is correct in that he says your doubt about moving here seems to come mostly from your interaction with family ,you need to be far away from them and keep contact to a minimum. I moved here in September 2011 and it was one of the better decisions I have made in my life,is life perfect no, but for me it is near damn perfect. I think you need to sit down and work out exactly what it is you want, or I can see you wandering for the rest of your life. Steve,you need to make up your mind to make up your mind as I feel that you will drive yourself crazy with all this indecision. Whatever you do I wish you all the best and good luck.
  45. 8 points
    Just about there, time to enjoy it
  46. 8 points
    (Back on Topic) With My Final Thoughts: I gave up a very comfortable Expat life in the Phils, considering that I had a brand new car and nice apartment (with Aircon, Ref, Hot Water, large screen TV, Internet, and Cable). Leaving that settled life was not an easy choice for me to make, and I don’t recommend it for every Expat in the Phils. If truth be told, I struggled with making a decision to leave the Phils. If it was not for the future of my 2 year old son, step-daughter, and wife, I would have gladly stayed and rolled with all of the punches. However, now that I have left, I am happy that I made the move, and I am grateful to this forum for all of your advice and for all of your good wishes with my move away from the Phils.
  47. 8 points
    I too have learned to be much more patient.If you don`t you will go crazy here.I was at J mall immigration in Mandaui the lady behind the counter said "wait a while sir" I said would it be ok if we go and get some breakfast as we have been travelling 3 hours.We went off had something to eat and as we walked into immigration a man behind the counter called us over with our PPs and exit clearance. I have learned which things are going to be a problem and how to deal with them so my brain does not explode.Of course there is always some times you cannot avoid crap.
  48. 8 points
    I think the best advice is to never buy property for a girlfriend unless you are happy to walk away when it goes south. A girlfriend asking you to buy to me would be a big red flag.
  49. 8 points
    I think the good guys of an older age want to give their child the biggest headstart with the time they have. You really can’t ask for more then that in life. When you see the horrendous family planning here and how a lot of those poor Filipino children run wild and dirty in the streets seeing a reasponsible elderly father with well cared for children is a lovely thing.
  50. 7 points
    Tiles are going down and the ceilings are going up.I am pleased with the quality and the speed with which this is progressing.
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