Allowance , How much?

[Dieter8]

Hi ,  What is the typical allowance that you send to your Filipina wife or GF ?  I started with 10k to my wife and her 22 year old girl which was ok for a few years . Then she asked for 15K per month a year ago she is now looking for 20K per month with no real expaination . When we live together there the average spend is 8k per month apart from building costs . I feel she is getting demanding and greedy .

[Dave Hounddriver]

I found there is no typical amount to give to a wife or GF.  Similar to tipping, every member has a different amount in mind that they think is right.  Some members even hate the word "allowance" but are fine saying "What proportion of the family budget is a typical amount for a wife's pocket money"

But as you have found out, the only real answer to "How much should I send her" is . .  just a little bit more.

[Jollygoodfellow]

2 hours ago, Dieter8 said:

Hi ,  What is the typical allowance that you send to your Filipina wife or GF ?  I started with 10k to my wife and her 22 year old girl which was ok for a few years . Then she asked for 15K per month a year ago she is now looking for 20K per month with no real expaination . When we live together there the average spend is 8k per month apart from building costs . I feel she is getting demanding and greedy .

You know roughly the cost of living with her and the area you once lived so perhaps you can work it from there. As for the 22 year old, is she your problem? Food prices have increased so probably other things so maybe an increase is in line but on the other hand do you owe her anything if you are not together any more? 

Building costs which sound like you built a house so she has a house but what about you? 

[Shady]

3 hours ago, Dieter8 said:

Then she asked for 15K per month a year ago she is now looking for 20K per month with no real expaination .

The explanation is asking for 5k increases from you works. 

[Dieter8]

2 hours ago, Jollygoodfellow said:

You know roughly the cost of living with her and the area you once lived so perhaps you can work it from there. As for the 22 year old, is she your problem? Food prices have increased so probably other things so maybe an increase is in line but on the other hand do you owe her anything if you are not together any more? 

Building costs which sound like you built a house so she has a house but what about you? 

We are still together for 6 months each year , I also have a house in my home country . 

[Old55]

I don't think anyone here can answer to your question. You both must have some kind of budget not sure why a mystery?

[Mike J]

Have you asked her why the need for 20K but the three of you get by on 8K per month when you are there? 

[Joey G]

My wife would laugh at me if I used the word "allowance"... we work up a budget together... we have an annual budget and a monthly budget... we lay out all income sources and expected expenses for both budgets... and adjust accordingly when necessary.  Call me crazy... but I can't remember the last time we had a spat over money.

[BC57]

7 hours ago, Dave Hounddriver said:

I found there is no typical amount to give to a wife or GF.  Similar to tipping, every member has a different amount in mind that they think is right.  Some members even hate the word "allowance" but are fine saying "What proportion of the family budget is a typical amount for a wife's pocket money"

But as you have found out, the only real answer to "How much should I send her" is . .  just a little bit more.

Have her make an itemized list of expenses for your review. That should make her real happy, lol.

[RBM]

9 hours ago, Dieter8 said:

Hi ,  What is the typical allowance that you send to your Filipina wife or GF ?  I started with 10k to my wife and her 22 year old girl which was ok for a few years . Then she asked for 15K per month a year ago she is now looking for 20K per month with no real expaination . When we live together there the average spend is 8k per month apart from building costs . I feel she is getting demanding and greedy .

A wise man once told me.

Bruce give them what they NEED not what they WANT........