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[Julia]

Husbands: Ten Ways to Show Your Wife You Love Her

 

 

Ok MEN, it’s your turn on the old “ten things” list. And no, most of these don’t involve sex, sorry to disappoint.

As with all of these type of lists, make sure you don’t take them at face value. This is simply a way to give you a few ideas, that you can tailor to your wife’s likes/dislikes.

 

Ready? Here it goes.

1. Hold her hand for no reason.

Yeah, that means not just when you’re thinking of her without her clothes on. Remember the thrill that holding hands gave you when you were dating? Well, our wives STILL love it when we reach over and hold their hand. It shows her that no matter how busy/crazy life is/will be, you’re still in love with HER.

 

2. Look her in the eye and tell her she’s beautiful.

Notice I said look her in the EYE? In other words, not while you’re looking at her boobs. Our wives need you hear they are beautiful from US. Not from the kids, not from their girlfriends, not from her mom,  but from US. They might not say it, but they have thoughts like “I wonder if he still thinks I’m pretty?” quite a bit. Make SURE you let her know she’s still a “10″ in your eyes.

 

3. Do things around the house that you may not think are in your “job description”.

Don’t give me “Oh, I don’t like changing diapers”, or “I’m tired after a long day at work, I don’t want to help with dishes”.  As my mom used to tell us kids, “what, is your arm broken?” when we’d say we didn’t want to pitch in with the household stuff. It doesn’t matter if your wife stays home with the kids, or works out of the home – most times she’s exhausted by the time dinner comes around, so surprise her with a “hey babe, I’ll get the dishes tonight, why don’t you go sit on the deck and read that book you’ve been wanting to catch up on?” After she picks herself up off the floor, you’ll be amazed at how fast she’ll disappear. Sure it’s not fun, but man up. She’ll love you all the more for it.

 

4. Leave her sweet little notes –

I can hear you groaning from here. Ok, it doesn’t have to be anything Shakespearean. Just a quick “I love more than anything”, or “Thanks for everything you do, I love you!”. It does much more than you may think when our wives find those notes from us. It shows them we are thinking about them, and that’s HUGE to them.

 

5. Make sure sex is good for HER also -

 Ok, so there’s one about sex. But it’s not about you. I hear so many wives complaining about how their husbands want sex all the time, but have no interest in making/learning how to make it better for THEM. Come on guys! This isn’t what we’re going for! Get rid of the attitude that “sex is mostly for the guy” and start learning about HER body, and how to make HER feel good. Be a student of your wife’s body. How she likes to be touched, what turns HER on, etc. Don’t always be so concerned about what YOU get out of it. Remember, marriage is about giving, and your marriage bed is a huge part of that.

 

5. Tell her you LOVE her – A LOT –

“Oh come on, every guy does that! I say it all the time!” Yeah, you’d think this would be a no brainer, but it is a lot harder than we may think. As guys we may THINK we say it all the time, but I challenge you to count how many times you’ve said it today. Once? Maybe when you called on your lunch break? Yeah, our wives have a constant need to be reassured that we love them. It may seem strange to us guys, but it’s true. You can’t tell your wife you love her “too much”, but you can very easily say it “too little”.

 

6. Date her -

 No, that trip through the drive through with the kids last night was not a date. She wants you to pursue her, just like you did BEFORE you said “I do”. Plan nights out for just the two of you. Doesn’t have to be expensive, just as long as it’s you two spending time together. Could be a romantic dinner out. Could be something as simple as a walk by the lake, or in the park. What matters is that YOU planned it, and YOU took the time to be with HER and put everything else aside for a couple of hours. TIME MATTERS to our wives.

 

7. Make time to LISTEN to her -

 Yes, this involves turning off ESPN for a little while. Here’s the deal – your wife wants to feel important to you. If you are always listening to her talk with one eye on the top 10 plays, she’s not feeling like she’s very important. INVEST the time to sit down every couple of days with your wife, turn off the TV, put the cell phone away, sit down face to face, and say “Ok hon, I’m all yours. What’s going on in your world lately?” Resist the urge to solve problems, and instead empathize with her, listen to her, and make her feel like you actually care about her day. May seem simple, but this is SO important to our wives feeling loved and understood.

 

8. Surprise her with little gifts –

Have you ever been walking through a store with your wife and she going on about something that she’d “love to have” someday? I know, most times you’re only half listening, because you’re also walking past the electronics department at the time, but try to REMEMBER those little things she mentions. The vase that she thought would look good on the table by the door. The necklace she stopped to admire. It could be anything! Some time when she’s not expecting it (in other words, not a birthday, or Christmas), buy it for her, and surprise her with it! You get a double bonus from this one – one for surprising her with something she wanted, and another for actually remembering she mentioned it, and following through.

 

9. Give her time to do things WITHOUT you or the kids -

I go over this more in-depth in my post “Kick your wife out of the house”, but to sum it up, we need to remember that our wives need time to get away for a little while and clear their heads/relax. You try taking care of 2 or 3 needy, crying, energetic kids for 10 hours or so, and see how you feel at the end of it. When you get home from work and see that “I’m about to pull my hair out and curl up in a fetal position” look, have the decency to say “hey hon, do you want to head down to Starbucks for couple hours tonight after dinner? Just to “reset” a little?” Not only will she come back a lot calmer, but also refreshed, and ready to face another day and be the wife/mother she wants to be. Don’t see the warning signs, and go “oh well, I don’t get a break, why should she?”. Make sure your wife is getting time to herself. You’ll notice a BIG difference in almost every category.

 

10. Kiss her for no reason –

In other words, kiss her out of the blue, and not just when you want it to lead somewhere. Maybe it’s right in the middle of doing dishes, or as you walk by her in passing. There nothing like laying one on your wife when she’s least expecting it. After the “what was that for?”, you be able to say “oh, just because you’re beautiful, and I couldn’t resist”. Watch her eyes light up!

So there you have it! Ten things you can do for your wife, that will show her how much you still love/care for her. What are some ways you’ve found show you care/love your wife?

 

Source: http://missionhusband.wordpress.com/2013/07/16/husbands-ten-ways-to-show-your-wife-you-love-her/

Edited November 27, 2013 by ako si julia

[Old55]

Some wise suggestions.

[frosty (chris)]

As I don't have a special some one I will print this out and put it on my bathroom mirror so if ever I manage to meet the love of my life, maybe I can keep her happy, thanks for posting this

[brock]

Nice Julia,

 

Now how about,,,, WIVES: Ten Ways to Show Your Husband You Love Him  :)

[scott h]

If I tried any of that stuff, she would just ask what I did wrong.

[Julia]

Nice Julia,

 

Now how about,,,, WIVES: Ten Ways to Show Your Husband You Love Him   :)

 

how about this one I found in this link >>>>   http://missionhusband.wordpress.com/2013/07/03/biggrin/

 

Wives: 10 Ways to Put a Big Goofy Grin on Your Husband’s Face

 

Ok wives, let’s face it – your husband thinks a bit differently than you do about sex. I’m sure there has been a time or two when your husband tells you something about what he would like to do sexually, and you’ve  looked at him with that “he just said what?” look your face and said “You want to do what again?”

 

Don’t worry, it’s not your fault. We are kind of strange at times, and that’s the whole point of this post. How are you supposed to think like your husband about sex, when you’re NOT a guy?

 

Well, that’s where this little list comes in! But first a couple of things to get out of the way:

 

1. This list is like a “one size fits most” hat.

     It will probably fit your husband, but there are always those guys with really big or small heads. Use what you can from it, ignore the rest.

 

2. This is not a list like you find in Redbook in one of their “10 ways to please your man” lists. It does not require you to order a topless Mrs. Claus suit. Rather, this is a list for the regular, everyday husband, who adores his wife,  probably has a few young kiddos running around, and is wondering if there will ever be time for a sex life again.

 

“Ten ways to put a big goofy grin on your husband’s face” (without having to buy a topless Mrs Claus suit):

 

1.  After the kids go to bed one night, tell him you’re declaring it a “topless movie night”, and no one is allowed to wear shirts.

(Odds are, he won’t remember much of the plot of the movie, but he’ll be in 7th heaven)

 

2. Send him a picture of one of your “for his eyes only” parts, via text or email

(or using a couples app like Avocado, or Couple), with a message like “Later” attached. He will think about it all day.

 

3. When you sit down on the couch with him to watch tv after the kids go down, wear a skirt, sit at the end of the couch with your feet facing him, and “forget” to wear panties. See how long it takes him to notice.

 

4.  When you’re somewhere simi-private with him, let your hand slowly run over his (ahem) and tell him “I can’t wait until we go to bed later”

 

5. When you’re getting dressed in the morning, say “hey hon, can you come pick the panties you want me to wear today, and then take off of me tonight? I’m not sure which ones to wear”

 

6. Join him in the shower one morning out of the blue, when he left you in bed “sleeping”. Ask him if you can help him wash those hard to reach areas. He won’t mind being late for work that morning. 

 

7. Set your alarm a little earlier than his, and find “creative ways” to wake him up. I’m not going to expound on that one. 

 

8. After the kids are in bed, go into your bedroom saying you’re going to change into your PJ’s.

   Come out completely naked, and sit down by him like there’s nothing up. Maybe grab a magazine and start thumbing through it like everything’s normal.

   Oh, and make sure you help him pick his jaw up off the floor. You may need it later.

9.  When you’re riding in the car together (not driving), text him with an explanation of what you’d like to do to him later when you get home. 

 

10.  If he’s leaving on a business trip, or has to be away for a few days, make him a “private video” for him to watch when he calls you later that night.

Just be sure he has a way to hide it on his phone (Audio Manager on Android platform is a great app for this). Might not be a great one to accidentally come up during a business presentation. 

 

11. During a dinner out, or trip to the store, lean over and whisper to him that you’re not wearing any panties. Just be prepared to get home a little sooner than you may have intended. 

 

So there you go! a few things you can do to completely floor your hubby, and make him wonder how the heck you know exactly how to drive him wild all the time. Have fun, and remember, these are just ideas. You know your husband’s likes/desires more than anyone, so  make sure you tailor them to fit your guy. However you adjust them though, you can make sure that he won’t be able to get that goofy grin off of his face for a while.

 

The author says "Ten" , but i noticed he wrote "Eleven" ways :mocking:

And I can't believe I really am re posting this article here..... :89:

Edited November 27, 2013 by ako si julia

[Papa Carl]

Hey, no wonder it is better now, I am already doing most of the things on the list! 

 

Just didn't realize it!

 

Guess that comes with age!

 

Papa Carl

[JJReyes]

Wives: 10 Ways to Put a Big Goofy Grin on Your Husband’s Face

 

Julia, the original writer must have been female. She forgot adding a new set of expensive tools. That would put a grin on his face.

[Julia]

Hey, no wonder it is better now, I am already doing most of the things on the list! 

 

Just didn't realize it!

 

Guess that comes with age!

 

Papa Carl

:thumbsup:

[brock]

I am definitely going to give that list to the wife  :thumbsup: