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  1. Thanks to everyone who has contributed advice to my problem. I have to agree with the overall consensus that we should just settle up and move on. Fortunately we have a good British friend who lives in Eastland and we have asked him if he will contact the Manager and find out what is, or isn't possible. Like people have said speed is of the essence before they can screw us for even more. As I originally posted it's basically our own fault for taking our eye off the ball. If our friend can't help my wife will just have to go there and sort it out. I suppose I am mainly pi**ed off because th
  2. Thanks for the input,Pittman- including the 'cough, cough' which might not be advisable. You mention Philippine Legal Websites- could you point me to a good one? I really need to know if the Developer has the legal right to extort money in this way. (I do know that that is what lawyers the world over do most of the time.) Thanks. C.McG.
  3. Hi, and a Happy Xmas to the Forum. I've been occupied with many things for a few months and so have let posting on the forum slip. However, my wife and I have fallen into a Philippine 'Black Hole' situation which I'm sure has trapped many other people before who are living in subdivisions. In spite of many years experience with the Philippines I 'took my eye off the ball' and have suddenly woken up to a potentially enormous problem. I fully acknowledge that the situation I am going to describe is of my own making and that you could just say 'what an idiot,' but we are all humans and theref
  4. I don't want to seem to be too unsympathetic to your 'tale of woe', but to be honest your experiences remind me of the famous quotation of Oscar Wilde. To paraphrase he said... "To lose one parent may be unfortunate but to lose two is just careless!" Perhaps this could be modified to; "To lose one wife may be unfortunate- and to lose two could be careless- but to lose 3 is a reason for deep personal reflection about ones suitability for marriage. Chris McG.
  5. You seem to be assuming that your 'Elite' schools will normally adopt a different method of teaching which you call the 'Inquiry' technique. In an earlier post you define this approach as 'teaching students to think,' as opposed to a basic 'knowledge' based one which is mainly imparting information in a more formal way. I would not agree with this assumption which seems to imply that so called 'Elitist' schools are superior to those which the great majority of pupils have to go to because of the superior pedagogical approach of the former. I was sent to an Elite school in N. Ireland by my pare
  6. In Denmark it excist an excelent MIX of students lead discovery and adjusting to the national school plan, so they suit to switch to other schools between years.It's a small school idea, where they let 1-6 graders go together, the older assist the younger volontaringly. 1. A period starts with a teacher read a novel for the whole school. 2. Then the students tell what they got courious to learn. 3. The teachers chose between these ideas, which of them suit best to the national school plan. ONLY allowed to chose ampng ideas from the students. 4. The chosen ideas are adjusted to suit each a
  7. I discovered MY noise 'Achilles Heel' a few years ago in the UK. We had just moved into a new house in an estate and the construction company had installed alarms on all the houses. Ours was a box mounted high up on a wall- not easy to access. Not long afterwards I was in the middle of teaching a class at my school when a message was relayed to me saying that my wife had telephoned and that there was an emergency at home. Naturally I dropped everything and got a fellow teacher to cover my class. I drove home like crazy and as I neared our house I could hear an alarm blaring at full volume. My
  8. My wife suggests that the best answer to this problem is to find an area with frequent 'brownouts.' Spoilt for choice I suspect? :rolleyes: Chris McG.
  9. Forgive me if this topic has already been covered recently- I simply don't have time to read all the Archives. Most of the posts in the Culture section seem to be about us foreigners scratching our heads, wringing our hands and saying- "WHY DO THEY DO IT?" ('THEY' of course being Filipinos.) Given that it is obvious that our partners and friends in the Philippines do and say many things that we cannot easily comprehend- perhaps we should also accept that Philippine people also find 'US' incomprehensible, irritating or downright offensive at times :bash: because of the way we think and beh
  10. While there are many funny sides to noise in the Philippines and other countries it perhaps shouldn't be forgotten that the undoubted problem can. and does, cause multiple HEALTH issues. Also the TYPE OF NOISE is very important as some kinds of noise are far more intrusive to the human brain than others. We probably all know that if you live or work in a noisy factory type of environment you can actually adapt to that noise, and your brain filters it out after a time. But it is a scientifically proven fact that the noise of a 'crying baby', human or otherwise, cannot be ignored by most normal
  11. My God! - This is certainly a great topic. I went to bed in the UK last night at nearly midnight- woke up 6 hours later and there are 5 pages of posts! As far as living 3000 metres up a mountain is concerned I'm afraid there is NO ESCAPE from the dreaded noise. Our house in Leyte is located high up a mountain, and nearly one mile from the local Barangay. There is a deep valley between our nearest neighbours, who have a small nipa hut located on the other side of the valley. Blissful peace until they wake at 4.00 AM and turn on their music full volume. The air is crystal clear and pollutio
  12. I think you're 'spot on' there. Filipinos are definitely 'people centred' compared with most of us foreigners. My wife says that herself and it is very noticeable that everything automatically becomes focussed on people, family etc, rather than events or environments. They are also very prone to taking everything that is said as a personal comment directed at them. It is easy to dismiss this attitude as simple arrogance, and a misplaced sense of self importance, but I think it runs much deeper than that. I have often noticed how filipinos will start listening to what you are saying but will ju
  13. My Filipina wife has been on Facebook for a few years now. Along with millions of other filipinos she regularly posts pictures, galleries and information about our travels past and present. She tries very hard, and I think successfully, to edit all her pictures to make them interesting- not just showing people posing but backgrounds and notable locations also. Recently she decided to post photos of our years living in the little rural barrio in Leyte where we have a house and land. She displayed pictures showing the simple but interesting way of life for the people there. Now! - here is the in
  14. I think I'm qualified to join the ranks of crazy/stupid/brave/foolish (take your pick) people who were actually taught the correct way to drive,did exhaustive tests to prove they could, and then thought they could drive in Cebu. I started driving on a motorbike some 10 years ago in Cebu and did 2 years of city -********(i'm struggling to find a suitable word other than 'driving')- perhaps, survivalistic utter disregard for the safety of others, their rights not to risk death every minute they've the temerity to be on MY road, and I'm bloody well going to do what I want and the Hell with you- w
  15. I'm not so sure about that! Think of it from your own point of view. Personally speaking if a young woman told me a bunch of lies, which I believed, for whatever reason, and later came up and said- "Oh- don't worry about what I told you. I was lying, but for a good reason. Now I'm really telling the truth." Frankly it's going to take a lot for me to believe her now that she has admitted to not telling the truth. I think I would quickly move on. Chris McG.
  16. A very interesting Post Topic Bruce. I agree with most of your reasoning and advice which is designed to assist those 'entering' the 'Relationship Minefield.' If I may, however, I would like to extend and broaden the topic a little. I think that there are variants of the 'downsizing' lie. There is the type of lie that you are describing where you downsize the extent of your assets etc. for self protection but there is also the type of lie where you downsize the amount of information you decide to share with another person- either to protect that person from being hurt or to deliberately dece
  17. Hi! - I'm a newbie here- just trying to learn the ropes and not ruffle too many feathers.( There's those damn roosters again) I really feel for you with all the loneliness associated with separation from your wife and family. The longest I've been separated from my wife and son is a few weeks- and that was TOO LONG. I've often wondered if the millions of Filipino OFW's felt the same way as I would with family separation. You've really made it clear that you do. Good luck!- "Illegitimas non carborundum." (Don't let the bastards grind you down!) Chris McG.
  18. relcarve25

    Blessing In Disguise

    Jake- like the tennis blog. It's not one of my games as I was/am mainly into running. 'Loneliness of the long distance runner' for me. I just love jogging up and down the Dales in Yorkshire- wind blowing the stress out of my system and trying to think nice thoughts about all the 'sods' I've met. Mind you, at 69 now my joints are complaining a bit after being pounded for 60 years and God knows how many thousands of miles. I can't play tennis for toffee but I'm not bad at 'Table Tennis.' I discovered that I have very quick reflexes and a most unorthodox style of playing. It amuses me when I
  19. Glad to hear about this greatly enlarged concept. You are certainly correct as to the increasing need for the 'baby boomer' population to be catered for and any way that this can be done by using a large surplus of labour from countries like the Philippines- if this is done in a well regulated way so as to ensure that the 'carers' are given the same rights and protection as those that they care for- will be a great boon to all concerned. The 'SHAME' is that in countries like the UK we are not prepared to try to care for our own as too many consider this to be a 'demeaning' job. Chris McG.
  20. As a newly married couple, my wife and I lived with my parents in a family compound located in Pasay City. We had separate living quarters, which gave us some privacy. As was the custom then, lunch and dinner were with the rest of the family around a huge round table with a lazy susan. The household staff numbered 15 and my wife, an American of Japanese ancestry, quickly observed that the system was very inefficient. She commented to my father that a few modern appliances could reduce the staff by one half. For example, the floors were mahogany requiring someone to continually polish using coc
  21. Well!- That disclosure of yours certainly elevated the subject of 'Yaya' to a whole different level. As of course you realise the original topic that I posted was primarily to deal with the broad concept of Yaya as it is used in present day Philippine society. The abused women that I commented about clearly did not belong to the servants of the 'super rich' class of society.(The children in their charge would certainly not have been sent to the same school as I could afford to send my son to.) I would submit that the term 'yaya', in everyday parlance today, has been hijacked by the poor and lo
  22. JeSsDaDdY said; Excellent post and observation. It's so funny that you mention this. I have seen this a few times with my own relatives. This usually happens when there is SLIGHTEST, HINT, PROSPECT or CHANCE of a pipe-dream business becoming a reality - at least in the mind of the poor relative. For example, cousin Jun2x approaches me and asks if I am interested in financing his latest business scheme that will make us both uber rich. Of course, the Filipino part of me does not want to tell him that's an idiotic idea and that no way in Hades would i invest 10 pesos in it or that I know any
  23. What a great lot of perspectives on the 'YaYa' concept.I have learned a lot.From Jake's 'Aristocratic Bitch' employer to JeSsDaDdY's fantastic set of advice for us all.-with lots of other unique observations in between. I know that several people have argued very forcibly for the positive benefits for a child in having a 'good' YaYa- and I certainly can't disagree with them- but another side of the coin is that there is no real substitute for the child's true mother. If a YaYa is being employed for the role of 'mother substitute' I feel there will be multiple problems. One of the most promine
  24. I hope you'll forgive me if I ramble a bit (honest- it's not senility creeping up.) I grew up in a comfortable middle class environment in Belfast, in the 1940's. At that time it was common for those who could afford it to employ a househelp/Nanny from the South of Ireland, and I remember two such ladies who assisted my mother They both 'lived-in' and as far as I know were paid the going rate for the job. My parents were good people and treated their worker's well- they even saved one Nanny's life when she contracted TB- almost a death sentence in those days- by paying for private treatment fo
  25. Markham said: - Yep! In my case however, it wasn't Filipinos who ripped me off, it was an American builder who decided to steal over Php100,000 worth of building materials for his own use. The idiot was observed loading my materials on to his truck which he then used to build probably the nicest Sari-Sari store in southern Mindanao which he and his wife now run. He denied it all at first but when he realised that we had 3 eye-witnesses, he finally admitted to the theft. I also discovered that a shipment of around Php55,000-worth of quality plumbing and electrical fittings that we paid him to s
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