Asawa Ko Issues - The Novela

[Marvin Boggs]

39 minutes ago, Arizona Kid said:

It's too bad that onion skinned people would put me on their ignore list. Shameful and disrespectful to ignore other peoples opinions and thoughts. I tried to put myself on the ignore list with no luck. Tell me how that works!  

Or, you could just be less of an ass all the time, and see how it works out.  Here's for hoping. 

[Arizona Kid]

9 minutes ago, Marvin Boggs said:

Or, you could just be less of an ass all the time, and see how it works out.  Here's for hoping. 

Yes, lets' just agree with everyone all of the time. No controversy. How great of a group would that be? If you insist I will tone it down for your sake.

[hk blues]

22 hours ago, Tommy T. said:

Actually, you replied to Geoff's post with that comment, HK - sorry, I just looked it up.

I'm tired. So now, why don't we all let sleeping threads lie...?

No need to apologise, Tom.  I didn't say I replied to a post from you with that comment, I said in response to a post from you.  Different.  

[Freebie]

So now the topic has moved away from the original subject and its now about all who likes understands or doesnt , the comments from AZ boy. Wheres the original poster gone as his story is both fearsome loathsome in terms of the family and wife..... Hopefully he can return to tell us how hes going.

Sadly the Philipines says its all about " family" etc.... but in reality maybe its all about money. hen things are good everyone's happy and when the money fountain starts to get dry.............the happiness factor dissapears.

I know why I'm single as I don't have any of this nonsense of going on a trip with 10 other family members mooching along expecting that the white guy will pay for everything.

[RBM]

14 hours ago, Freebie said:

So now the topic has moved away from the original subject and its now about all who likes understands or doesnt , the comments from AZ boy. Wheres the original poster gone as his story is both fearsome loathsome in terms of the family and wife..... Hopefully he can return to tell us how hes going.

Sadly the Philipines says its all about " family" etc.... but in reality maybe its all about money. hen things are good everyone's happy and when the money fountain starts to get dry.............the happiness factor dissapears.

I know why I'm single as I don't have any of this nonsense of going on a trip with 10 other family members mooching along expecting that the white guy will pay for everything.

Very sensible post here, lots to think about and it nails the situation well.

Lets all hope for the best from the OP and hope he reports back in soon.

[hk blues]

21 hours ago, Freebie said:

I know why I'm single as I don't have any of this nonsense of going on a trip with 10 other family members mooching along expecting that the white guy will pay for everything.

It's not always the case though, and it may even be the rare case that we all hear about because it's so rare.  I have not experienced anything remotely like that here - I'm not sure I'm the only lucky one. 

[Freebie]

2 hours ago, hk blues said:

It's not always the case though, and it may even be the rare case that we all hear about because it's so rare.  I have not experienced anything remotely like that here - I'm not sure I'm the only lucky one. 

You are probably right... but I guess we only hear the bad news , rather than the normal news...but we do there are a great many families that do mooch and expect the foreigner to provide... and once hes provided once hes expected to do it endlessly.

[ITGeek]

On 2/22/2020 at 11:03 AM, GeoffH said:

 

My ex's father (nice guy) was diagnosed with dementia (along with liver and kidney problems) and was admitted to an Australian aged care facility.

It was one of the better ones, modern, clean, decent staff and good facilities.  And it was ok... sort of... very institutional and regimented but if you still were able to get yourself to the common area or on the small bus to the outings it wasn't sooo bad.

But that was the low care section... the high care section was full of people who couldn't get out of bed, who couldn't change themselves or wash themselves or feed themselves.  And a lot couldn't even talk any more. 

Listening to a woman moaning inconherently for hours sometimes breaking out in screams... simply because her mind was so gone that she no longer recognized... anything or understood what was happening... it was truly horrible.

She'd been like that for almost 2 years I was told.  They said "sometimes she stops because her voice won't work after a while, but then after a short break she always starts up again.  And they're not allowed to use large amounts of sedation anymore, under the new rules.

I'd choose being dead a hundred times over rather than ending like that...

 

 

I couldn't agree more with your last statement.  It's one of the factors in my decision to make a positive change to my current situation.  If I'm treated like this by my spouse now, imagine how I'd be treated once I require full-time care.  This paraphrased quote applies:

"It's like a predator. It's stalking you. Oh, you can try and outrun it with doctors, medicines, new technologies, but in the end, it is going to hunt you down and make the kill." - Soran from "Star Trek Generations".

Dementia is just like that.  It's not a matter of if, but when.  It could be a couple of years, 5 or 10 years until I'm fully indigent. I can recall memories from 40-50 yrs ago, yet forget what it was I went to the kitchen to get.  I'm making the choice to enjoy and make the most of what quality of life I have remains.  Each day is a gift and one should make the most of it because we are never promised tomorrow.

[OnMyWay]

On 2/28/2020 at 9:35 AM, ITGeek said:

yet forget what it was I went to the kitchen to get

I think this is normal for many people.  At least in my family and group of friends.  Tends to get worse as you get older.  Alos might depend on what type of mind / thinker you are.  Some people are "one thought at a time" thinkers and others are juggling many thoughts at once.  I think women are better with juggling, sometimes known as "multi-tasking".

Edited February 29, 2020 by OnMyWay

[Tommy T.]

3 hours ago, OnMyWay said:

On 2/28/2020 at 9:35 AM, ITGeek said:

yet forget what it was I went to the kitchen to get

 

Happens to me all the time. Or I put something down for a moment and then go right back to where I knew (thought) I put it and it's gone! I spent literally hours looking for things like that when aboard the yacht - drove me nuts!