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A frequent behavior among Filipinas is to give "the silent treatment" to a partner who has offended or disappointed. Usually even the cause of the misadventure is unspoken, as if the perpetrator should know what he has done without being told. This is seen as counterproductive in Western culture because you can't fix it if you don't talk about it. My Sweetie used to do that and then complain to others that "he won't talk about it." Patient explanation and counseling with a non-Filipino Priest improved the situation. Today I saw an enlightened article in The Atlantic on the silent treatment. You will find it; XXXX You should read the whole article. Here's a teaser: "But when someone is using the silent treatment to exclude, punish, or control, the victim should tell the perpetrator that they wish to resolve the issue. To “voice the pain of being ignored” is a constructive way of expressing one’s feelings, and may elicit a change if the relationship is truly founded on care, Margaret Clark, a psychology professor at Yale, told me in an email. Although a victim of ostracism should certainly apologize if they’ve done something hurtful, Fishel said, “it’s time to call a couple’s therapist” if your spouse uses the silent treatment tactically and often. “One of the worst feelings in an intimate relationship is to feel ignored,” she said. “It often feels better to engage in a conflict than to feel shut out completely.” If the perpetrator still refuses to acknowledge the victim’s existence for long periods of time, it might be right to leave the relationship. In the end, whether it lasts four hours or four decades, the silent treatment says more about the person doing it than it does about the person receiving it."
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Have you or your family has/had strange illness's such as skin conditions, upset stomachs, virus in the blood requiring antibiotics? I had a strange abscess on my neck that grew to the size of a half apple on the neck. No insect bite, no perforations of the skin. Even the doctors were puzzled. Had to go to hospital for 4 days to drain, scrape out abscess, antibiotic drip. Started to investigate around to find the source. We drink only bottled water, but house water comes from the local district. The water source is n artesian source near the mountains. Since we take showers with that water. I did a test and found a high bacterial count in the water. Don't know if the problem is with the water or in the pipes. They use steel pipe at the house. I noticed a black mold in the toilet growing. Pulled off the shower head and it also had a black mold/algae on the inside. I suspect all the pipes have this mold/algae inside. Started pricing of a whole house filter that might contain mold/algue. Found at Ace, have large sand tank that filters out most objects with automatic back wash. That is connected to an external tube that contains large tube UV that kills bacteria. The whole setup will run over $1000. Anybody else using a water treatment for the whole house?