Interfering Families Problem

[brock]

My ex made her mother leave our house because she was always getting drunk and being violent and abusive towards her and my Children,Her mother went to see the Barangay capton and complained, My wife was arrested and put in a cell and made to sign a note saying she would never throw her mother out again, Even though she got a pension every month and owned her own house which she rented out. Thats the Law for you.

[Thomas]

TRUE! But it doesn’t not mean for you to support the parents and bankrupt yourselves in doing so!

I expect to support them, but I hope it don't mean I have to have any parent-in-law living with me :23_11_62[1]: :)

My wife was arrested and put in a cell and made to sign a note saying she would never throw her mother out again,

How about if it is the kano, who do the out throwing? :)

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Today I and my gf "finnished" the interfering subject. It took a while, because her English isn't any good and I try to ask OTHER questions than Yes/No ones, because they are more easy to figuere out what to say, if trying to say just what I want them to say. But "mine" is rather straight forward, but I understand if she is some careful - before we are married... :mocking:

Summary:

-What would you do if your older relatives try to decide over us, anything else than we find OK?

-Ignore them.

I wouldn't believe most Filipinas if they would say such just to her kano bf no one else hearing, but I believe it's a good chance mine would ignore them, if they want to deside something she find to bad - so now it's seem "only" left to convince her... :)

(My belief is supported by she had some argue with them recently, when she found the mostly unemployed relatives doing some things to bad, when harvesting her personal land. (She work far from home.) That although almost all of them are older than her.)

She understood when I said it's important when it's about business, it's need a MIX of their and kano thinking, because if do as they are used to, then it will be common Filipino pay, but I aim higher than that :)

She even answered "No need", when I said it's OK för her to blame me :) when she tell them, because I suppose it's easier for me to take such heat - if there will be any - supposing they will expect some such "odd" behavour by us kanos :hystery:

[i am bob]

I really kind of like what I will be looking at in the future with my Special Someone... Her mother is her best friend and at present she loves to spend her weekends with her mom. She has told me that she would like her mother to live with us eventually as she gets older and can't work any more. I have no problem with this. Mom does though.... hehe! I think she will be looking forward to the time when she can have her privacy and is really hoping for grandchildren to invade mine... hehe!

:dance:

[oldutot]

It is the law that when the children become an adult, They can be made responsible to support their parents .

So any Kano who is married to a Filipina should remember this

Is this really an actual law here?

Yes. I have seen it online before but I will leave it to you to Google it :cheersty:

I would like to see that law, law or no law. your wife rules the nest :hystery: :hystery: :hystery: :hystery:

[oldutot]

It is the law that when the children become an adult, They can be made responsible to support their parents .

So any Kano who is married to a Filipina should remember this

Is this really an actual law here?

Yes. I have seen it online before but I will leave it to you to Google it :cheersty:

I would like to see that law, law or no law. your wife rules the nest :hystery: :hystery: :hystery: :hystery:

maybe a kano wrote the law, you people crack me up

[Ashanti]

My ex made her mother leave our house because she was always getting drunk and being violent and abusive towards her and my Children,Her mother went to see the Barangay capton and complained, My wife was arrested and put in a cell and made to sign a note saying she would never throw her mother out again, Even though she got a pension every month and owned her own house which she rented out. Thats the Law for you.

did your wife make a counter claim/complaint against her mother and also with the DSWD for her being abusive to the children????????? Also didnt she made the mother sign not be to drunk and abusive and make it clear to the barangay captain that she will rather stay in jail than accommodate her abusive mother, then he (barangay captain) can sort out the family.

sometimes at the barangay captain level - its a game of double bluff!!! or putting the ball back at the b.captains' court. your wife should be able to find witness easy to her mothers drunken behaviour to support her claim.

[Dave Hounddriver]

I really kind of like what I will be looking at in the future with my Special Someone... Her mother is her best friend and at present she loves to spend her weekends with her mom. She has told me that she would like her mother to live with us eventually as she gets older and can't work any more. I have no problem with this. Mom does though.... hehe! I think she will be looking forward to the time when she can have her privacy and is really hoping for grandchildren to invade mine... hehe!

:dance:

That sounds great Bob, I have a fondness for my own mother, such that I would be thrilled if she were to come live with us, but as to my significant other, hmmm, I do like it that she is an orphan.

[Mike S]

A great man once said ...... "fish and guests begin to stink after 3 days" ...... I tend to agree with him ..... :mocking: :mocking:

[brock]

My ex made her mother leave our house because she was always getting drunk and being violent and abusive towards her and my Children,Her mother went to see the Barangay capton and complained, My wife was arrested and put in a cell and made to sign a note saying she would never throw her mother out again, Even though she got a pension every month and owned her own house which she rented out. Thats the Law for you.

did your wife make a counter claim/complaint against her mother and also with the DSWD for her being abusive to the children????????? Also didnt she made the mother sign not be to drunk and abusive and make it clear to the barangay captain that she will rather stay in jail than accommodate her abusive mother, then he (barangay captain) can sort out the family.

sometimes at the barangay captain level - its a game of double bluff!!! or putting the ball back at the b.captains' court. your wife should be able to find witness easy to her mothers drunken behaviour to support her claim.

The impression I got was that the Barangay Captain would only believe the elder person, Age seems to go a long way here, You are still the Child no matter how old you are, I once went to a meeting with the Barangay Captain when my ex had an actual fight with another woman who was also married to a kano friend of mine, It was the biggest load of Bull sh** I have ever seen, Their was even a woman there who asked questions, When I asked who she was, She was just another woman who had gone there to make a complaint about something else, Nothing to do with our complaint, just being nosey, I told the Barangay Captain that we wouldnt discuss it infront of people that should`nt be there, He told me I would do as he says, Needless to say, I told him to stick it where the sun doesnt shine, People who have a lttle authority seem to think they can talk down to anyone they think are lower than them, I always told my ex, never to let people talk down to her or talk to her like dirt, Just because they think they are better, It used to make me so mad when I heard the way people spoke to her just because maybe she had darker skin or not as good an education...People like that really get my goat

[nor cal mike]

This topic has been a popular topic for many, many years and discussed by many, many people.

Didn't Albert Einstein make som comments about the theory of "RELATIVE ity"