Disparaging Comments & Flat Out Rudeness In Manila

[Jollygoodfellow]

It appears to me that peoples personality's which also includes how they interpreted what is said by others plus the fact that we all have a different view in things can cause trouble. Sometimes its best to re read before commenting on anything someone else said, look at it by all angles rather than down a straight path and then come to a conclusion of what is being said by others. Life is not black and white except in ones own world.

[BrettGC]

JGF, I think you've had the same avatar for more than 3 weeks now... you feeling ok?

[Jack Peterson]

t appears to me that peoples personality's which also includes how they interpreted what is said by others plus the fact that we all have a different view in things can cause trouble.

 

When I was in service, we had a Padre who, was the coolest man I have ever come across,  he once told us, in a seminar on Death and and its consequences on Family and Friends. That  Xmas is allegedly the happiest season of the year BUT​ the following 3 months can be a total Anti-climax  and frustrating period for various reasons

He went on to say that, many arguments start and marriage break ups happen during the first 3 months of the new year. whether this is true or not I am not sure, but i have to agree to an extent, my frustration was always worrying, how do I pay for what we have just enjoyed over Xmas, so money, was always an issue, to the kids, I was just a bad tempered old Git, after Xmas.

 

 

Just lately, and if i can just say, again, we seem to have a couple of members that  seem to have fallen into this 3 month gap. Having a pop, at the Boss is Not! the way Forward. Neither is posting ,without reading the whole Topic, This is where we get the Chinese whispers coming in and things get out of proportion. SO! Come on gang  :grouphugg: group hug time, don't let things get out of hand and make JGF issue anymore warnings of Closure.

 

 

:508:  sorry if I am out of order but it is the way I see things,

We have one of the best forums around the PI,  please, don't let us direct it, to the way a lot of the others end up. Tom deserves better than this.

 

 

He has asked, and for me done it the right way, Stick to the rules, Stay on subject, and if I can make so bold, if you need to Digress a little, at least let it be within the subject matter

 

sorry boss but sometimes my emotions get carried away. :SugarwareZ-034:

Maybe i should take a rest now. As this is most definatley :444:

 

 

Jack P. :tiphat:

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Call me bubba]

Topic Under Special Surveillance

 

 

a few years ago when my child was 5yo (about 5yr ago now I guees)

I had moved and the mother had not yet returned to the house. we had a housegirl/yaya

 she was not the type  wears nor do I encourage the "uniform" that some house keepers wear.

 Well , the "gossip" was that I was her bf.she was my gf. that my child was hers(altho she was 18/19 yo at the time)

 after she "wore" the clothing about 2(?) times, and I/my child (spoke)talked  w/some of the gossip queens,

 The "remarks" ended at least that we could hear.

[Americano]

Such cute looking officers.  I knew we had nice people patrolling this forum.

 

Only the lowest class of people with little or no morals and maybe criminally minded have made rude comments to me and my wife so its best to just ignore them as we try to do.  Their ignorance means they will never raise to a higher level than they are now so why waist your time on them.

[Julia]

I've been to too many countries and cities to count over the years. And the one thing I found constant - Someone who is identifiable as an outsider / tourist / from another city farther away is always the center of attention and the subject of rude comments. The bigger the city, the more you will observe this.

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[gapotwo]

 

I've been to too many countries and cities to count over the years. And the one thing I found constant - Someone who is identifiable as an outsider / tourist / from another city farther away is always the center of attention and the subject of rude comments. The bigger the city, the more you will observe this.

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When im wheelin around town, i get the same stares and comments. on occation a point and a laugh. when im with my Mayordoma, she gets asked if im her husband. She tells them , no im just keeping him  around for sex.  i just keep hush and listen to all the questions they have. and the games she plays with them.  she deserves a raise sometimes for keeping the good humor .  and im a native born Philippino. trapped in this Irish American body. go figgure......tanks  EJ> :thumbsup: 

[Papa Carl]

Ellie and I have been together almost 7 years now and I don't notice it as much anymore. I am guilty of staring, ( I won't mention what I was thinking) when I saw an older white man with a young Filipina in an SM in Manila, and admit that I even said to Ellie, "I wonder if that is what people think when they see us together?"

 

I am 32 years older than my wife!

 

I am older than both of her parents.

 

My wife is younger than both my children from my first marriage.

 

My children from my first marriage of children older than my daughter!!!

 

So I have grandchildren older than my daughter?

 

 

We have not been to Canada or the UK together, however she did come and visit me in Malaysia often, and she was mistaken for a Malaysian many times,  people did stare at times, but neither of us ever heard any comments.

 

I found it much worse in Manila, than I do here in Angeles, but I guess that is because there are almost as many "foreigners" here as there are Filipinos, (and possibly because of the multitude of "Bars" here, so people are just used to seeing young Filipinas with older foreigners..

 

It has only bothered me, when it has bothered Ellie, which might have been more when we were first together, but not so much now.

 

She says it does not bother her at all, but I see something different in her eyes, then what comes out of her mouth.

 

My fear is for my daughter, as she definitely looks more like her Mum than me. So when she is older and in school, she may hear comments, or have to answer questions that will make her think potentially negative things about her parents.

 

But such is life, and we will deal with it when it happens, or... not if it does not happen.

 

Papa Carl

[OnMyWay]

I am guilty of staring, ( I won't mention what I was thinking) when I saw an older white man with a young Filipina

 

Good point.  I would be willing to bet all of us expats are all guilty of this to a certain extent.  Even in high expat concentration areas, seeing a non-Filipino naturally gets our attention.  Then you see who he / she is with and wonder about it.  For example, today in SBFZ Harbor Point mall I saw an older Caucasian woman walking and talking (rather loudly) with a young Filipina sales girl from one of the stores.  (No Jake, nothing like that!).  It drew my attention because it was unusual, so I wondered who she was and what was going on.

 

Now, it doesn't help that my girls draw my attention to foreigners too.  Back down in Laguna, every time they saw a Caucasian male, they would say jokingly, "Look, there is your twin brother!"   :hystery:

 

Since we moved to Subic, that has died down since there are too many twin brothers to talk about!

[Thomas]

When im wheelin around town, i get the same stares and comments. on occation a point and a laugh. when im with my Mayordoma, she gets asked if im her husband. She tells them , no im just keeping him  around for sex.  i just keep hush and listen to all the questions they have. and the games she plays with them.  she deserves a raise sometimes for keeping the good humor .  and im a native born Philippino. trapped in this Irish American body. go figgure......

But if you wheel around volontaringly, you don't behave as a Filipino, they think we are crazy when we wheel/walk around for exersise   :lol:

I found it much worse in Manila, than I do here in Angeles, but I guess that is because there are almost as many "foreigners" here as there are Filipinos, (and possibly because of the multitude of "Bars" here, so people are just used to seeing young Filipinas with older foreigners..

 

It has only bothered me, when it has bothered Ellie, which might have been more when we were first together, but not so much now.

 

She says it does not bother her at all, but I see something different in her eyes, then what comes out of her mouth.

 

My fear is for my daughter, as she definitely looks more like her Mum than me. So when she is older and in school, she may hear comments, or have to answer questions that will make her think potentially negative things about her parents.

 

But such is life, and we will deal with it when it happens, or... not if it does not happen.

 

Papa Carl

Well. Yes, more common in Angeles,

BUT I suppose bader asumtions for your wife's and kids reputation in Angeles,

so I suppose better for them if you live together somewhere else.

 

Yes, Asian genes dominates over western genes concerning main looks as eyes and hair color. Even 1/4 Asians look more Asian than white.  (Perhaps you have seen the American 6-lings, who have a white mother and a half Asian-white father?)

Edited June 17, 2013 by Thomas