Finding The Right Filipina Part 2

[Hey Steve]

ahh-I edited my comment, Jake...to see the actual category (maroon highlight). Ya know, :89: maybe with a printer, a 3 hole punch, a binder, and a little white out here and there and credit the boss as the author..I can throw together an internet book/blog-like a side bar sort of-hmmm-naw.....it's good where it is. Vince has GOT this...more!-more!

Edited November 19, 2015 by Hey Steve

[Vince Runza]

It's not like I haven't tested online dating in the Philippines, briefly. I put up a profile on Date in Asia -- a lengthy one, repeatedly saying 'read the whole profile before contacting me'. Most didn't. I used Central Visayas as my target area. Practically all the women who contacted me were simple, desperate, not in my target area, and not very good in English. I'm a writer, among other things. That matters. Perhaps a paid site would yield better results, but I'm not interested.

 

My real objection to online is that it is not the same as face-to-face, even if you graduate to video chat. You won't be able to see how she treats cashiers, wait staff at restaurants, etc. Nor will you be able to get local info on her. That's the thing: using my approach, you're going to want to meet local people of all kinds, not just Shapely Adorables. Networking builds your street savvy, along with getting background info on who's who in the area.

 

Most importantly, I intend to retire to the Philippines. I'm not for importing a bride, no matter how great the vintage is. My relationship will have to work there, not here. Here sucks! It's a matter of perspective:

[Medic Mike]

It's not like I haven't tested online dating in the Philippines, briefly. I put up a profile on Date in Asia -- a lengthy one, repeatedly saying 'read the whole profile before contacting me'. Most didn't. I used Central Visayas as my target area. Practically all the women who contacted me were simple, desperate, not in my target area, and not very good in English. I'm a writer, among other things. That matters. Perhaps a paid site would yield better results, but I'm not interested.

 

My real objection to online is that it is not the same as face-to-face, even if you graduate to video chat. You won't be able to see how she treats cashiers, wait staff at restaurants, etc. Nor will you be able to get local info on her. That's the thing: using my approach, you're going to want to meet local people of all kinds, not just Shapely Adorables. Networking builds your street savvy, along with getting background info on who's who in the area.

 

Most importantly, I intend to retire to the Philippines. I'm not for importing a bride, no matter how great the vintage is. My relationship will have to work there, not here. Here sucks! It's a matter of perspective:

I must admit I did try your approach, I dated lots and lots of pinay, and even had a few serious relationships. However, at the end of the day, what worked for "me", was finding a loving pinay whose english was almost better than mine, :)....was eductaed with a university degree, and was already supporting herself with a good job.

[Vince Runza]

Actually the book is already out there, Vince (80 topics and over 1700 comments) Internet Dating..right here on this forum-an entire section devoted to this way to meet a Filipina-, lending to the critical role this activity plays in "Finding the Right Filipina".

In fact, I've been there. Posted there:

http://www.philippines-expats.com/topic/22229-its-not-necessary-to-meet-people-online/page-2#entry151067

 

Those same observations I posted there apply here.

[Vince Runza]

I must admit I did try your approach, I dated lots and lots of pinay, and even had a few serious relationships. However, at the end of the day, what worked for "me", was finding a loving pinay whose english was almost better than mine, :)....was [educated] with a university degree, and was already supporting herself with a good job.

That proves my point: take your time. Time and again, one reads the refrain, "The longer you're there, the better the chance of meeting a really good one!" BTW, does she have a pretty sister with a degree and a career?!

[Medic Mike]

 

I must admit I did try your approach, I dated lots and lots of pinay, and even had a few serious relationships. However, at the end of the day, what worked for "me", was finding a loving pinay whose english was almost better than mine, :)....was [educated] with a university degree, and was already supporting herself with a good job.

That proves my point: take your time. Time and again, one reads the refrain, "The longer you're there, the better the chance of meeting a really good one!" BTW, does she have a pretty sister with a degree and a career?!

 

Sorry Vince, no pretty sisters...just me and my dumb luck meeting this angel :)

[Vince Runza]

Sorry Vince, no pretty sisters...just me and my dumb luck meeting this angel :)

Never underestimate dumb luck. However, you dated a lot. You said, "No", a lot. You waited for the right one. Therefore, what I suggest as a strategy can work wonders, Q. E. D.

[mogo51]

I have read your 2nd installment with interest and enjoyed it.  Totally understand your purpose of the articles and there is so much good information for the novice starting out with his heart in his hand.  Many of us 'seasoned' oldies can relate to the reasons and sense behind much of your recommendations.

I like others are not at one with you relating to online 'meetings'.  I made some stupid mistakes initially due to a very difficult divorce which really smashed my self esteem and respect.  So I was ripe for the picking!  Luckily I consider myself relatively intelligent, regrouped and sat down and asked myself where I was in life and what I was looking for in an Asian partner - as I had a gutfull of western women.  I wrote them all down and kept solid to that list.  Met my now partner of 4 years (almost) and have never regretted it, thanks to DIA (commonly known as the meat factory).  

My final comment is that what you write has considerable information for many on and coming on this site - but life is not a mathematical equation and there is considerable emotion involved.  A combination of the two is the best recipe.

[Vince Runza]

My final comment is that what you write has considerable information for many on and coming on this site - but life is not a mathematical equation and there is considerable emotion involved. A combination of the two is the best recipe.

Yes, it is. However, you don't get dessert until you eat all your vegetables!

[Jack Peterson]

  :)  *Out of mouths of Babes again*

 

Last night, our GSat did not load so we had an unusual Family Evening  sat just talking.

We were discussing this Topic and TM ( Daughter 16 but Streetwise) had the Laptop open on the Topic. Suddenly she said DAD!

All through this, it goes one about you Foreigners testing the water with lots of Women to get the right one. Isn't that like "The Pot calling the Kettle Black" You are all doing the same things you accuse the Filipino Ladies of Doing by having so many Chat Mates. Maybe they are doing the same thing Testing the water for the best one.

Seems a fair comment to me Guys and Gals.

 

Jack  :rolleyes: