Changing My Plan….
Hi everyone please excuse my bad English coz I only finished high school and have some college so I have a friend who is college educated help me with this blog.
I am at 32, 4 feet 11 tall and weigh 40 kilos. I finished high school and started college but I did not have the money or time while working to finish and now getting a steady paying job at my age is very hard here. I live in a small room over an internet café with my son. Doing odd jobs and washing clothes for people to support myself and my son without a father was not part of the my plan for my life. I had hoped to be married and living with a good husband and having a family.
I did get married. To an American which I will call George. I was about 28, he was 51, and I had no experience with men coz I had lived with family in the provinces all my life. I did not know it at the time, but George was living some fantasy and was only interested in bringing an Asian woman back to the US for some weird things that I was not aware of when I married him and would not agree to. So he went off and married another lady here who I knew, without first getting our marriage annulled. Yes, she knew I was married to him already and we were not annulled and she marry him anyway. So very sad.
The last I heard, George and this other woman filed a false fiancé visa for her and they moved to the US and got married in a place called Carson City, where when she found out what weird things he wanted her to do, she quickly left him too. I am told she is hiding somewhere in the US now. The last time I talked to George, he told me he was changing his name to hide from the police about the visa fraud and bigamy and he was planning another trip back here. With help from some American friends who know computers, they told me many things about him that they found out and they are helping me with the embassy and immigration to stop George from doing this to anyone else. George uses his birth name and the name of his stepfather when he wants to hide.
After George left me for good, I met a man from Europe. Nice man I thought. Again, I was wrong. I found out too late he has lived here many years on his pension and had many girl friends and many babies. Finding new girl friends was his hobby. He was very cheap. When we would go out to eat, if I did not eat everything on the plate, he would make me pay for my meal. He is the father of my son. I am doing my best to see that my son is raised with more respect for people than his father has. We don’t like lying people.
I get no help from my sons father at all. But I am doing the best as I can on my own. I am learning more about people and how to make better decisions and that is one reason I joined this forum. I want to understand foreign men better and hope to one day find a stable man who will love me and my son and we all can live a nice quiet life. I am not an expensive woman.
There is a lot of information on this forum that I really don’t understand. So if I reply to anyone asking a question, please don’t call me stupid. I am learning as much as I can and will try to do better.
I am from a small place called Badian Cebu. No running water, no electricity until I moved to Cebu City with my older sister to go to school at age 14. I don’t drive and I am not sure if I ever want to. I have become friends by email to one foreign who is married and chats with me about life and tries to help me understand life and gives me strength to strive for a better life for myself and my son.
I am going back to Badian now to vote and will be back in City next week. If you want to be friends and help me with questions about this forum, I really do need help. Bye for now.