Interfering Families Problem

[Ashanti]

The impression I got was that the Barangay Captain would only believe the elder person, Age seems to go a long way here, You are still the Child no matter how old you are, I once went to a meeting with the Barangay Captain when my ex had an actual fight with another woman who was also married to a kano friend of mine, It was the biggest load of Bull sh** I have ever seen, Their was even a woman there who asked questions, When I asked who she was, She was just another woman who had gone there to make a complaint about something else, Nothing to do with our complaint, just being nosey, I told the Barangay Captain that we wouldnt discuss it infront of people that should`nt be there, He told me I would do as he says, Needless to say, I told him to stick it where the sun doesnt shine, People who have a lttle authority seem to think they can talk down to anyone they think are lower than them, I always told my ex, never to let people talk down to her or talk to her like dirt, Just because they think they are better, It used to make me so mad when I heard the way people spoke to her just because maybe she had darker skin or not as good an education...People like that really get my goat

Or your MIL was a good actress!!!

Seeing your wife doesn’t have much self-confidence in herself that will communicate to the b.captain who will take that against your wife. Dealing with most Filipinos in PI has also has a lot to do with self-confidence. Im not saying what you said about the age thing was wrong – it does happen but in your wife case, I think it was because she was found wanting by the pretentious BC. As you already noticed, there are a lot of them with an “attitude.”

Once, my mum went to carbon market then afterwards went to the mall (?!) to shop. She is old now so is always accompanied by any of my siblings, at that time with my sister. As she went to carbon, she did not dressed up and don’t even have a lick of lipstick on her and was just wearing “tsinelas” (flip-flop slipper) with a bit of dirt on her feet. My mother is also dark skinned. The trip to shop was unplanned but she thought she will visit the shop as well now that she is out and about.

Anyway, while she was looking for a shirt at the shop the saleslady was horrible to my mum and treating her like dirt instead as a valued customer. Unfortunately for the saleslady, my sister was nearby and had taken over my mothers cause. We are very protective of our mother and will never allow anyone to treat her anything less than respect or they would have us to reckon with which the salesgirl soon found out. And I can assure you it was not a pretty sight if we are angered when it comes to our mothers mistreatment!

[brock]

I know what you mean Ashanti, When I was about 30 years old I went to a Boat yard to see about buying a boat, I was dressed in old worn torn jeans and dirty t shirt,The sales assistant treated me with much disrespect and belittled me infront of other customers, I went away and came back about an hour later with 40,000 pounds in a bag, Showed it to him, then went next door and bought a boat for 36,000 pounds, Then went back and showed the guys boss the receipt, He was a little pissed about it.

[Thomas]

I know what you mean Ashanti, When I was about 30 years old I went to a Boat yard to see about buying a boat, I was dressed in old worn torn jeans and dirty t shirt,The sales assistant treated me with much disrespect and belittled me infront of other customers, I went away and came back about an hour later with 40,000 pounds in a bag, Showed it to him, then went next door and bought a boat for 36,000 pounds, Then went back and showed the guys boss the receipt, He was a little pissed about it.

Haha! That's a good one.

And kind of "good" too, Filipinos can treat kanos, believing not all kanos are rich, so I hope to blend in if I dress as the farmers :)

[sonjack2847]

It is the law that when the children become an adult, They can be made responsible to support their parents .

So any Kano who is married to a Filipina should remember this

Is this really an actual law here?

Yes. I have seen it online before but I will leave it to you to Google it :cheersty:

I would like to see that law, law or no law. your wife rules the nest :hystery: :hystery: :hystery: :hystery:

Well I can tell you this, I wear the trousers in my house I know this because my wife told me so.

[Steve & Myrlita]

Well I can tell you this, I wear the trousers in my house I know this because my wife told me so.

Reminds me of that video of the man song.

[Ashanti]

I know what you mean Ashanti, When I was about 30 years old I went to a Boat yard to see about buying a boat, I was dressed in old worn torn jeans and dirty t shirt,The sales assistant treated me with much disrespect and belittled me infront of other customers, I went away and came back about an hour later with 40,000 pounds in a bag, Showed it to him, then went next door and bought a boat for 36,000 pounds, Then went back and showed the guys boss the receipt, He was a little pissed about it.

:hystery: :hystery: :hystery: ............

Actually, it was roughly similar incident with my mother. At that time my mother had with her a lot of cash in a brown paper bag inside a carrier bag as if they were her shopping and a separate purse.

My sister told the saleslady NEVER to snarl at my mother as she is the customer and she is only the saleslady while pointing a finger to her. And that if she thinks (saleslady) my mother is tramp – my mother can well afford to buy and sell her twice over, so how much is she (monetary worth). She then grabbed my mother carrier bag , open the brown paperbag and show the bundle of cash asking her again how much is she.

She then proceeded to roughly ruffled the neatly piled clothes and scathingly told the her (salesgirl) to tidy it up as its her job!

Saying all that, when I was dating my husband/boyfriend then, my parents caught us going to the cinema. My husband was wearing this kind of army brown trousers – the type that have white spots all over it with lots of pockets, well-worn or faded looking. Later that evening, my father told my mother to have a talk with her daughter as she is going out with some Western tramp!

:hystery: