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  1. 18 points
    A Little self indulgence I am afraid to make a point. For those that know me sorry to say it again but for those that don't and can get unsure of Hospitals and Doctors here's my story to show a little faith. In 2012 I had a stroke (Whilst i was living in Spain) I was married to my SO who is the love of my Life but I was going to see out my working life in Spain But events took over and as the Consultant ( In the UK) said no need for Surgery at this time as you are only 60% Blocked ( the Arteries) to my Brain ( yes I have one) I could hardly walk, talk write or even type at times and forget driving However I made the decision to Come here Full time and got myself booked in with my wifes Doctor and now some 6+ years on I now walk some 5/6 kms a day, Passed to Drive and what I consider as fit as i am ever going to be. Now all this together with a reduction of blockage to now 45% is due to the Constant monitoring of the said doctor together with the Therapy and Diet she and others suggested, just goes to show that with our help and understanding (In my case anyway) The Medical care is not as bad as many would make out. To illustrate I put up a few photos to show the progression that a stable marriage and good Doctor can make, I often say that we are in a lot of cases our own worst enemies and just do not follow medical suggestions, Instructions and planned Diets and medication ( not to mention exercise) Yet we Blame the Hospitals and Doctors here as useless, well not me I will hasten to add. Yes it is expensive but not as expensive as it could be elsewhere ( even the UK as I hear it reported of late) So with a vote of thanks to My Doctor and her colleagues at SUMC (Dumaguete) the Love and caring of my Wife and daughter I will be around I hope to bug you all for some time to come Not well at all Getting there Trying to enjoy never forgetting the Friends that helped me along the Way plus all the others And last but not least The best Friend I ever Had and the Sprog of course Thank you for Reading Jack
  2. 14 points
    Just to set the scene. I'd been going out with a girl here for a few years. I met her over 3yrs ago but finished with her last year. Lets just say she never took it too well and gave my next partner grief even though she wasn't on the scene at the time. I've got friends over from Scotland and although I'm living in Puerto Galera I decided to take them to Boracay for a few days. I surfed the web for digs and from a few hundred narrowed it down to one. I booked in yesterday to a place that has individual apartments with balconies at ground level opening out to the gardens. I'd just booked into my room and stood on my balcony, looked to the left and there's my ex and her new partner looking at me from the next balcony. Just a bit awkward. Lol.
  3. 14 points
    Steve, Its difficult to answer your post in all honesty. I have been a member of PEF for about 3.5 years, you have been a member for about 6.5 years. Since I have been a member you have wrote many many posts, many with a negative slant, for example... Money issues i.e cost of living/budgets etc, family issues i.e. Emma's family, housing issues, building a family home on Luzon , being taken advantage of by her family etc. You are just about ready to retire and you still don't seem to be any closer to knowing what it is you want to do and I for one feel sorry that you still find yourself gripped by indecision. Its easy for people to just say do it, get on with it but its just not in everybody's make up to be able to easily decide such a monumental life changing decision. Both you and I have worked for decades for our respective companies, I had 30 years on BT, you similar for your company, change isn't always easy for us that are set in our ways. I haven't been here very long myself yet, about 16 months so I am not the most experienced person here to comment but I cant help but feel that you will struggle here. Why? You have to commit, you have to go for it and that doesn't seem to be in your make up. I truly feel that in your situation if you can afford it, try and live 6 months in each country, half a year in the UK and half a year in the Phils, that would satisfy both of your needs and also give you time to see what you really like. People often say that living here is different to being on holiday here, its true, it is different, it's a hundred times better living here than being on a holiday, you get to wake up in this wonderful country everyday, have time to enjoy and embrace what it has to offer and also time to work out what you dont like and have the time to put it right, to make it work. From what I have gathered from your posts over the years I think that your problem will be living to close to your wife's family, I think that you will be actually living with them if I remember correctly. The impression of them from what i have read is that most of them are a good for nothing bunch that are going to give you nothing but grief which can only make your situation even more difficult. Get away from them, as far as possible, choose another island and make a fresh start. Try and get down to Dumaguete and meet up with the guys, I feel that you would get a lot out of it, we aren't in each others pockets but its great to have people here that you can turn to when you need help or advice, let off steam or just chill with a beer or two. I dont think you are going to find that support living with your wife's extended family. Having said all that though Steve, I truly wish you a happy retirement, you have earned it, now it's up to you to make the tough decisions to help you deliver it. If you can work out what will make you happy here and equally what will make you unhappy here then you have cracked it, just take the bull by the horns and deliver it. It's the best decision I ever made, yes its still relatively early days for me but I love it here and so far it's just slowly building and getting better and better. Good luck mate.
  4. 12 points
    @Mark Berkowitz I am not sure Mark will like this but I must say it as it came from the mouth of a true Blue Filipina ( My HTMBO) we sat on the Terrace on Sunday Afternoon and this topic came up. So my wife said to me Yeah well, can you remember Alan ( a friend that did as mark wishes) Yep I said , so I hope, that your Friend ( Mark) realises that this could cost him in Money and Stress as it did Alan. Remind me I said, Well not too long after they moved to the UK, the wife Lilybeth ( Elizabeth) started to get request for help and subsistence from them now they had left, then came the illness thing, Hospital Bills and the rest of it. Not going to make this long as i think we all know how these things are looked on by the family. Not going to say it will but I all fairness I can't say it won't, we have members here that have had this and it causes rifts, Rifts? yes rifts because the Emotional culture of the Wifes family can bring about disaster, Arguments start, One particular member I recall had enough and said NO but the wife decided to send behind the husbands back. Bad but it happens ( we have a Sister in law that does it) I just hope that Mark has added this sort of thing into the mix because it happens, "Blood being thicker than water" Springs to mind. Negative ? Oh no, thoughts conveyed here are brought from a very level headed Wife who has sooo many friends in this situation. There was a Story only last week about a couple that came on Holiday from Canada with their 2 children, on the Flight over she announced she had had enough of Canada and the Fact that the family were overbearing on Demands so she was not going back but staying with the family that she missed so Much. Sorry Mark But.......................... did you consider this sort of thing just might happen? Cos it does No one likes posts like this but
  5. 11 points
    Hi everyone. I am the PI in question here. Many of you know me personally, and many more have known me online for many years. Bigmac was scammed pretty hard. He estimates P6 million, but I have seen some of the numbers, and I would estimate it at considerably more than that. It's just too overwhelming to add up. All of it could have been easily prevented with a little common sense. Who in their right mind would send $100,000+ USD to someone in a third world country that they had only spent a few weeks with, without some kind of verification? He never asked for receipts or verification of any kind, just blindly sent $500+ per week, and often $1000 per week, for 6 years. The girl is sharp, but not unusually so among the scammer community. Obviously though, she is much sharper than him. Many are much better than her, offering fake receipts, etc., but she was never asked for any proof of any kind, until you guys made it more than plain to him that something may be amiss. Even then he did not believe it. He is still having trouble coming to terms with the fact that this was a scam from the very beginning, and that the money is gone, and never coming back. Now, she is furious with him for cutting her off while he still has money left! She blames him, of course, for the failure of their marriage, and fully believes a US judge is going to award her half of his income (SS) as alimony. In her mind, it was not a scam at all, because when they were married it was then her money. We have dealt with many hundreds of scammers, and she is definitely a piece of work. No remorse, not even a thank you, just contempt at him for cutting her off, and self righteousness and entitlement. He is licking his wounds now. Can you imagine the embarrassment he must have locally? Where I am sure his friends and family have been telling him for years that it is a scam? It is hard to feel sorry for him. A fool and his money...
  6. 11 points
    I too am interested in this topic. But from the reverse. I lived over 2 years in the Philippines and moved back to the US with my wife. Now we have a one year old daughter. I will not allow my daughter to attend public schools in the US. They are not like the schools when we were children. Do you support the 2nd amendment to keep and bear arms (guns)... well, your children will be taught to fear guns rather than gun safety. The schools have become politicized and often teach political agenda's. If your son is a bit unruly they will claim he has ADHD or some other disorder and push you to drug him. In a school not far from where we live a mother kept seeing her 2 middle school age children come home with signs of physical abuse. They were being bullied. She spoke to the school about it a number of times, but they did nothing. Finally, to protect her children, she pulled them out of school to home school them. The school reported her to child services and claimed she was neglecting her children by taking them out of public school. Yet it was the school that failed to protect them. Most public schools now have 'resource' officers who really are just police assigned to the school. There are a growing number of cases where these police treat misbehaving children like they are criminals, even hand cuffing grade school children. Regardless of whether we live in the US or Philippines I plan to have our daughter either attend a good private school or be home schooled. The other issue aside from schooling is health care. You better have a good employer with a great health plan... or else you will pay a great deal for a poor health care plan for your wife and children. We are doing ok in the US but our budget will go much further in the Philippines, especially if we want to pay for a quality private school in a few years for our daughter.
  7. 10 points
  8. 10 points
    Cebu: 60 feel 60. Visit U.S a couple weeks, gigantic angry lesbian looking woman everywhere, come back to Cebu: 60 feel 20.
  9. 10 points
    Congratulations to Eddie 1 and Noime who last night had a baby son,Harry 5lb 7 ounces.Wishing you all the best.
  10. 10 points
    Well I gave up the work in Australia lifestyle. In my case never a set time to wake up or when I will finish. Too much bullshit to handle in new rules and regulations so I packed up and moved to where some complain about every day. I would rather be here in Cebu than where I was.
  11. 10 points
    If I went back to the UK I would have to retrain in my job and buy lots of equipment and transport before I could start work.That alone would cost around 10k UK.I can live on that for 2 years here and still have a decent life.The building work here will be finished soon and then my wife and daughter will be set up for life without any worries.What can I offer them in the UK ,well maybe a pittance from the Government when I pass,if I could work as a gas engineer again then maybe half of what they can potentially have here. Then you have to think of all the crap going on in the UK killings robberies stabbings how much it actually costs to live there.Lets be fair I could not afford to go out for a meal and a couple of beers 1-2 times a week like I do here.We certainly would not own the amount of property over there that we do here,we would probably would have to rent a house at maybe 1k uk per month.I cannot see any reason to take them back to somewhere I would be unhappy in and therefore they would also be unhappy. Why be a little fish in a big pond when you can be a big fish in a little pond.
  12. 10 points
    This thread is full of useful information and opinions and I really like this forum in as much that we share our lifes experience and very rarely end up with a heated argument Most if the positive and negative lies ahead of me in the Philippines, I'm returning in may for a couple if weeks and then again in November for a hopefully much longer stay I will miss my kids and grandchildren in the UK , I will probably miss the comfort of regular employment and income but I can always return to the UK and do some contract work should money become an issue I don't have a youngster and I have no plans to make one , if I did go down that route ,I would ensure that he and his mother have financial security all be it in the Philippines, I have a low opinion of anyone who knocks a young girl up and does a runner , I'm hoping to slow the pace of life down a bit , I'm tired of carrying poor tradesmen and having to drive around a large area to fix stuff that they cant , yesterday I did a 12.5 hour shift , Friday was 11.5 ,my normal day is 10 hours , I still need a purpose in life and a target to aim at but at 61 I'm finding 55 hour weeks a bit tiring Good luck with your plans mark
  13. 10 points
    I have made this decision based on many factors one of them being the way society as a whole seems to be heading in the UK.My information come from friends in the UK whom I trust.I can ,here,leave my wife and daughter a nice income when I pop my clogs,in the UK they would struggle on the pension I would receive there and I suspect would live in near poverty.I am trying to enroll my daughter in a better school here as the one she attends spend too much time singing and dancing science fare`s etc which my daughter is not involved in.My daughter also has Asthma which I reckon would be worse in the cold climate in the UK. You also need a different type of streetsmart over in the UK and my wife and daughter are too trusting for that. I will stay here and make a nice life for them.
  14. 10 points
    If I had to do it all again and go the way many have i know i would get this Sorry G & G's but I just could not resist and it is all relevant
  15. 9 points
    Well, she landed very late on Valentine's Day Night... and of course, she was was extremely tired/knackered. However, after a day of sleep, she's begining to get used to the Western World with me. She is still constantly surprised about how most things in the West are much nicer than how they were back in the Phils. As far as myself, the Phils just seems like a dream to me now ... but I'll leave it up to our more imaginative members if they think that my dream of the Phils is a good or bad one. haha
  16. 9 points
    Twice today my wife has given me a dig in the ribs. My daughter was asking me questions no. 1 Dad why don`t I have a brother, I replied because your mum had a headache, dig number 1 2, Dad are fairies real, my reply they are like when mum borrows money and promises to pay it back both things are not really true, dig number 2. Why do they get so angry so quick I am at a loss for words at her behaviour.
  17. 9 points
    I tried the same thing with my boss......and she said you can have Sunday's off but you still have to wash the dishes!
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  19. 9 points
    They say only the good die young, When my late wife died at the age of 42, her pension rights left too, she had worked and paid taxes since the age of 15 years! As for benefits or Government handout's, as her Widower with a child of 9 years old, all I was offered was Free Milk! Am I worried about the Government paying my now wife anything, you can bet your life I'm not. They are happy to pay benefit's to people who have no intention of ever working and sit on their fat butts complaining! Sorry for the outburst but the biggest tax avoiders are the ones who do very little, I'm still paying taxes at 70+. rant over JB
  20. 9 points
    Whilst our situations are no doubt different, you certainly share the same philosophy as I when it comes to comparing the UK with the Philippines. I genuinely doubt that the UK offers so many opportunities that are not available here in the Philippines - simply put, my income level here puts me at an advantage over many whilst in the UK (given my probable unemployability in my profession which I left 15 years ago) puts me at a disadvantage over many. So, I choose to roll with the punches here as it simply doesn't make economic sense to move back to the UK. And that;s not even taking into account how my wife, son and I would adapt to a country which bears no resemblance to the one I left 25 years ago. I was slightly disappointed to read a comment in one of the posts saying that the place offers no opportunity for kids other than becoming an OFW - that is simply not true. Yes, many choose the OFW route because they see it as an opportunity to move to lands of milk and honey and undoubtedly they can earn much higher salaries (but at what price?) than here - but I'm a fervent believer in the philosophy that salaries follow living costs - I earned 6x more in Hong Kong for the same work I do here BUT, I paid more than 6x more for a beer, more than 7x more for my TINY apartment and so on and so on. Let's be fair guys, compare apples with apples rather than oranges.
  21. 9 points
    I moved here at age 50 to get out of the rat race. As a service manager with 26 employees, an 8 hour work day would have been a blessing. Rattled out of sleep by the alarm clock at 5 am. and getting back home by maybe 6 pm. or later was just getting to be too much. Not to mention once in a while having to help with the night crew. No way could I retire in the US. on my military pension. Moved to the Philippines in 2002, and sure, everything wasn't great at first but after I started going with the flow and not expecting everything to be perfect, it grew on me. Lived like a Prince on my military retirement pay and then started living like a King when I started getting Social Security! An average King though. Not a rich one.
  22. 9 points
    Very interesting topic here. I have just returned from a 2 month stint in NZ. Although summer I was suffering from the weather especially the south island wind. For this reason plus the ridiculously high prices was reason enough to banish any thoughts of returning on a more permanent basis. As the OP mentioned I like all suffer from some of the nuances here, especially the dogs whom are excessively noisy in our street. How ever weighing this up against shorts and slippers all year round is more than enough to keep me here. This apart from the many other attributes mentioned. A common complaint here is about food and noise. The first can be an issue if ones partner is not fond of cooking, my case is she loves cooking and experimenting with different dishes, many exotic so guess I am fortunate. Plus we eat outside on terrace, something I was unable to do in NZ. Noise, we'll it's part of the culture, we must tolerate, one must also exercise great due diligence here before putting down roots. Most subdivisions will not tolerate excessive noise after 10pm, apart from dogs as I can attest to. If one lives below the radar, to speak one should not run into problems, again our partners should attend to any burocracy. Apart from one occasion with an impossible jealous wealthy woman I have not had issues after 7 plus years. I am happy the OP has so far found what he requires and trust this continues, each to his own.
  23. 8 points
    I'm a half a century plus 19 this coming June. That photo of me was taken a couple years ago. Still look the same but more fuglier. Additionally, Judy asked me recently......what happen to your ass? Speaking of which, I need to be very careful whenever I let go of a "good one". It throws out my back from time to time.....he, he.
  24. 8 points
    This is the sad part, even really young children are taught to put their hands out and say "penge" And those who create a good life for themself are told they were lucky, or God likes you. Very few understand that most of the time it is wise decissions, hard work and dedication behind their prosperity.
  25. 8 points
    Ibo will turn six next week and is very excited, his Lolo (grandpa) is 86 and is feeling poorly and a little depressed these days. Translated: Ibo - Lolo, my birthday is coming and we will have cake. Lolo - I am not sure I will live long enough to see your birthday Ibo. Ibo - My birthday is March 1, can you die on March 2?
  26. 8 points
    Welcome to the forum :) A piece of advice from one rider to another if I may... Take it slowly at first, the traffic here will crush you (and I mean literally) if you ride like you're in a western country. Trucks coming towards you will pull out to overtake directly in your path, jeepneys will diverge into you, cars and tricycles will overtake and then merge back into a spot you're already occupying and it is all normal. The traffic here works... differently :)
  27. 8 points
    My wife did not want to move from Dalaguete,small town,to here she said she would have no friends.Well we moved here to Dumaguete and she soon realised that because of the visits we had made here over the years she did in fact know quite a few people.My daughter then started school and then my wife came into contact with the other mothers and she had more friends.So Steve you can rest assured Emma will make quite a few friends here in a short while.Eddie is correct in that he says your doubt about moving here seems to come mostly from your interaction with family ,you need to be far away from them and keep contact to a minimum. I moved here in September 2011 and it was one of the better decisions I have made in my life,is life perfect no, but for me it is near damn perfect. I think you need to sit down and work out exactly what it is you want, or I can see you wandering for the rest of your life. Steve,you need to make up your mind to make up your mind as I feel that you will drive yourself crazy with all this indecision. Whatever you do I wish you all the best and good luck.
  28. 8 points
    Just about there, time to enjoy it
  29. 8 points
    (Back on Topic) With My Final Thoughts: I gave up a very comfortable Expat life in the Phils, considering that I had a brand new car and nice apartment (with Aircon, Ref, Hot Water, large screen TV, Internet, and Cable). Leaving that settled life was not an easy choice for me to make, and I don’t recommend it for every Expat in the Phils. If truth be told, I struggled with making a decision to leave the Phils. If it was not for the future of my 2 year old son, step-daughter, and wife, I would have gladly stayed and rolled with all of the punches. However, now that I have left, I am happy that I made the move, and I am grateful to this forum for all of your advice and for all of your good wishes with my move away from the Phils.
  30. 7 points
    I would agree with hk blues. In any relationship, there are many questions to be asked. Add in long distance and large age gap, and there should be more questions in ones mind, unless you are a gullible old guy blinded by a young beauty. Logically, spending a lot of time together before marriage will answer the questions. A short engagement and quick marriage will likely leave many questions unanswered. That doesn't mean a large age gap relationship can't be a successful one. However, I would suspect that the more quality time put into the relationship before marriage will increase the odds of a successful relationship.
  31. 7 points
    Of course steve, we are in a peculiar situation at times and can get that extra bit of culture and female view on things, my life is an open book, I hide very little, only my European interests I keep to myself ( the Money side that is) she is a good sounding Block for many things and at times can relate more about us (Foreigners )by seeing how we talk/relate to each other and the many shared things we may have in common with each other As has been said it is mainly the Larger problems like Bigmac but in the main, Marriage is about sharing ones thoughts and to me, sharing stories can make for a happy life, even when our daughter is home she too learns a bit about Dads friends and that can be good for her better understanding of the foreigner
  32. 7 points
    My rough plan as of yesterday was ine more visit to davao , then retire in November. Three weeks ago I had my annual assesment at my job , and I felt that my poop must have smelled like roses it was such a high appraisal. I had two line managers carrying it out and the top one asked me my plans for the future and I mentioned November retirement. As I walked out the door after the polite hand shake I got asked , What will it take to change your mind? I replied offer me 60 days a year paid holiday and a decent pay rise I got the 60 day offer today lol and the promise of a substantial pay rise
  33. 7 points
    I have just 13 working days left, and what ever they may offer it will not be enough to stay, just my own thought.
  34. 7 points
    I feel like a teenager in the head, but sadly I look like a 65 year old. Fit as a fiddle, maybe because I keep fit by working in the garden and living in a 3 story house, I get to the top floor and forget what I'v come up for. lol
  35. 7 points
    Age is just a number but when the candles cost more than the cake, it's time to start to worry.
  36. 7 points
    That may explain why you see so many fat white girls with big noses on vacation in Moalboal. I found it surprising because we don't have a Walmart.
  37. 7 points
    Met up the Duma group last week and was a lot of fun. Great group and very friendly. I highly recommend anyone else from forum who can attend, should. Dumaguete is a nice smallish city, but has a great assortment of restos. I only stayed 2 nights (at a dive resort about 6-7km south of the city), but next time I’ll stay a bit a longer and explore what the city/island has to offer. Thanks guys for making me feel welcome!
  38. 7 points
    Wake 4:00AM arrive work 5:00AM. 20 minute easy drive through a somewhat rural area often see four legged wild life including rarely Elk. I'm the Forman of a medium sized machine shop in a large local company with about 25 machinist. We are a very small part of a huge building that manufactures and assembles aircraft parts. It's often a cross between an adult day care and kindergarten. I deal with in order QA team, NC programers, maintenance facility crew and several types of support Engineers every day. When things get really F'ed up I'll share that we should start a reality TV show there is no way you could make this stuff up. I typically work three weeks and take a weekend off. I am too darn old for this crap and am right behind Steve plan to retire soon. The political situation in the region we live (well south of Seattle Washington) is out of control. I will not detail this you guys would not believe how nuts it has become. If we had read this in a SiFi book in our youth we would say "thank God that could never happen". I was able to take off three days due to snow. We don't get snow here often and if we do it's only an inch or two then rains within a day or so. We got a foot of snow and has been very cold until yesterday.
  39. 7 points
    All I have to do is strike up a conversation with a pretty Filipina and my wife instantly appears.
  40. 7 points
    I'm a relative newbie in the Philippines being here just over two years and on a whole loving it. The hate parts sadly come from the locals attitude of not letting lies get in the way of a good story and their inability to take constructive criticism. In the last six months I've lost count of the amount of lies and rumours I've heard about others relationships from people passing on 2nd or 3rd hand information. They have no shame and when questioned on it they have the neck to be offended and say they are only passing news on. The other part that drives me crazy is the response from people when you offer constructive criticism of a project or how something is caried out over here could be improved. Rather than saying " Yes it frustrates " us and then giving a reason why it is never changed, they go on the back food and tell me to go back to my country. I was discussing this attitude with my partner today and lo and behold she came out with it also. It could be something like they'll dig up a road and have no traffic marshals or put a diversion in so they can repair it quickly. Traffic gets backed up and lots of horn blowing, people stranded etc. I point out the road has a loop so why not just close off that section and let people drive the other way to get to the same destination and she looks at me as if I'm stupid. With that said I then remind myself why I'm here in the first place. Bureaucracy, back stabbing and bitching, long working hours, snow, rain, dodgy politicians etc. I then do as I've done before I came here. I narrow down my friends list, ignore things I have no control over and enjoy the weather.
  41. 7 points
    When I first met my GF I tried to put her in charge of the budget, pay the bills, food, etc, so I could just lay in my hammock with a drink and play with the dogs. She didn't like it after a couple of months so I had to take over. Forward: almost 16 years later. SHE took over the finances and I'm happy as a clam laying in my hammock with a drink, playing with my dogs.
  42. 7 points
    Words just not really necessary but on the other hand, I do get a few jibes from Young ladies here that ask me why I have a middle aged wife and not a young one like so many foreigners damned if we do and damned if we don't but for me my wife is young and 18 years younger than me You just can't win either way
  43. 7 points
    This is something I have said for a while. Some guys say that all girls over here want to take a tumble for a few bucks and that is simply not true. Yes, there are hookers here, as there are in any country. Yes, there is poverty here, more than in many countries. But with 100 million people here - very few choose that lifestyle. The percentage is extremely low. You have a few touristy spots that attract them, and there is always going to be some students looking to supplement their college money. Overall they are not that common. Easy to find... but certainly not the norm.
  44. 7 points
    There has to be at least 100 reasons that a Westerner might be driven crazy in the Philippines and want to eventually repatriate. But the breaking point for the OP cracked me up. I can't recall getting any stink eye in the Philippines; in all likelihood I am too old to notice. The closest I have gotten is a few scumbag expats who leer at my wife. I will say that there are plenty of expats here whose behaviour is such that they might deserve a little stink eye, but again I rarely see it. Most people here are very friendly to me; whether there true attitude or a faked attitude I really don't care. But in the US? Stink eye galore. When the OP said something to the effect that because Americans are used to mixed marriages, we're not judgmental, I almost fell to the floor laughing. I've been married 3 times (not bragging, it's just reality) and none of the wives were white. I've seen and heard lots of nastiness. Now I will say that most people try hard but if you hang around them often enough you see the real attitude. I remember my manager (a good guy who liked my work) humorously (he thought) refer to me as Woody Allen, I assume because I had married a younger Asian woman, not because of pedophilia. My African American ex-wife was fired from her Afro-centric job because she had married a white guy; they didn't even try to hide the fact that that was why she was fired. Janet can tell you a dozen funny stories about attitudes of egalitarian Americans. Maybe a blog piece on the topic would be good. All this said, I wish the OP well in his repatriation. Enjoy what the US has to offer. But expect to see some stink eye and get some nasty comments.
  45. 7 points
    I don`t see how you can do anything else,I suppose when asked about the place you could be neutral and say well I didn`t like it but that was me maybe it will be different for you. I have been here nearly 8 years and still get WTF moments but I have learned that instead of getting angry you can ask the person serving you could I get some help with this as it`s important I do it now,that works sometimes. I was at the BI with a bad foot and needed another photocopy,the lady could see i was in pain walking so she did the photocopy there and saved me walking about 1/2 a mile. My friend has just visited( he has been all over SE Asia) and said how friendly and helpful the people are.He had a puncture on a rented MB and total strangers fixed it for him and did not want to take payment. He was down by the Marine sanctuary and walked along the beach,well he got lost and the locals gave him and his GF a lift to the main road and again did not want to accept payment. Yes there are a lot of things here to drive you crazy but for me the positive outweighs the negative.Learn to take deep breaths and chill life will then be much easier. OH did I mention the cheap beer and cute women.
  46. 6 points
    Finished off a new batch today. Easy to make.
  47. 6 points
    Steve, rent a place two islands from there and visit them only whenever you can’t avoid it. I am serious about that. Your life and savings account will be much happier.
  48. 6 points
    The concept and values of house and property 'ownership' are deeply embedded now in many Western countries. It wasn't such a widespread norm in places of very high land value and land shortage. Even so, people prefer to own over renting because it gives you a sense of security and lets you have greater control of the home you live in. It works well in countries that have a strong rule of law, protected individual property rights and the ability to buy and sell at will and fairly easily in the event you wish to convert your home investment back into usable wealth. As you know, the PI operates on a different set of principles that doesn't provide the same level of security and marketability that Westerners are used to in their home countries. For that reason, many ex-pats would rather rent here than put their life earnings at risk. The economics of renting vs. ownership situation is very, very different here. For many men of limited wealth, now living on limited pensions with little chance or desire to return to the work force it does not seem wise to risk your future financial well-being on ownership unless you can sustain a huge loss in the event that your relationship changes at some point. Many ex-pats are living with the Sword of Damocles dangling over their heads supported more by faith and hope in the continued love and loyalty of their spouse and her vested kin than in other countries. Nothing wrong with that, but your options that come with ownership are quite different here in the event of the need to reclaim your investment. I built and 'own', but rented for 7 years quite happily. I have greater comfort, but the costs are still higher than when I rented, and I doubt I will ever see my investment money ever again. I rented some very nice places for very little and was quite content with that, but my Filipina prefers ownership. No great surprise considering her viewpoint and advantages of such. I just live with the fact that I could lose it all like many fellows I know here did. Fortunately, I could take the hit since I have sole control of my pensions and my wife has no other source of income. So in our situation, we have a Mutually Assured Destruction scenario in the event of going to war with each other. We do have a solid life, relationship and future together, but if that is not the case for anyone, you can get incredible value for the renting lifestyle here in the PI as opposed to most Western economies.
  49. 6 points
    I don't know why but I think from the pics that you and her will do well together. Both of you look happy. Be patient with her transition. Most of the bigger cities have a Filipino type grocery store. Take her there if she starts to miss what she is used to eating. She might feel overwhelmed at first. Good luck.
  50. 6 points
    We went to Pulangbato falls the other week. Entrance 50p Tuna sandwich 80p Coffee 50p. The place was very clean and well run the water is freezing but refreshing.It`s up by the Red rock resort in Valencia.I recommend this for a nice day out watch yer bits lads they temporarily disappear.
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