raising your voice

[MikeyD]

I recently witnessed a disagreement between a foreigner and his Filipina wife where she said she could report him to the police for raising his voice to her.

I have read about this, and it seems to be plausible that any Filipino can report any "unruly/undesirable" foreigner who raises their voice in public or private to a Filipino to the police which might possibly result in police/immigration action such as deportation, blacklisting, being put in jail, etc.  I have also read that it doesn't matter if the accusation is true or not or can be substantiated/corroborated or not.  

Does anyone know about a situation where a foreigner being accused of raising their voice to a Filipino/Filipina that actually resulted in legal/police/immigration action against them?

 

[Jack Peterson]

27 minutes ago, MikeyD said:

Does anyone know about a situation where a foreigner being accused of raising their voice to a Filipino/Filipina that actually resulted in legal/police/immigration action against them?

 

 No, not at all, in fact depending on How long you have been here you will realise that this in many cases the only way they will listen. You need to live near me to hear what goes on, Filipino men do a great deal of shouting, Nah! Filipino ladies use the excuse of the foreigner shouting just to get attention from people because they just can't get on with their foreigners so, Why marry one. I might add that the courts are well aware of this and throw the case out, It would not get passed barangay level, I have been there  

[craftbeerlover]

49 minutes ago, MikeyD said:

I recently witnessed a disagreement between a foreigner and his Filipina wife where she said she could report him to the police for raising his voice to her

Time to either be single or find a new wife

[Jack Peterson]

 Tell us honestly anyone here that has Never raised his Voice to his Wife, I'll be here 

[Snowy79]

I agree with Jack, most things will be sorted at the Barangay level. I've heard many anecdotal stories about what happens but the only ones I've physically witnessed end up as he said, she said arguments infront of the Barangay. 

One friend who has made multiple bad life choices actually won twice in front of the local Barangay with the accuser being told to wind her neck in. 

[stevewool]

1 hour ago, Jack Peterson said:

 Tell us honestly anyone here that has Never raised his Voice to his Wife, I'll be here 

Just a few times myself , then afterwards you regret it as the wife makes you a cup of tea and a slice of cake 

[Gutenberg]

3 hours ago, MikeyD said:

I recently witnessed a disagreement between a foreigner and his Filipina wife where she said she could report him to the police for raising his voice to her.

I have read about this, and it seems to be plausible that any Filipino can report any "unruly/undesirable" foreigner who raises their voice in public or private to a Filipino to the police which might possibly result in police/immigration action such as deportation, blacklisting, being put in jail, etc.  I have also read that it doesn't matter if the accusation is true or not or can be substantiated/corroborated or not.  

Does anyone know about a situation where a foreigner being accused of raising their voice to a Filipino/Filipina that actually resulted in legal/police/immigration action against them?

 

That was testing his authority. Let's hope for him he continues to raise his voice otherwise there will be a shift in the dynamic of the relationship and eventually will lead to divorce as both are unhappy with this kind of situation.

I would die on this hill as I think it's important to lay down the law.

[JJReyes]

I have seen fathers and mothers shouting at a disobedient child from 50 or more feet.  The child simply ignores them.  A more effective method is to stand or seat next to them and give the reprimand with a voice that is one octave lower.  This is known as, "Within striking distance," although striking is never used.  Use the same technique on a wife and the incident cannot be reported to the barangay.  "Your husband lowered his voice and sat next to you?"  "What an affectionate person!"

[MotorSarge]

3 hours ago, stevewool said:

Just a few times myself , then afterwards you regret it as the wife makes you a cup of tea and a slice of cake 

Yeppers.....Always keep in mind that may be the last cup of tea and slice of cake 

[Mike J]

As others have posted the answer is no, you will not get in trouble for yelling at your spouse.  There is however a kernel of truth in your post.  A loud voice here, perhaps more so here than the rest of the world, represents anger or high emotion.  Thus a person with a raised voice, even if the natural tone, may be seen as angry even if not.  I have always had what many call a "soft" voice, low in volume and moderate in tone.  A number of Filipinos have told my wife that they like my voice and it tells them I am a good man.  Children also seem flock to me, which I love, and parents are fine with that.  What I am saying is that for many, perhaps most, Filipinos a LOUD voice = ANGER, soft voice = nice guy.