More Filipino Men

[Butterfly88]

Hello everybody!Well, as soon as I joined this forum (like 10 minutes ago), I knew I was going to come across the same posts "Foreigner marrying Filipina advice". That's all well and good as I am a fan of different nationalities marrying one another. However, what about the Filipino Men and Foreign Women?I'm 22 years old, final year law student,black british, have my head on my shoulders and I am from a stable family home. I've always been attracted to filipino men but the sad thing is I don't know ANY! But I am planning on working in the philippines sometime soon but I am also planning on settling down and raising a family. As a foreign women do I have the same chances as settling down with a good, christian filipino man as a filipina does with a foreign man? I feel like there is not enough emphasis placed on foreign women marrying good Filipino men? Yes, we foreign women would like a man who is financially well and can provide for his family - these men most certainly do exist in the Philippines.

[Mr Lee]

Hello everybody!Well, as soon as I joined this forum (like 10 minutes ago), I knew I was going to come across the same posts "Foreigner marrying Filipina advice". That's all well and good as I am a fan of different nationalities marrying one another. However, what about the Filipino Men and Foreign Women?I'm 22 years old, final year law student,black british, have my head on my shoulders and I am from a stable family home. I've always been attracted to filipino men but the sad thing is I don't know ANY! But I am planning on working in the philippines sometime soon but I am also planning on settling down and raising a family. As a foreign women do I have the same chances as settling down with a good, christian filipino man as a filipina does with a foreign man? I feel like there is not enough emphasis placed on foreign women marrying good Filipino men? Yes, we foreign women would like a man who is financially well and can provide for his family - these men most certainly do exist in the Philippines.

Hello Butterfly and welcome to the forum. Yes I have seen foreign women with Filipino males and I would guess you too would be a hot commodity while in the Philippines but you too will have to look out for those who will wish to scam you, just as us men have to be careful that a woman wants us for us and not for our perceived wealth. Your having a foreign passport and thus your ability to marry a Filipino and take them away to the UK or elsewhere might be on some of their minds, so just as we have to listen carefully what the ladies tell us, you will have to listen if the mens words include leaving or if they are looking for a meal ticket. My only advice would be to tell them that you plan on living in the Philippines permanently and you can always change your plans later on,   :as-if:  and also that you need to find a man who has a decent job and work record and you should be OK.

[Butterfly88]

My friend has invited me to a party in a few weeks- where I will be able to meet other filipinos in the London area. Just so socialise and have fun. However, what are Filipino mens attitudes to the idea of marriage in their early twenties. I've seen a lot of forums about filipina women marrying guys who are much older ca. 20 years older. Is this the same for Filipino men? Do they prefer older women? Or do they prefer younger women (such as myself) I have very traditional views towards marriage and relationshop - do most filipino men uphold such ideas? For me it is vital that a man can provide for his family.

[Mr Lee]

My friend has invited me to a party in a few weeks- where I will be able to meet other filipinos in the London area. Just so socialise and have fun. However, what are Filipino mens attitudes to the idea of marriage in their early twenties. I've seen a lot of forums about filipina women marrying guys who are much older ca. 20 years older. Is this the same for Filipino men? Do they prefer older women? Or do they prefer younger women (such as myself) I have very traditional views towards marriage and relationshop - do most filipino men uphold such ideas? For me it is vital that a man can provide for his family.

We have a number of Filipino men and women on this forum who I am sure will try to answer you, but in the mean time I will say that most MEN, be they Filipino or otherwise and including all the Filipino men I have met during my 16 plus years back and forth to the Philippines, seem to prefer a woman who is younger than them or around the same age, so I would say you are on safe grounds to find an older Filipino man. Finding one who has a great job might be more difficult because from what I have also been told by many, the upper class Filipinos prefer their family member marry within their race, but as the world changes so may the culture in the Philippines and quite possibly thoughts along that line should also change. IMO the main thing would be to go to the Philippines with an open mind about dating or not, and see what happens. We have even had some male members, Traveler comes to mind because his situation is very recent, who did not meet the correct woman of their dreams while living in the Philippines, so nothing is a given even with all the beautiful single women walking around the malls and streets. You are still young so just go where life leads you and have fun along the way, but know that you have lots of competition with so many single local ladies. 

[Old55]

Welcome to the forum Butterfly!IMO foriegner ladies have a dificult time finding sucsessful Filipino men in the Philippines. Now if you were to live in some citys within the US with large Filipino populations it would be easy for a young lady like you to find a great Filipino American guy.

[Inspector]

Just be careful of the boyladies...they look closely like men, but further into the relationship, you might find a needed item missing. Some clues...Over masculine, and a walk that will be like John Travolta from Saturday Night Fever. No adams apple....most men will have one, these boyladies will be missing them...and OMG, the hands will be so tiny.

[Jake]

Hello everybody!Well, as soon as I joined this forum (like 10 minutes ago), I knew I was going to come across the same posts "Foreigner marrying Filipina advice". That's all well and good as I am a fan of different nationalities marrying one another. However, what about the Filipino Men and Foreign Women?I'm 22 years old, final year law student,black british, have my head on my shoulders and I am from a stable family home. I've always been attracted to filipino men but the sad thing is I don't know ANY! But I am planning on working in the philippines sometime soon but I am also planning on settling down and raising a family. As a foreign women do I have the same chances as settling down with a good, christian filipino man as a filipina does with a foreign man? I feel like there is not enough emphasis placed on foreign women marrying good Filipino men? Yes, we foreign women would like a man who is financially well and can provide for his family - these men most certainly do exist in the Philippines.

Welcome to our forum Butterfly88,Sounds like you do have your head on your shoulders, planning your goals by living and working in a strange land such as the Philippines. It could be quite intimidating for some, including getting used to the tropical climate (mosquitoes), culture and work environment. However, I must give you some reality checks before you consider a serious relationship which may lead to an early marriage.The key word is EARLY: from my perspective as a senior citizen, a young intelligent woman who will be graduating soon from law school, has a million years ahead of her and guess what, you should have a million more relationships before you even think about settling down. A young aspiring woman who is ready to hit the floor running should not be held back by any man or early-unwanted pregnancy. Use your new found knowledge and skill to continue to build and discover all your potentials. For example: I could see you as a FSO (Foreign Service Officer) for the British government, traveling to exotic sunsets and meeting interesting people. Speaking of interesting people, the below links are possibly your first contact with young lawyers of the Philippines. Have some fun, you certainly earned it.http://makatinightlife.com Makati City, the commercial district of Manila -- check out Hard Rock Cafe or TGIF (Thank God it's Friday)http://www.wordiq.co...ion/Makati_CityAteneo de Manila Law School at Rockwell Center in Makati City -- the most prestigious law school in the Philippines Respectfully -- Jake

[ekimswish]

Welcome to the forum Butterfly!IMO foriegner ladies have a dificult time finding sucsessful Filipino men in the Philippines. Now if you were to live in some citys within the US with large Filipino populations it would be easy for a young lady like you to find a great Filipino American guy.

I think this is very true. Fil-Ams/Brits/Cans, etc. are a fusion of Western and Filipino values, ideas, and styles. However, you seem like a very Christian girl, and there's no short supply of Christians in the Philippines. Maybe just a short supply of people who practice Christianity as it's practiced in the West. I agree with Jake that a woman of your education and age should be in no rush to settle down, possibly limiting your career or ADVENTURE opportunities. But again, as I see you're very Christian, I think I understand why you want to marry young. I grew up that way as well. As Mr. Lee said, watch out of the same scammers us men need to watch out for, and keep an open mind. It's a different culture, and takes time to get used to. Good luck!

[Art2ro]

Butterfly88,OMG, any Filipino man can only be so lucky to marry you, you're young, dark and educated, but the question in most men's eyes and minds would be, are you sexy with a magnetic appeal? I don't doubt your appeal at all from your avatar, you are beautiful to this Pinoy and I'm sure my buddy Jake will second the motion! I just wished I was younger and single! Anybody knows the saying, " in the eyes of the beholder", one size does not fit all, some men are more picky than others and some not at all! So, it's just up to you to pick and choose and hopefully find the man who is worthy of your love and doesn't take advantage of you! Love never has to be blind as long you use your common sense and good judgment about people! Good luck in your future endeavors! Stay in touch and let us all know how you are doing and hopefully we on this forum can help you along the way! !

Edited November 7, 2010 by Fil/AmArt

[Butterfly88]

Welcome to the forum Butterfly!IMO foriegner ladies have a dificult time finding sucsessful Filipino men in the Philippines. Now if you were to live in some citys within the US with large Filipino populations it would be easy for a young lady like you to find a great Filipino American guy.

I think this is very true. Fil-Ams/Brits/Cans, etc. are a fusion of Western and Filipino values, ideas, and styles. However, you seem like a very Christian girl, and there's no short supply of Christians in the Philippines. Maybe just a short supply of people who practice Christianity as it's practiced in the West. I agree with Jake that a woman of your education and age should be in no rush to settle down, possibly limiting your career or ADVENTURE opportunities. But again, as I see you're very Christian, I think I understand why you want to marry young. I grew up that way as well. As Mr. Lee said, watch out of the same scammers us men need to watch out for, and keep an open mind. It's a different culture, and takes time to get used to. Good luck!

Yes, my Christian values are important to me - maybe it will help for me to join a vibrant young church geared if I make the move the Philippines. Hopefully I'll be able to make some good friends. Yes and it is quite common for Christian girls to marry young (I have a lot of friends younger than me married) but I also want to travel and meet interesting people. Are there any Filipino men that may have grown in the States but moved back to the Philippines? @ Fil/AM Art , thank you for your sweet comments and sound advice. I think once I become adjusted and understanding the Filipino way of life, I'll be able to exercise good judgement in terms of who I should date and shouldn't.I'll keep everybody updated.