Spouse trying to deport me (Asawa ko Novela Part 2)

[GeoffH]

37 minutes ago, Dave Hounddriver said:

If the wife is out to get him, time to leave the country, divorce in another country, then come back as a tourist.  IMHO . .  or try another country.

 

I can imagine coming back in as a tourist being a problem if the wife manages to get him black listed and I suspect that could also happen at renewal of a tourist visa at even if the OP were several islands away.  My suggestion is the USA or at least another asian country.

[RBM]

1 hour ago, GeoffH said:

 

I can imagine coming back in as a tourist being a problem if the wife manages to get him black listed and I suspect that could also happen at renewal of a tourist visa at even if the OP were several islands away.  My suggestion is the USA or at least another asian country.

hence my earlier suggestion, get clarification from an expert Immigration Attorney. This saved a friend of a friend from detention  some time ago in Cebu, surprisingly was not so expensive.  

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[Arizona Kid]

8 hours ago, ITGeek said:

Hoping someone can put my mind at ease.

This is a cross-post thread at this link: Asawa Ko Issues the Novela 

I discussed how my family in the US and others advised me that my wife's family was financially taking advantage of me because of my disability.

I was put into a situation where I feared for my personal safety (life) and literally had to flee with only the clothes in my suitcase and backpack.  Since then, my wife has gone ballistic and continuing to wreak havoc on my life.

She had a local bank manager reveal information on my individual account to her, compromising my account.  I had to file a complaint with the bank against the bank manager.

In addition, she is telling my family in the US lots of misleading information and that she is going to try to get me deported.

Not sure how I can be deported, as I just got a NBI clearance with no hits and no criminal record anywhere.  I also just paid my annual report fees with BI.  I can't think of any reason as to how I could be deported.  So now I need to find an attorney to protect me.  She is spending more time on making  my life hell instead of taking care of our child (and one of hers).

Is there anyone that could help put my mind at ease as I try to settle in another area of the Philippines?

Have you tried calling her bluff? Once someone who thinks they are mentally stronger than you are confronted..sometimes back off. Stick to your guns.

[Freebie]

" Nationals who are subjects of deportation/blacklist orders of the Department and the Bureau of Immigration shall not be admitted to the Philippines. Further inquiries may be addressed to the Visa Division (Telephone numbers:556-0000 and ask the operator to connect you to Visa Division), Department of Foreign Affairs, 2330 Roxas Boulevard, Pasay City or to any Philippine Embassy or Consulate abroad."

http://immigration.gov.ph/faqs/deregatory-lists/black-list-order

Above is from the DFA website.

 

Also Im sure Ive seen that there are visa for those who can prove they are sick or have a disease. But am unable to find any information on it online.

Edited March 6, 2020 by Freebie

[Jollygoodfellow]

I would firstly go to immigration, tell them you just separated from your wife and ask them what to do about your visa. The rest from what your wife is saying is possible but may not happen so sort the visa out first then at least that side is done.

[ITGeek]

10 hours ago, Freebie said:

Theres some good apps called Fake GPS. I think not too difficult to fake up a boarding pass or at least to print out what looks like a ticket. There are companies that will provide you with a ticket thats valid only  for 24 hours... ( can be used as an onward ticket etc ).. get these together and send her a " Im heading for airport now, sorry it didnt work out "etc.. and then do exactly as Snowy says. New life far away.

There are some great islands such as Bantayan or Siquijor or Guimaras  where you can rest relax and be far away from the Madding Crowd/Family. And from there you can plan the next stage of your life.

 

And make a new email account, FB account  too if thats your thing,  too so that you dont have to worry about a snooping wife.

 

 

 

The last contact I had with my wife was the day after I left.  I texted her that I needed to await my ECC from BI and had planned to return to the US.  That is when I "went dark", deactivated my FB account and have kept a low profile.  She continues to message my family in the US (we're a military family), so they know better than to respond to her.  Their only response is to tell her to "stop worrying about me and take care of my son (and her own daughter).

[ITGeek]

10 hours ago, manofthecoldland said:

The only leverage you have now is your son's SSDI benefit. You have already left her, and your other income stream is now with you and will remain so. She has lost it and should be told to realize it and accept it.

If she continues to make trouble for you and won't leave you alone to go your own way now, tell her you will have no choice but to have the son's benefit canceled and revoked by the US Government, leaving her and her family cut off totally and penniless. (They have little idea how their own government and bureaucracies work, and none whatsoever about yours, so the threatening ploy should be credible to her.)

Tit for tat. If she pulls her trigger, you will pull yours. 

Hopefully this will give her pause and allow things to cool down a bit until everyone adjusts to the new realities and finds something workable to allow you all to go on with your now separate lives.

This is only a suggestion to defuse the current anger and desire for retribution re the current break-up.

This is one of my strategies of last resort.  She did say as I fled, "You will never see your son again!"  Well, that would make a great case for me to petition to either have one of my US family listed as the trustee of my son's SSDI benefits instead of my wife.  My son's (or any child) welfare should always come first.  I've seen many cases where a parent often uses children to get back at their ex's.  She really needs to stop and consider what harm she is causing my son (or her own child) in this situation.

[ITGeek]

9 hours ago, RBM said:

Like all posters my sympathy  for you situation.

If your determed to stay here I totally agree with your last comments about lieing low. 

Not withstanding the comments of Scott, from what I have read it's far harder now for an angry spouse or GF to have one deported.

To put your mind at ease completely why not seek out ( google) an expert immigration attorney for an opinion. Surely it's not going  to cost to much, what price can one put on piece of mind....

As I stated in an earlier reply, I've "gone dark" for now.  She is wildly guessing at whether I'm still in PI's or have returned to the US.  I will be meeting a former NBI official who is now an attorney to get advice regarding my situation.

[ITGeek]

2 hours ago, Jollygoodfellow said:

I would firstly go to immigration, tell them you just separated from your wife and ask them what to do about your visa. The rest from what your wife is saying is possible but may not happen so sort the visa out first then at least that side is done.

First thing is that I am in the process of obtaining advice from a reputable attorney on my situation.  That would help me determine the best actions to prevent being deported or as someone previously mentioned being detained on a BI hold pending deportation.

Upon reading the responses, the best strategy for me to use would be to warn her having me deported from the PI's would terminate SSDI benefits to our son, to which she is currently the trustee.  As many in here have said, "it's all about money here in the PI's".  I don't even think she would be stupid enough to risk having access to our son's SSDI benefits.

[Old55]

3 hours ago, ITGeek said:

I don't even think she would be stupid enough to risk having access to our son's SSDI benefits.

You know your wife better than we do however not so sure I would bet on that.

Best leave now while you’re able.

Edited March 6, 2020 by Old55