What To Look Out For On The Asian Dating Sites - Warning Long Post

[i am bob]

If 90% of all women on dating sites are there to just scam people, how are these sites still in business?  Word does get around! And how many members here met their wives and girlfriends on these dating sites?  I myself tried the dating sites and I would have trouble saying half of the ones I met were there to scam people - much less actually.  But then most of the women I chose to contact were not women who were listed as being on the site for 3 or 4 years or more - or were not the most popular member over the last several months either.  They have those ratings for a reason!  No, most of the women I talked to just weren't the type of woman I was looking for.  I will admit that the woman who stole my heart I found on a pen pal site - what's the difference?  I wasn't email her in an attempt to win her heart but as a friend to help me learn more about the Philippines.  And we learned about each other as time went by.  I guess this was actually the better way to go about it...  I don't want anyone else and neither does she!

[BrettGC]

I'd have to agree with Bob on this.  In my experience, depending on the site, I reckon it's probably 10-20% of bad eggs; FC being at the 20%, CB being at 10, with the other somewhere in-between, no clue as to why FC attracts the less genuine lady.

[Bruce]

I'd have to agree with Bob on this.  In my experience, depending on the site, I reckon it's probably 10-20% of bad eggs; FC being at the 20%, CB being at 10, with the other somewhere in-between, no clue as to why FC attracts the less genuine lady.

 

If I remember, on their home page... they have a large pic of a pinay in black leather or similar set up! Not exactly the kind of pinay you want to tak home to meet mom. Anyone remember Percy Sledge????

 

There are some newer sex hook up sites with Asia in the names and I think that some of the traditional sites are thinking they are loosing viewer to this new sex sells set up. So they promoting a looser type of Pinay for their membership.

 

It has been a long while since I have been there, but back in 2009, they were having a bikini girl pic set to click through.

 

Sex sells, and not too many men looking for wives these days as compared to an Asian woman sex vacation trip fantasy.  The sites chase the money......  

[stevewool]

I'd have to agree with Bob on this.  In my experience, depending on the site, I reckon it's probably 10-20% of bad eggs; FC being at the 20%, CB being at 10, with the other somewhere in-between, no clue as to why FC attracts the less genuine lady.

 

If I remember, on their home page... they have a large pic of a pinay in black leather or similar set up! Not exactly the kind of pinay you want to tak home to meet mom. Anyone remember Percy Sledge????

 

There are some newer sex hook up sites with Asia in the names and I think that some of the traditional sites are thinking they are loosing viewer to this new sex sells set up. So they promoting a looser type of Pinay for their membership.

 

It has been a long while since I have been there, but back in 2009, they were having a bikini girl pic set to click through.

 

Sex sells, and not too many men looking for wives these days as compared to an Asian woman sex vacation trip fantasy.  The sites chase the money......  

whats wrong with the picture of a beautiful girl with long flowing hair, a smile and a pretty dress, or am i being old fashioned, just my thoughts

[Thomas]

 

I'd have to agree with Bob on this.  In my experience, depending on the site, I reckon it's probably 10-20% of bad eggs; FC being at the 20%, CB being at 10, with the other somewhere in-between, no clue as to why FC attracts the less genuine lady.

 

If I remember, on their home page... they have a large pic of a pinay in black leather or similar set up! Not exactly the kind of pinay you want to tak home to meet mom. Anyone remember Percy Sledge????

 

There are some newer sex hook up sites with Asia in the names and I think that some of the traditional sites are thinking they are loosing viewer to this new sex sells set up. So they promoting a looser type of Pinay for their membership.

 

It has been a long while since I have been there, but back in 2009, they were having a bikini girl pic set to click through.

 

Sex sells, and not too many men looking for wives these days as compared to an Asian woman sex vacation trip fantasy.  The sites chase the money......  

whats wrong with the picture of a beautiful girl with long flowing hair, a smile and a pretty dress, or am i being old fashioned, just my thoughts

Perhaps just becoming old  :)   Just joking. We are in similar age.

 

But perhaps it's SOME in the tell how to catch a husband in different ages:

A young man by sex

A middle age man by food

An old man - I don't remember what it said, but something concerning the main interest for old men is how to get his stomach function  :)

 

But I don't suit to that tell, I realy dislike posh dinners and find eating something I have to do to survive  :)

[Medic Mike]

*Apologies for the formatting - I'll fix it up later - Pasted from an openoffice doc*

Hi guys,

Just thought I'd share my experience so

far. You have to bear in mind that I haven't met any of the women

personally so far but I've chatted to many. Most appear to be

genuine but there are some that are outright scammers.

I've been using 3 sites:

CB

FC and,

One dedicated to Cebuana ladies

only

If you want more info on any of the

sites or their full url PM me.

I think what's struck me the most is

the amount of interest shown in me; I am inundated daily with mails,

“smiles” and “interest”. The other thing that's surprising

for a western man is how quickly most of these women proclaim their

affection and undying love for you. When questioned on this the

ladies give a multitude of answers which on the surface appear to be

somewhat asinine but when given some thought to what motivates these

women, and taking into account their cultural background, make

perfect sense (most of you know more about PI culture than I do so I

won't elaborate on that).

A little about my profile: A couple of

things should stand out to the ladies if they've actually taken the

time to read my profile.

I'm moving the the Philippines

I'm not keen on more children

but theirs' are fine

I'm going there to retire at the

tender age of 44 (I will be 44 by April)

All three of the sites have a great

little functionality that allows you to see who's viewed your

profile, so when matched up against the correspondence received it's

a great first level of filtering. Secondly I carefully read their

profile and if they're too far outside the limits I've set on a

variety of criteria they're gone – if they've taken the time to

send me an email prior to this I politely reply “Thanks, but no

thanks”, in so many words; there's no point to being rude or just

ignoring these women, at least they've taken the time to put pen to

paper, so to speak, rather than just click a single button so the

least I can do is show some common courtesy. Thirdly I then check

their photos, if they fall within the bounds of what I find

attractive – shallow I know, but hey, we can afford to be choosy –

I contact them with a message. I should mention that I don't tend to

respond to women who's profile has only one picture, but more on that

later. Now we're in the correspondence phase I quiz them on my

profile reiterating the above 3 points. I was initially surprised to

find that me moving to PI doesn't discourage many of these ladies,

unlike my experience on similar Thai dating sites, yes, some

do lose interest but the majority hang around. After some thought I

remembered how the average Filipina is with family – it is all. I

found this encouraging but also kept in mind someone else’s post

regarding the 2 hour rule ;). Point 2 of the above does cause a fair

few to drop off the band wagon; that's life and I appreciate their

honesty, I'd hate to be in a situation sometime in the future where

we end up resenting each other due to our views on this. It should

be noted that of those that do stick around some, when they find out

I've had a vasectomy, run for the hills; I'm guessing up to that

point, they think they can convince me to change my mind on the

issue. It would take an exceptional woman for me to let anyone down

there again with sharp objects to reverse the procedure! I should

also mention that my profile states that I'm moving either to Cebu,

Manila or Davao (different reasons for all – not going into it

here), so another quick filtering device. Now onto point 3, and

this is where I need some advice guys and may have to change my

approach to this little chestnut. Some of the women, when they find

out I'm retiring, expect that they're going to be retiring with me.

Now to my mind, this doesn't show a very good work ethic and they're

just looking for an easy ride with a “rich” western man and

speaks volumes of their character. Am I completely wrong in this?

The above mentioned site 1 also has a very handy functionality, it

shows their IP address. You can do a quick trace route in any of a

number of free IP tracking programs with a geographical mapping

function to verify their location. Site 1 does tell you which

country they last logged in from but I like to check myself. Why is

this important? Couple of reasons: Helps pick up scammers and 2,

I'm not moving to PI to enter into a distance relationship with a

lady in another country, simple as that. You will get a lot of

responses from non-Filipinas particularly on site 1, as it's not a PI

only site. I receive a couple a day from other Asian countries as

well as Eastern Europe. Obviously they're just deleted.

Now onto the scams:

Things to look out for:

One picture only on their

profile – this isn't hard and fast but I have found that a LOT

of women after money only, only put up only one picture

Pictures that are obviously of

much younger women than their stated age. Now this of course,

isn't fool proof given the common ability of many Asian women to

be very well preserved but it does raise my suspicions

Once you get them in Skype or

whatever vidcon program you prefer there's only a passing or no

similarity to their published pictures – some will tell you it's

because they have no make up on, but really guys, they must think

we're stupid or desperate or both. As soon as this happens I

report them to the relevant dating site.

You'll see a lot of profile

descriptions stating identical things; a common one is “My

parents were killed in a plane crash and I'm all alone in the

world”

They won't video chat with you

They won't video chat with you

They won't video chat with you

They're in Africa

They're in Africa

They're in Africa

The will video chat with you but

with no voice

They won't video chat with you

They're in Africa

They direct you to a nude cam

site – report them

Did I mention they won't video

conference you and they're in Africa? All 3 of the sites I use have

a very strict policy on beggars/scams; don't hesitate to report them.

In a way feel a little sorry for these women but as harsh as it

sounds their situation is not my problem. As compassionate a

bleeding heart as I am, I'm not a charity.

Things requested so far:

Outright requests for money on

the first chat due to poverty – report them

Money for a dying relative –

report them

Money for medicine – report

them

Money for education – report

them

Money for a flight to Australia

claiming they have a working visa here but can't afford the flight

(particularly imaginative that one I thought – in the context of

the norm that is) – report them

Money for repairs to house etc

as their nipa hut has collapsed yet again – report them

Money for internet time with you

– report them

Money for cam/mic/headset and in

three cases full computers/laptops/tablets – report them.

Money for the bar exam to the

tune of $6000, I looked it up, it costs $75. I wasn't sending it

either way but was curious – report them

Keeping that all in mind I'm actually

talking to 3 women at the moment. There's been no requests for

anything from them other than smiles, laughter, warmth and empathy.

I'm enjoying my online time with them and I know I'm going to have to

make a decision sooner or later or just wait until I arrive. Not

sure. Maybe we should all start a reality TV show based on all this.

Anyway guys, just my experience so far,

I hope it helps. It would be great if some of the older hands at

this would like to contribute to the discussion as well or some of

you guys new to this want to share too.

Take Care,

Brett

Great post! Classic. What I use to love was that whatever month you met them, you could be sure their birthday was going to be in a few days, and they were short some cash to have a proper birthday party. I can't tell you how many times that was tried on me. I finally learned in the end, before I got too invested emotionally, that I needed to see a copy of their passport or PI ID card. That certainly sorted out most of the scammers. :)

[BrettGC]

Bumped for Michaelusa's benefit.  Every time I see your tag Michael, I think of Methuselah!  Just an idiosyncrasy of your tag I think :)

[Medic Mike]

 

*Apologies for the formatting - I'll fix it up later - Pasted from an openoffice doc*

Hi guys,

Just thought I'd share my experience so

far. You have to bear in mind that I haven't met any of the women

personally so far but I've chatted to many. Most appear to be

genuine but there are some that are outright scammers.

I've been using 3 sites:

CB

FC and,

One dedicated to Cebuana ladies

only

If you want more info on any of the

sites or their full url PM me.

I think what's struck me the most is

the amount of interest shown in me; I am inundated daily with mails,

“smiles” and “interest”. The other thing that's surprising

for a western man is how quickly most of these women proclaim their

affection and undying love for you. When questioned on this the

ladies give a multitude of answers which on the surface appear to be

somewhat asinine but when given some thought to what motivates these

women, and taking into account their cultural background, make

perfect sense (most of you know more about PI culture than I do so I

won't elaborate on that).

A little about my profile: A couple of

things should stand out to the ladies if they've actually taken the

time to read my profile.

I'm moving the the Philippines

I'm not keen on more children

but theirs' are fine

I'm going there to retire at the

tender age of 44 (I will be 44 by April)

All three of the sites have a great

little functionality that allows you to see who's viewed your

profile, so when matched up against the correspondence received it's

a great first level of filtering. Secondly I carefully read their

profile and if they're too far outside the limits I've set on a

variety of criteria they're gone – if they've taken the time to

send me an email prior to this I politely reply “Thanks, but no

thanks”, in so many words; there's no point to being rude or just

ignoring these women, at least they've taken the time to put pen to

paper, so to speak, rather than just click a single button so the

least I can do is show some common courtesy. Thirdly I then check

their photos, if they fall within the bounds of what I find

attractive – shallow I know, but hey, we can afford to be choosy –

I contact them with a message. I should mention that I don't tend to

respond to women who's profile has only one picture, but more on that

later. Now we're in the correspondence phase I quiz them on my

profile reiterating the above 3 points. I was initially surprised to

find that me moving to PI doesn't discourage many of these ladies,

unlike my experience on similar Thai dating sites, yes, some

do lose interest but the majority hang around. After some thought I

remembered how the average Filipina is with family – it is all. I

found this encouraging but also kept in mind someone else’s post

regarding the 2 hour rule ;). Point 2 of the above does cause a fair

few to drop off the band wagon; that's life and I appreciate their

honesty, I'd hate to be in a situation sometime in the future where

we end up resenting each other due to our views on this. It should

be noted that of those that do stick around some, when they find out

I've had a vasectomy, run for the hills; I'm guessing up to that

point, they think they can convince me to change my mind on the

issue. It would take an exceptional woman for me to let anyone down

there again with sharp objects to reverse the procedure! I should

also mention that my profile states that I'm moving either to Cebu,

Manila or Davao (different reasons for all – not going into it

here), so another quick filtering device. Now onto point 3, and

this is where I need some advice guys and may have to change my

approach to this little chestnut. Some of the women, when they find

out I'm retiring, expect that they're going to be retiring with me.

Now to my mind, this doesn't show a very good work ethic and they're

just looking for an easy ride with a “rich” western man and

speaks volumes of their character. Am I completely wrong in this?

The above mentioned site 1 also has a very handy functionality, it

shows their IP address. You can do a quick trace route in any of a

number of free IP tracking programs with a geographical mapping

function to verify their location. Site 1 does tell you which

country they last logged in from but I like to check myself. Why is

this important? Couple of reasons: Helps pick up scammers and 2,

I'm not moving to PI to enter into a distance relationship with a

lady in another country, simple as that. You will get a lot of

responses from non-Filipinas particularly on site 1, as it's not a PI

only site. I receive a couple a day from other Asian countries as

well as Eastern Europe. Obviously they're just deleted.

Now onto the scams:

Things to look out for:

One picture only on their

profile – this isn't hard and fast but I have found that a LOT

of women after money only, only put up only one picture

Pictures that are obviously of

much younger women than their stated age. Now this of course,

isn't fool proof given the common ability of many Asian women to

be very well preserved but it does raise my suspicions

Once you get them in Skype or

whatever vidcon program you prefer there's only a passing or no

similarity to their published pictures – some will tell you it's

because they have no make up on, but really guys, they must think

we're stupid or desperate or both. As soon as this happens I

report them to the relevant dating site.

You'll see a lot of profile

descriptions stating identical things; a common one is “My

parents were killed in a plane crash and I'm all alone in the

world”

They won't video chat with you

They won't video chat with you

They won't video chat with you

They're in Africa

They're in Africa

They're in Africa

The will video chat with you but

with no voice

They won't video chat with you

They're in Africa

They direct you to a nude cam

site – report them

Did I mention they won't video

conference you and they're in Africa? All 3 of the sites I use have

a very strict policy on beggars/scams; don't hesitate to report them.

In a way feel a little sorry for these women but as harsh as it

sounds their situation is not my problem. As compassionate a

bleeding heart as I am, I'm not a charity.

Things requested so far:

Outright requests for money on

the first chat due to poverty – report them

Money for a dying relative –

report them

Money for medicine – report

them

Money for education – report

them

Money for a flight to Australia

claiming they have a working visa here but can't afford the flight

(particularly imaginative that one I thought – in the context of

the norm that is) – report them

Money for repairs to house etc

as their nipa hut has collapsed yet again – report them

Money for internet time with you

– report them

Money for cam/mic/headset and in

three cases full computers/laptops/tablets – report them.

Money for the bar exam to the

tune of $6000, I looked it up, it costs $75. I wasn't sending it

either way but was curious – report them

Keeping that all in mind I'm actually

talking to 3 women at the moment. There's been no requests for

anything from them other than smiles, laughter, warmth and empathy.

I'm enjoying my online time with them and I know I'm going to have to

make a decision sooner or later or just wait until I arrive. Not

sure. Maybe we should all start a reality TV show based on all this.

Anyway guys, just my experience so far,

I hope it helps. It would be great if some of the older hands at

this would like to contribute to the discussion as well or some of

you guys new to this want to share too.

Take Care,

Brett

Great post! Classic. What I use to love was that whatever month you met them, you could be sure their birthday was going to be in a few days, and they were short some cash to have a proper birthday party. I can't tell you how many times that was tried on me. I finally learned in the end, before I got too invested emotionally, that I needed to see a copy of their passport or PI ID card. That certainly sorted out most of the scammers. :)

 

Classic post, I love that one as well.

[Medic Mike]

One funny scam I wanted to add to Brett's fine list...was " I have been bitten by a street dog, and I need money for vacinations", lol....can't tell you how many times that exact scam was tried on me :).

[BrettGC]

One funny scam I wanted to add to Brett's fine list...was " I have been bitten by a street dog, and I need money for vacinations", lol....can't tell you how many times that exact scam was tried on me :).

 

 

LOL never ran across that one!  Good for other's future reference though!!  (Yes, SAO reads these forums :P)