There is no need to talk to me like that

[graham59]

We all have our own ways of coping.

I am happy to maintain my 'that crazy old kano' status, now established within my local community.

The old man who climbs up trees and bamboo poles,  builds stuff, does his own washing and gardening, rides around on an old pushbike with his small son on the home-made crossbar seat. The old man who actually WALKS to town !  The old man who entertains the whole family and village with his epic karaoke performances and  'disco dancing'.... when Black Sabbath or Bob Marley isn't pounding out of his own windows.  Best thing is...they know I've got no money.  

You're a long time dead. 

 

[stevewool]

Well thanks for the advice and I will take it all in my stride , the forum entertainer well if the pays good I may think on that, been here a few times on holiday but in the holiday mode where money as no object and seeing the family for a few hours , this time I am living with the family , and before we came we spoke about this and that and the lazy brother who just needs a push to get him motivated I thought, how wrong I was on that one.

Even with my moaning I am enjoying it here and I can see myself being here for a good few months each year too, the family thing will never go away and I understand how Emma is with them , but I don’t have to be like that, the brother in law I just don’t speak to him and I am quite happily doing that now, he is a waste of space in my eyes .

I still have the house in England thank you for asking .

Just over 5 weeks still to be in the Philippines and we have done a lot of work and now it’s time for some our time which we have a break coming in the next few days ,hopefully travelling to Bicol .

Again thanks for listening to me and those who have replied I thank you again.

[Viking]

11 hours ago, manofthecoldland said:

"Sweet dreams are made of this. Who am I t disagree."

Q.   Why the ex-pat rule of thumb?   

A.  Re the relatives.....

"Some of them want to use you. Some of them want to be used by you ..... Some of them want to abuse you.... Everybody's  looking for something."  

This is spot on!!!!

Wonder if they had Philippine relatives in mind when they (Eurythmics) wrote that song?? 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qeMFqkcPYcg

 

[OnMyWay]

1 hour ago, Viking said:

This is spot on!!!!

Wonder if they had Philippine relatives in mind when they (Eurythmics) wrote that song?? 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qeMFqkcPYcg

 

Ok, when Annie Lennox was in her prime, was she sexy, or not?  I never could decide.  But man o man, she had a voice!

[Gary D]

20 hours ago, stevewool said:

 

Just over 5 weeks still to be in the Philippines and we have done a lot of work and now it’s time for some our time which we have a break coming in the next few days ,hopefully travelling to Bicol .

When I bought the car I said to the wife that I don't want to see the family in the back every time I look in. the rear view mirror,  your next fight perhaps.

Edited January 19, 2020 by Gary D

[stevewool]

19 hours ago, Viking said:

This is spot on!!!!

Wonder if they had Philippine relatives in mind when they (Eurythmics) wrote that song?? 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qeMFqkcPYcg

 

I am going to down load it and play it everyday loud and I will rock my head a smile wondering  if it sinks in 

[stevewool]

2 hours ago, Gary D said:

When I bought the car I said to the wife that I don't want to see the family in the back every time I look in. the rear view mirror,  your next fight perhaps.

Not a chance , it was mentioned but I think my look said the answer , I would rather see the shitty cats, dogs and rosters 

[bastonjock]

I let the gf do all of the driving, saves on arguments 

The family side is different,  gf will critises one of her sisters for under achievement  shes the brightest of her siblings yet needs help.from the others,  I took her mama papa and son to a restaurant for lunch , her son texted his sister and as we finished our meal 5 of them turned up ,I felt telling the 5 to eff off would be a bad idea , so I pulled 500 peso and sent them to the food court 

I'm trying to establish boundaries and accommodate both cultures, 

Theres no way she would agree to the two island rule lol

 

Edited January 19, 2020 by bastonjock

[stevewool]

2 minutes ago, bastonjock said:

I let the gf do all of the driving, saves on arguments 

The family side is different,  gf will critises one of her sisters for under achievement  shes the brightest of her siblings yet needs help.from the others,  I took her mama papa and son to a restaurant for lunch , her son texted his sister and as we finished our meal 5 of them turned up ,I felt telling the 5 to eff off would be a bad idea , so I pulled 500 peso and sent them to the food court 

I'm trying to establish boundaries and accommodate both cultures, 

Theres no way she would agree to the two island rule lol

 

We all have our crosses to bear , letting of steam here helps loads , after a good talk to Emma after she had finished all the cleaning inside the house and outside the house which should be her lazy brothers job as he don’t like work and that was my point why are you cleaning there mess.

Anyway I am back on course , happy , until next time.

 

 

 

[hk blues]

20 hours ago, bastonjock said:

I let the gf do all of the driving, saves on arguments 

The family side is different,  gf will critises one of her sisters for under achievement  shes the brightest of her siblings yet needs help.from the others,  I took her mama papa and son to a restaurant for lunch , her son texted his sister and as we finished our meal 5 of them turned up ,I felt telling the 5 to eff off would be a bad idea , so I pulled 500 peso and sent them to the food court 

I'm trying to establish boundaries and accommodate both cultures, 

Theres no way she would agree to the two island rule lol

 

Where else on Earth would people think that's OK - I mean the family showing up looking for a free meal?  Shameless!

The two island rule - I hear it here a lot but I live on the same island  about 30 mins drive from her family - I didn't set any rules but I did set precedents in the early days which seems to have worked.  No sudden visits, no overnight stays, no money requests etc.  Her family are good, decent people in the main which contributes to the amiable set-up without us having to live somewhere we may not want to.   

The key point is the wife - she has to be onboard or trouble will simmer.