Moving in with a filipina and her family

[Jack Peterson]

7 hours ago, Squid1981 said:

what kind of culture shock should i prepare myself for?

 My friend,  You may well be expected to Fund this Stay, For me, "If in any Doubt, Don't" It is most unusual to be invited like this and those that accepted when offered it turned out Bad, Please think on and please don't become another Statistic, We have heard of Many and I for one have heard really Bad things from people I have known personally. One Question please. have you ever met this Lady?  Sorry for the negative But.............

[Freebie]

3 hours ago, graham59 said:

I don't think it will be a cheap relaxing vacation, that's for sure...if you need to ask about the 'culture shock'. lol

Usually not much do in a provincial village...if that's where the home is, but you'll be welcomed with open arms into the male relatives' heavy drinking sessions each evening.   

Anyway, stick around, ask us some more questions , and if you have them to share...suggest you post some pics of your proposed accommodation.  

You omitted to add.. " And be expected to pay most of the time "  

[Freebie]

If I were the poster Id get on You Tube and review the various multitude of videos there are concerning expats in Philippines and their various experiences. Theres plenty to choose from and some successes, failures and in betweens in terms of overcoming/dealing with culture shock.

[Guy F.]

Take GeoffH's words to heart.

[scott h]

9 hours ago, Squid1981 said:

I recieve ssdi and when I am able I want to come to the Philippines

From you name I am going to assume you might have been in the navy. So I apologize right now for being crude. This one of those times you really, really need to think with the big head and not the little one! Listen to the boots on the ground on this one.

[Nickleback99]

All great and savy advice above and so much info you have not provided about the girl, her family, how long known, met?, actually "seen" her, etc.  I'll add from my own experience, after now wife and I lived together for a while in Okinawa, that when I went to visit and stay with her family in Bagong Silang (large slum outside of Manila) where they had a decent house among shacks, houses, huts, etc...the whole gamut.....No biggie culturally as my Ex is a Filipino American and I'd lived/worked in PI back in 90's, plus host of other 3rd world locations, but Still it was very different when in a relationship with one of the "hosts" and the household was in line with what previously described above  with sleeping arrangements, a single bathroom/shower shared by 10 people, cockroaches from Jurasic Park!, etc.  Be prepared that none of her family may speak English and you'll have no idea what is being said about you, etc, and don't expect your gal to translate it all....all the more reason to meet in a more modern area and save the family visit for later, keeping in mind you will likely pay for Everything!...your SSDI makes you "RICH!" there in the PI.  As suggested, stay north such as Luzon or Cebu, and above all else, Research, Research and Research some more here, other forums and YouTube so that you have an idea of what getting into, regardless of whether ever stationed or port calls there back in the Navy days.   Good luck!  
 

[Rich in CDO]

I guess I'm the 5th or 6th, don't do this....Yet.  I dated several Filipinas before getting married.  They ranged from Manila girls, to province girls and even a professor from Zamboanga.  I live part of the year in Cagayan de Oro now.  It's about 5-6 hour drive from Davao. Davoa is a good place to meet, but more dangerous than CDO.  I paid several times for a Mother to come along on the trip. Actually, worked out well.  You will be feeding 15 members every day, if you go to Digos City, good family or not. It's expected. You will have a hard time fighting that one off, especially with a new girlfriend.  Be careful, it's very hard to know how "good" she is on a short visit, but it's much better than messaging.  As stated above, you probably will get very bored after a few days.  I wouldn't set myself up for that.  Take the suggestions above, get a long term place to stay and go visit Digos City for a day. Stay longer after you've had a chance to analyze the situation.  There is a great Sitcom in PH.  It's called "Be careful with my Heart".  It's online. There are a ton of girls willing to date you.  If you are good looking and not old like us old guys, you'll be more wanted and will have your pick.  Be careful, she knows that too, and asking for marriage and expecting it within 6 months is common.  That's why I met my Filipina in Chicago after searching around the Philippines thru 6 years of vacations. Go figure, spent all of that money, and met my future wife in Chicago.  Of well, can't complain that the "fishing" in the Philippines wasn't great.  Wouldn't trade that experience for anything.  PH is a great place to visit. Don't get stuck in a province town for 30 days.

[Balisidar]

He probably didn't like the advice given since he hasn't been back in months.

Ahh well.  

[Jollygoodfellow]

42 minutes ago, Balisidar said:

He probably didn't like the advice given since he hasn't been back in months.

Ahh well.  

A one post wonder 

[Joey G]

Or he went anyways..... and....