Are You Really Happy Here.?

[Jack Peterson]

:unsure:  I guess we have talked about this before in a lot ways, From Money to Marriage what keeps us here or why some would want to leave but Let me ask this if I may,"Are you really happy here?" or is it an Ante Climax, Is the "Honeymoon Period Over?" I ask because over the Years in Many Topics and Posts, all of us can put in the phrases of this and of that. 

Whinging, Whining, Moaning, this ain't right that ain't right should be this should be that But Today, I am home alone and as we all know people don't always like their own Company, Normally I am OK with it but Today, after probably the worst Month for me People wise,(This Year so far) Both Us and Them    :lol:  I sit and ask myself Am I happy?  Yes! is my Answer now at 103.4 but......... I ask, How about you out there?

 

Jack :)

 

 Hey Guys & Gals this is a Positive & Negative Topic OK  :thumbsup:  Go for it  :lol:

[Jollygoodfellow]

I sit and ask myself Am I happy?  Yes! is my Answer now at 103.4 but......... I ask, How about you out there?

 

You're much older than I thought.  :tiphat:

[Huggybearman]

I am not really qualified to answer that, as I haven't lived here that long. But so far, my experience is a bit like the 'curates egg'.....good in parts. Sure there are things that take some getting used to, and often that leads to frustrations in daily living, but overall, I have to say that I have been pleasently surprised how I have settled here, and as a consequence I can say that I am happy and content here. Also, having travelled, worked and lived in many parts of the world, including India and Africa, I am fortunate to have a realistic expectation of what life would be like. If I was coming here straight off from somewhere like Europe, the US or Australia etc, then I think it would be much harder.

I think that having something useful to do each day, in my case a farming interest, contributes a lot to a sense of contentment. I find myself much happier here than I was in Thailand, primarily because of having something worthwhile and interesting to occupy my time. My good lady is also happier here than she was in Thailand and her happiness contributes greatly to mine.

Long may that feeling continue, but of course......that is today.....at 112.7! (Does that make me older than Jack?)

Ken

Edited December 10, 2015 by Huggybearman

[Jack Peterson]

 

I sit and ask myself Am I happy?  Yes! is my Answer now at 103.4 but......... I ask, How about you out there?

 

You're much older than I thought.  :tiphat:

 

:hystery:  :hystery:  :hystery:  10.34 but you knew that EH?  I can Handle the P...Take :thumbsup:

[Dave Hounddriver]

10.34 but you knew that EH?

 

phew!  Nope, did not know that.  Thought you were sitting there with a fever of 103.4 and feeling sick.  Glad to hear you are only moaning  :attention:

 

I am happy here, but sentimental as it sounds, give me a good wife and enough money to live comfortably a place to buy what I consider essential, and I'll be happy anywhere.  The real beauty of this place is:  if the relationship falls apart there is always another to bring you back into serenity.

[manofthecoldland]

   I don't know about "happy", like in 'joyous' or 'ecstatic', but I sure am content. Especially when put in the perspective of other options and the lives of most other people I'm aware of.  I'm at peace with this culture and all of its X-cultural, comparative differences. There are upsides and downsides, but if there wasn't a positive net gain, I wouldn't be here. 

   If a man is bored, he may be in a very comfortable rut with no immediate problems to solve. Life can be, 'too easy', at times and its disturbing not to have challenges, but its up to the individual to create and develop interests. The best ones take effort and present discomfort at times, but the rewards are worth it. E.G., I haven't been to my gym in a month and need to get back into my weight lifting routine. Everytime I finish my 80 min. program I feel like a million, but pushing iron encased in an  American sweatshirt and long leg exer. pants in a gym w/only one fan, but a nice open air balcony on the third floor of the old place does stress the body more than sitting here enjoying the sea breeze while at my computer. I know what I need to do when I am feeling bored, but am so easily seduced here by my easy life that I get very lazy for days on end. Probably too much of a good thing. 'Guard against it and take a roll of the dice and try something different', I tell myself... but it ain't easy. I don't think we are designed by evolution to enjoy the idealized concept of a 'tropical retirement'. Time for a few changes, some new challenges and goals or maybe I need more problems and mini-crisis to make a man feel and appreciate the flow of life. Careful what you wish for.

[Dave Hounddriver]

maybe I need more problems and mini-crisis to make a man feel and appreciate the flow of life.

 

Try having breakfast at Andy's Private Garden in Dumaguete.  It was surely a mini-crisis for me.  (Read this thread if you need to ask)

Edited December 10, 2015 by Dave Hounddriver

[Jake]

 

10.34 but you knew that EH?

 

phew!  Nope, did not know that.  Thought you were sitting there with a fever of 103.4 and feeling sick.  Glad to hear you are only moaning  :attention:

 

I am happy here, but sentimental as it sounds, give me a good wife and enough money to live comfortably a place to buy what I consider essential, and I'll be happy anywhere.  The real beauty of this place is:  if the relationship falls apart there is always another to bring you back into serenity.

 

Spoken like the Dave we all know and admire.  The Visayan James Bond can roll with the punches and keeps going and going and going.  What a life of contentment, full of multiple choices -- sometimes at the same time.....he, he.  

 

You're the Man!  Respectfully -- Jake

[Jake]

   I don't know about "happy", like in 'joyous' or 'ecstatic', but I sure am content. Especially when put in the perspective of other options and the lives of most other people I'm aware of.  I'm at peace with this culture and all of its X-cultural, comparative differences. There are upsides and downsides, but if there wasn't a positive net gain, I wouldn't be here. 

  

Triple LIKE sir!

[i am bob]

For those of you who saw my earlier post, yes, it looks like I'm going back home... Not because I don't like it here, because I do! I love it here! But I found someone I love even more!!! It's hard to get past the annulment issue. So, it's back to Canada, divorce for her shortly after, and then marriage. Will we come back? It depends on if the law changes... We will visit but after she gets her Canadian citizenship and passport to travel on.