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  1. I'm a bit surprised at the negative reactions to my post. Well, yes, 'ugly' is a nasty word, but I hear people here using the expression 'ugly face'. Let's say 'not so beautiful' (NSB). People who are NSB, especially girls, are one of the most discriminated groups in society, but this is rarely talked about. There isn't even a politically correct word for it, like 'behaviourally challenged' or 'mentally challenged' - 'appearance-ly challenged'?? This is something men don't think about a lot, but NSB girls certainly do. Of course beauty isn't everything (S is overweight, but I still love her), but let's face it, it's far more difficult for an NSB girl to get a job where she meets the public and find a boyfriend. Hats off to Susan Boyle - we need more like you!
  2. Yes, I have the same problem, even though my hearing's good enough for normal conversation. But there's one group of people who are very happy to have all this stuff on their faces - Filipinas with ugly faces! Now they can walk around town without anyone seeing the difference between them and the beautiful majority!
  3. First, welcome to the forum! How boring (or not) it is for the Filipina who moves to a Western country will depend on many things, but at least the wives of most of the members here don't have a serious language problem. S knows someone who married a Pole and went to live somewhere in Poland. The girl posts smiling pictures on Facebook of herself in the snow, or in front of some historic building or whatever, so everything looks "just fine". I say to S, "What if she lives in a town where there are no other Filipinas?" "Polish is a very difficult language", etc. and S says, "She has a job, so she can send her own money back to her family". So there we have it. Maybe the girl really is very happy, maybe she's very sad and bored, or something in between. But I'm sure she would be far happier in an English-speaking country in a town with a number of other Filipinas and Asian food shops.
  4. OK, here's a picture for those who like puppies and wouldn't throw them in the basura, which S tells me some Filipinos do. No doubt some Westerners too They're mostly black, whereas her "husband" (our male dog) is brown. But the neighbours' dog is black... hmmm... In the human world, I think the wife would have some explaining to do, but in the canine world, I don't suppose her "husband" will care about the colour when he sees them
  5. Yes, I think you realised I was talking about a Filipino man 50+ living here in his extended family, I was not suggesting that a lonely Western man 50+ should come here and cuddle other people's children!!
  6. Yes, I noticed a number of 30+, probably unattached, Filipina nurses when I was in hospital in Saudi Arabia. If you're single, you may well stay for a long time to help your family, and then you remain a virgin until your 40s. Whereas if you're a single mother with 3 children, you might leave them with grandmother for a couple of years while you went to Dubai or wherever, but not for 20 years!
  7. Interesting point. There didn't seem to be so many lonely men 50+ in Norway. I think a man of 55 in Norway could quite easily find a woman of 35, which he might prefer, leaving the 55-year-old women on the shelf. But if the man didn't find a partner, yes, I think life would be easier in the Philippines. There is more physical contact between men here, and if he liked cuddling babies and children, there would no doubt be plenty available in the extended family.
  8. On second thoughts, maybe you'd better wait a bit, as you might get mauled by the mother if you try to collect your puppy today... So we have a happy event x 5, especially nice since something went wrong the first time she got pregnant - we found the placenta outdoors, but no puppies. This time we made sure she gave birth indoors. Here in the countryside dogs have a pretty good life, but that wasn't the case for most of them in the compound we lived in in Lapu-Lapu. Some were permanently in small cages, and most of the ones that weren't got far too little exercise
  9. If I lived here by myself, I'd never put on a fan or AC (ground level). But as we all know, Filipinas love fans and AC, so it's fair enough to compromise. The AC is over S's side of the bed, usually at 24 degrees. If she lived here by herself, she'd probably have it at 18 degrees! Funny how you get used to higher temperatures. Last year in Lapu-Lapu there were some early mornings when it was about 26 and a bit windy, and I felt "cold" and put on a jacket. Can't imagine needing a jacket if it was 26 in the UK - people would think I was crazy!
  10. I don't know what the weather's been like recently in your corner of the Philippines, but here in Cebu Province we've had what I call really nice weather for the past 2-3 weeks. This is not the same as "nice weather" in Northern Europe - my ideal weather here is cloudy, dry and a nice wind (about force 5). Well, it hasn't been so windy every day, but just the fact that it's mostly cloudy means you can go for a walk in the countryside at any time of day. Which I miss when it's blazing sunshine and 34 degrees - I'm sure I could go for a long walk at midday without collapsing, after years in Saudi Arabia, but I don't particularly want to! Life is always good in the Philippines, but especially in weather like this!
  11. Presumably you didn't get a reply. Has this been clarified elsewhere on the forum? Just curiosity, really, as I still have almost two years left myself.
  12. When I lived in Norway (but it could have been almost any Western country), I was struck by the number of women 50+ living alone and obviously very lonely. I felt sorry for them, as I knew some of them personally. I think it must be much easier to be an unattached woman 50+ in the Philippines! The Western woman will have 0-2 children and grandchildren, who may live hundreds of km away, whereas the Filipina will have 2-4 children, some of whom most likely live nearby in the extended family situation. Even in the unlikely event that all her children and grandchildren have gone to Manila, there will still be plenty of little ones around to cuddle. The Western woman will sleep alone, whereas the Filipina will almost certainly sleep with other female members of the extended family and/or their children. Basically, the Western woman will have very little physical contact and often no little ones to love and who will give her affection on a regular basis, whereas the Filipina will have plenty. So maybe it's not surprising that some very lonely Western women 50+ go to places like Jamaica, where the young man will tell them how beautiful they are, how much he loves them, etc. As Johnny Winter puts it, "She know what she want, but she don't know what she need". What the Western woman needs is probably not primarily sex, but physical contact, someone (e.g. a little child) to love and be loved by, and the feeling of being part of, and with, a big family. Which the 50+ Filipina will usually have
  13. Yes, I would agree about the power aspect. I'm also wondering whether it's now (like so many other things) politically incorrect to say that you don't disapprove of relationships between older men and much younger women. Around the year 1972, before political correctness, I read in a Norwegian women's magazine about a relationship between an 80-year-old man and a single mother (probably about 26-27) with three very young children. Both man and woman were Norwegians. Highly unusual, which is presumably why I still remember it after almost 50 years. Anyway, the point is that the woman said she was very happy in the relationship, but that her friends disapproved "because he'll die long before you". Then there was a comment by an expert of some kind, presumably a psychologist or marriage counsellor, which was entirely positive towards the relationship: "Who knows when any of us is going to die?" I remember she said. Maybe I'm wrong, but I doubt whether the expert today, almost 50 years on, would have been so positive. Or if she had been, whether the editor would have asked her to at least add some negative points. And I expect the expert today would have brought up the possibility that the man might have an abnormal interest in the children, which was not mentioned back then.
  14. Just come back from Borussia, family outing for a birthday, 16 of us aged 1 to 75. It's especially nice to go there now, because you can just forget about Covid-19 for an hour or two - the staff don't wear masks or expect you to, and family members and friends don't have to sit one seat apart. Playground for children, and a swimming pool (though closed now because of Covid-19). Otherwise, I agree with the old posts on this, except the location - it's just north of Catmon. Hope people in the Cebu City/Mandaue/Consolacion area can, or will soon be able to, travel to Borussia!
  15. Hmm... no replies here. Maybe nobody's interested in this phenomenon. Well, just wait a couple of years, and it may be coming to a beach near you! About 20 years ago, I used to sometimes read in the papers in Norway about these middle-aged and older women who went to Gambia for sex, so I just thought I'd look up some more recent information. It seems it has expanded a lot - they now go to a wide variety of places, including Pattaya, Phuket and Bali. Philippines next on the list?
  16. There are quite a number of middle-aged Scandinavian women who go to Gambia and other countries for sex with young, virile men/boys. I wonder if the women who disapprove of us disapprove of these women just as much?
  17. I suppose the BI "knows" how many female expats there are here at any one time, in proportion to total expats, just like they "know" how many expats there are from a particular country. But I don't know if they compile or publish any statistics on such things...
  18. Well, that's good to hear. I suspect there are more female expats than most of us notice, but still definitely a small minority. Reasons why they're not here: 1. Many are working and therefore have much less time for this or any other forum than retired male expats. 2. Some will be put off by the fact that there seem to be no other females here. 3. Like it or not, many Western women disapprove of relationships between Western men and much younger Asian girls. But yes, it is a pity - they could for example make some interesting contributions to "The Filipina", where our opinions are mostly based on our wives/partners, whereas they, if they were working on a social project in the slums, would base their opinions on Filipina social workers and Filipina aid recipients.
  19. I'm not an economist, but I've noticed how developing countries often try to tie their currency to one or a basket of stronger currencies. EUR has been doing well against USD recently, and if PHP is partly following EUR, that's why it's improved a bit against USD. Sometimes the developing country realises this is unsustainable and you get a sudden devaluation. Maybe it will happen here, maybe it won't.
  20. Fortunately, S wasn't looking over my shoulder as I wrote the title - it could be misunderstood I did a quick search for "female members" and found a few references from about six years ago, but I haven't noticed any female contributors here these days. I suppose there have been one or two filipinas posting here hoping to find a husband, but I mean female expats. You don't see that many in Cebu province compared to male expats - I'd probably see more if I lived near the slums of Manila, as there are no doubt plenty doing voluntary or paid work among the poor. Then, apart from work, there are retired couples from Western countries. I suppose many female expats who looked at the forum would consider it a kind of "men's club", and of course some would disapprove of older men with younger Filipina wives or girlfriends. I don't know whether the regular posters prefer to keep it as a "men's club" or whether they would like to attract more women, if possible
  21. Keep your money in USD or EUR, folks. I remember a bloke with a Thai wife who thought he was clever putting his money in a Thai bank in Thai baht where he got a much higher interest rate than in Europe. Then suddenly one day the baht was devalued by a much larger percentage than his interest rate, so he didn't feel so clever any more
  22. Just had a look at Worldometer for Sweden, Norway and Denmark (I don't look at it very often in case I become terminally depressed ). Even though Sweden has made a big improvement, they still have more recent cases and recent deaths than Norway and Denmark, in relation to population size. Then people will raise the old argument about more suicides, mental health problems, domestic violence in the stricter countries. But unless 5% of the Norwegian population had tied a rock to their legs and jumped in the nearest fjord, which they haven't, it's impossible to prove or disprove that argument. So don't bother trying, folks, let's just wait for the vaccine . I see the Russians seem to be ahead on that one, but I shall refrain from starting a thread called "Hats off to Russia"...
  23. There was no wind at all, but they are harvesting them at this time, which presumably means they're more likely to fall down by themselves. I think I'll take it as an omen - not sure if I believe in omens, but there's no point in tempting fate, when there are other places to walk without coconut trees. Anyway, this is not a good time to get even a minor injury, if it means you have to go to hospital where both patients and clinicians may have Covid-19. I suppose it's a bit like other slight risks we take in life. Like if I'd been happily riding a motorbike (sensibly) along a short stretch of road with little traffic for a year, and nothing had happened. Then suddenly because of some maniac on the road, I'm only one second away from serious injury or death. So then you start thinking a lot...
  24. Not I, I thought, having spent an average of about 40-50 minutes a day for a year walking in the coconut groves behind our house, and only having ever heard one coconut fall, about 20 metres away. There are about 150-200 trees, by the way. But then this morning - plop! One fell down just one metre in front of me! Even though the chances of being hit were no doubt equally minute before and after that event, being human, I completed my walk in an area without coconut trees. Safely back home, I searched for "killed by falling coconuts", and it seems that most people who are hit get (often serious) injuries, but don't normally die. But the chances of getting hit are very small, which fits in with my experience of only ever having heard one (now two!) coconuts fall in about 300 or so hours of walking. But having one of those heavy things plop down from a great height only one metre in front of you makes you think... Anybody known anyone who's been hit by a falling coconut? Do you happily walk under coconut trees, or avoid them if possible?
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