Naysayers...can't stand them.

[Jack Peterson]

 Naysayers & Negativity  Hmmmmmmmmmm

 Each morning I get up in a fairly positive mood, Depending what transpired the night before but as the day goes bye there is usually a niggle that creeps in and a Little negativity starts, Of course it does, we are human.

As I sit and write this I am reminded of those on this Wonderful forum and others that have been rather negative in many of their Posts. Even I might add some Topics that start off Negative. Maybe, I am a Lucky one but I have found we must play the hand we are dealt with or just Fold and go home.

 I have as far as this time is concerned a Good Stable Marriage We own the lot House and all in it ( I say We because we are a team) and that is sometimes the problem with a lot of the Naysayers, Stability.  Lucky I say? No! not really, it has been worked hard for, all of it,  I get 3 Pensions and at this time of year they fall about 10 days apart which is very nice Thank You. I have nothing to be particularly negative about but of course it happens, Today my Negative thoughts are with the UK Pensions because they have started this proof of life thing again and that can be a pain in the backside but as I say, I will just get it done and posted off and send an email to confirm it is on it's way, the Local issues are day to day so whilst I do have a moan, there is nothing I can do but just go with the flow.

OK my point being here G & G's is I really am convinced that those that are not secure in either marriage and or Financially are the people who to me, become the Naysayers. Flitting from Lady to Lady & whinging why is just one thing, People that come without any plan "B" is another, then because their pension is only so & so, they are then troubled by the Exchange rate, We All are but those that are more stable ride the peaks and troughs.

This is just my Opinion and is based on my life but if anyone has time and don't really understand my Writing, trawl the Topics  & and I am sure you will get my Drift a little better. Yes we need some negatives if only to prove the positives are usually correct

So in conclusion, I feel that the Biggest naysayers and  the over Negative are not, it seems to me, to be in or have a Stable Relationship with a Wife/GF or life itself even 

 Homer can usually say some pretty Good things (Well to me anyway) 

Not a Rant but things as I see it from My point of view and Homelife

 Needless to say I offer apologies where needed But it is what it is and we are where we are

 

 

Edited February 2, 2018 by Jack Peterson
added a little

[Dave Hounddriver]

18 minutes ago, Jack Peterson said:

So in conclusion, I feel that the Biggest naysayers and  the over Negative are not, it seems to me, to be in or have a Stable Relationship with a Wife/GF

While I understand that stable relationships have their place, most of the most productive, happiest and positive years of my life have been when I was single with no permanent gf.  However, I find women to be addictive, I find them to be more attracted to men who WANT to stay single, and I have trouble staying away from them. 

[sonjack2847]

8 hours ago, Balisidar said:

Anyways the total ignorance of the naysayers

I was told you will be back with your tail between your legs.Still here after nearly 7 years, just don`t listen to them they are just jealous.

[Tukaram (Tim)]

I see a lot of different levels of naysaying, as well.  Most of my Navy mates are jealous (except the ones who hated travel). My brother, who is well traveled, was very supportive. My sister, who is way past retirement age, filthy rich, but to scared to retire, thinks i am crazy. She may be right... but that is another story.

Some people cannot leave their comfort zone and do not understand people who can, and do. I traveled for many years and I had a guy at work asking me 'what I was running from' or 'what I was looking for'.  He did not understand the joy of traveling for the sake of traveling. Meeting new people, seeing new things, experiencing different cultures. It was not part of his makeup and he does not understand.  I tried to explain it to him, but he just didn't get it. I have many friends that travel and understand it completely. Some have the wanderlust more than others. Actually moving overseas is a big step, even for them.

I knew for years I retiring in SEA.  There is a German word I like - Fernweh: A craving for travel. Being homesick for a place you’ve never been.

Fernweh

sums it up for me. I have been here 5 years (well I am a week and a half from my 5th anniversary), and so far, so good.  I am still a year away from retirement and hope to travel a lot more, once I start getting some money again.

Some of the folks are expressing a genuine concern, some are just confused. Most mean well, but I pretty much ignore the naysaying. 

Funny thing is that none of the Filipinos I know can understand it at all.  They go OFW out of need, and come home when they can.  We retire and leave all our friends and family... they really think we are all crazy ha ha 

[Jack Peterson]

1 hour ago, Dave Hounddriver said:

most of the most productive, happiest and positive years of my life have been when I was single with no permanent gf. 

 Most Confirmed Bachelors/ Single status are Stable so you are in a good Bracket and pleased you see my Point 

[stevewool]

Some very good answers  and deep down we all can relate to them all.

I have not come across any folk at all about my future plans other then those who talk behind your back about he wont go sort of thing, yes my eldest sister is worried about what if happens .

I have the love of my life who is my team and the finance thing well its getting there with team work again , my kids well i hear more from them on social media so being in a different part of the world wont matter that much in the long run.

My friend who retire to Spain at the age of 54 a year back is still getting  people calling him behind his back saying it wont work and hes made the biggest mistake in his life , well his talking and his pictures seem to tell me they are wrong, but maybe these folk are jealous that they cannot or are afraid to do what he did.

[Tukaram (Tim)]

1 hour ago, Jack Peterson said:

Most Confirmed Bachelors...

Isn't that the old euphemism for gay?  In movies they always referred to guys as confirmed bachelors ha ha

[Jack Peterson]

Just now, Tukaram (Tim) said:

Isn't that the old euphemism for gay?  In movies they always referred to guys as confirmed bachelors ha ha

   never thought of it that way before Tim

[Balisidar]

Some really good replies.  I am also getting some of the "if you leave you'll be back in X amount of years.". We do have a fallback plan on case of something like a medical or other unforeseen circumstances but it's not going to be because my wife and I miss America  

 

[Snowy79]

Sometimes you need the naysayers to give you that extra kick to prove them wrong. Nothing in life is set in stone, a turn left instead of right and your whole World can change.

It's better to have memories than regrets. Do what makes you happy and give a lift to those that help you. Leave the others in the gutter.