Does Your Feeling Change

[Old55]

WordsandMusic, "What would you folks do?"

 

Is there a way you could simply in a kind way totally disconnect from the two evil step sisters? It takes two to tango don't play to their game.

Why would you need to move outside Philippines? It would change very little.

[WordsandMusic]

Thanks for all the replies! At least in my situation the problem children live in the states and I'm here in the Philippines. They can't control every situation here in the Philippines from the states. When this first started the wife wanted to fight back by defending herself. I told her she should let them go, let them keep doing what they wanted to do by trashing us from the states. I told her in the end once people got to know us as a family and seen how close the three of us are, then other family members here in the Philippines would start to wonder why the other two sisters were being cruel. I think that has worked. Especially after we have been here for a while.

My wife has a younger brother who is really a great person. He has a good job and is married with two little girls. He has been on vacation the past two weeks and we have spent nearly everyday together, either just me and him or my family and his. We have become very close and because of that I would stay Here in the Philippines if at all possible.

Someone stated that moving would change very little and I have to agree. It's the stinking face book that they are addicted to that caused so many problems. My wife finally un friended the two problem children and stopped working about what they had to say. All this in the last week or so. Maybe there is hope. My wife and her Brother have the same Father, so I think he sees what has been going on.

One of the sisters made the mistake of sending me a bunch of text messages that were mean and obviously jealousy attacks. I shared those with a few family members over the past week. Real good reading actually. So I think that will shut up a few of the insults over the next few weeks. Other than this I really like it here in the Philippines.

I moved out of the boon docks to a nice apartment in Marigondon, have cable TV and the internet. A nice hot shower and the compound is completely enclosed and all concrete. The boy rides his new bike all day playing with other children, so life is good. Rent is only peso 14,000 and worth every peso. I walk to the beach every morning and wade around with all the Filipino folks wading to find sea creature to sell. The sea air is just what the doctor ordered.

[OnMyWay]

I guess I am very lucky when it comes to family here.  My opinion has been raised over time.

 

Abby's parents had both passed away before I was around.  They had nine kids.  I'm not sure I have this exactly right, but the first 5 or 6 kids had a relatively good life, and then the last 3 were brought up dirt poor.  Abby was the youngest so she was a poor kid.  Why was this?  Her father had a nice appliance business for many years.  He was able to send all the older kids to private schools and university.  Then somehow he lost the business and everything went south.  I don't think he ever worked again and his wife's teacher salary was all the family had to live one.  He died young of liver disease and his wife later died of a brain tumor.

 

Despite that, all the kids finished university, I think.  Two of the kids went to live with aunts and uncles while they finished school.  Abby eventually went to live with her oldest sister in Baguio, and went to university there.  We are at the oldest sister's house in Auckland right now.

 

So now the siblings lineup is like this, eldest to youngest:

 

B1:  CFO at the Philippines branch of a Japanese company.  Helps the family a lot

B2:  New Zealand citizen, successful, owns two homes, helps the family a lot

S1:  New Zealand citizen, successful, Filipino husband successful too, helps the family a lot

B3:  The only one still on Bohol (after living in Baguio for years).  Has an appliance business that does ok.  I sent him a small generator as a gift after their big typhoon, and he sent the money for it later!  I did not ask for payment (p7000).

B4:  The current problem.  He quit his good full time mechanical engineering job several years ago and opened two internet cafes.  I loaned him money once before and he paid it back as promised, with interest.  This last time he has only made a few payments.  The problem is, he needs to see the writing on the wall and close the internet cafes.  Even in the Philippines, those are going away.  And then, at his age (mid-40s), he can't get another good job.

S2: Housewife in Baguio.  Depends on the family for housing but is a hard worker for the family too.  Tried OFW in Hong Kong twice but had terrible bosses.  Her husband is now OFW in Dubai so that should help them financially.  I have given them a few gifts, but most stuff like a bus ticket so they can come visit.

S3:  Teacher in Manila and relatively poor.  Her husband flaked out to some religious sect so now she supports her 3 kids and in-laws.  I have given them gifts a few times.

B5:  Worked as an OFW in UK and SG for a while.  Very self sufficient and now basically manages the transient house and apartments in Baguio, that are owned by their Swiss family friend.

S4:  CPA and married to a very handsome foreigner.

 

My current problem is that the 2 NZ citizens won't let me pay for anything here!  So far, in almost 4 weeks, I have paid for 1 small grocery run and two lunches.  I had to sneak up to the cashier and pay for the last lunch, and I caught heck for that!  My bro in law was really insulted.

 

So, I think I will have to take the money that I am not spending here and pay it forward to some of the family that could use a boost.

[GregZ]

I have a good family here also. The short of it is we have some difficulties but find our way through them. I was included in the last family meeting. So glad to be a member. With 18 household members currently there will always come challenges.

As far as requests from outside this house. Not much happening there. ???? I get a lot of thank you comments though for being Santa and more.

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[Dave Hounddriver]

What would you folks do?

 

My question would be:  What does your wife want to do?