Mr Lee Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 Sex expert: Orgasm should be a right https://abs-cbnnews.com/features/05/21/09/s...should-be-right Could your lady be faking just to please you?Filipinas tend to be shy and they are not so open about sex. Probably because their parents did not teach them the importance of sexuality. And you also learn the basics [about sex] from books, movies, or from your friends. You don't ask your doctors or OB [gynecologists] about sex. [Kung] nahihiya ka, parang you cannot take control of yourself. Your tendency is just to let your partner do it [to] you. When you make love, you should enjoy it," she said.Marquez added that about half of all sexually active women fake their orgasms in order to please their partner. Men, meanwhile, sometimes have difficulty telling whether a woman's "vocalizations" and "epileptic fits" during the throes of passion are genuine or fake. Sometimes, she said, men don't attune themselves to their partner's body language and sexual needs."Women are like 'plantsa' or flat irons, they need to be heated first. Men are like 'posporo' or matches because when you light them up, they burn, but when the fire is gone, they snore the night away," she joked. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bruce Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 More 'generalizations' made to simply sell a book or put forth their own views. Sex is like cooking. Most all, normal (sorry Lee) people of all sexes, know how to cook and or have sex. Sure you can go out and buy a cook book / sex book if you want to try something different (Anyone want Thai tonight?), but in reality, most people in a relationship don't have to perform acrobatics everynight. They know what is needed to get the job done and don't really need thess self help gurus who like to hear themselves talk and want to be an authority about something. When I was working full time as a ob/gyn nurse, I would watch some of the female nurses try to 'teach' breast feeding. It was obvious that they themselves 'liked' titties and were using the pretext of teaching to gain access to the patients breasts. Women have been breast feeding a long time! Why even before Gerber started making baby food. It is NOT rocket science and women are NOT as imcompetant as the 'teachers' pretend they are. Without this 'incompetence' factor, there is no need to 'teach' breast feeding. If, and I stress if, a woman has an issue (inverted nipples) or question (can I breast feed if I have implants) can be addressed as they come up. But to assume that all women need classes on breast feeding is no where near reality. Same for this supposed sex issues. Sure there are men who are lousy lovers and sure there are women who fake it or have little or no interest in sex. But this is the minority, not the majority. Having said all this, let me close by saying.... I don't care IF she is faking it! Because I got MINE! now shut up and let me go to sleep, damn it........ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hoz Posted May 22, 2009 Posted May 22, 2009 "When it's good it's very good, when it's bad it ain't so bad." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr Lee Posted May 22, 2009 Author Posted May 22, 2009 It is never really bad for a man IMO, it is only bad for a woman when she has a selfish man who just wants to slam bam thank you ma'am. :bash: IMO if a man wants to keep his lady, then he needs to keep her happy in bed, :dance: :as-if: and this might especially be true when the man is older than the woman by many years. :th_exactly: (hey guys, I am also 20 years older, so do not shoot the messenger, it is JMO) :13_4_10[1]: Hey, maybe that is why there are so many of them damned street venders selling Viagra and Cialis. :yes: I guess there would not be so many if there was not many buyers. :lol: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mike S Posted May 23, 2009 Posted May 23, 2009 Well the old saying "the older the buck ... the stiffer the horn" can acually be true ...... baring medical or psychological problems ....... also drinking ... although many guys will tell you different they being macho and all ..... is medically proven to curb both desire and performance (sometimes you just think you had or did ..... hahaha)...... alcohol can also reduce your chances of producing offspring ....... and for some that could be a good thing .... hahahahahaWomen are also much different in nature as far as actual orgasms go ....... and don't need to climb the walls and scream your name (or in some cases someone else's) over and over again to achieve satisfaction any more than a man needs to bellow like a bull and beat his chest each and every time ....... And for you macho Hugh Hefner types out there that thinks "my woman can never fool me" you got another think coming (no pun intended) women can shake ... shimmy ..... jerk ... scream ..... through you on the floor ... roll their eyes back in their head (no not like the exorcist) and even lubricate or make their nipples hard with out achieving full orgasm ....... again it has all been documented before ......... where as it is rather hard for us to fake it unless of coarse there is a medical problem and he can't ejaculate ...... And while sex is an important part of any relationship communication ... affection ..... understanding and love all pay a more important part ...... don't believe me ...... what'ch gonna do when the ol' man won't rear his ugly head any more ....... and if you live long enough it is gonna happen to you ........ another proven fact ....... Oh ..... and for those purists that want the proven facts ...... do a Google ....... but not under Hugh Hefner ...... hahahahahaha Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheMason Posted May 23, 2009 Posted May 23, 2009 where as it is rather hard for us to fake it unless of coarse there is a medical problem and he can't ejaculate ......I was reading an article online a couple months back about a sex survey in the US. It said that men are also faking orgasms now. Not as often as women, but the frequency is on the rise. If you're using a condom, who's going to know if you fake it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tom_shor Posted May 28, 2009 Posted May 28, 2009 I fake it all the time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
til Posted June 8, 2009 Posted June 8, 2009 Well I think for a woman faking your orgasm is pretty much the worst thing you can do, if you want to have a real one. I know women can do it it, but I prefer honesty. I'm realistic enough to know, you can't always reach orgasm (even as a male) and it doesnt need to hurt my male ego if she can't come. But I'll do my best to satisfy her and if she gives me honest feedback on how it is for her, that makes it a lot easier to achieve that. I honestly do not think I can be 100% sure a woman really came. I think most of them are way to good actors.What I did find is that most women reach a point of oversensitivity (like ticklish) after there real orgasm. And I doubt they would fake that, especially if they don't know that reaction yet. So as a man the best you can do is do teach your woman to be honest (in and out of bed). Sometimes the truth might hurt, but it also heals and helps to reach your goals. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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