Putting your foot down

[stevewool]

A little late in coming but it sure feels good .

Over the last few days I have been voicing my opinions loud so everyone can hear them when I speak and is it making a difference to them, not really but to me it feels good.

The bil well he gets both barrels every time he does something wrong as everybody else just says nothing , like when he washes dishes so quickly he breaks one, no sorry nothing so I tell him and it feels good, it was his birthday the other day he’s now 43 and I know he’s been asking Ems for money and I do know Emma has very little cash so I told her to tell him Steve has all the cash, did I hear a word from him , nothing but I could hear him wanting drinks for a party and even a few people came knocking at the door for this drinks party , well they was told nicely there is no drinks and no party either.

The family came for a visit the other day with just a few of there kids and it was not long before the foghorns was getting louder and then there was the climbing on the furniture and everyone was having fun until Steve said get your feet of the furniture it’s for your backside not a climbing frame, then it was the adults saying to the kids ‘ talk English to uncle Steve ‘ but only one or two would yet they all go to college and they all can speak perfect English , so I just said I am happy that they will not speak English to me that way I don’t have to say anything or buy anything for them if I cannot understand them .

I did threaten to leave the other day as they just don’t seem to respect anything or have pride in what they have, they was moving lots of tin roofing sheets and I could see them just swinging them about and hitting the walls, so I just said if you mark these walls that it’s I am leaving , you could hear a pin drop or was that a click of a gun being cocked , anyway  they did slow down and put up a wooded sheet to protect the paintwork, I am sure they cannot wait for me to leave and let the household and people who come and go here get back to there normal self.

There is another thing that I just keep doing too, and it annoys everyone even Emma , I just have one pair of flip flops plus trainers , but if I am in the house I just wear flip flops , then I go out side and do some painting or just walk around and then I come back in the house wearing the same dusty dirty flip flops and just walk around down stairs and all I hear is you should take them off outside , funny they can talk English when they want too,I do make sure I take them off before I go upstairs to our place though , childless maybe , feel good factor fantastic 

[Marvin Boggs]

Thatta' boy!  Let 'em have it!

[Old55]

Good that you speak your mind however it can bite you in the…. Don't burn the bridges to your Filipino family. Just move. You know they will not change and don't care about anything but themselves and what they can get from you. Just move away before it gets ugly.

 

[intrepid]

Steve, I what you are doing helps a little.  Maybe should have been firmer sooner.  I agree with Old55, Be careful how far to push it.  Know for yourself when to back off.  Sometimes after letting off the steam is a good time to retreat to your private room or leave the house for a few hours and then be quiet for a while around them.  Give them time to "think and wonder" what you will do next if even nothing.  Good luck and ingat.

[RBM]

Steve ever heard the phase about backing a loosing horse? In no way directed towards Emma but that disrespectful family ugggggggg

[Lou49]

There is an old Filipino saying. ”Husbands come and go but family is forever.” Don’t take anything for granted. 

[Tommy T.]

I agree with all of the above comments, Steve. I think you should express yourself and also take a stand. But be careful and mindful about any possible repercussions. They may and will happen. So just be careful, okay? Moving away sounds like a really great idea to me and L...

Edited February 17, 2020 by Tommy T.

[stevewool]

1 hour ago, Old55 said:

Good that you speak your mind however it can bite you in the…. Don't burn the bridges to your Filipino family. Just move. You know they will not change and don't care about anything but themselves and what they can get from you. Just move away before it gets ugly.

 

9 days time we are moving , what’s the saying 2 islands away , well we are moving continents away until the next day trip back here.

[stevewool]

8 minutes ago, Lou49 said:

There is an old Filipino saying. ”Husbands come and go but family is forever.” Don’t take anything for granted. 

I take nothing for granted after 2 failed marriages.

[JDDavao II]

3 hours ago, stevewool said:

they just don’t seem to respect anything or have pride in what they have

This boils my brisket.

We were very poor when I was a kid. Everything we had, had to last. Nothing was abused, nothing left out in the rain, nothing not put back where it was kept.

I wore metal and leather leg braces (like Forrest Gump) provided by a local charity. They came with ONE PAIR of leather shoes that were resoled and re-heeled when necessary. I polished those shoes every week and never stepped in a puddle that could be avoided. Why? Because they were a gift. 

How is it that everything they touch, they break here? My little niece broke the Samsung tablet we gave her. My father would have taken my head off at about the level of my spleen if I did that. Her mother? Nothing. When she was here, in spite of being told by me time and time again, she put a glass of juice atop our tower PC and knocked it over, spilling juice down the fan hole in the lid and shorting it out. Again, nothing.

I just used a caulking gun from my tool cabinet for the first time. I bought it a while back. Someone else had used it and squeezed it so hard, probably against some caulk that had cured in the tube, that they wore down mechanism. So when the plunger meets the caulk, it misfires. Clickclickclickclick.

And does anyone check the oil level in an engine here?

[rant doused for now]