Hi Dave, great to have you on here and you brought up some very good points, and let me say that it appears you do not need any help with making blogs. :541:It always amazes me how anyone would send large amounts of money to someone they have not met and do not really know, when they would never do the same back home if a girl asked them to. I can see it now, one of them is given a phone number or chat contact to a girl back home and before they meet in person they talk on the phone or chat with them and she asks him for a large amount of  money and he gives it to her, NOT! because it would probably never happen back home, yet many of these same men do not seem to understand that many people in the PHL only earn about the equivalent of 3 top 5 dollars US a day and many of those people have a college education and work at an ordinary job, yet these same guys send them $20, $50 or $100 at a clip, because to them it is less than a days salary, while not understanding that it might be a week or months salary to the average working person in the PHL. I know the above happens because I have heard it time and time again from people who ask me for advice in emails, private messages or on the phone and wonder why the girls and their family that they finally go over to meet are gold diggers or become gold diggers. These people make their own beds and then wonder why their relationships fail. Now I am not saying your friend did this, No, I am agreeing that the guys who send money to people they do not even know are spoiling and ruining the women for others, and for themselves. I believe it is OK to send small amounts of money once a person knows a woman for a month or two of chat daily and that money IMO should only be enough to cover her communications with him, since it cost the equivalent of maybe 30 to 50 cents or less for her to talk to him with a webcam for an hour, but beyond that they are spoiling it for themselves and everyone else IMO.I will take this one step farther and tell guys to keep in mind the cost of life in the PHL verses the gifts they give family, because those gifts will probably set the pace for the rest of your life and I know a number of guys who were way too generous to family members at the beginning, and then they did not understand the incessant demands for cash once they married their gf's. One of my friends bought a TV, a refrigerator, a VCR with DVD player for the family and a used Jeepney for the dad, and all in the week he met his lady, and then he used to complain to me almost weekly that they kept asking for large sums of money for so called emergencies or expensive gifts after he married her and brought her back to the states. They are now divorced, as are many I know who spoiled the girl and her family up front. I am not saying all will end up divorced, but treat her and her family the way you intend to treat them the rest of their lives and if you are rich and want to spoil them all, then please keep in mind that we are not all rich and you may also be spoiling it for many of us with your lavish gifts.  So all, as Dave said, do not send money, and I will add, until you meet the lady and even then keep the money reasonable for what is earned in the PHL.  Dave I am sorry to hear about your friend and his lady and I only hope she will wake up before it is too late.

Thanks for your comments and insight MrLee. I should also mention that my friend is on a pension of approximately 1,000 US a month so when he gives an "allowance" to his girlfriend it is actually 10% of what he gets AND he pays all the expenses. I mention this for anyone reading in another country who feels "Joe" wasn't giving enough and thus she may have had reason to look for a greener pasture.Let me also mention that you can never give enough to a money motivated girl. She will always assume there is more to be had, at least that is what I have noticed.

Thanks for your comments and insight MrLee.  I should also mention that my friend is on a pension of approximately 1,000 US a month so when he gives an "allowance" to his girlfriend it is actually 10% of what he gets AND he pays all the expenses.  I mention this for anyone reading in another country who feels "Joe" wasn't giving enough and thus she may have had reason to look for a greener pasture.Let me also mention that you can never give enough to a money motivated girl.  She will always assume there is more to be had, at least that is what I have noticed.

Thanks for your comments and insight MrLee. I should also mention that my friend is on a pension of approximately 1,000 US a month so when he gives an "allowance" to his girlfriend it is actually 10% of what he gets AND he pays all the expenses. I mention this for anyone reading in another country who feels "Joe" wasn't giving enough and thus she may have had reason to look for a greener pasture.Let me also mention that you can never give enough to a money motivated girl. She will always assume there is more to be had, at least that is what I have noticed.

Update:The grass really is greener for some girls. Here is what happened since I wrote this blog.My friend found another live in girlfriend within days. She treats him well and he is quite happy with her. Only time will tell if she will go looking for greener pastures one day.The girl who left him found a European boy friend who would bring her to his hotel for sex, give her a cell phone load and jeepney fare home. That lasted a week before she realized it was going no where. Then this week she latched onto an older, wealthier, Australian man who wined and dined her, promised her the moon and gave her lots of money to be sure her family could have a nice Christmas. (More than most here can afford to give but he is just visiting). He promises to come back in January and send lots of money in the meanwhile. She is in love with him now. (This kind of Richard Gere wanna be sure makes things difficult for us ordinary folk.)The girl's roommate, the one who instigated all this, is still collecting money from a couple of foreign, Internet 'boyfriends' while she gets her physical needs met from a local boy.So it seems that everyone is getting what they deserve and the world continues to turn.

Yep, thats really common-girls making lots of money online here and the guys in the states and other places just keep sending it.Somehow I got lucky years ago and married a great Filipina and still live (retired) here in the islands (sure beats Calif.!)Money has never been an issue in our marriage. We live completely on under $150us (one hundred fifty) per month by choice and have no problems. Or 3rd grade daughter even attends a private school and thats included in the under $1150.00 budget.Dave, your handle is Hound driver. Are you pushing a grey dog across the country? Jst wondering as I drove bus and semi all over the 11 western for years.Gene

Oops my fingers hit the wrong keys. Last post should read: Our 3rd grade daughter even attends a private school and thats included in the under $ 150.00 dollar budget...

Dave, your handle is Hound driver. Are you pushing a grey dog across the country? Jst wondering as I drove bus and semi all over the 11 western for years.Gene