sonjack2847 Posted March 21, 2015 Posted March 21, 2015 At least you get to double your SS if you're retired and have a kid. Not if your from the UK 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sonjack2847 Posted March 21, 2015 Posted March 21, 2015 Wow.. at 62??!! I feel exhausted just thinking about it. But there are financial advantages of being an old daddy. Not for Brits 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post RBM Posted March 22, 2015 Popular Post Posted March 22, 2015 Nice thread, we were discussing this yesterday. Dumaguete has its share of very elderly dads with very young esows. Somewhat amusing to watch them strolling down the boulevard with a pram and a little cutie on their arm. With that said most appear very content. Guess very much a personal decision and must be thought our carefully, not just as easy as, she deserves a child, one must think of the future of the kid. Obviously a Dad at close to 60 is not going to fulfill the needs of the child like a much younger Dad. Especially if it's a boy, also worthy of consideration is the small privacy one had before will quickly vanish. Relations and friends will be with you continuously nothing seems to attract more attention than a semi white baby. In my case I seek what many would say to be the selfish way out. I want to have my senior years enjoying what I have planed for this period I it does not include a child. How ever my partner it's well aware of this from the beginning, so no deceipt involved. She also enjoys what I do nature and travel amount other interests we share. Each to their own but not a decision to be taken lightly. 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jon1 Posted March 22, 2015 Posted March 22, 2015 Personally I do not think that it is fair to a child to have a parent who will be 80 (if they make it to 80) when they turn 18. I already have 2 kids in the US and do not need anymore. This was a huge topic of discussion with my wife prior to marriage and we won't be having kids. Local mores pressure women to have a child to fully validate their marriage. I am not a local and do not feel that pressure. However, sometimes the wife does but is quickly reminded when dealing with other's unruly kids and is thankful for the peace when she gets home. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gerald Glatt Posted March 22, 2015 Posted March 22, 2015 Have a friend returning to the states with wife #4, one mother of children 2 dead 3 from Fil divorced because he can father no more children. They are still on good terms though. New wife 20 something says does not need kids. 3 said same but now 30 something and hearing the tic toc. Me, Fe was over 50 when I married her 8 years younger than myself but hey I try to practice, practice, practice. She's not 60 yet probably need to find number 3 when she hits 75 or so, I apparently need lots of practice....I will shoulder the burden a muck along. T 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thomas Posted March 22, 2015 Posted March 22, 2015 If you are already in your 60's, chances are you won't see your son or daughter graduate from college. Better make sure you have sufficient assets to leave behind for your spouse because she needs money to pay the bills until graduation. In Phils MANY with University/College exams DON'T get employment anyway, many end up having to become OFWs :boohoo: So IF my kids become clever enough :) I think it's better they do as I did =Don't bother about high EXAMS, do SELF STUDIES to get the needed KNOWLEDGE to handle OWN business. IF I manage to build a profitable business in Phils too, and teach my wife to handle it OK if I die "to early", then they will have BOTH: MONEY and JOBS for the kids in the FAMILY BUSINESS. If any of the kids don't want to work in the family business - perhaps they want to decide themselves :mocking: - I have some "reserve" business ideas anyway, which they can use if they want to. Although I suppouse my researches will need some updating then :) (but I believe SOME basic things in Phils are so slow at changing, so some will be very similar 20-25 years from now, just need to update values.) 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hey Steve Posted March 22, 2015 Posted March 22, 2015 I am at the age where (personally) I don't want any more (have 2 in the US).My wife and I (her in her 40's and me in my 50's) definitely don't see kids in our future (snipped anyway). I searched for a woman at an age that this would not be an issue down the road. BUT, still, her family is still asking when the little Kano/Phil baby will come. We change the subject-lol. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stevewool Posted March 22, 2015 Author Posted March 22, 2015 Seems great minds think alike about bringing children into this worlld but hey each to there own, when myself and Ems got together we talked and yes it would have been nice to have a child , but i married Ems for her not to make children but to have a great life together doing what we both may want to do, Ems does not have children herself and when we meet she was in her thirties too, so now she will be 40 this year, has a good job she has saving and has help her father build a house that will see him out his life, maybe in the future there may be times when she looks back and think if only but i can be her big kid and i know deep down Ems will be a great auntie to who ever comes along 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve & Myrlita Posted March 22, 2015 Posted March 22, 2015 To this day, Myrlita & I are always asked when are we gonna have a baby! Are you serious? Yes they are! In this culture, it is a shameful thing if a married couple don't have a child within their 1st or 2nd year. News flash! I'm almost 57. Myrlita is 60.5. Do grandchildren count? 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brock Posted March 23, 2015 Posted March 23, 2015 I didnt think it was fair that my wife would grow old with no family in her life, Why should she be alone in later life, That is why I agreed to let her have a baby, My son thought it was selfish of me to have another child, But I think it would have been selfish of me to deny my wife that right too. My Daughter will be brought up in England and probably not be going to college, Maybe just a secondary school, But I know she will probably be more educated and have more prospects than some of the people who have attended college in the Philippines and will certainly have a much better life. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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