paul Posted October 19, 2008 Posted October 19, 2008 There is only one time I don't think I would want her walking behind me... when she is mad. :36_1_50[1]: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cagayanstar Posted October 21, 2008 Posted October 21, 2008 ...i dont like walking behind really,it will make me look like a nanny..ew!I always prefer it holding hands or arm over my shoulder or my hips. :welcome: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
johnrxx99 Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 So it isn't just me! However slowly I walk Mel always seems to be behind. It's even worse when the high heels go on.One expects it in Muslim countries as the men do not want the women alongside them it seems but I was surprised with the same here. Mel says it's because I walk too fast but suspect it is the observation tactic, Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhilIsles Posted October 22, 2008 Posted October 22, 2008 I've been married to my husband for 12 years now and sometimes I still lag behind my husband. I atttibute it to physiology not culture. Men has longer strides even if they walk slowly. We like to hold hands when walking together, that slows him down and make me walk faster. It does get worse when I'm wearing high heels, but then he is okey with with, because as he put it, I walked and look sexy. Every now and then I just let him walk ahead of me telling him I like the view, but he does not like, it make him self concious 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr Lee Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 I've been married to my husband for 12 years now and sometimes I still lag behind my husband. I atttibute it to physiology not culture. Men has longer strides even if they walk slowly. We like to hold hands when walking together, that slows him down and make me walk faster. It does get worse when I'm wearing high heels, but then he is okey with with, because as he put it, I walked and look sexy. Every now and then I just let him walk ahead of me telling him I like the view, but he does not like, it make him self conciousHi welcome to the forum. Could you maybe introduce yourself in the intro section and tell us a little about yourself so we can better understand your posts. I like your idea of walking behind, but I prefer my wife to walk ahead so I can look at hers and besides, I am sure that has to be much better than her looking at mine. :SugarwareZ-037: Are you a Filipina? Do you live in PI or in another country? Fill us in when you have time. Thanks, Lee Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sampaguita Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 I've been married to my husband for 12 years now and sometimes I still lag behind my husband. I atttibute it to physiology not culture. Men has longer strides even if they walk slowly. We like to hold hands when walking together, that slows him down and make me walk faster. It does get worse when I'm wearing high heels, but then he is okey with with, because as he put it, I walked and look sexy. Every now and then I just let him walk ahead of me telling him I like the view, but he does not like, it make him self conciousHi PhilIsles, I am Mr. Lee's wife and we have been married over 14 years now & know each other over 17 years and we live both in Cebu and Florida USA. I used to have trouble keeping up with Lee but he is slowing down a little and I am speeding up a bit :13_4_10[1]: and I keep him close by my side, especially in the Philippines. :thumbsup: 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
broden Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 sometimes when we want to run to a store just for a few quick things we walk to a nearby kroger supermarket ... it's up the block from us and across and large field ..now being as we are wanting to rush .. especially on the way back home ... that's the main time my wife ends up walking behind ... cause there i am with whatever bags we have just wanting to get home .. but i end up walk .. loo back stop wait .. walk look back stop wait .. :13_4_10[1]: .. and my wife has her own pattern ... lag behind .. see me waiting .. tell me to just go ahead .. catch up .. lather rinse repeat Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheMason Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 My wife says she used to walk behind me because she didn't want people thinking she was a hooker out with the white guy. She's gotten over that now, but it was a problem at first. Women get enormous amounts of grief from other Filipinos for being with a white guy. If they don't know you, they assume she's a prostitute. If they do know you, their assumptions are only slightly more charitable. This is especially true of many Filipino men.She stopped walking behind me when I told her that if she was embarassed to be seen with me that maybe she shouldn't get involved with a foreigner. I don't think she viewed what she was doing as a comment on how she felt about me, but I viewed it that way. Once I pointed out I thought it was disrespectful, she stopped doing it.Everyone talks about foreigners needing to adjust to Filipino ways, but we tend to overlook the adjustment period our wives go through. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tom_shor Posted December 11, 2008 Posted December 11, 2008 (edited) My wife says she used to walk behind me because she didn't want people thinking she was a hooker out with the white guy. She's gotten over that now, but it was a problem at first. Women get enormous amounts of grief from other Filipinos for being with a white guy. If they don't know you, they assume she's a prostitute. If they do know you, their assumptions are only slightly more charitable. This is especially true of many Filipino men.She stopped walking behind me when I told her that if she was embarassed to be seen with me that maybe she shouldn't get involved with a foreigner. I don't think she viewed what she was doing as a comment on how she felt about me, but I viewed it that way. Once I pointed out I thought it was disrespectful, she stopped doing it.Everyone talks about foreigners needing to adjust to Filipino ways, but we tend to overlook the adjustment period our wives go through.A guy made the mistake of saying that to a girl I was on a bus with once (she wasn't) and she almost stuck a knife through his nose and gave him a thourough dressing down. He didn't say another word and got off the bus shortly after. The look on his face was priceless. He was pretty sure she was really going to stick him. I was thinking she might too. She was quite angry.Any time there is an intercultural relationship there will be adjustments to be made by both people. How much depends on the people. I have noticed a number of filipinos seem to have that attitude. It doesn't stop them from accepting the money sent home from such relationships though. Edited December 11, 2008 by tom_shor Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mugs Posted January 10, 2012 Posted January 10, 2012 Don't walk ahead of me,I might not follow;Don't walk behind me,I might not lead;Walk beside me and be my friend! of course,I always prefer it holding hands. i like that. :7_4_17[1]: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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