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  1. 5 points
    I moved here at age 50 to get out of the rat race. As a service manager with 26 employees, an 8 hour work day would have been a blessing. Rattled out of sleep by the alarm clock at 5 am. and getting back home by maybe 6 pm. or later was just getting to be too much. Not to mention once in a while having to help with the night crew. No way could I retire in the US. on my military pension. Moved to the Philippines in 2002, and sure, everything wasn't great at first but after I started going with the flow and not expecting everything to be perfect, it grew on me. Lived like a Prince on my military retirement pay and then started living like a King when I started getting Social Security! An average King though. Not a rich one.
  2. 5 points
    Thought for the day on this You can take the Lady ( and child in this case) out of the Philippines BUT you will never take the Philippines out of the Lady
  3. 5 points
    There has to be at least 100 reasons that a Westerner might be driven crazy in the Philippines and want to eventually repatriate. But the breaking point for the OP cracked me up. I can't recall getting any stink eye in the Philippines; in all likelihood I am too old to notice. The closest I have gotten is a few scumbag expats who leer at my wife. I will say that there are plenty of expats here whose behaviour is such that they might deserve a little stink eye, but again I rarely see it. Most people here are very friendly to me; whether there true attitude or a faked attitude I really don't care. But in the US? Stink eye galore. When the OP said something to the effect that because Americans are used to mixed marriages, we're not judgmental, I almost fell to the floor laughing. I've been married 3 times (not bragging, it's just reality) and none of the wives were white. I've seen and heard lots of nastiness. Now I will say that most people try hard but if you hang around them often enough you see the real attitude. I remember my manager (a good guy who liked my work) humorously (he thought) refer to me as Woody Allen, I assume because I had married a younger Asian woman, not because of pedophilia. My African American ex-wife was fired from her Afro-centric job because she had married a white guy; they didn't even try to hide the fact that that was why she was fired. Janet can tell you a dozen funny stories about attitudes of egalitarian Americans. Maybe a blog piece on the topic would be good. All this said, I wish the OP well in his repatriation. Enjoy what the US has to offer. But expect to see some stink eye and get some nasty comments.
  4. 5 points
    You bring up a very good point. There is a big difference in being here on a short term basis and living here permanently as an expat. My american neighbor is having a terrible time and has spoken with me on a number of occasions about how unhappy he is. I ask him to tell me what it was that made him decide to move here. He explained how much he enjoyed his visits and way the people treated him during his vacation visits. The Philippine people make every effort to be good hosts to visitors and they will manage to keep smiling and look past behaviours that they ordinarily would find objectionable. When you live here full time that "free pass" goes away. When I say "objectionable behaviour" I am not saying that does mean that the expat is acting like an @ss. It usually comes down to one of two things. Number 1 - the person is just not happy with life and it followed him or her here. Number 2 - The Philippines has a unique culture that is different from the USA, England, Australia, etc. If you cannot accept that, think it is "wrong" or that you can change them to your way of thinking, it is not going to work for you. Going on six years with no visit back to the USA. I am happy here and those back home know I plan on living here till I die. Sure I get frustrated at times but life is like that no matter where you are. When I hear expats here continually complaining about the Philippines I think of Pogo who said . . . .
  5. 5 points
    Everyone to their own, maybe your temperament or your cultural upbringing might have a bit to do with it. The PI's is not an easy place to live in if you don't go with the punches. A lot of members have adapted to the lifestyle, a lot haven't, no-one judges if you head back home. Just don't judge the PI's by your personal experience.
  6. 5 points
    The main reason is gases from the building sewer system venting into the condo unit instead of outside the building. It can be caused by unsealed connections of fixtures and pipes in the unit, which would be the first place to look and easiest to fix. It can also be caused by inadequate venting of the building drain system or improperly balanced building ventilation systems, which can't be fixed within the unit except by workaround measures. I just had this problem with a short term apartment rental in Manila, and found that the drain tailpipes under the bathroom sinks had no mechanical seal whatsoever. From what I've read, this is a common problem. Jeff
  7. 4 points
    Very interesting topic here. I have just returned from a 2 month stint in NZ. Although summer I was suffering from the weather especially the south island wind. For this reason plus the ridiculously high prices was reason enough to banish any thoughts of returning on a more permanent basis. As the OP mentioned I like all suffer from some of the nuances here, especially the dogs whom are excessively noisy in our street. How ever weighing this up against shorts and slippers all year round is more than enough to keep me here. This apart from the many other attributes mentioned. A common complaint here is about food and noise. The first can be an issue if ones partner is not fond of cooking, my case is she loves cooking and experimenting with different dishes, many exotic so guess I am fortunate. Plus we eat outside on terrace, something I was unable to do in NZ. Noise, we'll it's part of the culture, we must tolerate, one must also exercise great due diligence here before putting down roots. Most subdivisions will not tolerate excessive noise after 10pm, apart from dogs as I can attest to. If one lives below the radar, to speak one should not run into problems, again our partners should attend to any burocracy. Apart from one occasion with an impossible jealous wealthy woman I have not had issues after 7 plus years. I am happy the OP has so far found what he requires and trust this continues, each to his own.
  8. 3 points
    I'll explain a little more on my post as the topic keeps creeping into posts, age gap. I believe this has got a lot to do with why expats can't accept the culture and brand the PI's as they do. It is the expats upbringing, an being able to accept that older men date younger women in Asian countries more so than in their own countries. Then all the little things start adding up, it's not the service, nor the traffic problems, of course they contribute but in the end the PI's are branded as a sex haven with no morals. This time over I was going through a bit of drama about an older man grooming a younger Filipino lass that was staying at our house. I was furious but you know what, all it did was make me sick and buggard up my six weeks holidays. Another thing, it is in their culture, sex is not a nasty word to them, it is how a lot of them live, their is no love in it for them, just a means of supporting themselves. I was given a lot of advise, and each person said it was none of my business, and you know what, it wasn't. Now I've gotten over the culture shock and thought back on the advice I was given, when I see an older man with a very young women, I just smile and think to myself, what number are you this year.
  9. 3 points
    I never said that there was any breaking point to make me leave the Phils. I merely mentioned that I did not (and would not ever) miss getting the 'stink eye,' as well as all of the other aspects of being a foreigner in the Phils. I could of been happy to roll with all of the punches in the Phils... but the true reason for me leaving the the Phils and returning to the USA is for the betterment of my family, which includes my 2 year old son, who has no real future in the Phils (unless he wants to grow up to be an OFW). With all of that being said, thank you for your good wishes.
  10. 3 points
    Just make sure it`s not a cute beer and a cheap woman.
  11. 3 points
    I don`t see how you can do anything else,I suppose when asked about the place you could be neutral and say well I didn`t like it but that was me maybe it will be different for you. I have been here nearly 8 years and still get WTF moments but I have learned that instead of getting angry you can ask the person serving you could I get some help with this as it`s important I do it now,that works sometimes. I was at the BI with a bad foot and needed another photocopy,the lady could see i was in pain walking so she did the photocopy there and saved me walking about 1/2 a mile. My friend has just visited( he has been all over SE Asia) and said how friendly and helpful the people are.He had a puncture on a rented MB and total strangers fixed it for him and did not want to take payment. He was down by the Marine sanctuary and walked along the beach,well he got lost and the locals gave him and his GF a lift to the main road and again did not want to accept payment. Yes there are a lot of things here to drive you crazy but for me the positive outweighs the negative.Learn to take deep breaths and chill life will then be much easier. OH did I mention the cheap beer and cute women.
  12. 3 points
    Thanks for the explanation I was curious. For sure over the years we have a number of members who found Philippines was not a good fit for them. I'm about to retire. my wife and I don't have any desire to live there full time but love to visit.
  13. 2 points
    Thanks for the Google keywords. I was having trouble finding any results before that. Looks like there could be an issue with gases leaking around the base of the toilet. Some people reported siliconing or taping could solve the problem quickly for a short term stay type of situation like mine.
  14. 2 points
    Either one just shows they know nothing about car engines, and how alternators work.
  15. 2 points
    My personal experience was to visit an aussie in Torledo prison some years ago. Was told he was falsely accussed of sexual assault, as living in Cebu I popped over with some groceries. First was strip search before being allowed entrance, the shopping had to be left with a guard to be handed over after checking, was not given when I left. The conditions were crowded an appalling to say the least, he complained of being beaten for no reason, further his story was the housekeeper set him up. Aussie embassy were of little help, my thoughts were mixed as to his guilt or innocence. Heard he was released after some months, Prison is one place we must all steer well clear of. Piss of the wrong girl and there's a chance you may just experience this.
  16. 2 points
    The mixed race part might be more evident in some areas of the country. In California where I am from, Asian / Caucasian relationships don't get a second glance in most major cities.
  17. 2 points
  18. 2 points
    Look for a vehicle that has been dealer maintained. Alot of individuals here do not maintain their vehicles. If I was buying a used car here it would be a Toyota due to the availability of parts. Most SUVs here are diesel and cost more to repair when it comes to engine parts. On the other hand diesel is a little cheaper than gasoline here.
  19. 2 points
    Thank goodness you finally got to the good part :)
  20. 2 points
    I was told that you can get married in prison very quickly and you don`t even need to attend a seminar you also only need 1 ring.
  21. 2 points
    Hot women and cold beer. What more could anyone want or need?
  22. 2 points
    Apologies - didn't think of that. In lieu of a link, what I would suggest is to google some combination of words like: plumbing sewer smell in condo asia philippines. That will lead to first-hand troubleshooting experience from others who've had the same problem.
  23. 2 points
    Welcome to the forum Jeff. Great answer too. I removed the link to another forum that is not allowed you may want to review the forum rules fairly simple in all.
  24. 2 points
    Best way to buy a new or used car or truck is a common question and a difficult one to answer. You would know what best meets your needs, a midsize SUV would be a good choice. New cars are very expensive in Philippines but with luck you may find a newer used one at a fair price.
  25. 2 points
    You get cute girls in their 20s flirting with you in the Philippines though. Say hello to them in the US and they'll probably call the police
  26. 1 point
    The original transition from WWII jeeps to jeepney was based on that idea of abundance of leftover jeeps and parts that can be cannibalized quickly. And also the term jerry rigging with Filipino ingenuity, often times violating safety protocols and common sense. But it works.....go figure.
  27. 1 point
    That's a nug plus forme knowing over the years that vehicles depriatiate very quickly, before you even know it they are less worth in a very short time, vehicles with less kilometers and a good engine are a great choice for me,,, I believe it helps save money and changing of parts helps maintaining a longer lasting vehicle, new vehicles are ok, if you have a good income, I do, but savings is a choice for me, all vehicles will go through a mechanical issue one time or another, by the way whats the parts that usually needs repairing in those models, besides brakes and changing of oil?,,,,
  28. 1 point
    Do you ever think that they may be #1?
  29. 1 point
    I never tried the older Innovas but the new ones at the dealer are way to small for me. A combination of long legs and thick thighs just doesn't work. I'm 6' 2". I'm sure they are fine for most people.
  30. 1 point
    Thanks Jeff. This is the setup I'm dealing with under the sink in the kitchen. Around 3pm almost everyday, I get an odor of garlic which is stifling. I wonder if I could use some type of tape to create a makeshift seal of some sort. I'll be here for 3 more weeks so it might be worth my time depending on the effort needed. There's a different issue in the bathroom though. As you mentioned, it might be poor ventilation. There is a plumbing trap under the bathroom sink, though the problem could be coming from the toilet or the drain. I once taped over a drain (not the shower one) and that worked.
  31. 1 point
    We have an Innova in Cagayan and an Avanza in Ozamiz. I have to disagree with the room for ‘larger’ drivers comment above. I’m (to be blunt) fat these days and the width of the Innova makes it much easier to get comfortable in than the Avanza.
  32. 1 point
    I say that to my son once in a while. He gets it.
  33. 1 point
  34. 1 point
    I purchased a used 2008 Toyota Fortuner (2.7 gas) with 80,000 km when I first got here for 680,000p. I bought if from someone I trusted who had just bought a new 2017 fortuner. The original owner owns a couple of Caltex gas Stations and made sure that all the needed maintenance was done. I would have preferred to get the Diesel Fortuner because Diesel Fuel is cheaper in the Philippines but I'm real happy with my purchase and have put 20,000 km on the car with no maintenance issues. I think the original purchase price was around 1,300,000p, so the original owner drove it 10 years and got half his money back at the time of resale.
  35. 1 point
    I agree that Toyota is your best bet for many reasons. Toyota Fortuner is their mid-size SUV here. Innova is their popular smaller van type. Be aware that the Innova will not accommodate a very large driver. Those are big vans, not SUV's. Good for transporting lots of people. Not so good for parking, etc., in a city.
  36. 1 point
    I also do this and then send them in an email to myself so I can access again in the future.
  37. 1 point
    My thoughts exactly.I had a neighbour visit me last night he is from Germany.He said when he left there he had a tear in his eye as he will never go back.As far as I can conclude he has visited about 4 times before,now the Germans are noted for their efficiency but he just goes with the flow and does not kick up a fuss.At the end of the day they do things differently here and you just have to do these things and grin.I now have a 13a so in reality I only have one annoyance per year.I know before I get to places that it is going to be a long process so I just go with the flow or pay somebody else to do it for me.
  38. 1 point
    a S bend under the sink should do the trick, easy to install. As for the shower, a S bend at the outlet, if you can find it, should also solve the problem.
  39. 1 point
    I became a member here when I was new to the Philippines, and I had nothing negative to say about Expat life in the Phils. This forum has helped me with many things such as how to get a 13a, getting a CRBA for my son, getting an Immigrant Visa for my wife, etc. I thought that it would be interesting and maybe helpful to post about my experiences in the USA. At the age of 65, I don't plan on leaving the USA again, but if I ever did, I would move to Israel (where I would be welcomed in a much bigger way than I was ever welcomed in the Philippines).
  40. 1 point
    Yeah I've noticed those traps. The place I'm at now doesn't have one, but thanks for that tip. That could be the issue at the next place I stay at. I'll look for something like draino at the supermarket. Thanks for the tips fellas!
  41. 1 point
    Usually condos have a grease trap under the sink. It can smell if the lid is not tight.
  42. 1 point
    Some don't repatriate, they just move on to other countries. It's life. There is no paradise, but the search for it is great. There is no trophy for the longest stay in the Philippines. As JD said: So best of luck to all who move "back", to all who stay in the Philippines, and to all who chose to try a different country. Its all good.
  43. 1 point
    I retired here in 2002. Had a very good paying job as a branch manager for a national pest control company. Company car..bonuses,etc. Went back to the US last year for a 3 week visit and didn't like it. Took my airline ticket to the counter at the airport and luckily I got a flight back to my favorite place after 2 weeks. Had to sit in a middle seat for the 16 hour flight but it was worth it to get back home. This is my home now. And my GF, son, and dogs were happy to see me too.
  44. 1 point
    Bet it wont be long before you are saying negative things about your home country and will be wanting to return to the Philippines. Grass is always greener for awhile.
  45. 1 point
    I was talking about this before but did not know the term... I just call it the 'Filipino shrug'. When they know there is nothing to be done about something, noise corruption etc, they have this shrug they do. They eyes pretty much say 'eh, what you gonna do?' It is a lesson many expats need to learn. Some days I have it... some days... not so much.
  46. 1 point
    I have stopped reading Blogs now after 10+ years here as I feel that many are written by disgruntled Expats that just never gave their Retirement here the full commitment it deserves. We have over the (Certainly last few years) had members with a Totally negative Attitude and it showed in their Topics and Postings that they Just Did not want to here ( if they ever wanted to be in the First place) I for one will never go Back to the UK for many reasons, maybe a Visit if I could get my Wife and Sprig there ( But that's another story) 5 years only sounds a bit like the marriage 7 year itch to me ASs many have said and no doubt many more will say and agree? there are an awful lot of people that will not really be happy anywhere. Me? happy as a pig My friends
  47. 1 point
    I too have learned to be much more patient.If you don`t you will go crazy here.I was at J mall immigration in Mandaui the lady behind the counter said "wait a while sir" I said would it be ok if we go and get some breakfast as we have been travelling 3 hours.We went off had something to eat and as we walked into immigration a man behind the counter called us over with our PPs and exit clearance. I have learned which things are going to be a problem and how to deal with them so my brain does not explode.Of course there is always some times you cannot avoid crap.
  48. 1 point
    My first act of true involvement with my wife was to try to give her money for a ferry from Manila to her aunt's island. In truth, I didn't want to lose track of her as we'd only just met online. And, I say this rather guiltily now, I wanted to throw a little loop over her head with money. She refused. More than once. But she was going. She'd sold almost everything and was only killing time online at an internet cafe owned by a friend when we met. She had to leave Manila. I offered a couple of more times and she refused. Her girlfriend then sent me a note and told me that she was about to sell her clothing to pay for the ferry. I insisted one last time and she accepted. Then I had a dark thought: was I just scammed? But I hadn't been. Throughout the nearly three years that we "dated" online before I visited and then well after that while we worked on her visa, she voluntarily accounted for the money that I sent her. We spent nearly four hours a day/night video chatting, just being with each other. And sometimes if I lost track and it seemed that she'd run out of money sooner than I thought she should, I asked and she rattled off her expenses. We came to an understanding about money long before we were married. She said her immediate family wouldn't ask for money because they'd be too embarrassed but that she would handle requests from extended family. We knew they'd come. And when they did, she turned them down and told me about it. A couple of times we did send money for emergencies. A nephew broke his arm. The aunt she had stayed with was on a ferry that capsized and lost all of her belongings. An uncle died and there wasn't money to pay his hospital bill and bury him both. Get you a hard-headed woman, fellas. At least, hard-headed about money.
  49. 1 point
    My wife and I have been together for 34 years. I used to tell myself " life is hard in the Philippines". It made me feel better when I was ripped off by her siblings. However her family continued to steal from her even when they got to the USA. Her two sisters transferred land out of her name and sold it for 6.6m. Now we have to drag them into court to get her land back. It took me a long time to understand that Being poor is no excuse for being a thief.
  50. 1 point
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