Popular Post PaulB Posted November 1, 2019 Popular Post Posted November 1, 2019 Dear Fonts of All Knowledge I wanted to share my recent experience with you in case there are any members out there in the same situation. My wife is 30 years old and myself 55 next month. She is a wonderful loving and caring woman and I am truly happy with her. I have 4 older children from my first marriage and 5 Grand children and I had a vasectomy over 20 years ago. I recently decided that the right thing to do with my wife is to start a family so we did our research and just completed Phase 1 of the IVF treatment here in Abu Dhabi. For me it was needle in the testis to find live sperm and bingo they are still swimming up river! My wife was then tested and all good. Last week they took her eggs and another needle of my sperm and fertilised 11 eggs. This was 5 days ago and today I got a call from the clinic stating that they have 4 embryos developing and they will now do genetic testing and gender testing. On Monday we will get to choose which one of these embryos will be implanted into my wife when she returns to Abu Dhabi (flew back to Philippines last night) in November. None of the above has been cheap but the best money I have ever spent. I know my wife will be a wonderful mother. Now we will see how the impact goes but we have 4 chances. if it takes first time then we will freeze the rest and go again after the first one. Two is the target. First a boy and second the girl, one year later. All together this process will have cost us just over PHP 1m, hence the million Peso baby. My wife will give birth in Abu Dhabi where we have good medical cover, except IVF (locals get it free but not expats) and then we will see. Has anyone else gone through the same thing? I did consider a reversal but the IVF was greater odds. I now only have to wait and see and once pregnancy is confirmed I have the task of telling my 33, 30, 28 and 26 year old children back in England that they will have a brother!! Keep you updated. One very excited, fingers crossed, Paul. 6 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stevewool Posted November 1, 2019 Posted November 1, 2019 Well done and congratulations to you both. Needles in my testicles I shudder at the thought. 1 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnMyWay Posted November 1, 2019 Posted November 1, 2019 18 minutes ago, stevewool said: Well done and congratulations to you both. Needles in my testicles I shudder at the thought. Nothing a few beers won't help with! 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnMyWay Posted November 1, 2019 Posted November 1, 2019 Congrats Paul! A friend was in an almost identical situation with his Filipina wife. He made the same decision as you, and they decided to take a chance on twins! They now have two beautiful twin girls! And they also were in the middle east with great doctors! You are going to be a busy man in your retirement, like me! 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stevewool Posted November 1, 2019 Posted November 1, 2019 27 minutes ago, OnMyWay said: Nothing a few beers won't help with! A Lager shandy some how wont kill the pain I am thinking. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnMyWay Posted November 1, 2019 Posted November 1, 2019 7 minutes ago, stevewool said: A Lager shandy some how wont kill the pain I am thinking. You are confused! The shandy is what the women drinks many of when she is trying to get pregnant before the man tells her he had a vasectomy! 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dave Hounddriver Posted November 1, 2019 Posted November 1, 2019 9 hours ago, PaulB said: Has anyone else gone through the same thing? Not personally but I know three couples in a similar situation. A few years into the youngsters and none of the expats are unhappy about their decision, even though the first year of life for some of the babies was fraught with medical problems. I am told that the medical expenses getting through that first year were higher than all the other costs. Insurance helps. It is commonly believed (proven? I dunno) that a baby with an older father will have more medical problems. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marvin Boggs Posted November 2, 2019 Posted November 2, 2019 Hmm PaulB, almost the same age spread as my wife and i. I had not contemplated as a younger man that I would ever be in this situation, but the swimmers don't seem to be doing their job. Maybe that's common over 50, IDK. We are starting to think about alternatives though, thanks for sharing this. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post jimeve Posted November 2, 2019 Popular Post Posted November 2, 2019 Wife and I tried IVF in 2005 but was unsuccessful. I had the needle in the sack (Pardon the pun) All good swimmers but when my wife was tested there was only 1 egg, so that no further action. One good thing came out of it though, when she was having a test they found a cyst on her ovary and was removed. 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guy F. Posted November 2, 2019 Posted November 2, 2019 13 hours ago, Dave Hounddriver said: Not personally but I know three couples in a similar situation. A few years into the youngsters and none of the expats are unhappy about their decision, even though the first year of life for some of the babies was fraught with medical problems. I am told that the medical expenses getting through that first year were higher than all the other costs. Insurance helps. It is commonly believed (proven? I dunno) that a baby with an older father will have more medical problems. I think that would be true with an older mother because her eggs are as old as she is and have had that many years to acquire mutations. Sperm is produced a much shorter time before fertilization. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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