bringing a Filipina to the US

[bows00]

There are many stories out there of older men taking a much younger Filipina back to their home country.  There are happy endings, yes... but the majority of the stories I hear end in despair.  I am 55 and I wouldn't do it.  Too risky.  Especially marriage.  In addition, it would be difficult for me to live with the american cultural acceptance of large age gap relationships.

If you want to have a relationship with a much younger filipina, and especially if you have no money, why don't you opt to live in the Philippines instead? 

[robert k]

1 hour ago, bows00 said:

 

If you want to have a relationship with a much younger filipina, and especially if you have no money, why don't you opt to live in the Philippines instead? 

I think he would be hard pressed earning in the Philippines. I wouldn't be surprised if she didn't get pressure if they lived in the Philippines to find a wealthier foreigner!

[davewe]

6 hours ago, AlwaysRt said:

Cool, was she working/is there a social security qualification decision to make also? It is something I talk to my wife about. Do we go, how long do we stay, 5 yrs for citizenship or 10 years for social security also.

Yes she worked most of the time. Assuming the Social Security system is the same by then (a big assumption) she would get a SS benefit (based on marriage to me) as early as age 60. But no, waiting till she got her 10 years worth of personal work credit was not a consideration. Her husband is too damn old to wait!

Edited June 5, 2017 by davewe

[davewe]

5 hours ago, bows00 said:

I am 55 and I wouldn't do it.  Too risky.  Especially marriage.  In addition, it would be difficult for me to live with the american cultural acceptance of large age gap relationships.

The acceptance or lack of acceptance in the US of age gap relationships is real but the advantage of being an old fart is I simply don't give a damn. Janet and I go to restaurants regularly. I simply don't look at the other patrons; I am too busy eating and looking at Janet.

A funny story that just happened yesterday. We are selling our home and had a open house. Our realtor could not do Sunday so we agreed that he would do Saturday and Janet and I would man the fort Sunday.

I was chatting up a hot prospect in our basement and Janet was speaking to a couple upstairs. She and the woman got along great. At first the woman assumed that Janet was the realtor. "No," said Janet. "My husband owns the house." Then she whispered to the woman, "Don't be too shocked when you meet him. He's a little bit older than me." Cracked me up when she told me later.

[Gratefuled]

9 hours ago, davewe said:

The acceptance or lack of acceptance in the US of age gap relationships is real but the advantage of being an old fart is I simply don't give a damn.

In the states, most people who see this assume that she is from an escort service. Others just don't care. How your family and friends look at it might matter. 

My aunt hated Asian women. Her ex husband left her for a Japanese girl. 

A co worker left his Asian wife because she could not give him a son. He married a dog ugly co worker who would go drinking with the male co workers and go off=roading with them. They have a son now, but he lost many friends and co workers who sympathised with his ex Asian wife.

 

[Dave Hounddriver]

10 hours ago, davewe said:

The acceptance or lack of acceptance in the US of age gap relationships

I may be an anomaly  but I have found that there are people who will find fault with any relationship I ever had.  Either my partner has been the wrong race or age or size or ethnicity or she was a gold digger or "I wasn't good enough for her" but I have never had a relationship that everyone approved of, so I gave up trying to please other people.  The trick is to convince the spouse to give up trying to please other people.

[jpbago]

10 hours ago, davewe said:

The acceptance or lack of acceptance in the US of age gap relationships

After seeing the difficulties that I had in taking care of my 1st wife due to early onset AD, my friends were happy for me to move on with my Filipina. After 4 trips to Canada for 6 months each time, she has more friends in Canada than I do after living there all my life. She talks to everybody.

[davewe]

2 hours ago, Gratefuled said:

In the states, most people who see this assume that she is from an escort service. Others just don't care. 

 

I live in Portland not Los Angeles. People here don't assume she is a hooker. They assume I have the best dope in town 

Joking aside it's a pretty lousy thing to say. 

[Gerald Glatt]

It may be the friends I keep but I don't see that much age prejudice. Most of the sixty to seventy crowd has wifes much younger than Fe maybe one in 8 has a spouse w/i 10 years of them. I've got a friend who is building in Leyte and is om his thrud younger wife. They go to the theater she gets student discount him seinor. Fe has a cousin in Daytona husband 90+ cousin upper 40s ts a RN. Fe thinks it's fine he has someone to take care of him. If the people who you care for family and friends have no problem, the others are just envious of your judgment and good tastes. You will no doubt be approached by many males wanting to know your secret. Tell them it's your aftershave "Eau de Jake"

[Gary D]

"Tell them it's your aftershave "Eau de Jake"

Get the wife to tell them it's for the better sex.