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A Cautionary Tale......


Mr. Bobo

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No matter how smart and streetwise you think you are believe me you can be had!  

 

 Unfortunately this happens more than many realize, Good Topic and one that has in deed been spoken about before but as with many others, it is always good to bring up every now and then. Especially as there are more & more newcomers in the Pi or ready to make a move. :thumbsup:

 

Jack :)

Morning All :morning1:

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   Fortunately, he found out upon his arrival. It could have turned out much worse. She could have, as others have done, told him that the man there was her brother with his kids as his wife left him. Then she could have sucked him in for a few years all the while supporting her husband. The husbands don't mind if someone sleeps with their wife, as long as he is getting some money from it, something like a pimp.

  He will move on all the wiser and be more cautious in the future.

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Indeed a sad story that is virtually a daily occurrence.  But whilst there are many bad stories from web connections, there are just as 

many or more good ones.  So we maybe have to accept this happens and mainly because men don't take things slowly.

 

I consider myself to be quite 'street wise' but I have been snipped before, simply becasue IMO we want to be able to trust people.

 

However, my last venture into web connection has proven to be the best thing that I have ever done in my life.  So moral of the story, 

don't dismiss it, just apply some common sense.

That does not include using private investigators!  If you have to do that move onto the next choice.

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. . . Well, it turns out that the surprise was on him. When he went to her house to surprise her he was met by her husband and children! . . . 

As jpbago said, he will move on all the wiser.

 

For the purpose of my next bit of reasoning I started thinking of all the filipinas who I know who have met someone online in the last 2 years.  I did a quick mental calculation of those filipinas I know who are currently scamming a foreigner while living with a husband or boyfriend and got 6.  Then I mentally added the filipinas I know who met someone online and that relationship is going well and got 2.  Then I mentally added the filipinas I know who are getting 'played' by a foreigner who they met online and I got 4.

 

Thus it is my experience that the large majority of online meetings end up with one or the other getting scammed or played and yet foreigners and filipinas continue to fight the odds

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Some people think Facebook is the answer, advise that you check the girl's Facebook. I think it couldn't hurt. I have had women ask me for my Facebook and I tell them I don't have one...and if I did have one and was playing around, I could easily have two. Just as she could easily have two. Still, it might be smart to take a look at hers, maybe she is too lazy to have two accounts and you learn something. :rolleyes:

 

I don't think you need a private investigator, just a long engagement of about a year after you meet face to face, while keeping your guard up. Most people can't keep up a scam for more than 6 months. If they can keep a charade up for more than a year they might be worth marrying anyway if you could get them solidly on your side because that is TALENT! :thumbsup:

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just a long engagement of about a year after you meet face to face, 

 

There my Friend, is a big Part of the Answer to all this, For me, Don't promise or do anything until you have met and had a chat and some Visits to Family and Close Friends. If they won't wait they are probably not worth the Trouble and anguish. But........ :89:

 

Jack :whistling:

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Indeed a sad story that is virtually a daily occurrence.  But whilst there are many bad stories from web connections, there are just as 

many or more good ones.  So we maybe have to accept this happens and mainly because men don't take things slowly.

 

I consider myself to be quite 'street wise' but I have been snipped before, simply becasue IMO we want to be able to trust people.

 

However, my last venture into web connection has proven to be the best thing that I have ever done in my life.  So moral of the story, 

don't dismiss it, just apply some common sense.

That does not include using private investigators!  If you have to do that move onto the next choice.

 

I agree and I am another satisfied customer ..... going on 10 years in our relationship .... but you have to approach it logically with you mind and not with your heart (or worst yet your titi) ..... love will come with an aging relationship ..... for the first 6 months it is just puppy-love ..... :hystery: ....... JMHO .... :mocking:

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I was retiring over here anyway - so meeting the girl I had been talking to was a plus, but not the reason I came.  Also, she never once asked for money, which is good because I would not have sent any.  I had nothing invested really.  (she turned out great and we got married a year and half later)

 

I hope that guy did not get scammed for too much, but he was lucky. The "brother/cousin/whatever" and "his kids" could have left the girl to meet her fiance...  and really taken him for some money!

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I would even recommend going so far as hiring a private investigator to travel to your “fiance's” hometown to snoop around to find out if she is on the up and up. It may be money well spent. There are people in the Philippines who do this type of work. I know that this sounds extreme but unfortunately in today's world it is a necessity.

 

Absolute minefield. Most of  investigators are not located near the party they are investigating and fabricated reports are common.

 

Or they do make contact and file a favorable report anyway, Price of probably a dinner and a few drinks. A few pictures and a written report for $200-500. Or they reverse it and tell you they have negative information but will need additional fees to capture the evidence. Often stating the party has been tracked down in some hotel.

 

Caveat emptor.

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