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  1. 21 points
    Just a follow up on this foreigner living on the street. He did disappear for awhile but been back for a month I guess. Looking bit worse for wear. Anyway my GF and I put together some lunch and a few things for him and walked over to give it not knowing what his reaction would be. He was asleep on the bench and I was busy today so did not want to come back later. I said hello twice and he woke up and slowly rose up to a sitting position. Obviously sleeping on a hard surface is causing some pain. Anyway I said I would like to offer you some food if thats OK. He said Oh thank you very much mate. Not sure if he is Aussie. We wished him a merry Christmas and he did the same and I shook his hand. He was shaking a bit, not sure if from hunger or nerves. I said I might come and talk to you tomorrow and he thanked again and said god bless and we left. So he seemed a nice enough guy down on his luck for whatever reason. Put in a couple of bananas after picture taken.
  2. 18 points
    A Little self indulgence I am afraid to make a point. For those that know me sorry to say it again but for those that don't and can get unsure of Hospitals and Doctors here's my story to show a little faith. In 2012 I had a stroke (Whilst i was living in Spain) I was married to my SO who is the love of my Life but I was going to see out my working life in Spain But events took over and as the Consultant ( In the UK) said no need for Surgery at this time as you are only 60% Blocked ( the Arteries) to my Brain ( yes I have one) I could hardly walk, talk write or even type at times and forget driving However I made the decision to Come here Full time and got myself booked in with my wifes Doctor and now some 6+ years on I now walk some 5/6 kms a day, Passed to Drive and what I consider as fit as i am ever going to be. Now all this together with a reduction of blockage to now 45% is due to the Constant monitoring of the said doctor together with the Therapy and Diet she and others suggested, just goes to show that with our help and understanding (In my case anyway) The Medical care is not as bad as many would make out. To illustrate I put up a few photos to show the progression that a stable marriage and good Doctor can make, I often say that we are in a lot of cases our own worst enemies and just do not follow medical suggestions, Instructions and planned Diets and medication ( not to mention exercise) Yet we Blame the Hospitals and Doctors here as useless, well not me I will hasten to add. Yes it is expensive but not as expensive as it could be elsewhere ( even the UK as I hear it reported of late) So with a vote of thanks to My Doctor and her colleagues at SUMC (Dumaguete) the Love and caring of my Wife and daughter I will be around I hope to bug you all for some time to come Not well at all Getting there Trying to enjoy never forgetting the Friends that helped me along the Way plus all the others And last but not least The best Friend I ever Had and the Sprog of course Thank you for Reading Jack
  3. 17 points
    I would have put this in Jokes then Thought, is it really a Joke ?
  4. 14 points
    Just to set the scene. I'd been going out with a girl here for a few years. I met her over 3yrs ago but finished with her last year. Lets just say she never took it too well and gave my next partner grief even though she wasn't on the scene at the time. I've got friends over from Scotland and although I'm living in Puerto Galera I decided to take them to Boracay for a few days. I surfed the web for digs and from a few hundred narrowed it down to one. I booked in yesterday to a place that has individual apartments with balconies at ground level opening out to the gardens. I'd just booked into my room and stood on my balcony, looked to the left and there's my ex and her new partner looking at me from the next balcony. Just a bit awkward. Lol.
  5. 13 points
    Instead of walking I do one situp each day. I do the first half in the morning when I get up and the other half when I go to bed at night.
  6. 13 points
    Steve, Its difficult to answer your post in all honesty. I have been a member of PEF for about 3.5 years, you have been a member for about 6.5 years. Since I have been a member you have wrote many many posts, many with a negative slant, for example... Money issues i.e cost of living/budgets etc, family issues i.e. Emma's family, housing issues, building a family home on Luzon , being taken advantage of by her family etc. You are just about ready to retire and you still don't seem to be any closer to knowing what it is you want to do and I for one feel sorry that you still find yourself gripped by indecision. Its easy for people to just say do it, get on with it but its just not in everybody's make up to be able to easily decide such a monumental life changing decision. Both you and I have worked for decades for our respective companies, I had 30 years on BT, you similar for your company, change isn't always easy for us that are set in our ways. I haven't been here very long myself yet, about 16 months so I am not the most experienced person here to comment but I cant help but feel that you will struggle here. Why? You have to commit, you have to go for it and that doesn't seem to be in your make up. I truly feel that in your situation if you can afford it, try and live 6 months in each country, half a year in the UK and half a year in the Phils, that would satisfy both of your needs and also give you time to see what you really like. People often say that living here is different to being on holiday here, its true, it is different, it's a hundred times better living here than being on a holiday, you get to wake up in this wonderful country everyday, have time to enjoy and embrace what it has to offer and also time to work out what you dont like and have the time to put it right, to make it work. From what I have gathered from your posts over the years I think that your problem will be living to close to your wife's family, I think that you will be actually living with them if I remember correctly. The impression of them from what i have read is that most of them are a good for nothing bunch that are going to give you nothing but grief which can only make your situation even more difficult. Get away from them, as far as possible, choose another island and make a fresh start. Try and get down to Dumaguete and meet up with the guys, I feel that you would get a lot out of it, we aren't in each others pockets but its great to have people here that you can turn to when you need help or advice, let off steam or just chill with a beer or two. I dont think you are going to find that support living with your wife's extended family. Having said all that though Steve, I truly wish you a happy retirement, you have earned it, now it's up to you to make the tough decisions to help you deliver it. If you can work out what will make you happy here and equally what will make you unhappy here then you have cracked it, just take the bull by the horns and deliver it. It's the best decision I ever made, yes its still relatively early days for me but I love it here and so far it's just slowly building and getting better and better. Good luck mate.
  7. 13 points
    You get cute girls in their 20s flirting with you in the Philippines though. Say hello to them in the US and they'll probably call the police
  8. 13 points
    I have stopped reading Blogs now after 10+ years here as I feel that many are written by disgruntled Expats that just never gave their Retirement here the full commitment it deserves. We have over the (Certainly last few years) had members with a Totally negative Attitude and it showed in their Topics and Postings that they Just Did not want to here ( if they ever wanted to be in the First place) I for one will never go Back to the UK for many reasons, maybe a Visit if I could get my Wife and Sprig there ( But that's another story) 5 years only sounds a bit like the marriage 7 year itch to me ASs many have said and no doubt many more will say and agree? there are an awful lot of people that will not really be happy anywhere. Me? happy as a pig My friends
  9. 13 points
    My wife and I have been together for 34 years. I used to tell myself " life is hard in the Philippines". It made me feel better when I was ripped off by her siblings. However her family continued to steal from her even when they got to the USA. Her two sisters transferred land out of her name and sold it for 6.6m. Now we have to drag them into court to get her land back. It took me a long time to understand that Being poor is no excuse for being a thief.
  10. 13 points
    Well now that Bigmac has found out the unfortunate truth and heard all the words of wisdom, the only thing to consider for him is where to go from here. And of course Bigmac, I have to say how sorry I am for you. We all know how it must hurt. Let's consider the directions you might go: "They are all scammers." I have known several people who have gone from naive love of a Filipina, gotten hurt, and then globalised the problem by stating that everyone is bad. It's not true. There are many good women here; and plenty of bad ones. And like most things in life, most people are somewhere in the middle. "I'm gonna get revenge." Yep, you could try to do that. Waste more years; waste more money. Potentially make it so that you can never return to the Philippines. You're too old (so am I) to waste your time; move on! "Old + young doesn't work." Not true. Most of the Fil-Am couples I knew in the US had significant age gaps. Most of the couples I know here in the Philippines have even larger gaps. It still comes down to the woman you choose and it still comes down to using good common sense. "I'll find another Filipina." Yep, you can definitely do that. I did. Most of us have. The question you have to ask yourself is - what did I learn and what will I do differently? In the Philippines it's often a matter of degree. We accept the reality that the kid on the street asking for 5 pesos may or may not be legit; but who cares its 5 pesos. But in a country where almost no one has big money when someone (even a wife) asks for big money, an alarm should go off. You have to question, investigate, and question again. Now I am not just trying to blame the victim. But when someone (even a wife) asks for big money (and $2000/month is big money in the Philippines) assume it's a bad situation. Long Distance Relationships: I've done it and many of us have. But it's fraught with dangers. Are you looking for a vacation gf or another wife? If the latter, are you going to bring her to the US, retire in the Philippines, or a little bit of both (that's what I did)? In any of the scenarios there are dangers - but a hell of a lot of fun too. Enjoy the ride if you decide to saddle up again - but keep your hand clenched to your wallet.
  11. 12 points
    Bust my gut laughing......
  12. 12 points
    For those of us that enjoy some rather untouristy hikes with nice water falls Guintubdan could be of interest. Especially if visiting Negros Occidental Situated on the foothills of Canlaon national park at about 900 meters elevation. The local government to their credit take nature very seriously and several penalties apply to any offenders. Even carabols are not allowed and pigs are limited to 1 per family. Nature is quite outstanding. Hikes range from a long day taking in 30 falls believe 36 km to modest Hikes around 2 hours or so. We took in 3 of the nearer falls as arrived around 2pm. Mostly reasonable going with some areas quite difficult, falls were very serene lovely for a swim although water was very cold. No garbage and just saw a couple of locals swimming. According to our guide (compulsory) few foreigners visit here. It's pretty accessible from Bacolod vicinity, we stayed at Pavilion where the rooms were basic but sufficient. Cost was P1000 and very cold at night, one must bring blankets. Also there is a spectacular couple of falls below the Pavillion, an easy 10 minute walk, down concrete stairs. I try an upload a few pics
  13. 12 points
    @Mark Berkowitz I am not sure Mark will like this but I must say it as it came from the mouth of a true Blue Filipina ( My HTMBO) we sat on the Terrace on Sunday Afternoon and this topic came up. So my wife said to me Yeah well, can you remember Alan ( a friend that did as mark wishes) Yep I said , so I hope, that your Friend ( Mark) realises that this could cost him in Money and Stress as it did Alan. Remind me I said, Well not too long after they moved to the UK, the wife Lilybeth ( Elizabeth) started to get request for help and subsistence from them now they had left, then came the illness thing, Hospital Bills and the rest of it. Not going to make this long as i think we all know how these things are looked on by the family. Not going to say it will but I all fairness I can't say it won't, we have members here that have had this and it causes rifts, Rifts? yes rifts because the Emotional culture of the Wifes family can bring about disaster, Arguments start, One particular member I recall had enough and said NO but the wife decided to send behind the husbands back. Bad but it happens ( we have a Sister in law that does it) I just hope that Mark has added this sort of thing into the mix because it happens, "Blood being thicker than water" Springs to mind. Negative ? Oh no, thoughts conveyed here are brought from a very level headed Wife who has sooo many friends in this situation. There was a Story only last week about a couple that came on Holiday from Canada with their 2 children, on the Flight over she announced she had had enough of Canada and the Fact that the family were overbearing on Demands so she was not going back but staying with the family that she missed so Much. Sorry Mark But.......................... did you consider this sort of thing just might happen? Cos it does No one likes posts like this but
  14. 12 points
    I'm 4 years in and take a pragmatic approach. It's certainly not the best place to live, nor is it the idyllic tropical paradise some may think. But, it's realistically the best place for me to be with my family from a financial perspective and it's really not all that bad once you put aside the niggles and let's be kind and say ideosyncracies that can drive us mad. Some come here to escape their life somewhere else, but that same life tends to follow behind p.d.q! Home is where the heart is and good luck to all of us wherever we decide home is.
  15. 12 points
    I've only been here for getting on 4 years but I feel comfortable and have no desire whatsoever to return to the UK. To settle and enjoy it here you have to really want it. Many, I believe, find that the reality does not live up to the fantasy, which for those the fantasy was all it ever was. Each to their own though, no use staying somewhere if you're not happy.
  16. 11 points
    This has possibly been posted before but: You know when you have been in the Philippines too long when you open your mouth wide instead of saying "pardon?"
  17. 11 points
    Well I have worked out this.
  18. 11 points
    She is one in a million And she says Cheers
  19. 11 points
    Well it’s here after so many false starts , and will he won’t he. Just another 9 hours or so and maybe a little office party thrown in and shaking of hands and maybe a envelope with a nice cheque, now that would be nice. Anyway I would like to thank Jack and Kevin personal for there messages and everyone who has been there to give me advice and listen to all my worries , I have not forgotten to buy those people a drink when I hope to meet you all, I will just keep that date a secret to myself until the last minute so I won’t have to spend to much on to many folk. Again thank you and there may be pictures to follow. Steve and Emma
  20. 11 points
    Hi everyone. I am the PI in question here. Many of you know me personally, and many more have known me online for many years. Bigmac was scammed pretty hard. He estimates P6 million, but I have seen some of the numbers, and I would estimate it at considerably more than that. It's just too overwhelming to add up. All of it could have been easily prevented with a little common sense. Who in their right mind would send $100,000+ USD to someone in a third world country that they had only spent a few weeks with, without some kind of verification? He never asked for receipts or verification of any kind, just blindly sent $500+ per week, and often $1000 per week, for 6 years. The girl is sharp, but not unusually so among the scammer community. Obviously though, she is much sharper than him. Many are much better than her, offering fake receipts, etc., but she was never asked for any proof of any kind, until you guys made it more than plain to him that something may be amiss. Even then he did not believe it. He is still having trouble coming to terms with the fact that this was a scam from the very beginning, and that the money is gone, and never coming back. Now, she is furious with him for cutting her off while he still has money left! She blames him, of course, for the failure of their marriage, and fully believes a US judge is going to award her half of his income (SS) as alimony. In her mind, it was not a scam at all, because when they were married it was then her money. We have dealt with many hundreds of scammers, and she is definitely a piece of work. No remorse, not even a thank you, just contempt at him for cutting her off, and self righteousness and entitlement. He is licking his wounds now. Can you imagine the embarrassment he must have locally? Where I am sure his friends and family have been telling him for years that it is a scam? It is hard to feel sorry for him. A fool and his money...
  21. 11 points
    I too am interested in this topic. But from the reverse. I lived over 2 years in the Philippines and moved back to the US with my wife. Now we have a one year old daughter. I will not allow my daughter to attend public schools in the US. They are not like the schools when we were children. Do you support the 2nd amendment to keep and bear arms (guns)... well, your children will be taught to fear guns rather than gun safety. The schools have become politicized and often teach political agenda's. If your son is a bit unruly they will claim he has ADHD or some other disorder and push you to drug him. In a school not far from where we live a mother kept seeing her 2 middle school age children come home with signs of physical abuse. They were being bullied. She spoke to the school about it a number of times, but they did nothing. Finally, to protect her children, she pulled them out of school to home school them. The school reported her to child services and claimed she was neglecting her children by taking them out of public school. Yet it was the school that failed to protect them. Most public schools now have 'resource' officers who really are just police assigned to the school. There are a growing number of cases where these police treat misbehaving children like they are criminals, even hand cuffing grade school children. Regardless of whether we live in the US or Philippines I plan to have our daughter either attend a good private school or be home schooled. The other issue aside from schooling is health care. You better have a good employer with a great health plan... or else you will pay a great deal for a poor health care plan for your wife and children. We are doing ok in the US but our budget will go much further in the Philippines, especially if we want to pay for a quality private school in a few years for our daughter.
  22. 11 points
    I have always said that this place ain't for everyone. I have heard expats bandy about 5 years being a milepost. If you can make it 5 years, you will be ok. I have no idea if that is true (and have no stats or any studies ha ha)... but I am hitting 6 years next week. So far, so good.
  23. 11 points
    Bet it wont be long before you are saying negative things about your home country and will be wanting to return to the Philippines. Grass is always greener for awhile.
  24. 11 points
    I have lived here almost 6 years and just made a 2 month visit back to Dallas, TX. (my 2nd visit in 6 years). The first month was fine... but the 2nd month drug on forever and I was just ready to come back home. It was nice seeing my kids (I was a single dad for freaking ever). I also got to meet 2 grand kids. I liked the little things, you know drinkable tap water, decent internet, good grocery stores - 24 hour stores even. But it really felt like a visit, not home. A few years ago I offered to move back to the US if my wife wanted to work, and send money to her family. It would also be good to get her into Social Security, and get her a blue passport. She did not want to move to the US. Not sure if she did not want it or she knew I really did not want it ha ha... I have an ignored blog but vlog pretty regularly on YouTube (that is why I ignore the blog). I try to stay mostly positive, without wearing rose tinted glasses. I will point out some negatives, but more as a 'fact of life' than a complaint. The conceit of my channel is basically: "I am having fun being retired, and you are not ha ha ha". It was nice to visit family, but 2 months was at least a month too long. Glad to be back home in Iloilo.
  25. 11 points
    Hello Mark, I am glad that you have survived your ordeal about living in PI. Just like being in the military, it's not for everyone. Now that you're back in Texas, I hope you realize that your Filipina wife will eventually get homesick. Additionally, your wife and family may be exposed to the "stink eyes" coming from your neighbors and sometimes from your own Texas family. It's better to talk about it beforehand and how to deal with it, as you walk hand in hand out in public. Respectfully Jake
  26. 11 points
    For what it's worth..... For me.... the normally recognized budget items aren't the major problem with trying to live here on a fixed income. And for most of us it IS a fixed income since the laws prohibit foreigners from many types of employment and ownership situations that would be available to you in your home country if you wanted or needed to increase your income, either short or long term. There are income earning niches that some of our site members have found, but for most of us, we are limited while here to spending and living off of our offshore income. If your Filipina/o wife, husband, significant other is a lawyer, doctor, govt. worker, etc..... it surely helps with the budget, but in most cases what the partner can earn doesn't add all that much to your outside source money.... and when the wife or GF has a long hour or low paying local wage job, then the few local expats I know of here in this situation, complain how she is neglecting their relationship for the pittance she earns (neglecting the fact that it is both a social outlet and meaningful self-identity thing for her). Most budget items you can control and vary to some degree by finding substitutes, alternatives, eliminations at a cost to comfort and convenience, etc. That is why I originally posted this thread topic, with the <gapminder.org> 'money street' illustrations re this country - The Philippines . Its usually the 'off budget' things that crop up that pose problems. The emergencies that occur, come your way and land in your lap... that take money to solve. They occur with seemingly great regularity due to the nature of this local culture, society and economic system. In advanced economic countries we have third party social safety webs for many of the budget basics.... medicare, medicaid, unemployment benefits, nutritional aide, disability insurance, educational assistance, credit availability, generous charity orgs., etc. But here there isn't much in the way of third party or public assistance when things go wrong.... as they usually do sooner or later. So the solution source pyramid is family, friends, acquaintances, pawn shops, 5/6 lenders for those with collateral. The wealthier or more politically connected, the better the likelihood of success. Your survival often depends upon your ability to activate your social network or web on your behalf. Rugged individualism, pride in going it alone, being economically self-sufficient and independent, "Neither borrower nor lender be." are ideas that don't fly well here. So..... what blows holes in my budget is usually not due to my personal economic life-style choices, but rather the amount of social responsibility I'm willing to take on to alleviate the financial 'emergencies' of others. I guess I'd do much better with my budgeting if I lived alone, was anti-social, hated women or took a vow of celibacy, and was a bitterly misanthropic miser. I'd venture to say that most Westerners that come to live here are ill-prepared, emotionally or intellectually, to deal with this very different economic culture. I'm often peeved when I review where my monthly income went.... but then I realize that these unforeseen expenses made a huge difference in the lives of those close to me and I don't really regret it. Living here presents a whole new level of moral and ethical challenges that you don't have to deal with in a First World Economy because medical and crucial survival emergencies can only be solved by personal interventions. You might have to build a 'personal emergency charity' category into your budget if you have any human relationships here with people who aren't totally self-sufficient financially. Of course I could have my wife disown all of her family and friends that don't meet minimal income levels........hmmmmm....... Naaaahhh.
  27. 11 points
    When I tell friends and family that I am thinking about moving to the Philippines, The question always comes up. " Why would you want to move to the Philippines?" I don't say a word and just show them these 2 pictures....Outside my front door this morning. The place I would rather be this morning. Funny no more questions after seeing this. Have a great day everyone. Outside for more snowblowing for me.
  28. 11 points
    Mate, you did a good thing and it seems it was appreciated as well. Some of you know my background as a social worker after I left the navy working for homeless vets and from where I'm sitting people don't choose to live on the streets but there they are, making you feel uncomfortable and making excuses not to help them. There, but for the grace of god, go I. No one is immune to gravity. Mental illness is not a choice but we send our sons to war and expect that not to happen. 80% of homeless people in Australia are mentally ill veterans or indigenous first peoples (don't get me started on that). There's been 200 Australians die in Afghanistan and Iraq, there's been 800 that have committed suicide since they returned. Mental illness it not a choice, it's as deadly as a cancer diagnosis. Tom's mate may not have served, but that doesn't matter, he's in a bad situation and that tiny slice of humanity that Tom showed may have saved a life. I have a black dog. I hate him and love him. I have an angry midget that gets it, she saved my life. Are you ok?
  29. 10 points
    I guess most dont read the rules of each forum when posting so I will paste what it says. The World Events Forum Want to have your say on what is happening anywhere outside of the Philippines? This forum has been created to allow our members to have their say on anything that is not related to the Philippines. You may discuss most topics but no Political or religion topics allowed. Please read the rules of this forum. So topic closed. Want to discuss politics do it at the bar.
  30. 10 points
  31. 10 points
    When someone asks for directions you point in the general area with your lips.
  32. 10 points
    We gave away all our things ending up with a 5' x 5' locker containing family photographs, momentous, boys' trophies, etc. You learn to become minimalists. For example, cooking with one 2-quarts pot and one frying pan. (The RV has a convection/microwave.) Clothes are purchased and discarded throughout the year. You end with the same number. The RV parks have laundry rooms which we use once a week. How much "stuff" do you really need?
  33. 10 points
    Just after some info from members here, probably best suited to British members that have become a parent since visiting/moving here. I became a dad 7 weeks ago, 58 and a daddy for the first time, lol. What are the things that I should be doing? i.e. regarding obtaining British Citizenship for the baby or anything else formal that I should be doing ?
  34. 10 points
    I am aware that even the smallest things can get complicated in PH, thats why I intend to keep a very low profile when its time for me to make the move. For me that means, no land will be bought , no house will be built and no business. I admire those who do it and succeed but for me it is not worth the risk. I also have an example of Philogic from SM, I was in the line to pay for the groceries in my basket when I see that another line was not as long as mine. I changed line but immediately one of the staff was there and told me that I could not stand in that line because is was only for customers with a cart and I only had a basket! I said fine, and then put my goods in an empty cart that was right there. He just gave me a blank stare and then walked away.
  35. 10 points
    That's the last time that damn seagull shits on my ship!
  36. 10 points
  37. 10 points
    Cebu: 60 feel 60. Visit U.S a couple weeks, gigantic angry lesbian looking woman everywhere, come back to Cebu: 60 feel 20.
  38. 10 points
    There is nothing worse then thinking you are being used or have been used. Once you do find out that is what is happening you have two ways to go, you can stop it or let it carry on, it’s that simple. In my short time of being involved with a Filipina I have been diddled out of a few things , nothing major just a few items and a little cash, but once I found out , she was dumped straight away. The next time I thought I was being used was when I married one , life was great for a few weeks then it was can you send money for hospital bills for the kids, now this was not sent to me but to my wife, but as it’s my money I had a say in this, the problem is it’s not lots of money they are asking for but little amounts and this is where it can get messy, do you send the money because they are making you feel guilty about the kids, so you send it. Then the next time it’s for something a little bigger, school fees, and again it’s sent to the wife to make her feel guilty, and on and on it goes, money for a car , money for bills . This is where you have to make a stand either tell your partner to tell the people to stop doing this or you go direct to them all and say NO MORE, and stick to that, yes you can still give money gifts for presents on birthdays and Christmas . Its good to give and even better to receive but being involved with the Philippines make sure you are in control of your wallet and brain .
  39. 10 points
    Congratulations to Eddie 1 and Noime who last night had a baby son,Harry 5lb 7 ounces.Wishing you all the best.
  40. 10 points
    Well I gave up the work in Australia lifestyle. In my case never a set time to wake up or when I will finish. Too much bullshit to handle in new rules and regulations so I packed up and moved to where some complain about every day. I would rather be here in Cebu than where I was.
  41. 10 points
    If I went back to the UK I would have to retrain in my job and buy lots of equipment and transport before I could start work.That alone would cost around 10k UK.I can live on that for 2 years here and still have a decent life.The building work here will be finished soon and then my wife and daughter will be set up for life without any worries.What can I offer them in the UK ,well maybe a pittance from the Government when I pass,if I could work as a gas engineer again then maybe half of what they can potentially have here. Then you have to think of all the crap going on in the UK killings robberies stabbings how much it actually costs to live there.Lets be fair I could not afford to go out for a meal and a couple of beers 1-2 times a week like I do here.We certainly would not own the amount of property over there that we do here,we would probably would have to rent a house at maybe 1k uk per month.I cannot see any reason to take them back to somewhere I would be unhappy in and therefore they would also be unhappy. Why be a little fish in a big pond when you can be a big fish in a little pond.
  42. 10 points
    This thread is full of useful information and opinions and I really like this forum in as much that we share our lifes experience and very rarely end up with a heated argument Most if the positive and negative lies ahead of me in the Philippines, I'm returning in may for a couple if weeks and then again in November for a hopefully much longer stay I will miss my kids and grandchildren in the UK , I will probably miss the comfort of regular employment and income but I can always return to the UK and do some contract work should money become an issue I don't have a youngster and I have no plans to make one , if I did go down that route ,I would ensure that he and his mother have financial security all be it in the Philippines, I have a low opinion of anyone who knocks a young girl up and does a runner , I'm hoping to slow the pace of life down a bit , I'm tired of carrying poor tradesmen and having to drive around a large area to fix stuff that they cant , yesterday I did a 12.5 hour shift , Friday was 11.5 ,my normal day is 10 hours , I still need a purpose in life and a target to aim at but at 61 I'm finding 55 hour weeks a bit tiring Good luck with your plans mark
  43. 10 points
    I have made this decision based on many factors one of them being the way society as a whole seems to be heading in the UK.My information come from friends in the UK whom I trust.I can ,here,leave my wife and daughter a nice income when I pop my clogs,in the UK they would struggle on the pension I would receive there and I suspect would live in near poverty.I am trying to enroll my daughter in a better school here as the one she attends spend too much time singing and dancing science fare`s etc which my daughter is not involved in.My daughter also has Asthma which I reckon would be worse in the cold climate in the UK. You also need a different type of streetsmart over in the UK and my wife and daughter are too trusting for that. I will stay here and make a nice life for them.
  44. 10 points
    If I had to do it all again and go the way many have i know i would get this Sorry G & G's but I just could not resist and it is all relevant
  45. 10 points
    You bring up a very good point. There is a big difference in being here on a short term basis and living here permanently as an expat. My american neighbor is having a terrible time and has spoken with me on a number of occasions about how unhappy he is. I ask him to tell me what it was that made him decide to move here. He explained how much he enjoyed his visits and way the people treated him during his vacation visits. The Philippine people make every effort to be good hosts to visitors and they will manage to keep smiling and look past behaviours that they ordinarily would find objectionable. When you live here full time that "free pass" goes away. When I say "objectionable behaviour" I am not saying that does mean that the expat is acting like an @ss. It usually comes down to one of two things. Number 1 - the person is just not happy with life and it followed him or her here. Number 2 - The Philippines has a unique culture that is different from the USA, England, Australia, etc. If you cannot accept that, think it is "wrong" or that you can change them to your way of thinking, it is not going to work for you. Going on six years with no visit back to the USA. I am happy here and those back home know I plan on living here till I die. Sure I get frustrated at times but life is like that no matter where you are. When I hear expats here continually complaining about the Philippines I think of Pogo who said . . . .
  46. 10 points
    Everyone to their own, maybe your temperament or your cultural upbringing might have a bit to do with it. The PI's is not an easy place to live in if you don't go with the punches. A lot of members have adapted to the lifestyle, a lot haven't, no-one judges if you head back home. Just don't judge the PI's by your personal experience.
  47. 10 points
    Hey Jack, you know what they do to pigs here!?HaHa Honestly, I'll be into 5 years here soon myself. People always compare to back home. The food's not the same, the law is not the same, etc.etc.etc.... You are not back home, you are here! You have to learn to adjust to a different culture. Sure its different, part of the fun is learning the differences! Its always how you look at it, its easy to compare and be negative. If you retire here, I advise to get your hobby going, learn to unwind and chill, for both stress and health and learn to live a different life. Thats the name of the game!
  48. 10 points
    Not so fast... After the thirty days are up get back to us on that.
  49. 10 points
    So we had a meeting, as we are all Filipino Dogs and in line with our Human counterparts, we only went for the snacks
  50. 9 points
    Whilst our situations are no doubt different, you certainly share the same philosophy as I when it comes to comparing the UK with the Philippines. I genuinely doubt that the UK offers so many opportunities that are not available here in the Philippines - simply put, my income level here puts me at an advantage over many whilst in the UK (given my probable unemployability in my profession which I left 15 years ago) puts me at a disadvantage over many. So, I choose to roll with the punches here as it simply doesn't make economic sense to move back to the UK. And that;s not even taking into account how my wife, son and I would adapt to a country which bears no resemblance to the one I left 25 years ago. I was slightly disappointed to read a comment in one of the posts saying that the place offers no opportunity for kids other than becoming an OFW - that is simply not true. Yes, many choose the OFW route because they see it as an opportunity to move to lands of milk and honey and undoubtedly they can earn much higher salaries (but at what price?) than here - but I'm a fervent believer in the philosophy that salaries follow living costs - I earned 6x more in Hong Kong for the same work I do here BUT, I paid more than 6x more for a beer, more than 7x more for my TINY apartment and so on and so on. Let's be fair guys, compare apples with apples rather than oranges.
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