Are you really with the one you love

[chris49]

[chris49]

I will add my comments whenever the forum allows me to Edit.

But I am not able to do so.

The 2nd house shown has 20 acres of land attached to the colonial house. I bought it in 1989 in Kandy,  Sri Lanka. And it will fall to my oldest daughter.\

The first place is in Quezon City. And I don't expect to get a centavo from it.

The 3rd house, a bit more modest is where we currently live.

I made my committments and I made my mistakes, but I have no regrets.

 

 

Edited March 14, 2016 by chris49

[davewe]

I know a Fil-Am couple, married over 40 years, retired in PI - and they rent :)

The problem with defining love is that it morphs over the years:

1. Before marriage - love means you can't keep your hands off her. There's another word for this.

2. Just Married - You still can't keep your hands off her but she's got a habit or two you find annoying.

3. Young Kids - You're too tired to keep your hands off her. She starts to complain that, "You love the kids more than me."

4. Teens - You can't wait for those kids you loved more than her, to get the hell out of the house. Not because you can't keep your hands off her, but because you want a good night's sleep.

I love my wife but just as importantly (maybe more) is that I am committed to her. It's easy to love, easy to marry, even easy to divorce, though maybe not in the Philippines. But commitment is hard.

[robert k]

21 minutes ago, chris49 said:

Mahalo.

[Jake]

4 hours ago, Ynot said:

Having read numerous replies to various topics, I've come to the conclusion that high percentage of you are not with the ones you really love.  I put forward the argument that you are merely passing time until something better comes along!  

 

Excellent question Ynot, which resulted in many thought provoking answers.  To be fair and balance, I believe that question should be imposed to your wife or GF, don't you think?  Our comments are only 50% complete without their thoughts.  I ain't no expert, in spite of being married to Judy for over 30 years.  It is an emotional roller coaster but what a ride!

As Spock would say -- it is illogical to assume that everything would remain stable.  In the meantime, I'm counting my blessings.  Miracles do happen.....

Respectfully -- Jake

 

 

[robert k]

5 hours ago, Ynot said:

 

For those of us who have gone down the path of buying a property, we at least have made some provision for our partner should the relationship fail or in the event of our unfortunate demise.

 

 

 

Just to make sure I understand?

We are talking about a marriage that hasn't happened yet?

Are we talking about a house that is not yet bought?

[stevewool]

I love my Emma so much and will do anything for her because i know she would do anything for me ,houses we have one each so everyone is a winner

[Hey Steve]

I've been procrastinating (or just saving) as I need to get busy getting our house built since the cost of love   'er land, labor, and materials in our area where we are moving to is going up very quickly these days.

But seriously, if I may make a counter point to the OP. Have you considered that most of the men here on this forum have moved half way around the world to be in a place that brings comfort to their spouse/SO in a strange land with it's food, cultures, languages, and laws we have to learn and sometimes struggle to get used to? Is this not love? I'm willing to bet the house most of these men DO in fact love their partners as opposed to you saying most do not love their partner. There are plenty of sacrifices made (and very willingly) that in fact do show a deep sense of commitment from the men-as well as the women-hence loving relationships-house or no house, car or no car, etc. Just maybe some deep thought/reflection back to you as well. Just my take anyway.

Edited March 14, 2016 by Hey Steve

[intrepid]

6 hours ago, Tukaram (Tim) said:

If I have to pack my bags and leave later... well it has been nice. I am enjoying today. After all, today is all we ever get. (hopefully there will be a lot more todays later) 

This is my same attitude.  Too bad everyone cannot feel this way about most situations.  There would be a lot less problems in the world! 

[Gratefuled]

WOW, Your post has been here for only 12 hours and there are a lot of responses. Some agree and some do not agree. It's all a matter of opinion. What's good for one may not be good for another. If one wants to take a chance with love then that's their choice. I'm sure everyone is mature enough to know what they want in life and in love. Some may be willing to take the risk of maybe someday being disappointed. 

You have to remember that the woman you choose is also taking a risk. If she marries here in the PI and then finds out that the marriage does not work, she cannot divorce. The man can leave and return to his country and try again a marriage somewhere. 

Not all foreigners are a good catch. While they may be able to provide security for the Filipina for a while the guy may turn out to be just as bad if not worse than if she had married a Filipino. The foreigner may be physically and verbally abusive, he may be a drunkard, he may be a slob. The list goes on and on. She is also taking a risk when she marries a foreigner.

As for me and my wife. We are very compatible. About the same age and both educated and neither of us needs the other for financial security. So, there really are few risks involved. Our main concern is our health and the future of her son my stepson.

Just my 2 centavos. Have a good day.