Jack Peterson Posted January 25, 2015 Posted January 25, 2015 Maybe we are hitting you a little hard here but most of us have come up against this or similar things over the years. You may like to ask yourself. If it had been your Father (and I don't wish to be or sound Disrespectful Here) The Boot now being on the Other Foot, You had paid for the costs you mention, Now After 9 years you go to your family and say hey, When are you going to repay my spending. I wonder what your family would say? Especially any new or newer than 9 years In-Laws Another Little Question about the Sister if I may, is she there on her own as an OFW or is she married to an Australian? Just a Little back ground for very inquiring Mind my friend As DH said it is a matter of Conscience but whose Conscience should it be On? JP :tiphat: 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Tukaram (Tim) Posted January 25, 2015 Popular Post Posted January 25, 2015 The only way they could have 'promised' payment would be along the lines of "if I marry a foreigner - or win the lottery - I will pay you my share". There is no way I would assume a debt like that from my wife's family. Kind of like when I showed up it was magically time to move her brother's remains from the public section of the cemetery to the private section. They said it cost p5,000. I told them since there were 5 siblings, and each works we can pay p1,000 each.(or has a spouse that works, 3 are OFW's). ...all interest in moving his remains evaporated... :tiphat: 8 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Forum Support Old55 Posted January 25, 2015 Forum Support Posted January 25, 2015 My wife has been here for 3 years and it has only been a recent issue. I know her aunt has lots of depts but that's not our problem right??? Who's debts? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Kuya John Posted January 25, 2015 Popular Post Posted January 25, 2015 (edited) A few familiar stories being cast around here Hesalright Let your conscience be your guide comes to mind. If out of the goodness of her heart, the wifes Aunty helped financially when needed, maybe the siblings could attempt to reciprocate at least some of that kindness at her time of need. You are not telling us who mentioned the word debt, correct me if I am wrong. Just my thoughts on the matter....JB Edited January 25, 2015 by Kuya John 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Methersgate Posted January 25, 2015 Posted January 25, 2015 It may be "debt" meaning "obligation" (utang). 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lou49 Posted January 25, 2015 Posted January 25, 2015 If this is a legitimate debt and your wife has six sibs then your wife's share should be one seventh. But watch for fraud.. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sonjack2847 Posted January 25, 2015 Posted January 25, 2015 It may well be expected but it was HER Brother as much as it was Yours wife's Father. Exactly the sister is closer biologically than the daughter sounds to me the repayment is wanted now a foreigner is involved. Equal shares should be payed by the whole family, not a payment by one person. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Forum Support Old55 Posted January 25, 2015 Forum Support Posted January 25, 2015 If it were my wife and I the issue would be closed and I know my wife would handle make it known to our family we are not going there. But we are not you. What are your wife's thoughts, have you discussed this matter? Have you and your wife a clear understanding to do with money issues her family may request? Lets say you do provide some payment to do with this old debt even a token amount. How many other family members would then be expecting the same? To what end? 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jack Peterson Posted January 26, 2015 Posted January 26, 2015 It may be "debt" meaning "obligation" (utang). I agree but in that case I would view a Debt as owed by me [the OP in this case or rather his aife] (Clearly not the case here) An Obligation is for the Family as a whole to offset Personally, I do not see a Funeral Expense and Hospital Bills as a Debt now after 9 years but a Family Obligation. MHO only but......... :tiphat: *Gosh post 19 and we discuss things without the OP who to me has not been around since Post 5 I wonder if we are getting anywhere with this? just Asking :rolleyes: 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hesalright Posted January 26, 2015 Author Posted January 26, 2015 I've been married to my wife since 2009. Her family is from Toledo Cebu so I can only assume it was a hospital there I don't think they would have gone to Cebu city for treatment . My wife loved her father more than anyone else but has said that it should not be her responsibility whenever her aunt need money just because of a past dept. I'm guessing it's not a cultural thing just a person who wants money.... Thanks for the comments 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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