The Debut

[stevewool]

I am sure someone has mentioned this before, but i am getting older and i do forget too, so i am going to mention it,

The Debut what is it , a party to celebrate coming of age for a girl, or is it to show off to all that is around you what you have and also how much debt you can rack up for the one night, 

This is the second debut involving the family one last year and one this coming year, the cost of the first one well it was stupid, and this new one i think is , well its family so they will have to out do the first so again silly money,,

Most of you all know me by now and the house we are building over in the Phils too, these two sisters who had no money to help there dad build his home but spent well over 300,000 peso on the first party, god knows what the next one will cost, but they still have no money to help,

Now there is another problem within the family there brother needs help, he needs to go into hospital so we are asking them to contribute but you all know what they have told us already, WE HAVE NO MONEY,

I am afraid i too am saying this now, yes it may be wrong and it may be fatal too, and yes i will have to live with that but also they will, but somehow they dont seem to suffer with guilt , they just seem to move onto the next project of wasting there own money

[Kuya John]

Steve,

It's all a product of Movies and Celebrity gossip, show's and mag's,

Some people actually believe it's the real deal!

Come on folks get real, King or Queen for a day, pay back later, not my style.

Brings to mind a story told to me by a work colleague, about First Holy Communion at his local church in Uk.

Apparently the Priest stood up at mass and declared, that no child was allowed to arrive in any thing more than a Taxi or Car.

This was after families, trying to out-do one another, were arranging arrivals by stretched limo's and one family arrived by Helicopter!

Sad people, living in a sad world, leave the Glitz where it belongs, in Hollywood.

[stevewool]

The trouble is John trying to convince them, i am and i will never be a show off, i class myself as a it will do guy,

Myself and my wife will never be there banker it has took a long time to be where i am and i intend to stay there too,

[JJReyes]

Tell them you are a socialist whenever someone ask for money. Or use words like, "I am a Bible belt, neo-classic, ultra-conservative. Our belief prevents us from helping others."  If you don't say, "No!" the first time, it's a never ending story. 

Edited March 29, 2015 by JJReyes

[Thomas]

The trouble is John trying to convince them, i am and i will never be a show off, i class myself as a it will do guy,

Myself and my wife will never be there banker it has took a long time to be where i am and i intend to stay there too,

I like to class myself DOWN  :mocking:     

(Not allways, but mostly.   =Dress as farmer, good function but uggly car and house.)

[BigMook]

WOW, I must be slumming

 

I have never been to or hosted a party in Cebu that cost more than p10,000

 

Thank god I come from a poor family with lower expectations.

 

When we arrive its usually by a rented jeepney and bring all of our own food and beer.

 

Life is good when you go with the flow instead of trying to create waves.

[chico2663]

Among people of spanish heritage it is called a Quincenera! It is a girl coming out party. My brother had one for my niece and didn'tinvite me. Went and bought some beer and pizza with that hundred. God is good. lol

In the area I work; I see poor black families that will spend 300 to 500 on a 2 year old kids birthday party. I m thinking to my self that they have enough problems keeping the electric on and they are wasting money that the kid isn't even going to remember. Before someone tries to say this is racist; I have worked in this community since 1984. My had a black grandfather...(puerto rican) and my aunt was married to a black man. This man always told me black is a descriptive word so not to worry about it.Also my ex is black.

Edited March 29, 2015 by chico2663

[RBM]

Each to their own, for myself I would not contribute anything. may sound harsh how ever if the family are in need of medical care and spending crazy money on this debut  says it all.

 

Unfortunately if one always give it will be expected for ever, perhaps Steve time to make a firm stand.

[Jack Peterson]

The Debut is as bad as the Graduations. It fills the tills of all those Concerned and Providing Services etc:

 

To my Extended family " You want a party, you pay for it. " For the Proper Graduation ( 21 from Uni) I may provide a Lechon, never Money. :no:

They say there is no such thing as a free Lunch  How very true, someone always has to pay! ( Though Not here,  from this House.)

 

The Debut went out in the 70's as far as I am concerned. and of Course it was never a concept for the Working Classes and I tend to think most of us were or Are still.

A Birthday Party was good enough for us YES?

 

JP :tiphat:

Morning All. :morning1:

[frosty (chris)]

Just had a graduation for the g/f's sister, my contribution monetary wise was zilch, I did all the running around for them, picking up this and that, taking tables and chairs and lot's more to make their house a little nicer,  I bought a cake. I told my g/f a long time ago, if money is required for something important I will contribute my share which works out to be a fifth and no more. If they can all afford the latest phones and spend money on booze and cigs, well they don't need my money. Funny now, no-one in her family bothers to ask any more for anything, I have even got to the stage when we are asked to a night out I don't go because I know who will end up with the bill.

Edited March 30, 2015 by frosty (chris)