Methersgate Posted October 27, 2014 Posted October 27, 2014 Throughout East and Southeast Asia, people think that money will buy you everything that you need - and, let's face it, that is pretty much true. The Philippines however has another ingredient - a culture, influenced by Spain and by the USA,, in which romantic love is prized very highly. Other nations in southeast Asia don't have this. A Filipina can just fall out of love with you if she finds you boring, although you tick all the other boxes, simply because she has fallen in love with somebody else - at which point all her friends will be telling her to "follow the beating of her heart". The excitement of a new love takes over - particularly if the new fellow is good looking, or young, or poor and deserving, or she can mother him, or any combination of those four. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dave Hounddriver Posted October 27, 2014 Posted October 27, 2014 The baffling thing was she would not take money from me. This I would understand Its not always about the money. The number of filipinas who have a boyfriend on the side may astound you. I find they are exceptionally good at it, so good that most of us never know about the other guy. The other guy is not always richer and not always a foreigner. In fact it is quite often a filipino. Its possible this happened in your case, or perhaps something totally different. Listen to what the other filipinos say about her and somewhere in the gossip will be the truth. But that's spilt milk now. Whatever reason caused her to leave you need to decide what to do next. I still suggest staying single as long as you can and enjoying what the ladies have to offer. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Methersgate Posted October 27, 2014 Posted October 27, 2014 (edited) I agree with Dave.The other guy - the "sideline" is typically younger (often younger than her) much poorer and a Filipino; this means that she can mother him, buy him clothes, dress him up nicely, take him to nice places and so on. He is probably "macho" and "gwapo".This (including spending your money on him) counts as being "wonderfully romantic", and is irresistible. In my case my wife of a good many years took herself off with almost no notice; I was eventually able to piece together what had happened. Our two sons don't look like each other and the younger one is most definitely mine. In other words, the older one isn't, biologically, but he is in every other way and it's never bothered me. He is a very fine young man. The result of a "sideline" of course, years ago. It was obviously bothering her, though, and she seems to have concluded that the safest thing for her to do, lest I should one day find out what I already knew, and do something dreadful, was to go on a dating site and find herself another bloke, whom she moved in with. The moral of this story is of course that the things that are pre-occupying your Filipina partner may be quite different from what you expect! Edited October 27, 2014 by Methersgate Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
palu Posted October 27, 2014 Author Posted October 27, 2014 I agree with Dave. The other guy - the "sideline" is typically younger (often younger than than her) much poorer and a Filipino; this means that she can mother him, buy him clothes, dress him up nicely, take him to nice places and so on. He is probably "macho" and "gwapo". This (including spending your money on him) counts as being "wonderfully romantic", and is irresistible. In my case my wife of a good many years took herself off with almost no notice; I was eventually able to piece together what had happened. Our two sons don't look like each other and the younger one is most definitely mine. In other words, the older one isn't, biologically, but he is in every other way and it's never bothered me. He is a very fine young man. The result of a "sideline" of course, years ago. It was obviously bothering her, though, and she seems to have concluded that the safest thing for her to do, lest I should one day find out what I already knew, and do something dreadful, was to go on a dating site and find herself another bloke, whom she moved in with. WOW, you have been through a great deal. Makes you wonder why anyone would bother with filipinas. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
palu Posted October 27, 2014 Author Posted October 27, 2014 I admit I am somewhat late to the game with filipinas. Maybe I need to take a break from them and reassess after a time out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Methersgate Posted October 27, 2014 Posted October 27, 2014 WOW, you have been through a great deal. Makes you wonder why anyone would bother with filipinas. Well, looking back, it was all very educational and if I were to start again elsewhere I would have to learn everything from scratch! 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dave Hounddriver Posted October 27, 2014 Posted October 27, 2014 Well, looking back, it was all very educational and if I were to start again elsewhere I would have to learn everything from scratch! I can agree with that. When starting dating in Philippines, everything I learned from dating and relationships with Canadian girls all my life was pertinent and helpful but in many cases hindered me from learning the differences in how filipinas act as opposed to North American gals. Any man who thinks they have any gals figured out is amusing to me, but at least fellows like Methersgate and I are ahead of the curve and not learning from scratch. All of the bad news in relationship is just groundwork to find a better match. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kuya John Posted October 27, 2014 Posted October 27, 2014 I admit my sampling is small, just two Fillpina loves. One I married and quickly found out she was only there for money. The other I deeply loved and said she loved me over and over again. One day, she told me goodbye with no reasons given, no arguments or warnings whatsoever. So I am just wondering whether my luck is bad or indicative of the Fillpina nature. I am just wondering whether a move in the future is wise for me. Plenty more fish in the sea. Take your time the next lady does not have to be a Filipina anyway. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Forum Support Old55 Posted October 27, 2014 Forum Support Posted October 27, 2014 I admit I am somewhat late to the game with filipinas. Maybe I need to take a break from them and reassess after a time out. How well did you know the ladies and their family's before you got serious? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Methersgate Posted October 27, 2014 Posted October 27, 2014 I admit I am somewhat late to the game with filipinas. Maybe I need to take a break from them and reassess after a time out. How well did you know the ladies and their family's before you got serious? I certainly did not know the family of either of the two Filipinas whom I have been involved with before getting serious. Indeed unless one lives in the country and knows her family socially I don't really see how one can do otherwise. In both cases I get on well with the families. (I am still in contact with my ex wife's family). 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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