Tukaram (Tim) Posted May 30, 2018 Posted May 30, 2018 I try to get along with everyone, and usually it is no problem... but yeah, sometimes you got to be extra careful with locals. Many are very thinned skinned. They take offense very easily (because they want to ha ha). 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jollygoodfellow Posted May 30, 2018 Posted May 30, 2018 On 5/27/2018 at 11:55 AM, lobojohn said: yes its very normal here and one of my pet peeves , but ive been pleased to see as many clerks push them back to their own places verbally. wheres theres room for one at a counter there will be 4-5 there with their arms stretched out in in front of you to be served? hahahahaaha if its in your local town and you are known to be a fair guy to all, then its quite ok to ask them to wait their turn. politely , but firmly. Must be where we live. Personally I have not experienced this but maybe I'm in a different place. The only strange or even perhaps funny thing I witness is once I was in line to check in for the flight back home and an old woman in front or maybe behind decided (forget) that she was with me. Moved her bag next to mind and stood by me. I tried to move away but she kept it up. A security guard was watching and said something to her but no idea what it was but made no difference.. As we got to the counter she luckily did her thing and we parted and if not I guess I would be living with someone old enough to be my grandma. Such is life. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Queenie O. Posted May 30, 2018 Popular Post Posted May 30, 2018 8 hours ago, OnMyWay said: On the rare occasion that a Filipino here holds the door open for me, I really try to thank them. Same in driving. If some one does something like let me in to traffic, I give them a wave and maybe a friendly beep on the horn. I have hope that things can change over time. Today we were caught in bad traffic. 2 lanes merging into 1 due to construction. So the rude "me first" crowd makes a third lane on the shoulder, which makes the final bottleneck even worse, and slows everyone down even more. I was talking to my wife about it, and as she has said before, everyone here grows up being taught it is "dog eat dog" and if you don't fight for your spot, you will be left behind. Very sad to see kids brought up like that. I have to admit it brings out my bad side, and I am not going to let the "me first" crowd in the third lane squeeze in in front of me! If someone in the normal 2 lanes puts on their blinker and politely wants to squeeze in, I will let them in. OMW, you raise a lot of the same concerns that my Filipino husband experiences while driving or in everyday life. Having seen a different side in his experience, it's at times even more frustrating to view his own culture's lack of manners and civility. When standing in line to pay a bill or make a purchase, he'll sometimes do as LoboJorhn might and firmly say "excuse me, but wait for your turn."He's not down on his culture and fellow Filipinos in general, but he often sees room for improvement. 5 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dave Hounddriver Posted May 31, 2018 Posted May 31, 2018 10 hours ago, OnMyWay said: I am not going to let the "me first" crowd in the third lane squeeze in in front of me! Watch it. These guys are smart. I have tried to be aggressive about not letting them in but what they do is ease alongside you and squeeze left so that their mirror is in front of yours. If you move forward then your rhs mirror hits their lfs mirror and you "hit them". Now its your fault. Had a big verbal argument with a jeepney driver who tried that one on with me but he decided to "let me go" without calling the police as he probably knew there was no damage done so no harm no foul, just a mad traffic cop if he called one. 2 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Clermont Posted May 31, 2018 Posted May 31, 2018 7 hours ago, Jollygoodfellow said: and if not I guess I would be living with someone old enough to be my grandma. Don't knock it Tom, many a fine tune has been played on an old fiddle. 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnMyWay Posted May 31, 2018 Posted May 31, 2018 53 minutes ago, Dave Hounddriver said: Watch it. These guys are smart. I have tried to be aggressive about not letting them in but what they do is ease alongside you and squeeze left so that their mirror is in front of yours. If you move forward then your rhs mirror hits their lfs mirror and you "hit them". Now its your fault. Had a big verbal argument with a jeepney driver who tried that one on with me but he decided to "let me go" without calling the police as he probably knew there was no damage done so no harm no foul, just a mad traffic cop if he called one. I won't go at it with a jeepney. They are built to take a beating and my cars are not! In yesterday's case, it is a road with not many jeepneys and the third lane was composed of almost all private vehicles, although a bus took that route for a short time. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hk blues Posted May 31, 2018 Posted May 31, 2018 The queing thing is an interesting one. It is mostly observed here, albeit with exceptions such as getting on a jeepney. But, plenty are just plain rude and want to jump - not a cultural thing IMO, just simple bad manners. Same happens in Hong Kong and the UK but slightly less often. A bugbear I have is in places like the BIR they have a ticket system - it's only observed loosely and plenty of queue jumping goes on. Simple enough to fix - stick to serving only the person with the correct ticket number. I'm of the opinion this is done partly to create chaos which allows staff to take extended breaks and generally skive off work. I guess the basic relaxed attitude to time encourages the lack of discipline here. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jack Peterson Posted May 31, 2018 Posted May 31, 2018 20 minutes ago, hk blues said: I guess the basic relaxed attitude to time encourages the lack of discipline here. Oh yes and that of course, is where it all starts 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Dave Hounddriver Posted May 31, 2018 Popular Post Posted May 31, 2018 1 hour ago, hk blues said: Simple enough to fix - stick to serving only the person with the correct ticket number. Story time. I entered my bank one day, when they had that ticket number system, and the guard slips me a number off the bottom of the pile. They know which customers to "prioritize" but there was a matriarchal filipina in there who was quite vocal about saying in English, loud enough for the whole room to hear: "He better not have a lower number than me. I've been waiting here a long time and if he goes in front I shall not be happy." I went to the lady and smiled and said "lets compare numbers". Hers was higher than mine so I said "That must have been a mistake, here, you take my number and I'll take yours. She got a satisfied look on her face, the guard looked at me and smiled with a 'thumbs up', the lady went up to the teller next and because I had her number I still got ahead of the majority of the queue. Win Win. 6 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jim Sibbick Posted May 31, 2018 Posted May 31, 2018 I personally think it is braking down in the television age. I call it the television age because on my first visit to Palompon Leyte in 1994, they had TV in the park at night. Hundreds of people gathering around a single TV. Tv was rare then and exposure to other cultures was rare. Now in the Philippines, every one has TV at home. And everyone is exposed to other cultures on TV. So now, despite the heat, you have young men and teenagers wearing beanies and hoodies because that is what their TV heros wear. For myself, I have not always followed this but now try very hard to. Treat ALL Filipinos with respect ALL of the time. It makes life in the Philippines go smoother. 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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