tom_shor Posted February 25, 2009 Posted February 25, 2009 I am sorry but that girl looks down right sad and that guy must be 3 times her size. All I can say is poor girl and I feel sorry that her family thought so little of her to send he off to marry someone that old. If my family did it, I sure would not post it on a forum because I would be too ashamed. Sorry I do not wish to insult the guy who posted it but just look at that poor girl, it makes me cry.Cheer up maybe she has a younger sister. :rolleyes: Not knowing anything about the couple or the family you presume a lot. In that picture she does indeed look unhappy but there could be other reasons why that is so. If you see her unhappy in every picture then maybe you have a case. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chimellie Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 My wife's cousin just got married, she's 18 and he"s 68. Real love ??? you decide !Did you meet her and him? More details would be helpful, otherwise they could be just happy and the picture is one out of contest.I would say that if she married him for the money, that she is as bad or worse than him as I assume that she had a choice. Most Filipinas have a chocie, many are just too lazy. When I met my wife for example, she was about to finish college and she had a 15,000 pesos/month offer from a big hotel in Cebu, worst (or maybe best) time for me to meet her.She is from a very poor family and had to work very hard to get there but many just prefer to go the easy way..We haven't met both of them yet, hopefully they're still in Cebu by the time we get there. My wife left Cebu about 20 years ago and the girl is 18 so my wife doesn't know much about her. From what I've heard, there are so many girls in town want to take that guy away from her cousin, her family wouldn't let him go places alone, they always escort him to places. Kind of like if Donald Trump, Bill Gates or Hugh Hefner was walking alone in your neighborhood, pretty sure many young ladies wouldn't mind to snap them up. I guess her parents are very proud of her to be married to a Kano, to them he's the only hope they have. Would I let my daughter do that ? I don't know because I am not that poor to know what that feels like, desperate people will do unexpected things. But I do feel sorry for that young girl, she has lost her childhood, she will miss hanging out with friends, go to the movies, concerts....etc.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr Lee Posted February 26, 2009 Author Posted February 26, 2009 We haven't met both of them yet, hopefully they're still in Cebu by the time we get there. My wife left Cebu about 20 years ago and the girl is 18 so my wife doesn't know much about her. From what I've heard, there are so many girls in town want to take that guy away from her cousin, her family wouldn't let him go places alone, they always escort him to places. Kind of like if Donald Trump, Bill Gates or Hugh Hefner was walking alone in your neighborhood, pretty sure many young ladies wouldn't mind to snap them up. I guess her parents are very proud of her to be married to a Kano, to them he's the only hope they have. Would I let my daughter do that ? I don't know because I am not that poor to know what that feels like, desperate people will do unexpected things. But I do feel sorry for that young girl, she has lost her childhood, she will miss hanging out with friends, go to the movies, concerts....etc....Hi Chi, at the risk of hurting our friendship...... If I were you, I would have my wife contact the girl and make sure she is OK....... She looked awfully sad in that picture, and I am concerned too, and as far as everyone wanting him, that really does not mean much because everyone wants me and even when I am with my wife and I am an ugly old fart and not a handsome young stud like you...... I can only imagine how the women chase you while here. The women chasing us is the White man thing here and many just see a better life or dollar signs on our foreheads and I wonder if they see our faces at all or just the dollar signs.....I know that can change with love but I have to wonder if her family pushed her into that marriage or if she was the one who sought him....Maybe you can find out more and let us all know how they met and why she is with him???BTW, if you would like my wife to call her and feel her out and see how she is doing, just pm me with a number and set it up on your end so she knows who my wife is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chimellie Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 We haven't met both of them yet, hopefully they're still in Cebu by the time we get there. My wife left Cebu about 20 years ago and the girl is 18 so my wife doesn't know much about her. From what I've heard, there are so many girls in town want to take that guy away from her cousin, her family wouldn't let him go places alone, they always escort him to places. Kind of like if Donald Trump, Bill Gates or Hugh Hefner was walking alone in your neighborhood, pretty sure many young ladies wouldn't mind to snap them up. I guess her parents are very proud of her to be married to a Kano, to them he's the only hope they have. Would I let my daughter do that ? I don't know because I am not that poor to know what that feels like, desperate people will do unexpected things. But I do feel sorry for that young girl, she has lost her childhood, she will miss hanging out with friends, go to the movies, concerts....etc....Hi Chi, at the risk of hurting our friendship...... If I were you, I would have my wife contact the girl and make sure she is OK....... She looked awfully sad in that picture, and I am concerned too, and as far as everyone wanting him, that really does not mean much because everyone wants me and even when I am with my wife and I am an ugly old fart and not a handsome young stud like you...... I can only imagine how the women chase you while here. The women chasing us is the White man thing here and many just see a better life or dollar signs on our foreheads and I wonder if they see our faces at all or just the dollar signs.....I know that can change with love but I have to wonder if her family pushed her into that marriage or if she was the one who sought him....Maybe you can find out more and let us all know how they met and why she is with him???BTW, if you would like my wife to call her and feel her out and see how she is doing, just pm me with a number and set it up on your end so she knows who my wife is.Handsome young stud ???????? wow... thanks, I have to remind my wife that once in a while, and then I don't know if I should tell her that comment is from a guy.... All her parents think about is money, you know how it is there or any poor country. Her parents were going to marry her 16 y.o sister to the same man, but the 16 y.o cried and ran away so the 18 y.o had to marry him, that's what I've heard. He bought them a van, tv, and fixed up the house.There's nothing we can do because she's already married to him, I wish I were rich and offer her parents some money every month and have the girl move in with me ( just kidding) or into with another relative in another town or island. I really don't know what that old guy thinking when he married someone that young. My sister inlaw knows more about the situation, I will talk to her about it.Thanks for your concern and offering help. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Travis Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 Wow Mr Chi that is very sad and I do not think I was off base with my comment. Sorry but I do not think you should have posted that picture if you did not expect negative replies. Maybe you can get another picture with her seeming happy, to post.I will pray for her and gthe baby snatcher. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr Lee Posted February 26, 2009 Author Posted February 26, 2009 Handsome young stud ???????? wow... thanks, I have to remind my wife that once in a while, and then I don't know if I should tell her that comment is from a guy.... All her parents think about is money, you know how it is there or any poor country. Her parents were going to marry her 16 y.o sisterto the same man, but the 16 y.o cried and ran away so the 18 y.o had to marry him, that's what I've heard. He bought them a van, tv, and fixed up the house.There's nothing we can do because she's already married to him, I wish I were rich and offer her parents some money every month and have the girl move in with me ( just kidding) or into with another relative in another town or island. I really don't know what that old guy thinking when he married someone that young. My sister inlaw knows more about the situation, I will talk to her about it.Thanks for your concern and offering help.I am glad he did not get the 16 year old. He has to be a pedophile to even want the 16 year old IMO. I guess he was not fussy who he got as long as they were very young. So basically he bought her from her parents....Aanyway the offer is still open and my wife can still at least talk to her and make sure he is not beating her or making her pose for nude pictures to put on the Internet, or God knows what else. I hope he is a good man and I am wrong about him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jollygoodfellow Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 Handsome young stud ???????? wow... thanks, I have to remind my wife that once in a while, and then I don't know if I should tell her that comment is from a guy.... All her parents think about is money, you know how it is there or any poor country. Her parents were going to marry her 16 y.o sisterto the same man, but the 16 y.o cried and ran away so the 18 y.o had to marry him, that's what I've heard. He bought them a van, tv, and fixed up the house.There's nothing we can do because she's already married to him, I wish I were rich and offer her parents some money every month and have the girl move in with me ( just kidding) or into with another relative in another town or island.I really don't know what that old guy thinking when he married someone that young. My sister inlaw knows more about the situation, I will talk to her about it.Thanks for your concern and offering help.I am glad he did not get the 16 year old. He has to be a pedophile to even want the 16 year old IMO. I guess he was not fussy who he got as long as they were very young. So basically he bought her from her parents....Aanyway the offer is still open and my wife can still at least talk to her and make sure he is not beating her or making her pose for nude pictures to put on the Internet, or God knows what else. I hope he is a good man and I am wrong about him.GeeLee you sure can add to a story,how do we know anything about them,they may be very happy and he might treat her very well. Nothing to say she is posing nude.Just because he is older means nothing,one picture she looks unhappy,maybe she had period pain!Theres a lot of if,buts and maybes in this story. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BobNChe Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 Hey Traveler .... not really up on Philippine culture are you ....... I suggest before you even think about moving here you read ... read ... read some about how these people live and breath before making any judgements on how they live or think ....... because if all these little things that you keep bringing up really bother you ...you are not going to make it here ...... you need to leave your western thinking behind you and try to merge with their culture ... which you can't do if you don't know about it ....... .Mike, you are definitely on track here. In another thread the traveler suggests that he has not been here long enough for his brain to deteriorate like some of the rest of us. I personally find that my brain has calmed and I have been rejuvenated versus anything to the contrary.You can't really tell anything from one snapshot and the look on someones face. There are a myriad of circumstances that might explain the look on her face including she was not aware of the photo being taken. Thus a mundane look about the situation.Chi is a good man and has the heart of a lion. He and his wife are well suited for one another and they are sooooo respectful of the Philippines and it's people. Actually Chi is one of the Filipinos at heart.Traveler, in my opinion you are treading a bit heavy and making assumptions about things you know nothing about.Escalators man, that's the ticket. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Markham Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 So basically he bought her from her parents....At least they are married, so she does have some security. Whilst we may all consider it to be an unwise match, I do think it's infinitely preferable to the antics of a certain sex tourist, that many of us know from another forum, who took a young girl from the rice field (somewhere in Provincial Cebu), paid her mother a couple of thousand, put her on the pillion of his motorbike and rode off with her for a few weeks before he sent her packing - an act he intended from the outset.Mark Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
til Posted February 26, 2009 Posted February 26, 2009 Well judging by that picture he doesn't look exactly happy either. I wonder why. I wouldn't think he is someone who knows how to truly enjoy life and his compatibilty with Filipino culture might be quite low.And the fact that he bought his girl, eh wife, and even wanted to buy her younger sister doesn't make my impression of him much better.Not really a man I would think to be "loving and caring", I'd be more afraid he considers her his property now and will treat her like a slave. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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