Special Study Of Expat And Their Partners

[jode]

I accept your "study" for what it is. Informal rap sessions with a variety of people you meet. Of course, it is in no way scientific in any sense. Just your personal impressions from chats on personal matters with couples you happen to meet.

There is certainly nothing surprising about women enjoying talking about their men with other women. I believe it is probably the favorite subject for women the world over.

Men are almost the opposite and will rarely or never talk about their women to other men. Beyond maybe the occaisional brief joking comment. It is one of the many ways in which we are so differant.

I think like Ashanti said that if another woman was to talk as negative about their men as they do, they wouldn't like it. As men might slug another man who made bad comments about their woman.

I think women like to disparage their men to other women as a way to feel less controlled and more powerful. A womans way to feel tough and on top. In actuality I don't think their feelings for their men are as negative as they sometimes like to portray to other women.

After the overiding issue of financial security is settled, other needs may come to the forefront for a filipina. A man who wants a young beautiful sexy woman better have what it takes to keep such a woman satisfied. For old, overweight, drinkers and smokers that may no longer be physically possible.

Filipinas may need and eventually desire alot more passion in their lives than the expat can provide. Then try to figure out a way to have financial security and the physical excitement she needs.

Sadly the sweetest ripest fruit can spoil after awhile. Filipinas are not a breed exempt from that rule. Unless of course they have the personal discipline, morals, and support to resist.

Edited May 17, 2012 by jode

[Old55]

Agreed. That is where the 100% jealousy comes into play. It's a strange paridigm. One of the things I have observed (no study involved) and find interesting is that many filipinas tend to get involved with the first guy they can. A lot of this I think comes from fear of loss. What if another guy doesn't come along "I may lose the opportunity". So I do think that many Filipina find themselves with men they really have no interest with but are with for the security they know they have now. And even through having kids they still feel the same. BIZARRE. Not a very healthy way to embark on a relationship. Works with some men the same way....Many Guys are on the Internet in their home country and communicate with a girl here in the Philippines. They come, they meet, she makes an even better impression in person and then he goes home and pursues a fiancee' visa. He doesn't take the time to look around to see more of the country and date other women who may be even more interesting for him. On the other hand I know guys that literally conduct interviews day after day in hotel lobbies or restaurants with potential Mrs. X.

I see some truth in this generalization.

[Old55]

I can accept the group of people you talked to in the Philippines were more or less as you say. I have not had the same experiences with the people I have spent time with. It was interesting to read your analysis thank you for posting it.

[kaku]

I love how you present opinion and heresay as fact. You should go work for Fox News.

Actually, I think there is much more opinion and heresay on ABC, CBS, CNN and especially NBC. According to your analysis he would be better off working for them.

[Ashanti]

I think women like to disparage their men to other women as a way to feel less controlled and more powerful. A womans way to feel tough and on top. In actuality I don't think their feelings for their men are as negative as they sometimes like to portray to other women.

Actually, that is not what I meant ……………….

While some Filipinas may say negatively about their men but almost all Filipinas doesn’t want to hear negative things about their man other than herself, the wife, irrespective if he is a foreigner or filipino, man or woman. And lo betide if you dare!

Of course that goes without saying, that if one is a scammer/lowlife you will always get the negatives!!!

Edited May 17, 2012 by Ashanti

[sjp52]

I am sure there is some truth in the study that the poster has written. I have read lots of stories of people being scammed and women been mistreated and shes only out for your money, All have come from the internet. Have not noticed it personally. But I am a true believer that if there is a lot of smoke there surely will be some fire around. Unfortunately It is hard to know what goes on in the Philippines because of the language difference. Of the foreigners I have met I would only rely on a small percentage of what they say. Half I would not want at my house let alone believe any thing they would say. But there are good foreigners out there and there are many many decent loving Filipina, That I know for a fact as I have met many.

As for a Filipina getting involved with a foreigner for financial reasons, Well many women in the west would not look at you if you did not have a decent job and the more money you have the more of a catch you are. As for cheating it is happening all over the world and getting worse as the divorce rate will support. Would I recommend a valued friend to go to the Philippines to look for a wife ? In a heart beat I would. Most Filipina have a sweetness and loving innocence and devotion that has been disappearing in the west. If you find one of those Filipina then you truly are a lucky man. I know I am one of the lucky ones.

People write negative things in forums in all countries. It must be in our nature to complain. People are getting sh*t on every where, All we have to do is try to shield our selves from as much of it as possible and take a bath every day for the stuff we missed. :cheers: So have a beer and let it slide

Your brain is a powerful tool. It tells you if you are going to be happy or sad. If you feed it garbage then you will have a garbage day. If you can not feed it enough good things then maybe this place is not for you.

:cheers: Heres hoping you have happy days no matter where you go

[Higg-num]

I love how you present opinion and heresay as fact. You should go work for Fox News.

Actually, I think there is much more opinion and heresay on ABC, CBS, CNN and especially NBC. According to your analysis he would be better off working for them.

Uh...Dude, You left out PMS; MSN :hystery:

Edited May 17, 2012 by Higg-num

[Higg-num]

Sjp52, What an elegant post. My compliments Sir. To you as well Phil. For having the courage to post your findings.

Edited May 17, 2012 by Higg-num

[i am bob]

I got a kick out of this entire string of posts! Everybody got so riled up in favour of or against the survey and it's results!

No matter whoever does a survey, or the people reacting to our surveys, or those who have never even heard of this forum, one thing will always be constant and true... Nobody is the same as anyone else! There are always differences no matter what! So if you don't fit in the same as those surveyed, ok... And if all the people surveyed come up against what you believe, fine... And if you see you in the results, that's ok too! No survey is completely accurate - it's just a reflection of the people queeried and the questions they were asked!

[Mike S]

God .... I want to get into this topic ..... but I'm going to be a good boy and stay out of it ...... :hystery: :hystery: :hystery: