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Hello to  Anyone who reads this, 

  Greetings from Eugene City, Oregon, The U.S.A. !

     Well, I met a lady over in the Philippines on line and she lives on the :   Island Garden City of Samal  adjacent to Davao city.  I was thinking to fly over there and visit with her and see how it works out..  If it turns out well, ( I figured just to marry her there and stay ).  She wants me to live there as opposed to coming to America.   I've Never been to  the PI before .  I have lived and worked in Seoul  S.Korea  4 years and mainland Dalian, China for 6 years.   I'm used to being an Expat, so it doesn't cause me any great difficulties to do it again.     ( At Least There it's Warm ) !!!    I just found this WEBSITE  today and had Hoped that maybe some of you could Give Me Any Advice and make Online Friends with...    

Thank You for taking your time to read my letter !

Have A Great Day !

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2 hours ago, Gino64 said:

I was thinking to fly over there and visit with her and see how it works out

You are part of a growing and thriving group of Westerners who have intentions to marry a Filipina and live happily ever after, without losing your shirt.  Now what are the odds of that:

 

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Been here on and off for 30 plus years.....man I dont know where to start with your post and hope you arent trolling us here.

Come here, meet the lady, look around, then leave. Return a few weeks later and go to some different places so you start to have a basis of comparison.

Do and go to the places that might interest you, not where this lady suggests.

DO NOT meet her family. Very very important that you dont even though she will try and set you up 100 times to do so.My opinion, others will say you cant see the lady without meeting her family , Im sure.

 

Take some time to yourself when visiting here and perhaps like many you will think, there are a gret many ladies her each one more attractive or interesting than the next... For many therir marriage intention flew out the window when they realised they had unnecessarily pre limited themselves in term of selection. Take your time.. this is an interesting chaotic madening frustrating chaotic ( again ) country with noise everywhere, some nice places, tremendously overpopulated with basic transport infrastructure.. takes tinme getting used to. Dont box yourself into a corner just because youve had nice chats with one lady.....

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I'll take the poster at face value although my spider senses are tingling just a little!

The fact this forum exists is evidence that Westerners can and do make a go of it with a Filipino wife/partner - not all posters are in a relationship with a local but probably most are.

But, I'd imagine most of us did some due diligence and thought with both heads before committing to making a life here.

For sure, come over, meet your gf but take your time to get to know her and, in time, the lay of the land with her family. I know it's difficult and probably unrealistic to spend a lot of time here but it's the only way.

Good Luck!

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43 minutes ago, Tommy T. said:

(be prepared for insistent street kid beggars when you shop there) and at the NCCC store. Western goods are few and far between on Samal -

you really need to shop in Davao City, and often visit two or three grocery stores in various malls to find all you want in one visit...

but then it is an (often annoyingly long wait for) a ferry to take you either direction. The ferry ride is only maybe 15 minutes, but the wait can take forever - especially on weekends or holidays. Currently, and for the foreseeable future, the ferries are the only transport from Samal to Davao City.

The costs may seem cheap at first, but they add up. 

The ATMs are limited and often don't work or run out of cash or don't accept various ATM cards from institutions other than their own name brand.

There are lots of resorts, but they tend to load up with Filipinos, their kids, stereos, beer and can often be crowded.

There is one meagerly supplied and staffed clinic/hospital sort of medical center. Anything more than first aid mostly needs to happen in the city. But they do have an x-ray machine and a few fairly well stocked pharmacies.

few real amenities for foreigners. 

Excellent local info, sounds same many other places in the Philippines too. :whistling: :571c66d400c8c_1(103):

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1 hour ago, CebuAndy said:

Excellent local info, sounds same many other places in the Philippines too. :whistling: :571c66d400c8c_1(103):

Yeah, sounds like my expat experience and I lived only two hours from Manila.

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Where to begin? As the wise heads here say slow down. There will be no shortage of women wanting to meet you so don't think you had better grab the first one that comes along before someone else takes her. In simple terms look on online dating as shopping online. What you see might not relate to what you receive and a good saleswoman can hide the flaws. 

By all means go and visit her but leave your money at home, play poor and mix with different crowds, before you know it you'll have a handfull of women all interested in you and another may catch your eye.  Use the tourist visa to your advantage and enjoy being a tourist for up to 3yrs, your eyes and attitude will change I guarrantee in 6 months.

 Look on your finances as your life's hard work and once it's gone it's gone.  If you blow it on a rushed decision and the relationship goes South you have just resigned yourself to a harder life in the future when you'll be a lot more Philippines wise and able to recognise a good woman but less able to enjoy your time with her due to cash issues. 

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