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Moving in with a filipina and her family

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7 hours ago, Squid1981 said:

what kind of culture shock should i prepare myself for?

 My friend,  You may well be expected to Fund this Stay, For me, "If in any Doubt, Don't" It is most unusual to be invited like this and those that accepted when offered it turned out Bad, Please think on and please don't become another Statistic, We have heard of Many and I for one have heard really Bad things from people I have known personally. One Question please. have you ever met this Lady? :89: Sorry for the negative But.............

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3 hours ago, graham59 said:

I don't think it will be a cheap relaxing vacation, that's for sure...if you need to ask about the 'culture shock'. lol

Usually not much do in a provincial village...if that's where the home is, but you'll be welcomed with open arms into the male relatives' heavy drinking sessions each evening.  :shooter: 

Anyway, stick around, ask us some more questions , and if you have them to share...suggest you post some pics of your proposed accommodation.  :thumbsup:

You omitted to add.. " And be expected to pay most of the time "  

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If I were the poster Id get on You Tube and review the various multitude of videos there are concerning expats in Philippines and their various experiences. Theres plenty to choose from and some successes, failures and in betweens in terms of overcoming/dealing with culture shock.

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Take GeoffH's words to heart.

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9 hours ago, Squid1981 said:

I recieve ssdi and when I am able I want to come to the Philippines

From you name I am going to assume you might have been in the navy. So I apologize right now for being crude. This one of those times you really, really need to think with the big head and not the little one! Listen to the boots on the ground on this one.

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All great and savy advice above and so much info you have not provided about the girl, her family, how long known, met?, actually "seen" her, etc.  I'll add from my own experience, after now wife and I lived together for a while in Okinawa, that when I went to visit and stay with her family in Bagong Silang (large slum outside of Manila) where they had a decent house among shacks, houses, huts, etc...the whole gamut.....No biggie culturally as my Ex is a Filipino American and I'd lived/worked in PI back in 90's, plus host of other 3rd world locations, but Still it was very different when in a relationship with one of the "hosts" and the household was in line with what previously described above  with sleeping arrangements, a single bathroom/shower shared by 10 people, cockroaches from Jurasic Park!, etc.  Be prepared that none of her family may speak English and you'll have no idea what is being said about you, etc, and don't expect your gal to translate it all....all the more reason to meet in a more modern area and save the family visit for later, keeping in mind you will likely pay for Everything!...your SSDI makes you "RICH!" there in the PI.  As suggested, stay north such as Luzon or Cebu, and above all else, Research, Research and Research some more here, other forums and YouTube so that you have an idea of what getting into, regardless of whether ever stationed or port calls there back in the Navy days.   Good luck!  
 

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