Repatriation: Yes, you can go home again!

[Snowy79]

I'm a relative newbie in the Philippines being here just over two years and on a whole loving it.  The hate parts sadly come from the locals attitude of not letting lies get in the way of a good story and their inability to take constructive criticism.  In the last six months I've lost count of the amount of lies and rumours I've heard about others relationships from people passing on 2nd or 3rd hand information.  They have no shame and when questioned on it they have the neck to be offended and say they are only passing news on. 

The other part that drives me crazy is the response from people when you offer constructive criticism of a project or how something is caried out over here could be improved.  Rather than saying " Yes it frustrates " us and then giving a reason why it is never changed, they go on the back food and tell me to go back to my country.  I was discussing this attitude with my partner today and lo and behold she came out with it also.  It could be something like they'll dig up a road and have no traffic marshals or put a diversion in so they can repair it quickly.  Traffic gets backed up and lots of horn blowing, people stranded etc.  I point out the road has a loop so why not just close off that section and let people drive the other way to get to the same destination and she looks at me as if I'm stupid.

With that said I then remind myself why I'm here in the first place.  Bureaucracy, back stabbing and bitching, long working hours, snow, rain, dodgy politicians etc.  I then do as I've done before I came here.  I narrow down my friends list, ignore things I have no control over and enjoy the weather.

[sonjack2847]

9 hours ago, Jack Peterson said:

 No one likes posts like this but 

I do as they ate the hard truth which we all have to swallow sometimes

[hk blues]

9 hours ago, Jack Peterson said:

 @Mark Berkowitz

I am not sure Mark will like this but I must say it as it came from the mouth of a true Blue Filipina ( My HTMBO) we sat on the Terrace on Sunday Afternoon and this topic came up. So my wife said to me Yeah well, can you remember Alan ( a friend that did as mark wishes) Yep I said , so I hope, that your Friend ( Mark) realises that this could cost him in Money and Stress as it did Alan. Remind me I said, Well not too long after they moved to the UK, the wife Lilybeth ( Elizabeth) started to get request for help and subsistence from them now they had left, then came the illness thing, Hospital Bills and the rest of it. Not going to make this long as i think we all know how these things are looked on by the family. Not going to say it will but I all fairness I can't say it won't, we have members here that have had this and it causes rifts, Rifts? yes rifts because the Emotional culture of the Wifes family can bring about disaster, Arguments start, One particular member I recall had enough and said NO but the wife decided to send behind the husbands back. Bad but it happens ( we have a Sister in law that does it)

I just hope that Mark has added this sort of thing into  the mix because it happens,   "Blood being thicker than water" Springs to mind.

Negative ? Oh  no, thoughts conveyed here are brought from a very level  headed Wife who has sooo many friends in this situation. There was a Story only last week about a couple that came on Holiday from Canada with their 2 children, on the Flight over she announced she had had enough of Canada and the Fact that the family were overbearing on Demands so she was not going back but staying with the family that she missed so Much. Sorry Mark But.......................... did you consider this sort of thing just might happen? Cos it does

 No one likes posts like this but 

Very true... As has been said many times before, we may think we've left our troubles behind but they soon catch up with us! 

[Tukaram (Tim)]

I have been in the PIs 6 years and am quite happy...but... if I had kids, I would take them to the US to raise them. The schools here are atrocious, and the job opportunities are worse.  A third world country is ok for my retirement but a hell of a place to raise a kid.  Good thing for me that will not be an issue (pun intended).  I cannot have any more kids, thank science.  

[sonjack2847]

If I went back to the UK I would have to retrain in my job and buy lots of equipment and transport before I could start work.That alone would cost around 10k UK.I can live on that for 2 years here and still have a decent life.The building work here will be finished soon and then my wife and daughter will be set up for life without any worries.What can I offer them in the UK ,well maybe a pittance from the Government when I pass,if I could work as a gas engineer again then maybe half of what they can potentially have here.

Then you have to think of all the crap going on in the UK killings robberies stabbings how much it actually costs to live there.Lets be fair I could not afford to go out for a meal and a couple of beers 1-2 times a week like I do here.We certainly would not own the amount of property over there that we do here,we would probably would have to rent a house at maybe 1k uk per month.I cannot see any reason to take them back to somewhere I would be unhappy in and therefore they would also be unhappy.

Why be a little fish in a big pond when you can be a big fish in a little pond.

[nor cal mike]

30 minutes ago, Tukaram (Tim) said:

I have been in the PIs 6 years and am quite happy...but... if I had kids, I would take them to the US to raise them. The schools here are atrocious, and the job opportunities are worse.  A third world country is ok for my retirement but a hell of a place to raise a kid.  Good thing for me that will not be an issue (pun intended).  I cannot have any more kids, thank science.  

30 minutes ago, Tukaram (Tim) said:

I have been in the PIs 6 years and am quite happy...but... if I had kids, I would take them to the US to raise them. The schools here are atrocious, and the job opportunities are worse.  A third world country is ok for my retirement but a hell of a place to raise a kid.  Good thing for me that will not be an issue (pun intended).  I cannot have any more kids, thank science.  

Tim are you referring to public schools or both public and private?

[softail]

44 minutes ago, nor cal mike said:

Tim are you referring to public schools or both public and private?

I just want to say, this is the best thread I have read on this forum ever!!! 😋

[nor cal mike]

27 minutes ago, softail said:

I just want to say, this is the best thread I have read on this forum ever!!! 😋

It has certainly been informative for me as a move to PI. is imminent. I have children so their education is important.

[sonjack2847]

1 hour ago, nor cal mike said:

It has certainly been informative for me as a move to PI. is imminent. I have children so their education is important.

Mike start a new thread on education you will get a lot more answers then.

[Gary D]

Yes we are bitching at the moment about our niece needing 5k for her graduation from her private school.